Seeking Arrangements

**PaulRew** · 04-08-19 17:34

Found this on another SA thread. Guy lays things out pretty clearly and if you are just getting into the game this is, for the most part, pretty solid advice.

Originally Posted by DrSummer [View Original Post]

I am by no means an expert in sugaring scene. Only had about an year of experience using SA. I got screwed up few times (early on), but learnt from mistakes, and learned skills and art of taking these girls to FC. Many sent me PMs asking for advice, so I thought of writing this.

What I explain below applies only if you are looking for what I call a true SB from SA, and who you want to have repeated dates. I don't look for Escorts or one time deals there. You can find them there, but the approach is different. I know all these girls give pussy for money, but I am looking for a different type of girl than a BP girl.

1. Pay $90 and be a premium member. If you can't afford $90 per month to be a member, you can't afford to be a true SD.

2. Spend sometime on setting up your profile. Make your profile appealing to girls. Be simple and up to the point, but attractive. Don't lie and exaggerate about you in your profile. We don't like when girls lie on their profile, girls do too. Having at least one photo is advantageous. I have just one photo as public photo (with no face identification). But I tell them I can send additional photos after chatting and get comfortable.

3. Cast a wide net, message as many as possible SBs that you are interested. It is a numbers game.

4. Write a good first message. Again keep it simple and short, but enough details to tell what you are looking for. Show that you read her profile and say something specific about her. Make it personable. Be respectful and show that you are not a creep. My biggest challenge is getting them to respond.

5. If they respond, my second message is to set up ground rules (no online crap, set a reasonable time limit to meet up etc). Show that you are serious and you want them to be serious. Most flakes and scammers drop out after my second message.

6. I tell them if they can't meet up within a week, message me back when they are ready to meet within a week. If they agree, now I have a potential SB that I can work on.

7. Try to switch communications to text or personal e-mails as soon as possible. Don't talk about allowance in SA chat. You will get banned.

8. Don't bring up the "allowance" issue yourself. Most girls will bring it up before meet. Say you can't promise anything. If they insist, give a range and say you have to meet her to finalize a number. But, try to avoid it until meet as much as possible. If you are appealing to her, she may agree for a lower allowance. My typical allowance is 200-300 per meet.

9. Set up a meet as early as possible. Communicate date, time, and place properly. Confirm with her day prior to the meet to make sure the meet is still going to happen. Never agree to pay for meet and greet. If they insist, drop her.

10. I always go for a coffee for the first meet. Some girls insist on lunch or dinner instead of coffee. Drop them. They are just looking for a free meal.

11. Be on time for the meet. Arrive on time and present yourself well. First impression is everything. Within 5 min of meeting, she is going to decide if she is going to fuck you or not. Listen to her rather than you talking. You can get clues what she is really looking for. Be upfront and about what your expectations are, and communicate to her.

12. Some may agree to go to FC right after, some may not. Be patient, you may need one or two "platonic" dates before hitting FC with some girls. If the girl is attractive enough, I would do it. But, I never pay allowance for those dates. They may talk about chemistry, getting to know each other etc. Tell them it is Ok, but they can't expect allowance for that. Most girls are Ok with that if they are serious. I of course pay for meal, drinks etc. And Uber charges or gas money. That's it.

13. If you can't take her to FC on the third time you meet, it is never going to happen.

14. Give them a reasonable allowance. Don't be a jerk and try to negotiate to last $5. Treat her well, most girls treat you back the same way. But, always be vigilant, and don't trust her 100%.

15. Give a small present to her once in a while in addition to allowance (flowers, dresses etc).

16. If you have to use a hotel room for FC, don't take her to cheap motels. Show your class a bit and get a decent hotel room. I typically spend at least 2 hrs in FC, and at least 2 pops.

Hope this helps. There are nice girls out there if you take the time and effort to find them.

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.

**YogiJoe** · 04-08-19 14:20

Originally Posted by Spill [View Original Post]

About a year ago I exchanged some info with Krys. She could not host, she could not talk on the phone (only text) because it was broken and she could not meet in public first. Settled at 300 but it all sounded too fishy to me. Plus I did not want to pay 3+ the room for unknown.

I agree with the comments about Krys and Ashley. Too much money for a very uninspired / indifferent time. Much better out there for a lot less!

**Aardvarks** · 04-08-19 08:54

Holy hell. Recent trip to Vegas and used SA to schedule 3 dates. It was like shooting fish in a barrel. They would come to my room have some pleasantries exchanged and then ridiculous sex. I think 1 was a pro but the other two were grad students. Average price was about 350. Much hotter talent than the Boston bowl. If anyone is going PM me and I'll share some info.

**Spill** · 04-08-19 08:33

Originally Posted by TwoMins [View Original Post]

I saw Krys once and it was an uninspiring session. She's flighty and really low energy. I do not recommend seeing her. Send me a PM if you want to discuss further.

About a year ago I exchanged some info with Krys. She could not host, she could not talk on the phone (only text) because it was broken and she could not meet in public first. Settled at 300 but it all sounded too fishy to me. Plus I did not want to pay 3+ the room for unknown.

**Member #6503** · 04-07-19 19:44

Originally Posted by Spill [View Original Post]

Anyone ever get by their GPS and actually meet with one of them? Just curious as I'm now getting messages from Ashley (who now goes by Nashvillegirl).

I saw Krys once and it was an uninspiring session. She's flighty and really low energy. I do not recommend seeing her. Send me a PM if you want to discuss further.

**OkWhatever** · 04-07-19 11:04

Back on SA again LOL.

Massage woman from Marlborough. Average looking, thin, long brown hair. She wanted 300 which I is a joke considering what she looks like. When I countered with 150 she blocked me. I don't have a pic, but you can't miss her.

**OkWhatever** · 04-07-19 10:57

I almost saw one of them, forget which one. Wanted 400. I was tempted to do it, but when I asked her some details on the potential encounter. She didn't say much. So I felt it would of been a bad time.

Originally Posted by Spill [View Original Post]

Anyone ever get by their GPS and actually meet with one of them? Just curious as I'm now getting messages from Ashley (who now goes by Nashvillegirl).

**Spill** · 04-06-19 21:38

Originally Posted by DeepThroat69 [View Original Post]

Nothing special and wants 400.

Anyone ever get by their GPS and actually meet with one of them? Just curious as I'm now getting messages from Ashley (who now goes by Nashvillegirl).

**Spill** · 04-05-19 22:09

Originally Posted by SecretSquirell [View Original Post]

Call me a cynic but to me it screams AAMP thinking out out of the box to find other ways to advertise in these scary times for massage providers in general.

TGTBT pics and the line "no sex but massage". Curious but not enough to pay another month on there again.

I thought the same thing.

**SecretSquirell** · 04-05-19 21:25

Originally Posted by PaulRew [View Original Post]

Anyone make contact or have info? Asian girl from Randolph, says "no sex" but profile screams sluut LOL.

https://www.seeking.com/member/e84d5...0-ad43ecf9ddb9

Call me a cynic but to me it screams AAMP thinking out out of the box to find other ways to advertise in these scary times for massage providers in general.

TGTBT pics and the line "no sex but massage". Curious but not enough to pay another month on there again.

**PaulRew** · 04-05-19 19:08

Anyone make contact or have info? Asian girl from Randolph, says "no sex" but profile screams sluut LOL.

https://www.seeking.com/member/e84d5...0-ad43ecf9ddb9

**Reman3289** · 04-05-19 14:55

My two cents, the more they write in the profile, the crazier they are. And I don't mean a couple paragraphs, your example is perfect.

Originally Posted by JohnTies [View Original Post]

BostonBossBabe. Read this profile and just spit my water out.

Really, what are these women thinking. Too funny.

If you have the balls talk to her, I would love to hear how it goes. LOL.

Just screams drama.

https://www.seeking.com/member/b1b53...1-3c1936ae68a0

**Taylor Taste** · 04-04-19 10:07

Originally Posted by Spike77 [View Original Post]

It is pretty easy for girls to create a profile and sit back and wait for the right guy to come to them. I am pretty sure they aren't paying to be on the site unlike the 90 bucks a month us guys pay. So from their perspective, why not? Getting spoiled and paid by some rich guy for their company sounds like a winning scenario to me. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but most women on here are here to get paid. And by paid meaning the easiest way possible. Most did not join because they want to have hot sex with men. I don't care how good looking or charming you think you are. That being said, I have my own crazy high standards on this site for the most part. I want a hot college type who loves sex and can come to a reasonable allowance. But it's the same scenario. I just need one girl to say yes. It is a lot of work. I've had so many time wasters, liars, catfishers, scam artists, thiefs, psychos, weirdos etc. What makes it all worth it? That one hot girl who you can trust, have a connection with, and crazy sex with for the long term. So despite all the work and pain I have put in it is all worth it to me. Furthermore, everyone has their price. I am sure if you have deep pockets you could convince some of these wanting platonic relationships. I think you will have a much more difficult time by merely going on your good looks and / or personality to get them in bed with you.

I met with two different girls who confirmed they don't pay for any membership or messaging fees.

**Spill** · 04-04-19 09:28

Originally Posted by Samuel05 [View Original Post]

It appears as though message was sent through or by SA. Said she was interested but wanted me verified with Optimum. Optimum's website displays SA logo. I attempt my own verifications and have uncovered ladies with as many as 10 felony cases, however, most are clean which is a comforting thought. There has been an uptick in hits from the site.

There is a link on every profile under Background not verified that says "Ask them to verify their background". She probably used that.

**Samuel05** · 04-04-19 09:07

Originally Posted by SwimSays [View Original Post]

Was the message sent through SA or from her directly? Either she's straight scamming or SA is trying to extract more $$$ out of your pocket. I'd NEVER give out any of that information, especially on a sugaring site.

It appears as though message was sent through or by SA. Said she was interested but wanted me verified with Optimum. Optimum's website displays SA logo. I attempt my own verifications and have uncovered ladies with as many as 10 felony cases, however, most are clean which is a comforting thought. There has been an uptick in hits from the site.