"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[FredMoore]

The blogs tell the girls to confirm who you are going out with so they can tell a friend where they are and who they are with. Perhaps a reasonable request, what we would tell our daughters about a blind date. But for us married guys this will not work. It never ceases to amaze me what some of these girls will risk for the almighty dollar.

A Story: I had a M&G out of town with a 20 something. The deal was if we enjoyed dinner we would proceed to her house and spend the night. We did and I followed her home out in the deep woods, no neighbors within 2 miles. We prepared for bed and I had my travel bag with me containing candles, and other sex accouterments. She was under the covers naked with her eyes wide open and said "please don't kill me in the night, you're not a CL Killer are you? I'm thinking "WTF?" But seriously, she knew nothing about me. Fortunately for her she got a nice ride and a good nights sleep on my shoulder and survived the night. These girls do take stupid risks.

A Pot I am scheduled to see tomorrow wants a pic and I am reluctant to send her one since I don't want anything on the web with my real Pic. I'm not sure I will send her one.

[GeorgeRichmond]

God, then my answer to her would be easy: "Sweetheart sugar babying is not illegal. I'm paying for companionship only. I can't help it if we find each other irresistible and sex happens ".

Honestly though my interest in her would have waned the moment she said she was worried about a police sting, because it revealed her as a UTR or possibly back page girl rather than an SB. An true SB doesn't have police sting in her vocabulary.

Thank JL, Tidad, HW for helping me and guiding me through this. I am glad I didn't reveal anything. I am going to pass. As it is too much txting now.

[JZLizard]

Here is what she texted me.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Hahaha yes. You can find me on google. I think my twitter is the first link. But can I still verify you?

Then.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Before I drive an hour for a police sting.

She kept on going and finally says, All I want to see is a work bio. I won't google anything else. I'm not asking for much.

God, then my answer to her would be easy: "Sweetheart sugar babying is not illegal. I'm paying for companionship only. I can't help it if we find each other irresistible and sex happens ".

Honestly though my interest in her would have waned the moment she said she was worried about a police sting, because it revealed her as a UTR or possibly back page girl rather than an SB. An true SB doesn't have police sting in her vocabulary.

[Rouleur]

After a very successful start I chalk up to beginners luck, I've ran into some real lack lusters lately, but this one takes the cake. Emailed a girl on SA a week or so ago, she send one back tonight just as I'm about to call it a night. She wants to meet. She's only 25 miles away from me so I figure what the heck. We text back and forth and I was very specific with details. She agrees to them and confirmed she was "very open minded" and had no issues with being intimate. She even said since she only had a few hours, we could just mess around in the car. (she lives in a rural area.) So I pick her up at he corner store by her house. She is hot. A solid 8, super petite, blonde spinner. She is another one of these girls with tats and piercings, so 'm already red flagged about this one. We drive and she tells me where we can go park. I'm thinking out in the bushes someplace private. Well she guides me to freaking Walmart. So I started figuring out she was not going to be messing around. So due to the time limits, I just come out with it and cut right to the chase and ask her if she was still open for sex like we discussed over texting. She plays dumb, like she is confused and she just thought we were meeting for talking in the car. Than she start looking at her phone and saying she needs to be home soon. Literally ten minutes after I pick her up. I said, fine, I'll take you home and tell her again that I did not feel the agreed amount was warranted as we did nothing. She starts in with how a SD has to prove himself and should pay the girl before sex and so on. We drove back to the area I picked her up and she is acting like she is kinda pissed. So to avoid a problem, I pull out my wallet and offer up half of the $ $ we agreed on over texting. I did this to avoid any issues. She offers me a hug and jumps out. She was in my car all of 19 minutes.

I had no intentions of seeing this girl again, but I text her just to call her bluff. Sure enough she ignores me and half hour later she's back on SA.

I was mostly mad at myself and for the time wasted, not the $ I was out.

Sounds like a set up of one kind or another, none of which would have resulted in a happy ending for you. No pun intended. Others will disagree but I would have thrown her some sacrificial green as well. Just to end the date and move on. Fortunately you'll never know what would have happened if you had tossed her out of your car with nothing.

[Tidad]

Here is what she texted me.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Hahaha yes. You can find me on google. I think my twitter is the first link. But can I still verify you?

Then.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Before I drive an hour for a police sting.

She kept on going and finally says, All I want to see is a work bio. I won't google anything else. I'm not asking for much.

Work bio? Absolutely not. Your employment information plus a printout of the texts exchanged are enough for her to bleed you dry. She could easily threaten you w / www.exposingjohns.com or something of the like. It doesn't even have to be her plan right now, if you have a falling out in the future do you believe she has more to lose than you do? Does it matter? There's enough trouble in this world, don't go looking for it. Walk away. If she comes a round to some reasonable expectations then have fun, if not there are always more hot chicks.

[HollywoodGuy]

Here is what she texted me.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Hahaha yes. You can find me on google. I think my twitter is the first link. But can I still verify you?

Then.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Before I drive an hour for a police sting.

She kept on going and finally says, All I want to see is a work bio. I won't google anything else. I'm not asking for much.

I had some girl driving me crazy for pics last week. I always send a few (accurate and easy to see what I look like). Not good enough for her. After about 40 txts I told her to leave me alone.

[GeorgeRichmond]

What exactly is she trying to "verify"? Ask her specifically, is she just trying to "research you" because she wants to know? If so, you can politely remind her that you're not planning on doing any unreasonable research into her private life, because the type of arrangement you're looking for does not require this. If she says the type of arrangement she's looking for does, then pin her down on specifics. If she's being too much of a pain in the ass, then you already have reason to pass on her because she will be a much bigger pain in the ass later on.
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Here is what she texted me.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Hahaha yes. You can find me on google. I think my twitter is the first link. But can I still verify you?

Then.

This is a big deal for me. I want to be able to google you and your name and face show up. That's all I want.

Before I drive an hour for a police sting.

She kept on going and finally says, All I want to see is a work bio. I won't google anything else. I'm not asking for much.

[JZLizard]

Friends.

I am in dilemma. I met POT who is beautiful and my dream type. I could find all her info and she had 1 SD before. Also I confirmed identify as she told me. But she wants to know about my real name that she can verify. What should I do? How should I handle it? She want to verify me before going to next level.

Help me here. Should I or should I not reveal my real name. My small head is saying let's go and share. But big brain is telling me be careful.

Please advise.

If you are married or have career risks on the table I would probably pass on her. If you're single with less to lose then why not? Most of the married SDs probably won't give her their real name, so it will give you the edge over the competition. Is she forthcoming with her own real info? I've found many of them are. If she gave you all the info on herself, then you can't really blame her for expecting the same from you. We aren't playing fairly in the bowl if we expect them to be honest with us without us needing to reciprocate.

What exactly is she trying to "verify"? Ask her specifically, is she just trying to "research you" because she wants to know? If so, you can politely remind her that you're not planning on doing any unreasonable research into her private life, because the type of arrangement you're looking for does not require this. If she says the type of arrangement she's looking for does, then pin her down on specifics. If she's being too much of a pain in the ass, then you already have reason to pass on her because she will be a much bigger pain in the ass later on.

I will tell you that the most impressive SB I ever banged had some interesting opinions. She never pryed about my last name or whatever, but she mentioned more than once about how she absolutely hated married guys and that was her biggest peeve with meeting guys so far. I didn't want to get into a debate so I didn't bother to mention that most daddies are married, so she's playing with losing odds. Maybe she was trying to get me to tell more about my situation, who knows. I never told her about my girlfriend because I didn't want to screw up a perfect evening, plus I knew I wouldn't see her again and it wouldn't matter anyway.

Just tell her you are a private person and you reveal yourself to people after you know them better.

If you are married just tell her you are. Many don't care, and if that's the part she was planning to "verify" then it makes the rest of it easier.

[DirtyDeeds38]

After a very successful start I chalk up to beginners luck, I've ran into some real lack lusters lately, but this one takes the cake. Emailed a girl on SA a week or so ago, she send one back tonight just as I'm about to call it a night. She wants to meet. She's only 25 miles away from me so I figure what the heck. We text back and forth and I was very specific with details. She agrees to them and confirmed she was "very open minded" and had no issues with being intimate. She even said since she only had a few hours, we could just mess around in the car. (she lives in a rural area.) So I pick her up at he corner store by her house. She is hot. A solid 8, super petite, blonde spinner. She is another one of these girls with tats and piercings, so 'm already red flagged about this one. We drive and she tells me where we can go park. I'm thinking out in the bushes someplace private. Well she guides me to freaking Walmart. So I started figuring out she was not going to be messing around. So due to the time limits, I just come out with it and cut right to the chase and ask her if she was still open for sex like we discussed over texting. She plays dumb, like she is confused and she just thought we were meeting for talking in the car. Than she start looking at her phone and saying she needs to be home soon. Literally ten minutes after I pick her up. I said, fine, I'll take you home and tell her again that I did not feel the agreed amount was warranted as we did nothing. She starts in with how a SD has to prove himself and should pay the girl before sex and so on. We drove back to the area I picked her up and she is acting like she is kinda pissed. So to avoid a problem, I pull out my wallet and offer up half of the $ $ we agreed on over texting. I did this to avoid any issues. She offers me a hug and jumps out. She was in my car all of 19 minutes.

I had no intentions of seeing this girl again, but I text her just to call her bluff. Sure enough she ignores me and half hour later she's back on SA.

I was mostly mad at myself and for the time wasted, not the $ I was out.

[GeorgeRichmond]

IMHO.

FUCK THAT SHIT.

1. You have the cash that she needs, that means you make the rules.

2. You have no basis for a trusting relationship w this woman; she needs to earn your trust because rule 1.

3. Unless you are going to marry her, no woman is worth risking the other parts of your life.

4. No matter how hot she is, see rules 1-3.

Thanks Bro. ! I need to control my little brain here. ! I am not taking the chance even though I could dream of this girl. I had M&G with her. Yesterday and boy o boy she is hot. Like a model.

[Tidad]

Friends.

I am in dilemma. I met POT who is beautiful and my dream type. I could find all her info and she had 1 SD before. Also I confirmed identify as she told me. But she wants to know about my real name that she can verify. What should I do? How should I handle it? She want to verify me before going to next level.

Help me here. Should I or should I not reveal my real name. My small head is saying let's go and share. But big brain is telling me be careful.

Please advise.

IMHO.

FUCK THAT SHIT.

1. You have the cash that she needs, that means you make the rules.

2. You have no basis for a trusting relationship w this woman; she needs to earn your trust because rule 1.

3. Unless you are going to marry her, no woman is worth risking the other parts of your life.

4. No matter how hot she is, see rules 1-3.

[GeorgeRichmond]

Friends.

I am in dilemma. I met POT who is beautiful and my dream type. I could find all her info and she had 1 SD before. Also I confirmed identify as she told me. But she wants to know about my real name that she can verify. What should I do? How should I handle it? She want to verify me before going to next level.

Help me here. Should I or should I not reveal my real name. My small head is saying let's go and share. But big brain is telling me be careful.

Please advise.

[John G Smith]

She shoots back a long text about not liking close intimacy and she views sex as just getting off and she wants to see me again, but she does not want "sensual" sex and would rather hangout and than just get each other off. OK, fine, but seriously, most women want some level of sensuality even if it is fake.

Actually with enough time, you'll encounter quite a few girls who don't want "sensual" sex, they just want you to fuck them hard and then be done with it. Sometimes it's a sign that they're a PRO or UTR, but there other reasons as well. They may have a husband / boyfriend or "special someone" who they are only sensual with. It's how they compartmentalize. They figure it's not really cheating if it's not sensual sex. Another reason is that they just might not be attracted to you. I've had this happen before where the girl thought I was passable to fuck, but later revealed I wasn't really her type. She was fine with and enjoyed "getting off" with me, but not on a romantic level, just pure physical. Like a "friends with benefits" or "fuck buddy" in the purest sense. Girls these days like to have a lot of sex, but they also like to put you in a particular labeled box in order to justify or make sense of their sexual activity.

And finally some girls simply just like aggressive sex. They like it fast and hard with minimal oral and just pure fucking usually accompanied with tons of dirty / degrading talk. That's why if I can, try to figure out roughly what style of sex the girl is predisposed to. I can modify my style for the situation, but I tend to be more at ease with "sensual sex" and I tend to be a little bit out of my element if the girl wants it very rough with abusive talk. So for long-term SBs, I prefer a girl who is more sensual, but for short-term or BCs, it doesn't really matter since part of the fun with the Sugar Bowl is the different experiences and experimenting with different persona's.

[HollywoodGuy]

So back to sending out emails and getting responses from most. I tend to search SA for most recent users and email those actively online. Had a few on the hook, but reeled in a 23 year old 5'7" average build girl with nice tits, super pretty face. She immediately went to the "how much do you pay" during texting. We agreed to meet and go straight to the room.

She was the classic girl with piercings, tats and all that scene going on, but she was also very sweet and shy, shy, shy. There was no question we were to have sex, we had openly texted and discussed it. But with this girl, I could just not get my overall mojo going. Finally I started kissing and she was hesitant some, we went to the bed, I took off her clothing, I complimented her body, it was nice. Her face a solid 9, body a solid 8. I tried kissing her, she was not into it much, tried kissing her neck, body, no reaction, she just smiled. Finally DATY and this is one activity I seriously pride myself with. Each girl is always different and I have developed a knack for really reading their cues and almost always guide them to screaming O's this way and than the rest of all the fucking usually is them asking, or even begging for it. Well this one, wiggled around non stop. She was rocking her hips, moving sideway, up and down etc. Finally I just asked how she liked it and she just kept saying, "you're fine, I like it" whatever, I could not find a rhythm or angle to get this girl into it. Finally I lay back down by her, gave up on the kissing etc. She asked if I wanted to have sex now. I jumped up on top and she asks if I had a rubber, (I don't even bring them to the sugar bowl, I do not fuck in the bowl with a cover. If I feel she is not fuckable without a rubber, in the sugar bowl, it's just not happening then) I stop and we talk a bit, I tell her I'll pull out, she rambles on about safe sex. Finally she agrees if I pull out, she will fuck me. I get back on top and slide it in and she does that hip, leg lock thing girls do that prevent you from going in deep. She turns her head sideways and moans a little, but not much. I pump away, finally working her leg lock off me and get in deeper and she begins to get into it. I think finally Houston, we have a sign of life!

After ten minutes or so we switch to doggie and I finish on her ass. Nice view. She was super sweet and shy as she was before sex. Next day I text her and initiate a response from her about why she was not really into it and what I might do to improve the situation. She shoots back a long text about not liking close intimacy and she views sex as just getting off and she wants to see me again, but she does not want "sensual" sex and would rather hangout and than just get each other off. OK, fine, but seriously, most women want some level of sensuality even if it is fake.

The moral here, is these girls are great, but most are kind of fucked up in some capacity or another. By the time my sugar bowl career is over, I'll probably be a shrink.

Sounds like a pass. Keep looking.

[DirtyDeeds38]

So back to sending out emails and getting responses from most. I tend to search SA for most recent users and email those actively online. Had a few on the hook, but reeled in a 23 year old 5'7" average build girl with nice tits, super pretty face. She immediately went to the "how much do you pay" during texting. We agreed to meet and go straight to the room.

She was the classic girl with piercings, tats and all that scene going on, but she was also very sweet and shy, shy, shy. There was no question we were to have sex, we had openly texted and discussed it. But with this girl, I could just not get my overall mojo going. Finally I started kissing and she was hesitant some, we went to the bed, I took off her clothing, I complimented her body, it was nice. Her face a solid 9, body a solid 8. I tried kissing her, she was not into it much, tried kissing her neck, body, no reaction, she just smiled. Finally DATY and this is one activity I seriously pride myself with. Each girl is always different and I have developed a knack for really reading their cues and almost always guide them to screaming O's this way and than the rest of all the fucking usually is them asking, or even begging for it. Well this one, wiggled around non stop. She was rocking her hips, moving sideway, up and down etc. Finally I just asked how she liked it and she just kept saying, "you're fine, I like it" whatever, I could not find a rhythm or angle to get this girl into it. Finally I lay back down by her, gave up on the kissing etc. She asked if I wanted to have sex now. I jumped up on top and she asks if I had a rubber, (I don't even bring them to the sugar bowl, I do not fuck in the bowl with a cover. If I feel she is not fuckable without a rubber, in the sugar bowl, it's just not happening then) I stop and we talk a bit, I tell her I'll pull out, she rambles on about safe sex. Finally she agrees if I pull out, she will fuck me. I get back on top and slide it in and she does that hip, leg lock thing girls do that prevent you from going in deep. She turns her head sideways and moans a little, but not much. I pump away, finally working her leg lock off me and get in deeper and she begins to get into it. I think finally Houston, we have a sign of life!

After ten minutes or so we switch to doggie and I finish on her ass. Nice view. She was super sweet and shy as she was before sex. Next day I text her and initiate a response from her about why she was not really into it and what I might do to improve the situation. She shoots back a long text about not liking close intimacy and she views sex as just getting off and she wants to see me again, but she does not want "sensual" sex and would rather hangout and than just get each other off. OK, fine, but seriously, most women want some level of sensuality even if it is fake.

The moral here, is these girls are great, but most are kind of fucked up in some capacity or another. By the time my sugar bowl career is over, I'll probably be a shrink.