"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[Blak Gekko]

Iluvsmelly,

Very well stated. I would also like to add, how much coin do you spend at a bar or other gathering trying to pick up chicks? Trust me when I say this but in this day and age, I don't care what kind of game you have, most chicks are not putting out on first encounters unless really drunk. It is going to take a date or two if you are good to get the panties to come off. How much time and money is that going to cost? Time is money in my book. If you young guys can manage to pick ladies and play in the game as well, that is good. But as Smelly alluded to, if I were single I'd be playing in the bowl vice hitting the bars when most I are empty. Better to get a sure thing with a little investment rather than going home empty handed. Just saying.

BG sends.

I think its important to be able to develop ones game to the point of being able to pick up a random girl "in the wild" but circumstances should dictate whether one plays in the bowl, not age.

For example, should one wait until he is 40,50, 60, or 70? What is the right age?

If you enter the bowl too early, you may not develop the kind of skills that might make you a much better player. If you enter too late, then you might need the assistance of drugs to fully enjoy everything the bowl has to offer.

If you spend all your money and energy providing a four or five figure allowance to a SB during the prime period of your life where career and financial advancement are most likely, its possible that you damage your future earning potential (and potential to for more SBs). On the other hand, if you spend your entire life focused on career and financial advancement, and only wait to play in the bowl until you're 60, how many missed opportunities will there be? How many regrets will you have?

We all know the cliche about the high school jock who lived his teens like a rockstar and is now selling used cars or is eating cat food in retirement. But the same holds true for the 80 year old guy who spent his whole life to the grindstone, only to end up with a 21 year old girl he can't even bed because all his equipment won't function.

To all the 20/30 something guys in the bowl, more power to you. I hope you are careful enough to be advancing your careers and investment portfolios to remain in the game for years to come. I myself am on the younger side of the group who participate in this forum. Frankly, I play in the bowl because picking up a girl at a bar is tricky because of my SO. There is a fair amount of expectation of discretion among players in the bowl, that doesn't come with meeting a lady "in the wild. ". That all being said, assuming all other things being equal, I would probably be playing in the bowl if I was single, since it is a nice way for a younger guy to supplement those evenings where the bars are empty.

Don't get me wrong though. It's difficult competing with a young guy in his 20/30 s, who makes lots of money, leases an expensive luxury car, doesn't care about his retirement, and has no problem dropping a four or five figure monthly allowance on a SB.

I can't tell you how many SBs I've met though that tell me horror stories of completely awkward evenings sitting through a dinner in complete silence, or of an intimate encounter that lasted a few minutes and ended with them being completely unsatisfied.

At the end of the day, more players attract more players on both sides of the aisle. That, in my opinion, is a good thing. While I won't pay a ridiculous allowance to any SB, if that she's there for, then she wouldn't have been into me anyway.

Just my two cents.

[IluvSmellyFish]

I think its important to be able to develop ones game to the point of being able to pick up a random girl "in the wild" but circumstances should dictate whether one plays in the bowl, not age.

For example, should one wait until he is 40,50, 60, or 70? What is the right age?

If you enter the bowl too early, you may not develop the kind of skills that might make you a much better player. If you enter too late, then you might need the assistance of drugs to fully enjoy everything the bowl has to offer.

If you spend all your money and energy providing a four or five figure allowance to a SB during the prime period of your life where career and financial advancement are most likely, its possible that you damage your future earning potential (and potential to for more SBs). On the other hand, if you spend your entire life focused on career and financial advancement, and only wait to play in t he bowl until you're 60, how many missed opportunities will there be? How many regrets will you have?

We all know the cliche about the high school jock who lived his teens like a rockstar and is now selling used cars or is eating cat food in retirement. But the same holds true for the 80 year old guy who spent his whole life to the grindstone, only to end up with a 21 year old girl he can't even bed because all his equipment won't function.

To all the 20/30 something guys in the bowl, more power to you. I hope you are careful enough to be advancing your careers and investment portfolios to remain in the game for years to come. I myself am on the younger side of the group who participate in this forum. Frankly, I play in the bowl because picking up a girl at a bar is tricky because of my SO. There is a fair amount of expectation of discretion among players in the bowl, that doesn't come with meeting a lady "in the wild. ". That all being said, assuming all other things being equal, I would probably be playing in the bowl if I was single, since it is a nice way for a younger guy to supplement those evenings where the bars are empty.

Don't get me wrong though. It's difficult competing with a young guy in his 20/30 s, who makes lots of money, leases an expensive luxury car, lives in an apartment and doesnt care about building long term equity in property, doesn't care about his retirement, and has no problem dropping a four or five figure monthly allowance on a SB.

I can't tell you how many SBs I've met though that tell me horror stories of completely awkward evenings sitting through a dinner in complete silence, or of an intimate encounter that lasted a few minutes and ended with them being completely unsatisfied.

At the end of the day, more players attract more players on both sides of the aisle. That, in my opinion, is a good thing. While I won't pay a ridiculous allowance to any SB, if that she's there for, then she wouldn't have been into me anyway.

Just my two cents.

Had to laugh at the "long haul" comment. Very true. Can't believe they're paying at 30.

[Jd2011]

http://coach4ula.wix.com/fivesteps

Gratitude good sir.

[Mike7794]

Reaching the end I believe. These boys need to be scoring free pussy, or if they are not what the heck is wrong with them? If you have to buy pussy at 30 you are in for a long haul.

Had to laugh at the "long haul" comment. Very true. Can't believe they're paying at 30.

[HollywoodGuy]

Hey HWG,

Thumbs up to all your posts, info, etc. I can't seem to find your 3 steps in the thread. Could you please point me in the right direction?

Thanks!

JD.

http://coach4ula.wix.com/fivesteps

[HoyaSvnFgr]

Age is a factor. Some of these girls say they are getting 20-30 yr olds paying them allowances. What's up with that? These boys need to be scoring free pussy, or if they are not what the heck is wrong with them? If you have to buy pussy at 30 you are in for a long haul.

I'm not sure if I agree with you here. I'm mid-30's and I could go to bars and pick up girls, but not in these volumes. On SA its almost like hot pussy home delivery. After a quick M&G I'm almost guaranteed FC the night of or on the second meet. Often there's no discussion of sugar. If there is its on another meet and I have the option to offer allowance or not. I've only met one girl that had me running to get $$ She's 22 and does flake occasionally, but she's great eye candy and is a 10 in bed.

[Jd2011]

Hey HWG,

Thumbs up to all your posts, info, etc. I can't seem to find your 3 steps in the thread. Could you please point me in the right direction?

Thanks!

JD.

This is my last post of the day unless I hookup with anyone but my ATF.

Another positive response to my steps messages.

"I have to admit that your honesty during this conversation has made me respect you as well as have an interest in meeting with you. When you explained your reasoning for not doing 200-300 dollar dates it really did make a lot of sense to me. I'm looking for a long term arrangement myself so I hope we do click & that it actually works out. "

Hope springs eternal. I just spoke to her on the phone and will again later tonite. She is so ready. She posted her profile about 4 or 5 months ago and says I will be the first guy she is comfortable enough with to meet.

21 light skinned mixed girl. White/Latina ? Didnt ask. A solid 8 from her pics.

[First Half]

At this point I think for me and a lot of guys, is we do want a good provider, but one that we control and maybe even have exclusively.

I won't argue with that, but I sort of get the feeling that control you believe you have may be an illusion. You'd be hard pressed to convince me you have more control of the outcome with a young SB than I do with an experienced provider, but I get what you mean.

To get all that is a lot of fucking work. Like a job where you get paid straight commission. Sometimes you make bank and sometimes you make nothing. And doing it married. I don't even want to think about it. (and dont have to). Props to the guys that do.

Now THIS I understand. I work on commission so I understand the "eat what I catch" mentality.

Thanks for enlightening me.

FH.

[Mfp79]

I started putting them into evernote, so I have their info on any device I happen to have with me and wherever I am.

Nice. I'm using google sheets so it's available from wherever too.

[FredMoore]

Reaching the end I believe. The work and risk having a highly tuned SO is getting too stressful. Maybe later things will settle down but it has been a long time since I had a really rewarding SB experience. These 18 to 21 yr old college girls ironically, while considering sex as a casual exercise, are getting difficult to "nail " down complaining that they "aren't Hos" . Since I can't take them out and show them a good time I do need "Ho" -like activity. But I like the low volume version and real Pros are not that. Plus I don't want the risk of Uncle taking me down.

Got my 40+ yr old and 23 yr old in the FC but fully wrapped just doesn't do it for me. I like the reentry for rounds 2,3,and 4 and reapplying isn't feasible. The risk is not worth the reward I'm afraid. I've been chatting up a load of college girls and while initially interested flake pretty quickly when competition sets in. I did great when I could wine and dine them first, before showing them the big dog.

Age is a factor. Some of these girls say they are getting 20-30 yr olds paying them allowances. What's up with that? These boys need to be scoring free pussy, or if they are not what the heck is wrong with them? If you have to buy pussy at 30 you are in for a long haul.

[HollywoodGuy]

Because I agree. I have quite a bit of flexibility in my schedule, but this shit looks like fucking work! It just seems easier to find a provider or two I really like than to deal with all the young, impressionable chicks with daddy issues on SA.

My hat's off to you guys that have the time and patience for it all.

I think the guys here (me for sure) must like all the mind games or why would we do it? I would say my biggest problem would be in having a so called normal relationship or a good provider. Neither one can really work. At this point I think for me and a lot of guys, is we do want a good provider, but one that we control and maybe even have exclusively. And role play thats not really playin. To get all that is a lot of fucking work. Like a job where you get paid straight commission. Sometimes you make bank and sometimes you make nothing. And doing it married. I dont even want to think about it. (and dont have to). Props to the guys that do.

[First Half]

Because I agree. I have quite a bit of flexibility in my schedule, but this shit looks like fucking work! It just seems easier to find a provider or two I really like than to deal with all the young, impressionable chicks with daddy issues on SA.

My hat's off to you guys that have the time and patience for it all.

I am in awe of your system. I gave SA a shot for two months and it drove me batshit. ESPECIALLY with the pre 20 yos. I finally dumped it and started trolling other.

Venues. I came across ONE SB who is a good match for me. I couldn't manage two (with a wife, kids and 60 hr job) if my life depended on it. Of course there.

Are others but this one is my go-to fuck.

You make it look easy, but I know there has to be a lot of time and work involved. I don't have the time, so I will have to continue to read your exploits and marvel.

[RagTop66]

I am in awe of your system. I gave SA a shot for two months and it drove me batshit. ESPECIALLY with the pre 20 yos. I finally dumped it and started trolling other.

Venues. I came across ONE SB who is a good match for me. I couldn't manage two (with a wife, kids and 60 hr job) if my life depended on it. Of course there.

Are others but this one is my go-to fuck.

You make it look easy, but I know there has to be a lot of time and work involved. I don't have the time, so I will have to continue to read your exploits and marvel.

[Member #5570]

I am in Hartford area.

You must be the one flagging all my CL ads. LOL.

I am also in Hartford.

[DanteMoravil]

Also, I mentioned this previously, but I'm using a spreadsheet to keep track of the POTs because there's so damn many of them. If you're in my area and want to compare notes, let me know and I can share it with you.

I started putting them into evernote, so I have their info on any device I happen to have with me and wherever I am.

I've had several meet and greets, about 10 no shows. I have been to FC with 2 so far, one of those 2 I've seen every week for past several weeks. 25 yrs, long dark hair, single mom, 7's across the board. The older women I have seen in the past have a better handle on pleasing me. Probably keep for month or 2 as I look for a 8-10.