Seeking Arrangements

[JClearMan1]

The idea is that SBs really ARE viewing your profile, but if you look at their profile is says that they HAVE NOT. This used to happen when the SB was using the app versus the website. I've had more than one message me with details they could have only gotten by reading my profile. But their profile say not viewed you yet. There were using the app at the time. This was a while back and I do not know the version of the app. I do not use the app.

Someone else said it in another response: it takes a small amount of effort to figure out if a girl is real and interested. I start with a polite introduction, and see where it goes. I've been screwing a different girl every other week since December. In addition to that I basically have a girlfriend. And all that is aside from my wife.

[Spill]

"Number one rule"? That's literally a feature of the site. You can favorite users from the search results, without ever looking at their profile.

The idea is that SBs really ARE viewing your profile, but if you look at their profile is says that they HAVE NOT. This used to happen when the SB was using the app versus the website. I've had more than one message me with details they could have only gotten by reading my profile. But their profile say not viewed you yet. There were using the app at the time. This was a while back and I do not know the version of the app. I do not use the app.

[SixtyNineX10]

This is spot on advice. Don't over think it. The site is full of all kinds of ladies, a lot of BS of course, but also real opportunities. Especially if you have a little game. It's hard work and time consuming but that's the game. Bottom line is you need time and money to play. You might find an occasional Unicorn and you might not, but you will eventually find ladies who want to meet with you. Pro, SB or maybe a combination of both. I find that timing is everything with many of these women. If they need money or are in the mood, you better be ready to react quickly and meet, which can turn a cup of coffee into a visit to the FC that very day.

Once you develop a regular meet up with a lady, it can be really fun. If your looking for high volume, that's more challenging than it used to be but that was never really my goal. But to each his own. This is usually just a NSA / FWB situation, so don't plan on talking about how to solve world peace or whatever, just take it for what it is and enjoy. I see one lady two hours away from me maybe every other month or so, but she usually responds when I text and we pick right up where we left off last time. There are all kinds on the site but it's a bit addictive when it works well. Don't overthink it and these ladies are not your GF. Just more like a friend, with benefits obviously!

Not sure what the big deal is with trying to figure out what the girls are up to. They either agree to meet you or they don't. If one likes you but won't reply to messages just move on. Your profile should be straight forward what you are looking for and if the " scammers" are not reading it, it takes 5 secs and tell them to move off the site to communicate or just tell them you are not interested in a platonic arrangement. Don't waste a lot of time trying to figure this shit out. Be up front and polite and they either want to meet and greet or they want money up front. I typically just say no thank you to any prepay bs and look for the next one. SA is a part time job to find the right match. Being polite and quick to the point will get you to the go or no go selection quickly. Girls under 20 are a real challenge because they are naive and are thinking everyone wants a penpal. 23 and up know the game and that's when you need to control the conversations but you also need to be able to say thanks but no thanks. If a girl wants to meet quickly then just do it and don't wonder why. Set up a meeting at a hotel so it's safe and if she gives you what you are looking for work out a better arrangement for Incall or better prices because of the hotel for repeat hookups. If she is a pro and you don't care then bang away, if you don't want a pro it's pretty easy to figure it out by the conversation prior to meeting. Just don't pay crazy money and complain after. Most of the girls I am communicating with want a "mentor" aka penpal. I say thank you but I want a FWB arrangement and it isn't platonic. The past 5 girls have been this way and I just say not for me and keep looking. Eventually you will find the one that will bang you. Hang on to her for a while and have fun.

[Joe1223]

This isn't 100% true but it is a possible indicator of desperate pro / scammer using the shotgun spam approach.

In some circumstances SA allows someone to quickview a profile and message / like / request photos without actually triggering the Viewed Profile notification.

Not sure what the big deal is with trying to figure out what the girls are up to. They either agree to meet you or they don't. If one likes you but won't reply to messages just move on. Your profile should be straight forward what you are looking for and if the " scammers" are not reading it, it takes 5 secs and tell them to move off the site to communicate or just tell them you are not interested in a platonic arrangement. Don't waste a lot of time trying to figure this shit out. Be up front and polite and they either want to meet and greet or they want money up front. I typically just say no thank you to any prepay bs and look for the next one. SA is a part time job to find the right match. Being polite and quick to the point will get you to the go or no go selection quickly. Girls under 20 are a real challenge because they are naive and are thinking everyone wants a penpal. 23 and up know the game and that's when you need to control the conversations but you also need to be able to say thanks but no thanks. If a girl wants to meet quickly then just do it and don't wonder why. Set up a meeting at a hotel so it's safe and if she gives you what you are looking for work out a better arrangement for Incall or better prices because of the hotel for repeat hookups. If she is a pro and you don't care then bang away, if you don't want a pro it's pretty easy to figure it out by the conversation prior to meeting. Just don't pay crazy money and complain after. Most of the girls I am communicating with want a "mentor" aka penpal. I say thank you but I want a FWB arrangement and it isn't platonic. The past 5 girls have been this way and I just say not for me and keep looking. Eventually you will find the one that will bang you. Hang on to her for a while and have fun.

[NHughty]

Number one SA rule, if ANYONE messages or favorites you that hasn't viewed your profile, your wasting your time.

If you are a paid member of SA there is a setting in privacy that allows you to block yourself from being seen viewing profiles. You can still favorite or message from there.

I would think that setting is available on the women's side too?

[SwimSays]

"Number one rule"? That's literally a feature of the site. You can favorite users from the search results, without ever looking at their profile.

This isn't 100% true but it is a possible indicator of desperate pro / scammer using the shotgun spam approach.

In some circumstances SA allows someone to quickview a profile and message / like / request photos without actually triggering the Viewed Profile notification.

[JClearMan1]

True. I think there is a bug in the app version (versus the web version) where the flag does not get set even though they've seen your profile.

What app version?

[JClearMan1]

Number one SA rule, if ANYONE messages or favorites you that hasn't viewed your profile, your wasting your time.

"Number one rule"? That's literally a feature of the site. You can favorite users from the search results, without ever looking at their profile.

[Spill]

That's not true. I've seen girls on SA who have favorited my profile and not visited my profile before.

True. I think there is a bug in the app version (versus the web version) where the flag does not get set even though they've seen your profile.

[LincolnBoston]

I was super close to setting something up with her, but it kind of fell apart when she tried to explain her current living / hosting situation. It seemed really complicated, so I just drifted away from the conversation.

Meh. No BBFS and larger than pics. Can't host. Pros. No drama and straightforward attitude.

[JClearMan1]

I have been in contact with a 40 something on south shore whose SA tag was legsxoxo2503. We didn't chat much and then she shut off her profile, but she gave me contact info before. Reached out to her this week and she's still up for a PPM, just looking to see if anyone had any experience. Tried to search her username on this forum with no results. Attached one of the pics that was on her profile.

I was super close to setting something up with her, but it kind of fell apart when she tried to explain her current living / hosting situation. It seemed really complicated, so I just drifted away from the conversation.

[HottieMaybe]

I am on SA and SB because my limiting factor in this hobby is time, not money. Specifically meeting time (I've got plenty of time for research and texting.) I also have a pretty hot wife. So I consider it worth putting up with the BS to find young, clean, tight girls with relatively low mileage. (Yes I realize that a college girl who, when she needs money, thinks "hey I will just go online and find a guy twice my age to bang me for money" is probably pretty high volume compared to most college girls, but she is still low volume by sex worker standards.)

So my last two girls both had profiles up for less than 24 hours. They created a profile, found a guy (s) and deleted the profile before anyone they knew could see it.

This is just the sort of girl I want. Very non pro, doing this very occasionally when they don't want to work a couple of extra shifts.

And so my new tactic is to always sort profiles by "newest."

Maybe this is obvious and you are all already doing it, but I think this is the way to catch the passing hotties before they disappear.

[BR1201]

For those who have seen Delilah, what did you agree upon for the arrangement. Starting to talk numbers now and don't want to come in too low! Thanks! All help is appreciated! DM or in the forum is fine.

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...9-ac4e4a1406d6

We agreed on 300 but never met. Others PMed me that her range is 250-350 before I made my offer. No idea why she ghosted me and I blocked her after that.

[TheList00]

Anyone who knows how I can reach Julesdd, please PM. I saw her once and had a great time.

She's on POF if you can find her profile. I seen here there browsing months ago.

[Syedna]

For those who have seen Delilah, what did you agree upon for the arrangement. Starting to talk numbers now and don't want to come in too low! Thanks! All help is appreciated! DM or in the forum is fine.

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...9-ac4e4a1406d6

Look at post #6497.