"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

**LouisHernandez** · 01-02-23 20:08

Originally Posted by SeekingRdu [View Original Post]

I actually legit dated someone from seeking for 2. 5 years LOL.

No shit? My longest stint with a SB was also 5 years but it was 100% "casual". It was like a once every 3 month kinda deal. Met her when she was 19. Holy shit did she go down hill though, unrecognizable. Easily put on 50 pounds over the 5 years. She still has a nice ass though, but I finally couldn't do it anymore and she got really flakey, so that finally went dark. It was BBFS pullout $200 everytime, 1 pop, 30 mins. Girl was a trip.

**SoonerFan72** · 01-02-23 19:18

Reached out to me first, very aggressive, but nice. Comes off with a pro vibe. She said she was in the Johns Creek area. Asked for $450, I passed. I did not get a verification pic, so if you pursue, I'd make sure and get one. I also got a few hits on her number for arrest records, mostly family stuff, nothing too crazy. Anyways, just providing info for you guys, tread at your own risk.

https://members.seeking.com/member/6...3-e551ab30346d

**KingHorama2** · 01-02-23 19:14

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...d-70a6b0f45010

Not sure if anyone seen her before, no hits on the name, but she immediately moved convo to phone and then started asking personal details.

**TattoedDaddy1** · 01-02-23 18:29

Originally Posted by LaidLow17 [View Original Post]

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...b-20ef81ca2eb5

Said she'd love to meet but gosh she just needs to pay the babysitter first, wants to know if I could help w that. I politely declined.

I chatted with her on the site. She wanted to know what I wanted. I explain to her and she hasn't responded couple months. She may not be ready to pull the trigger on this lifestyle idk.

**LaidLow17** · 01-02-23 18:11

Originally Posted by SeekingRdu [View Original Post]

With an account dating back to 2015 you have to believe she is legit though. However I would never send money first. That is a weird one. Maybe say you will give her babysitter money when you meet.

Maybe, and it's a good point about account age. I've just been burned and I didn't want to deal with it.

**Member #6718** · 01-02-23 18:07

Originally Posted by LaidLow17 [View Original Post]

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...b-20ef81ca2eb5

Said she'd love to meet but gosh she just needs to pay the babysitter first, wants to know if I could help w that. I politely declined.

With an account dating back to 2015 you have to believe she is legit though. However I would never send money first. That is a weird one. Maybe say you will give her babysitter money when you meet.

**Member #6718** · 01-02-23 18:06

Originally Posted by FarFarAway [View Original Post]

Thanks for that perspective. I also disagree that everything about SA is short term. It might be for him, but he's in no position to speak for everyone. I have truly enjoyed several long-term arrangements I have had, and my last one, she had to relocate out of the lower 48 for work, but every time she is back home visiting her family, we FC. If she were still here we'd still see each other weekly, we have that strong a connection. I saw her at Thanksgiving, we had this exact conversation, and she agrees completely with that. Of course, we know we aren't a long-term match for a committed relationship. I've been married 2 decades+. What I think is the max you can expect from an arrangement is the *intention* that you are going to continue to see someone, but of course that is just until something happens. One of you gets a job in a different location, perhaps she meets a dude she wants to date vanilla, or your wife finds out you've been banging a 20-something.

I have also had a lot of fun w / girls I've seen only once (mostly when traveling) or a few times, we didn't match well for a continuing arrangement.

Yeah in my case I have only been using seeking since I got divorced, so have been single the entire time. The 2. 5 year one, that was not an arrangement, we were just vanilla dating, despite an age gap of over 20 years. There is a decent chance I will end up in another relationship at some point with someone from seeking. I also remain friends with the first chick I ever banged from seeking way back in 2014. We hookup from time to time.

**LaidLow17** · 01-02-23 17:53

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...b-20ef81ca2eb5

Said she'd love to meet but gosh she just needs to pay the babysitter first, wants to know if I could help w that. I politely declined.

**LaidLow17** · 01-02-23 17:51

https://members.seeking.com/member/a...6-e0567d7f8bfc

Messages on the site, moved off pretty easy. Got to talking and pic sharing, this girl wants 500 ppm with a body that is worth half that maybe. I politely declined.

P. s this round of seeking has been real rough for me, nothing but scammers hitting me up from Estonia and fat chicks who think they're worth 10 x what they are. Anyone else or is it just me?

**LaidLow17** · 01-02-23 17:48

Originally Posted by CuriousVaMan [View Original Post]

I chatted with her tonight on Seeking as well. Wanted to immediately move to Snap, which I don't have. Haven't heard anything from her since informing her. Good luck. Please report back!

She's real, and really in Atlanta. Did live location sharing with her to confirm, but then she's asking for deposit offering 250 for all night. I said nah and she immediately dropped to 1.0. Classic deposit scam, nothing else to see here.

**FarFarAway** · 01-02-23 17:00

Originally Posted by SeekingRdu [View Original Post]

I actually legit dated someone from seeking for 2. 5 years LOL.

Thanks for that perspective. I also disagree that everything about SA is short term. It might be for him, but he's in no position to speak for everyone. I have truly enjoyed several long-term arrangements I have had, and my last one, she had to relocate out of the lower 48 for work, but every time she is back home visiting her family, we FC. If she were still here we'd still see each other weekly, we have that strong a connection. I saw her at Thanksgiving, we had this exact conversation, and she agrees completely with that. Of course, we know we aren't a long-term match for a committed relationship. I've been married 2 decades+. What I think is the max you can expect from an arrangement is the *intention* that you are going to continue to see someone, but of course that is just until something happens. One of you gets a job in a different location, perhaps she meets a dude she wants to date vanilla, or your wife finds out you've been banging a 20-something.

I have also had a lot of fun w / girls I've seen only once (mostly when traveling) or a few times, we didn't match well for a continuing arrangement.

**Member #6718** · 01-02-23 15:54

Originally Posted by LouisHernandez [View Original Post]

Yes I prefer the casual encounters too, but come to think of it, given the entire goal is BBFS with a UTR, it's best to come across looking for "monogamous" and "emotional connection" even though we all know everything about seeking is short term.

I actually legit dated someone from seeking for 2. 5 years LOL.

**LouisHernandez** · 01-02-23 14:39

Originally Posted by OliverNP [View Original Post]

I encounter it fairly regularly (like when an SB is getting the hint that the new and shiny factor is wearing off for me, and suddenly she has the idea maybe we could date without sugar in order to keep me around), but only within a certain age bracket (maybe 25+ on average).

But, what I'm seeing now is a little different. It's the girls who make clear they are in search of a long-term relationship and ask me explicitly to not ruin it by talking about ppm or allowance.

Is that really sugar-optional? I don't think so. I still think the majority of them still want their hands in my pockets, they would just like it to be under the successful boyfriend / young girlfriend way of doing things rather than anything like an official specified amount.

If that's what you're looking for (and I know some folks are), then yes probably a different approach in the profile to indicate that's what you want would attract more of what you want. I try to craft my profile in a way that it doesn't limit opportunities. That's not always easy, because if I say I want casual & NSA, the girls who want BFs won't react well to it, and if I say I want a LTR, it might land me more cheap or free pussy (at the expense of lots of texting) but turns away the casual encounters I actually prefer.

Yes I prefer the casual encounters too, but come to think of it, given the entire goal is BBFS with a UTR, it's best to come across looking for "monogamous" and "emotional connection" even though we all know everything about seeking is short term.

**LouisHernandez** · 01-02-23 13:53

Originally Posted by GoneForGood97 [View Original Post]

https://members.seeking.com/member/a...9-7b771c050d8e

Real, but just looking to sell nudes. Next!

If the profile was created only a few days ago and they are especially hot, I always ignore. Seeking is good about purging the scammers but it takes them about a week.

**LouisHernandez** · 01-02-23 13:51

Originally Posted by PeterJohnson [View Original Post]

They never tell you what you get banned for on any of these sites. This was before I ever said anything about sugar dating. It was just regular conversation on Bumble. I always tried to be polite and respectful, but maybe I told one she had nice cleavage and she flew off then handle, or who knows. I'm sure I'll get banned on there again eventually, because it's just a minefield filled with crazy women, and they will complain and lie about you, for anything.

Well that's complete BS if you've paid for a lifetime. They should refund you.