Seeking Arrangements

**Bran001** · 06-21-20 14:22

The "let's start online until I'm back in Boston this fall" scammers are in full swing. Don't fall for it. No cash until you meet in person!

**JohnTies** · 06-21-20 13:24

Originally Posted by CuriosWankah [View Original Post]

All I did was like her page and she messages me first with Nope. F- the F- off. I calmly had a conversation with her to ask why she reached to me in that manner and suggested if people are bothering her then maybe kill them with a smile and / or a backhanded gesture, something with a bit more tact and she reasoned like a crazy gal with massive GPS.

When specifically asked why she was reacting to me in such an aggressive manner before I even said hi she says and I quote "I immediately think of having sex with all males that attempt to interface with me and that makes me assess your physicality and while you aren't hideous you are not of interest. Thank you and carry on. Also, there is nothing aggressive about the word fuck unless you are a sissy and have sensitive baby ears in which case we are double NOT a match. Bye. ".

I commented on how a non aggressive word can be spoken aggressively and suggested a tactful way to deal with men who she clearly has issues dealing with on here she responds "Nobody bothers me on here. Either you take it or you don't. I literally do not care and you need to stop thinking you know everything. Again. BYE. ".

https://www.seeking.com/member/606e7...a-b1f5737738c8

This gal does not show her face at all and has serious GPS sprinkled with Crazy I'd avoid at all costs even if she does like you and want to hook up she sounds like she would fuck up your life because you're no longer interested or willing to support her.

What would you expect from a single 34 year old Woman? Lots at that age are bitter towards men as their clock is ticking, the guys who wanted them before shun them now, etc.

She is accustomed to having guys kiss her ass and at 34 it does not happen like it did before.

**Bran001** · 06-21-20 12:51

Her "About Me" says, "Nothing but laid back. " LOL.

Originally Posted by CuriosWankah [View Original Post]

All I did was like her page and she messages me first with Nope. F- the F- off. I calmly had a conversation with her to ask why she reached to me in that manner and suggested if people are bothering her then maybe kill them with a smile and / or a backhanded gesture, something with a bit more tact and she reasoned like a crazy gal with massive GPS.

When specifically asked why she was reacting to me in such an aggressive manner before I even said hi she says and I quote "I immediately think of having sex with all males that attempt to interface with me and that makes me assess your physicality and while you aren't hideous you are not of interest. Thank you and carry on. Also, there is nothing aggressive about the word fuck unless you are a sissy and have sensitive baby ears in which case we are double NOT a match. Bye. ".

I commented on how a non aggressive word can be spoken aggressively and suggested a tactful way to deal with men who she clearly has issues dealing with on here she responds "Nobody bothers me on here. Either you take it or you don't. I literally do not care and you need to stop thinking you know everything. Again. BYE. ".

https://www.seeking.com/member/606e7...a-b1f5737738c8

This gal does not show her face at all and has serious GPS sprinkled with Crazy I'd avoid at all costs even if she does like you and want to hook up she sounds like she would fuck up your life because you're no longer interested or willing to support her.

**CuriosWankah** · 06-20-20 18:08

All I did was like her page and she messages me first with Nope. F- the F- off. I calmly had a conversation with her to ask why she reached to me in that manner and suggested if people are bothering her then maybe kill them with a smile and / or a backhanded gesture, something with a bit more tact and she reasoned like a crazy gal with massive GPS.

When specifically asked why she was reacting to me in such an aggressive manner before I even said hi she says and I quote "I immediately think of having sex with all males that attempt to interface with me and that makes me assess your physicality and while you aren't hideous you are not of interest. Thank you and carry on. Also, there is nothing aggressive about the word fuck unless you are a sissy and have sensitive baby ears in which case we are double NOT a match. Bye. ".

I commented on how a non aggressive word can be spoken aggressively and suggested a tactful way to deal with men who she clearly has issues dealing with on here she responds "Nobody bothers me on here. Either you take it or you don't. I literally do not care and you need to stop thinking you know everything. Again. BYE. ".

https://www.seeking.com/member/606e7...a-b1f5737738c8

This gal does not show her face at all and has serious GPS sprinkled with Crazy I'd avoid at all costs even if she does like you and want to hook up she sounds like she would fuck up your life because you're no longer interested or willing to support her.

**JohnB22** · 06-19-20 16:35

Originally Posted by HounDog3 [View Original Post]

Often times women log on to SA using the app on their phones. They'll leave the app open all day. SA shows them online which is technically correct but in fact they may only look at the app occasionally for a brief time. If they know you, they'll shoot a quick response. Otherwise your message sits in their Inbox with all the others until they feel compelled to catch up.

Other times, especially if they recently joined, the women become overwhelmed with the response or have second thoughts, and abandon SA without deleting their profiles. These are easy to detect by looking at their last active date.

Make the first phrase in your message as compelling as possible to get their attention and stand out from all the other dudes. Give them a reason to pay attention to you.

I always tell them that I'm serious and I won't waste their time in the 1st sentence. They're being hounded by hundreds of messages a week. They don't want to hear about hundreds of guys hobbies and interests for nothing. They want to know how much we're going to give them and who's hosting.

**JohnB22** · 06-19-20 16:26

Originally Posted by Bran001 [View Original Post]

I haven't been ghosted in a few years. The time it happened, when I finally got her back on texts, she was unapologetic because "her best friend was depressed and needed my help. " That was 3 years ago. Interestingly, she is back on SA, we've been back in touch, but I'm 99% sure she doesn't remember me and didn't save those old texts. I always save. I'm trying to make plans to see her. . . We shall see what transpires. . . I may do a revenge ghosting or maybe not. At this point she's being somewhat flaky, unsurprisingly. I'm just going along for now.

It depends on what city you're in. It's really common for the girls to stand you up in some cities and not very common in others.

**TheList00** · 06-19-20 12:43

Has anyone met or have any info on this girl. Looks familiar but I don't know. Thanks.

https://www.seeking.com/member/4aa1f...8-c9991df9aea6

**Bran001** · 06-19-20 10:01

Originally Posted by HounDog3 [View Original Post]

It's been a very long time since I was ghosted at a meet & greet. Maybe I'm just lucky, I don't know. Can you please post links to their profiles so we know to avoid.

SA has an abundance of women seeking online only, scam artists wanting money upfront, occasional fake photos, and other bullshit, but I suspect it's far less than other sites from what I read on the boards here. If you have the patience to weed through it, I find the payoff to be well worth it. To each his own.

I haven't been ghosted in a few years. The time it happened, when I finally got her back on texts, she was unapologetic because "her best friend was depressed and needed my help. " That was 3 years ago. Interestingly, she is back on SA, we've been back in touch, but I'm 99% sure she doesn't remember me and didn't save those old texts. I always save. I'm trying to make plans to see her. . . We shall see what transpires. . . I may do a revenge ghosting or maybe not. At this point she's being somewhat flaky, unsurprisingly. I'm just going along for now.

**JakeRabbit** · 06-18-20 17:52

SA sale for 20% off finally convinced me to take the plunge. LOL. Who knows. Once I screen all the random hits from 50 miles away I hope to find a mutual benefit situation or three.

**HounDog3** · 06-18-20 10:56

Originally Posted by TheList00 [View Original Post]

Whats annoys me on seeking besides the online shit. Is that I've messaged like 15 woman yesterday afternoon and as of noon today there all in delivered mode and unread. But these woman have been active today. Why do these woman not read there messages or are they just bots.

Often times women log on to SA using the app on their phones. They'll leave the app open all day. SA shows them online which is technically correct but in fact they may only look at the app occasionally for a brief time. If they know you, they'll shoot a quick response. Otherwise your message sits in their Inbox with all the others until they feel compelled to catch up.

Other times, especially if they recently joined, the women become overwhelmed with the response or have second thoughts, and abandon SA without deleting their profiles. These are easy to detect by looking at their last active date.

Originally Posted by CuriosWankah [View Original Post]

Honestly they might be seeing your messages but what they'll do is just view it from the messages page so they catch the latest thing you write without giving you the read receipt which makes them feel obligated to respond. Besides that they have a bunch of dudes messaging them all the time you're probably getting drowned out among everyone elses messages or you just don't hold their attention enough to warrant a response from them every time they log on.

Make the first phrase in your message as compelling as possible to get their attention and stand out from all the other dudes. Give them a reason to pay attention to you.

**GlennDoyle91** · 06-18-20 10:22

Originally Posted by EvilTmp [View Original Post]

Eva elfie or something like that. LOL, you're probably texting with a dude. (the profile location is Nigeria so.... yeah a dude)

Yeah, I figured. I was like, I've seen that face before, just can't place it.

**EvilTmp** · 06-18-20 10:07

Originally Posted by GlennDoyle91 [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/1cb6f...5-3fd91bf24f40

That's the SA account. Added are pics that was sent. I've seen that face in some porn before, I just can't put my finger on it.

Eva elfie or something like that. LOL, you're probably texting with a dude. (the profile location is Nigeria so.... yeah a dude)

**Drewonhere** · 06-18-20 08:32

Originally Posted by Joe1223 [View Original Post]

Probably a scam, I clicked the link and it shows Dallas Texas as a location. It may change, depending on what the bot is programmed to do.

True, but some of the actual college girls have one account and change their location based on whether they are at school or at home. My college girl changes her SA, FetLife, etc profiles location frequently depending where's she's going to be. Because of that her profile still appears in the "old" location for a while. Eg still appears in NH for a while when she's actually in AZ, until the system catches up.

**Joe1223** · 06-18-20 07:19

Originally Posted by JohnTies [View Original Post]

Been back on for less than a week and already dealing with complete bullshit!

Scheduled four meets, one Sunday, one Monday, Two today. None of them were new to the site.

Sunday no showed, even though they confirmed they were coming.

Monday no showed, even though they confirmed they were coming.

Tuesday first meet no showed even though they confirmed they were coming.

Tuesday second meet, never confirmed they were coming, so I did not go.

She sent a nasty message to me bitching me out for wasting her time for going and I am a rude piece of shit for not telling her I was not coming.

Explained to her that she never responded to me confirming she was coming. She told me we had definite plans.

I fucking quit! Can't win with these fucking!

Add in all the online only, online for now until Covid 19 is over, buy my pictures, etc, etc, etc.

Complete waste of ninety fucking dollars!

SA can be challenging on one's patience and wallet. It's not for everyone and if you are expecting a quick hookup you will be disappointed. These girls are shopping for the best deal and many are either too nervous to actually hookup or so overwhelmed with the hits from guys they can't keep up.

As long as there are guys willing to overpay and accept non contact arrangements it will be a struggle to land one of these ladies. The covid shit is also a problem so if you are not patient or have a regular now it may take several attempts before you meet one willing to do what you want. There are better options as you move closer to a Boston but the cost usually climbs also.

**Joe1223** · 06-18-20 07:12

Originally Posted by GlennDoyle91 [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/1cb6f...5-3fd91bf24f40

That's the SA account. Added are pics that was sent. I've seen that face in some porn before, I just can't put my finger on it.

Probably a scam, I clicked the link and it shows Dallas Texas as a location. It may change, depending on what the bot is programmed to do.