"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**F Scott** · 05-15-13 18:57

Gentlemen,

Well, given the law of averages, it had to happen sooner or later. I was browsing the recent babies in New Orleans on SA this morning in anticipation of a possible trip at the end of the month to visit my youngest daughter, and I ran across a profile of one of my older daughter's college roommates! Now this is a girl I have had a huge and entirely inappropriate thing for since I first met her almost 6 years ago when visiting my daughter at college for parent's weekend. I mean it was chemical, at least for me, to the point that I had to put a little distance between us if we hugged so she wouldn't feel Scottie at full attention. I spent many a happy afternoon fantasizing about fucking her, and I have to be honest in saying that this latest discovery does not help matters at all.

I know the answer to this in my rational brain, but what would you all do? She will see, if she looks at who viewed her profile, that I looked at hers, but I have no public pictures, thank you baby Jesus, and my details are off just enough that she probably won't put two and two together, but I am feeling a very pleasant buzz of adrenaline running through my veins, and wonder what I would do if she contacted me, thinking I was just some horny dude from Chicago.

Has anyone ever successfully navigated these treacherous shoals? How did it turn out? Anyone who is in NOLA or goes there, I might share the profile, but you have to promise to take pics and videos! She is not a "classic" beauty, think more of an ethereal beauty in a painting by Vermeer, but I have always found her irresistable, no more so than now, unfortunately.

On the side of rationality, there's no guarantee that if I did contact her and reveal myself, that she would be anything other than repelled at the thought of fucking her best friend's father, but oh, my brothers, how often have I imagined that wondrous day when I would be settled between her thighs, looking down on her as she pulled me close!

In other news, I am balls deep in babies at home, but a wondrous one, who I thought had moved on, has recently come on strong, and honestly has driven all thoughts, (with the exception of the above) out of my head. She is funny, smart as can be, quick-witted, sassy, naturally beautiful, and for some strange reason seems to be totally into me! Our time together so far has been effortless, and we are scheduled for some "quality time" on Monday, at her instigation. At our lunch date today, she insisted on paying! And she is a gorgeous 27 yo who had our waiter drooling shamefully. What a wonderful world we live in, no? So far we have only kissed discretely, but I think she is still getting used to the whole idea. She is an intoxicating mix of sexy and virginal.

I await your advice on the NOLA roommate.

Scott

**PartyTimeGuy** · 05-15-13 18:09

Originally Posted by Llhacara [View Original Post]

Recently I decided to check out the SD websites to see how it was, and so far I am enjoying it. I've yet to meet an SB.

I received some interest from the ladies, some I was interested in others not so much. I responded back to a few who sent me.

A message and I responded back letting them know that the interest was mutual. I included my contact number and suggested.

That we could chat via texting or phone. I want to know was it to quick and early to send my contact info or should I have sent.

Messages back and forth first?

Newbie here

Despite having had more than 100 SBs I am a relatively new poster to this site. However, I will have to say that the contributors here offer some very wise and helpful advice on the subject of SBs. A compilation of the advice in this thread would make quite a useful publication for all SDs.

**Llhacara** · 05-15-13 11:49

Recently I decided to check out the SD websites to see how it was, and so far I am enjoying it. I've yet to meet an SB.

I received some interest from the ladies, some I was interested in others not so much. I responded back to a few who sent me.

A message and I responded back letting them know that the interest was mutual. I included my contact number and suggested.

That we could chat via texting or phone. I want to know was it to quick and early to send my contact info or should I have sent.

Messages back and forth first?

Newbie here

**FredMoore** · 05-15-13 10:24

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

I don't know your age. But as far as I can tell at 59 I am attracting more girls than ever. And its not the dollars, because I got less of them than before. Way less. Confidence is a huge factor. I lost 20 lbs, started working out and got a better haircut. It works

HW, I am 60, look 48 to 52 according to females, tall, slim and muscular, attractive, personality very good in a one on one, educated, blah, blah, blah.

Negatives :

Separated but still hiding from public disclosure.

60 (to a 20 yr old 60 might as well be 80)

No picture on SA, fake pic on SDFM.

Very picky.

Budget limited by separation scrutiny.

Probably uninspiring profile.

**Flirting Guy** · 05-15-13 09:47

I have a cute 18yo that I am done with from SA. PM for details and line up for an exchange.

**Flirting Guy** · 05-15-13 09:19

Originally Posted by PartyTimeGuy [View Original Post]

Your experience parallels mine. It's funny how that in life the harder you work the luckier you get.

This is exactly what we do in sales. We're just converting leads into sales and then you have to keep the customer happy with ongoing support. More leads = more sales. I've hit the 400 mark for ladies I've contacted at SA in the last 2. 5 weeks since I've joined.

**PartyTimeGuy** · 05-15-13 08:15

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

I don't know your age. But as far as I can tell at 59 I am attracting more girls than ever. And its not the dollars, because I got less of them than before. Way less. Confidence is a huge factor. I lost 20 lbs, started working out and got a better haircut. It works

Both are important but I couldn't agree with you more that personality trumps looks with most females. I am in my 40s and average looking. No 6 pack. Have love handles. It is my confidence and charm that is the most attractive bait as far as I can tell. Not that losing some weight, dressing sharper and getting a new haircut wouldn't help. Maybe even a better cologne. I have no SO to be suspicious about such improvements.

**PartyTimeGuy** · 05-15-13 08:06

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

I just checked my stats on SD4me and I messaged 592 girls in the last 6 months. I got one new regular for my efforts. That works out to about 3 messages a day. And damn is she worth it. And I did do maybe 20+ face to face interviews. Rejection doesn't mean shit. Every no just puts you one step closer to a yes.

Your experience parallels mine. It's funny how that in life the harder you work the luckier you get.

**LikeMike1963** · 05-15-13 07:49

She is HOTT. But what I can't stand with many babies is. They are F'nd slobs. My current baby is not, hell....she even cleans my house sometimes. DAMN I am going to miss her when she moves back home.

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

I just checked my stats on SD4me and I messaged 592 girls in the last 6 months. I got one new regular for my efforts. That works out to about 3 messages a day. And damn is she worth it. And I did do maybe 20+ face to face interviews. Rejection doesn't mean shit. Every no just puts you one step closer to a yes.

**PartyTimeGuy** · 05-15-13 07:28

I reported on this excellent new find earlier. Usually strippers do not make good SBs for all sorts of reasons we know about. This one is the exception that proves the rule. She is compactly cute, sweet, sexually worships me and is happy with $ a visit. Plus I get to hear all about the guys she encounters stripping. That is entertaining between cups. It doesn't get too much better than this my brothers!

**John G Smith** · 05-15-13 03:16

My Advantages.

- I'm a relatively young SD (mid 30s). This makes it easier to attract and somewhat relate to 18-21 year-olds because I'm more or less still in their generation.

- I'm in good shape. While I don't have a six pack, I have a good athletic physic. Unless the girl is used to dating Calvin Kline models, my body won't be turning anyone off.

- Nice persona. I naturally give off a nice vibe whether it's digital communication or face-to-face. I never give girls an aggressive or creeper vibe.

- Decent income. I'm not rolling in it. But I make enough where I can treat a low middle income girl to nice things and she'll be very appreciative.

My Disadvantages.

- I'm a relatively young SD (mid 30s). This makes it difficult for me to attract girls over the age of 27. In fact, I've never had a SB older than 24. So there's a large segment of SBs (the MILF SBs) that I simply don't have access to. Not until another 10 years or so.

- I'm African American, so it makes it almost impossible to get Asian SBs. I don't have too much problems with other races, but Asians have been very difficult just to get conversations going. They tend to want white SDs almost exclusively. This wouldn't be such a big deal if Asian girls weren't one of my favorites.

- I'm married. This is probably the biggest hindrance. I just don't have a lot of free time to go on a ton of meet and greets. I also have very few slots available in the week for SBs, so I have to plan very carefully. Also flying in SBs is not really an option.

- I don't travel. My business does not have any travel, so I don't get to enjoy the out of town excursions that many you guys get to enjoy. My range of SBs is pretty much limited to a 2 hour radius of where I live.

**HollywoodGuy** · 05-15-13 01:43

Originally Posted by Dog Rice [View Original Post]

Shame to me comparing to you, HG. I am 38 and in good shape (flat stomach, muscle). Still getting shit.

Well then just try the haircut. But don't change your aftershave. Your SO might get suspicious. LOL

**HollywoodGuy** · 05-15-13 01:39

I just checked my stats on SD4me and I messaged 592 girls in the last 6 months. I got one new regular for my efforts. That works out to about 3 messages a day. And damn is she worth it. And I did do maybe 20+ face to face interviews. Rejection doesn't mean shit. Every no just puts you one step closer to a yes.

**Dog Rice** · 05-15-13 00:12

Shame to me comparing to you, HG. I am 38 and in good shape (flat stomach, muscle). Still getting shit.

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

I don't know your age. But as far as I can tell at 59 I am attracting more girls than ever. And its not the dollars, because I got less of them than before. Way less. Confidence is a huge factor. I lost 20 lbs, started working out and got a better haircut. It works

**HollywoodGuy** · 05-15-13 00:07

Originally Posted by FredMoore [View Original Post]

SBs are attracted 1st to the best looking guys in their proper designated age group who have the most intriguing profile. We do the same thing with them except we men are more equal opportunity carousers. Have pussy will travel.

So Dog Rice, the difference between you and Hollywood for example, might be appearance or profile writing style. There's nothing you can do about your looks other than present your visage in the best possible light. (I'm nor saying you aren't dashing and debonaire, but it's presentation that counts.

For me personally I know my age is a huge limiting factor and accept it. Usually if I can get to the meet I can overwhelm her with my $incerity.

I don't know your age. But as far as I can tell at 59 I am attracting more girls than ever. And its not the dollars, because I got less of them than before. Way less. Confidence is a huge factor. I lost 20 lbs, started working out and got a better haircut. It works