Massage Parlor Reports

[AbbyR238]

Thank you all! Once again, you've shown how much we look out for each other. A few of us have shared that we're trying to quit, and I'm glad I could encourage you to speak up and get things off your chest. For those who have clarity and know what they're doing, kudos! I fully support you. Hobby with conviction!

I appreciate you sharing your feelings and want to let you know you are not alone in this battle.

Thanks, brother. It really helps to know we're in this together!

Honestly if moving away isn't an option for you, then all you can really do is focus on personal growth and minimizing any exposure to reduce the chance of relapsing. Normally dating would be a great way of keeping busy and your head away from here, but it's difficult here and you'll likely think to yourself 'why go through all this effort when I can walk into an AMP?'.

Agreed. I'm trying to get back into dating, and I see your point. Fulfilling my urges has made me withdraw from dating, which in turn has made harder to form a real connection. I realize I can't be emotionally available to someone while fulfilling my urges with someone else, but that's just me. So quitting is essential if I want to climb out of this cycle.

The best thing you can do is get off this board. Stop checking the ads or agency websites. If you have a wife or gf, try to rekindle things so you are intimate more often. If you are single, start dating. I agree with jerking off not cutting it, so if you don't have some other outlet, I think its impossible to quit this hobby. Good luck brother, wishing you the best.

Trying to cut down and get back into dating, but like you said, the "outlet," or the lack thereof, is a problem.

This is like my third post ever, but I felt like I needed to jump in. The revulsion about what you're doing and compulsion to keep doing it is a really corrosive cycle to be in, which I know from personal experience. It sounds to me like visiting massage places goes against your personal ethical standards, but you can't help yourself. That doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you a person who could use some help.

The good thing is that there's a ton of help out there in the Seattle area. There are 12 step groups like SA and lots of counselors with specific training to help with sexual compulsions. I don't know you enough to make any call on what's going on with you, but if you're feeling that there's trouble in your life because of it, you should really try to reach out. Even if you don't start attending a group or talking to someone, just getting an idea of what help is available can help you figure out what you want to do about how you feel.

Thank you for writing. You're right, it does go against my personal ethical standards. Not because I think it's morally wrong (I don't), but because I want a life partner and a family, and this hobby pushes me away from that. I started at a low point in life, under some heavy medication with mental side effects, and initially did it for the thrill, then for fantasies, and eventually to satisfy urges regularly. Admitting I'm addicted took time, but now that I have, I need to seek help. I'm open to any SA or counselor recs.

If your shame is due to seeing the girls, know that most of them if not all of them do this job because they need the money and they are not being forced to do it.

No, it's not about the girls. I've had candid conversations with many, and I don't for once believe any are coerced into this. They're all here by choice and make good money. My shame comes from knowing this hobby is impeding me from achieving my personal goals (life partner / marriage, family etc) and I let it get the best of me.

[CSnow]

... The shops are accessible, the girls are sweet, and there's no drama, which makes it hard to resist. After each visit, I feel instant regret and shame, but give it a couple days, the urge returns.

I'm curious if there are any ex-mongers here who have successfully stepped away. What helped you? Feel free to DM if you'd rather share privately.

Thanks for reading.

OP, skip reading this if you don't want to hear a conflicting opinion. I do wonder about your feelings of shame and regret. Can you explain? I can't say I understand them.

I love women. I'm not talking about just sex. Talking to them, being around them, and yes, of course sex as well. Sex with beautiful women if one of the things that makes life worth living to me. I feel zero shame or regret about it. Maybe disappointment once in a while, but fortunately not that often. And besides the sex, I do love just meeting different women and enjoying their company, even for a brief moment. They all are different from each other, but many are wonderful, each in their own way. Many are kind, and giving, and generous, and funny. And no, just one will never be enough for me.

I've been in plenty of relationship in my life, both long term and short term. They are great but there are always sacrifices of freedom to be made. Sometimes they are worth it, sometimes they are not. Right now I value my freedom, independence, and ability to live my life the way I want more than I do permanent companionship. It's up to you to decide if you want to trade in your freedom for that. Or maybe you don't look at it that way. But any relationship is always a tradeoff and a sacrifice. I'm not even going to talk about money, LOL. A relationship *will* be more expensive than an occasional visit with a professional. One of my girlfriends told me about a guy taking her out to McDonalds. We are talking adults, not high school kids. True story, LOL. Maybe relationship attempts were cheaper for that poor chap, LOL. But for most normal people it's not the case.

I've stepped away from the hobby for months or even years throughout my life, so I know it's not an addiction I need help with. It's a life choice I enjoy and I have no intention on quitting. As I said, for me it's one of the few things that makes life worth living. As long as there is honesty involved from both side as to the expectations. With the pro girls it's easy more often than not. Some of them might act a bit too much and may lead you on. Some may expect more from you than you are willing to give. And some may not want what you are offering, LOL. As long as I am honest, I feel zero shame or regret, and end up happy most of the time.

And I personally wouldn't even think of stopping right now. I'm old enough to afford it, yet young enough to still enjoy it, LOL. Time is fleeting. When I was in London, I was reading a thread on the UK punter board about old chaps that aren't able to get laid even with the pro girls. They were trading the stories about how they were let down. Some of them were sad, some of them were funny. I remember one of them. A pro girl pulled up to the guys place in a cab, opened the door, saw him on his porch, jumped back in the cab and yelled "Sorry love, I already fucked too many old men today". That cracked me up and made me a bit sad. That will happen to me one day. Until then, I'm living life to the fullest.

That's my 2 cents. Obviously completely different from your feelings. I hope you get what you want, and get the help you need if you need it. Good luck.

[CSnow]

This topic has divided opinions as to whether appointments are recommended or if they even work. One thing that I like about AMPs is that you DON'T need an appointment.

Say you text at 10 Am for a 1 PM appointment with a specific provider, but at 12:45 a walk in enters the shop requesting the same provider. You can pretty much guarantee that they will take the $$ that is there versus someone that may or may not show up or they might arrive late, so you will be asked to wait about 10 minutes. I would think that the ONLY possible exception would be if you are a well paying and well liked regular customer who is also very reliable as far as showing up and on time.

What I will do is to text no more than a half hour prior to let them know I am on the way and with whom I want to see. YMMV.

Different experience for me. My appointments have been honored almost always, even at the shops I don't frequent. I also almost always want to see a specific girl that's popular and is unlikely to be immediately available to a walk-in. Plus most smart girls will understand that someone that books an appointment and asks for her by name at least reads the forum and quite possibly contributes. Kind of like saying you are a friend of the Big Monkey, LOL. Just my 2 c.

[Pluto14]

Work and life got to me in the last couple of weeks so I took a short hiatus from the hobby.

It so happens that Hailey was also taking a short, but much needed break to get some rest.

After she came back, even though I was still buried with work, I had to find some time to rekindle that fire with her, b / c it has been 2 and 1/2 weeks since I last seen her!

She's as great as ever! And after the much needed rest, she's visibly more energetic and giggly than when I saw her last time. Last time she was really tired and was in need of a break. I am so glad she got the rest she needed!

There's not much more that I can write about her, and you guys are probably tired of seeing me post a review on here LOL.

But I just want to show and share my appreciation for this girl. She has a happy and upbeat energy that can have a positive effect for people around her, and I truly, genuinely enjoy spending time with her, even outside of the sexual activities.

[Markmc12]

Welcome to town. Read this thread, look up the name on Rubmaps for address.

King massage is 5 minutes south of downtown in SoDo.

JM Massage is 10-15 minutes south of downtown in Georgetown.

Tokyo massage is 20-30 minutes S. E. Of downtown in Renton.

Q massage is 20-30 minutes north of downtown in Shoreline.

Any are a good choice.

Thank you for the list. Much, much appreciated.

[Supermanamp]

This topic has divided opinions as to whether appointments are recommended or if they even work. One thing that I like about AMPs is that you DON'T need an appointment.

Say you text at 10 Am for a 1 PM appointment with a specific provider, but at 12:45 a walk in enters the shop requesting the same provider. You can pretty much guarantee that they will take the $$ that is there versus someone that may or may not show up or they might arrive late, so you will be asked to wait about 10 minutes. I would think that the ONLY possible exception would be if you are a well paying and well liked regular customer who is also very reliable as far as showing up and on time.

What I will do is to text no more than a half hour prior to let them know I am on the way and with whom I want to see. YMMV.

If you want to see a specific girl, then an appointment is strongly recommended because if you walk in she might be busy up to an hour with someone else. Even with an appointment you might have to wait several minutes for the reasons you stated but your waiting time will be shorter. If you don't care who you see, then an appointment is not needed but you might still have to wait if all the girls are busy. Everyone has their own opinion on this matter, but I for one do make appointments if I want to see a specific girl.

[Prancer1]

I would not go without an appointment. Just text the shop number.

Thanks for the tip Kdog.

BTW your reviews and the heat on the K shops have me looking at the spas.

I now have a list from shoreline to Sodo to hit.

[GoaThillBilly]

This topic has divided opinions as to whether appointments are recommended or if they even work. One thing that I like about AMPs is that you DON'T need an appointment.

Say you text at 10 Am for a 1 PM appointment with a specific provider, but at 12:45 a walk in enters the shop requesting the same provider. You can pretty much guarantee that they will take the $$ that is there versus someone that may or may not show up or they might arrive late, so you will be asked to wait about 10 minutes. I would think that the ONLY possible exception would be if you are a well paying and well liked regular customer who is also very reliable as far as showing up and on time.

What I will do is to text no more than a half hour prior to let them know I am on the way and with whom I want to see. YMMV.

[Supermanamp]

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Hey fellow mongers.

First, I want to say that this community has been amazing. As strange as it might sound, I truly appreciate the brotherhood here and how we look out for one another. I am a strong proponent of legalizing, and believe that the world should not have a say in what happens between two consenting adults.

That said, I've been reflecting lately and feel it might be time for me to retire from the hobby. I've had some great experiences from Good to Shanghai, Tokyo to Q, and many more, but I've started wanting something more real for myself. I'm hoping to focus on personal growth, maybe pursue a life partner, and also give my wallet a bit of a break.

Now my struggle is that I may have become addicted to the hobby. I find myself going at least once or twice a week, and even though I know it's starting to take a toll, the urge keeps coming back. Jerking off just doesn't cut it, it never has. The shops are accessible, the girls are sweet, and there's no drama, which makes it hard to resist. After each visit, I feel instant regret and shame, but give it a couple days, the urge returns.

I'm curious if there are any ex-mongers here who have successfully stepped away. What helped you? Feel free to DM if you'd rather share privately.

Thanks for reading.

This hobby is addictive for obvious reasons for men. There is help out there in the form of counseling as someone stated. If your shame is due to seeing the girls, know that most of them if not all of them do this job because they need the money and they are not being forced to do it. I do want to quit this hobby sometimes too and it's mostly because it's an expensive hobby. Also, because it's just meant to have fun and fulfill my needs and nothing else. However, some of the girls tend to get attached to me and I reciprocate which for obvious reasons is not good. Anyways, if this hobby is causing you shame and regret and you are not happy do follow all the advice everyone has provided. Good luck brother. Monger on!

[KrDoggy]

I would not go without an appointment. Just text the shop number.

Thank you!

Do folks usually call and make an appt or just walk in?

Planning to visit next week will update here.

[KrDoggy]

Totally agree on the point that civi relationships cost even more. I have had a variety including long marriages and they cost a fortune (but were worth it for a variety of reasons, including kids). Even the shorter civi relationships cost more in my experience.

As far as hobbying, I'm way past revulsion, I know I am a bit of a perv, but many of these relationships are surprisingly wholesome. Chinese culture plays a big role. I've talked a lot about making friends with girls and management. I do that for ME, it makes it more fun. If I were a bit more religious I'd thank God for giving me this time in my life. These girls truly make me feel like a king and keep me young, and spare me, I know they want money.

But I am acutely aware that this can't and shouldn't last forever. I need a more stable wavelength than the almost every day fucking I have been doing.

I experience some of the same feelings, not shame but sometimes buyers remorse, depending upon the experience, some are totally worth it. If someone Is hobbying 1-2 times per week, they are likely younger and they had better be able to afford it. I agree with one comment as to cut down to no more than once per week, in my experience the less that I partake in a hobby, no matter what it is the more that I enjoy it. I also take breaks of several weeks due to geographic challenges and then when I return I appreciate the experiences that much more. Typically I will hobby 2-4 times per month. As to the comment on finding a civi relationship in order to spend less money, that's a slippery slope and could end up costing you much more I the long run. Plus if you are like me and crave variety, you will not be satisfied with just one woman, unless she likes sharing.

[SpootCapoot]

This is like my third post ever, but I felt like I needed to jump in. The revulsion about what you're doing and compulsion to keep doing it is a really corrosive cycle to be in, which I know from personal experience. It sounds to me like visiting massage places goes against your personal ethical standards, but you can't help yourself. That doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you a person who could use some help.

The good thing is that there's a ton of help out there in the Seattle area. There are 12 step groups like SA and lots of counselors with specific training to help with sexual compulsions. I don't know you enough to make any call on what's going on with you, but if you're feeling that there's trouble in your life because of it, you should really try to reach out. Even if you don't start attending a group or talking to someone, just getting an idea of what help is available can help you figure out what you want to do about how you feel.

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Hey fellow mongers.

First, I want to say that this community has been amazing. As strange as it might sound, I truly appreciate the brotherhood here and how we look out for one another. I am a strong proponent of legalizing, and believe that the world should not have a say in what happens between two consenting adults.

That said, I've been reflecting lately and feel it might be time for me to retire from the hobby. I've had some great experiences from Good to Shanghai, Tokyo to Q, and many more, but I've started wanting something more real for myself. I'm hoping to focus on personal growth, maybe pursue a life partner, and also give my wallet a bit of a break..

[CamelToe2000]

Have seen Jenny twice now, and the rave reviews are for good reason. She's got a similar build to Chanel for those who know her, and has the same service queen ethos. There's been enough Penthouse forum writeups here that people should know what to expect, but I'd say she's right up there with Chanel and Hailey at BJ as absolute superstars.

The second visit I took advantage of a rare quiet day to do a twosome with Jenny and Emma. When I first met Emma I thought her happy demeanor would make her fun in a duo, and that proved to be true. They are quite the pair and I'd highly recommend the experience if the stars align for you, although the quiet period ended up being pretty brief before the doorbell started ringing again. Still well worth it.

[GoaThillBilly]

I experience some of the same feelings, not shame but sometimes buyers remorse, depending upon the experience, some are totally worth it. If someone Is hobbying 1-2 times per week, they are likely younger and they had better be able to afford it. I agree with one comment as to cut down to no more than once per week, in my experience the less that I partake in a hobby, no matter what it is the more that I enjoy it. I also take breaks of several weeks due to geographic challenges and then when I return I appreciate the experiences that much more. Typically I will hobby 2-4 times per month. As to the comment on finding a civi relationship in order to spend less money, that's a slippery slope and could end up costing you much more I the long run. Plus if you are like me and crave variety, you will not be satisfied with just one woman, unless she likes sharing.

[JoeSmith11]

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Hey fellow mongers.

First, I want to say that this community has been amazing. As strange as it might sound, I truly appreciate the brotherhood here and how we look out for one another. I am a strong proponent of legalizing, and believe that the world should not have a say in what happens between two consenting adults.

That said, I've been reflecting lately and feel it might be time for me to retire from the hobby. I've had some great experiences from Good to Shanghai, Tokyo to Q, and many more, but I've started wanting something more real for myself. I'm hoping to focus on personal growth, maybe pursue a life partner, and also give my wallet a bit of a break.

Now my struggle is that I may have become addicted to the hobby. I find myself going at least once or twice a week, and even though I know it's starting to take a toll, the urge keeps coming back. Jerking off just doesn't cut it, it never has. The shops are accessible, the girls are sweet, and there's no drama, which makes it hard to resist. After each visit, I feel instant regret and shame, but give it a couple days, the urge returns.

I'm curious if there are any ex-mongers here who have successfully stepped away. What helped you? Feel free to DM if you'd rather share privately.

Thanks for reading.

I had a similar thought about this being an addiction a while back and set myself a goal of taking a 6 month break just to prove to myself I can do it, which I was able to accomplish.

The best thing you can do is get off this board. Stop checking the ads or agency websites. For me I'd see the maybe one of the agency posted a hot young new girl, and she's getting great reviews here, now I've got to see here. Had a trip up to Vancouver, so I'm checking their ads / agencies. Wow, so many great providers at half the price of Seattle, it would be a waste to not see them. I think it was honestly a habit to check this site and some of the ad / agencies sites every day just to see what's new. Stop doing that.

If you have a wife or gf, try to rekindle things so you are intimate more often. If you are single, start dating. I agree with jerking off not cutting it, so if you don't have some other outlet, I think its impossible to quit this hobby.

Also maybe try to ease off. If you are going 1-2 a week, try cutting it to once every other week. Then once a month, etc.

Good luck brother, wishing you the best.