Trying this Sugar Baby thing.

**John Dough71** · 12-08-22 17:49

Originally Posted by JohnDough71 [View Original Post]

I have had an identical experience. I only bought the intro package. 100 credits. I only initiated 1 conversation, no response. I responded to 9 girls who messaged me (6 were verified). I got 1 response and after exchanging numbers did a little research and I'm pretty sure it was a guy (at least based on snapchat avatar). Obviously didn't go any where. I'm out of credits now and see no reason to reup. I'm doing just fine with Seeking so I don't feel like throwing any more money away, at least for now.

I know Seeking is not perfect but this kind of shit seems to be more pervasive on Secret Benefits. This is an outright fraud. Check the video and she looks nothing like the photos. They are so heavily filtered that it could be a completely different person. Why do this? When the guy shows up and sees what you really look like, it's ghost-town after that. Seems counter productive and I don't get it.

https://www.secretbenefits.com/next/...5f3a17ed715544

**John Dough71** · 12-08-22 17:34

Originally Posted by Grasshopping [View Original Post]

Thanks for the tip. I've been on SB for 3 or 4 weeks now. Got 500 credit that means I can communicate with 50 girls since it costs 10 credit to read or send messages for the first time. I have used up 200 credits so far and received virtually 0 response.

I have had an identical experience. I only bought the intro package. 100 credits. I only initiated 1 conversation, no response. I responded to 9 girls who messaged me (6 were verified). I got 1 response and after exchanging numbers did a little research and I'm pretty sure it was a guy (at least based on snapchat avatar). Obviously didn't go any where. I'm out of credits now and see no reason to reup. I'm doing just fine with Seeking so I don't feel like throwing any more money away, at least for now.

**Grasshopping** · 12-08-22 17:05

Originally Posted by MidnightSteel [View Original Post]

I've had good luck on the site. Few basic tips. Safest to stick with the video verified girls, don't pay extra to boost your message, don't pay extra to see their private pics until you have some communication with them going. Does SB have fake profiles. Yes for sure but I've met up with both verified members and non verified members. I also have a fake pic I send. It looks very close to me but it's not me. Google a description of how you look and download a pic. Never send a real pic of your face.

I have a pretty standard direct first message with included a brief description about me, what I'm looking for which is PPM but I don't say PPM. Something to the effect. We meet up and you leave with allowance. The girls who want PPM will respond to that theme. After 30 day's the messages disappear so if she's verified and hot and I still want to bang her I'll start over assuming she's read hundreds of messages and forgot what I initially sent. The 2nd message will be super casual and friendly no mention of any meet up. Kinda like hey how is this site treating you. Lots of weido O's. You probably have some funny stories. Some girls are nervous and want to be slow played a little.

Like right now I have 3 girls in the rotation and my credits on SB are sitting waiting for me. I like not having a monthly subscription. Feel free to PM me specific question.

Thanks for the tip. I've been on SB for 3 or 4 weeks now. Got 500 credit that means I can communicate with 50 girls since it costs 10 credit to read or send messages for the first time. I have used up 200 credits so far and received virtually 0 response. Here is the stats:

15 messages were used on girls that wrote me/initated the message. Of these 15 girls that I responded to, 12 were verified. One of the 15 girls wrote me back after I responded but she just wanted to sell pics. At least I know she's real LOL.

The other 5 messages were used to initiate messages. 3 of these 5 were verified members.

Just like any site, I sure there are scammers, bots, and real SBs. In fact I saw my ex-SB's profile on there and saw another girl who I had talked to on SA (nothing came out of that one). The odds are not in my favor though if we go by the laws of average.

I went back on SA with their 25% Black Friday special since the SBs I was seeing were gone (for various reason). I hooked up with 1 SB within 1 week. Have 1 set up for next week (but you know they can fall thru at any given moment) and probably 1 this weekend. I definitely feels more comfortable and familiar with SA.

That is not to say I'm against SB. I still have 300 credits left so will keep trying and implement some of your tips. I do remember that I got tons of messages on SB before my profile was filled in and before having any pics. So I suspect that many are either bots or people posing as SB. Several of these SB wrote me and I responded right away and poof, nothing heard from them ever since. My confidence level on SB isn't all that high right now.

**MidnightSteel** · 12-08-22 15:20

Originally Posted by AcltE0092 [View Original Post]

This may be a tall ask but can someone advise how to have success on SB?

I have a general idea of the scene but paying per message seems extreme.

I've had good luck on the site. Few basic tips. Safest to stick with the video verified girls, don't pay extra to boost your message, don't pay extra to see their private pics until you have some communication with them going. Does SB have fake profiles. Yes for sure but I've met up with both verified members and non verified members. I also have a fake pic I send. It looks very close to me but it's not me. Google a description of how you look and download a pic. Never send a real pic of your face.

I have a pretty standard direct first message with included a brief description about me, what I'm looking for which is PPM but I don't say PPM. Something to the effect. We meet up and you leave with allowance. The girls who want PPM will respond to that theme. After 30 day's the messages disappear so if she's verified and hot and I still want to bang her I'll start over assuming she's read hundreds of messages and forgot what I initially sent. The 2nd message will be super casual and friendly no mention of any meet up. Kinda like hey how is this site treating you. Lots of weido O's. You probably have some funny stories. Some girls are nervous and want to be slow played a little.

Like right now I have 3 girls in the rotation and my credits on SB are sitting waiting for me. I like not having a monthly subscription. Feel free to PM me specific question.

**AcltE0092** · 12-08-22 13:41

This may be a tall ask but can someone advise how to have success on SB?

I have a general idea of the scene but paying per message seems extreme.

**FrmLurker** · 12-08-22 08:41

Time waster in my experience. Never wants to meet.

Originally Posted by Crewzin [View Original Post]

She hit me up, with her hidden pics. Anyone have any intell, she looks familiar just can't put a time and place on it.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...8-605e6442c770

**Member #6771** · 12-08-22 07:10

Agreed. Definitely don't give them them a free dinner either. I got hustled on that one before, a fine dining place in uptown. I didn't even click with the chick. She got a free luxury dinner and I got nothing. If they want a meet & greet, do Starbucks. No money or food ever upfront.

Originally Posted by Dollersine [View Original Post]

What the hell is going on with these queens? I am on what my price and the last 4 or so queens have asked for deposits! I just had 1 cutie who I agree on a first that incentive of 25 $ say to me let's meet and to make sure you come because I have been stood up send me $50.00 and the other 50 you can give me at dinner. Hold on. I never agreed on any amount of money as an allowance! And dinner. What guy would send money before we meet, He'll no! I told her to start I would agree to give her agree 1st date incentive when we meet and for the first date it is Coffee or maybe lunch to see if we click, no money will be sent in advance at all. I had another tell me we haven't met yet but I need like 10 or 20 dollars to pick up my kids at day care send it? Are they nuts? She had the nerve to say I'm real and send me a blurry 4 sec video that I never asked for and said that has to be worth 20.00. Aaa no! These queens feel they will influence us to send cash based on their looks and make us think they will follow up on anything they say? Guys if you need more details pm me.

Don't send money in advance, if you have let me know if any of them ever followed through?

If you have any one who you can recommend who does follow through please pm me. Seriously!

Please stay safe out there.

**Crewzin** · 12-08-22 05:37

She hit me up, with her hidden pics. Anyone have any intell, she looks familiar just can't put a time and place on it.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...8-605e6442c770

**Dollersine** · 12-07-22 22:27

What the hell is going on with these queens? I am on what my price and the last 4 or so queens have asked for deposits! I just had 1 cutie who I agree on a first that incentive of 25 $ say to me let's meet and to make sure you come because I have been stood up send me $50.00 and the other 50 you can give me at dinner. Hold on. I never agreed on any amount of money as an allowance! And dinner. What guy would send money before we meet, He'll no! I told her to start I would agree to give her agree 1st date incentive when we meet and for the first date it is Coffee or maybe lunch to see if we click, no money will be sent in advance at all. I had another tell me we haven't met yet but I need like 10 or 20 dollars to pick up my kids at day care send it? Are they nuts? She had the nerve to say I'm real and send me a blurry 4 sec video that I never asked for and said that has to be worth 20.00. Aaa no! These queens feel they will influence us to send cash based on their looks and make us think they will follow up on anything they say? Guys if you need more details pm me.

Don't send money in advance, if you have let me know if any of them ever followed through?

If you have any one who you can recommend who does follow through please pm me. Seriously!

Please stay safe out there.

**DriveHard** · 12-07-22 13:36

Originally Posted by DriveHard [View Original Post]

Would also add that I believe Seeking works on a 3 strikes and you're out policy (or something similar).

When I report an obvious fake account, it rarely disappears immediately but after a few hours or next day. I always provide evidence, cash app scams, etc.

So, keep flagging!

On a related note, I reported this one for demanding a deposit up front. Evidence was provided to Seeking, but the profile is still up. She is either a pro (talks like one) or a fake scam account:

MysteriousCutie:

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...c-e5051c21c692

Don't ever send a deposit.

**DriveHard** · 12-07-22 12:53

Originally Posted by SmallAsianCock [View Original Post]

In my experience, SA rarely boots a woman off when a man complains. They, SA, will rather block the male individual who made the complaint. I know this because I have multiple logins on the site, 3 actually. And when I would make a complaint about a woman with my paid profile. They will block that profile from seeing that female. But am able to see the same female from my non-paying profile. Basically the profile that did not file a complaint.

Would also add that I believe Seeking works on a 3 strikes and you're out policy (or something similar).

When I report an obvious fake account, it rarely disappears immediately but after a few hours or next day. I always provide evidence, cash app scams, etc.

So, keep flagging!

**SmallAsianCock** · 12-06-22 23:28

Originally Posted by FiveOfSix [View Original Post]

I don't know if it's still true but previously if a girl posted on-line only or no meet-ups, all you had to do is report to SA admin and they would kill the account. In those rules that you gloss over and hit the agree tab, it says the purpose of the site is to meet, and on-line only violates the rules. They loosened the rules during covid but I would think that has been reinstated.

In my experience, SA rarely boots a woman off when a man complains. They, SA, will rather block the male individual who made the complaint. I know this because I have multiple logins on the site, 3 actually. And when I would make a complaint about a woman with my paid profile. They will block that profile from seeing that female. But am able to see the same female from my non-paying profile. Basically the profile that did not file a complaint.

**LolBoat** · 12-06-22 21:20

Originally Posted by SingleGuyClt [View Original Post]

Dyed red hair, lived down a dirt road?

I did see her once out that way I believe (I'm not from NC originally but did live in CLT for a few years) and it was at her friends house / trailer somewhere out there.

I do think her hair was red and she had lots of tattoos. Is she still around / alive?

**FiveOfSix** · 12-06-22 20:12

Originally Posted by JohnDough71 [View Original Post]

What is going on with the massive increase in profiles saying they are only looking for platonic, or online, or nothing sexual? Seems like fully half of the profiles have some version of that. Is there really a market for girls who just want a guy to give them money but get nothing but "talking" in return? I find it hard to believe but feel like it must exist or these girls wouldn't be telling their friends to join up in droves. Rant over, just wondering if I'm crazy for thinking this sounds unlikely.

I don't know if it's still true but previously if a girl posted on-line only or no meet-ups, all you had to do is report to SA admin and they would kill the account. In those rules that you gloss over and hit the agree tab, it says the purpose of the site is to meet, and on-line only violates the rules. They loosened the rules during covid but I would think that has been reinstated.

**SingleGuyClt** · 12-06-22 18:59

Originally Posted by LolBoat [View Original Post]

She was about 19 or 20 in 2019 or so when I was seeing her, really hot girl from the lincolnton area. About 5'7, big perfect tits and really pretty.

Anyone still seeing her? Someone posted a review or two of her on here back then but her # doesn't work anymore.

Dyed red hair, lived down a dirt road?