General Reports

[Syndicated69]

Hotel by leaps and bounds. Guaranteed parking, no ones going to question why you're there, no nosy neighbors.

Residential buildings of any type has way more risks for the girls and you. The neighbors, and foot traffic are way less than any hotel will ever be, so even just regular neighbors or building management can tell when someone in the building is running out of them.

[TheIslandBear]

When meeting providers for an incall do you feel safer and more comfortable meeting in a hotel, condo, apartment or house?

[MrFrench]

I recall, back when I was a student in the Boston area, and then when I used to go back for business, there was a paper called, IIRC, the Phoenix. In the back of the paper there were hundreds of ads for escorts, massage parlors, etc. I used to get some very good dates out of those ads. There was a time when I'd be in a hotel for a week and made a date through those ads every night. I know the paper went out of business sometime around 2012. Is there any replacement for it (besides the Internet)? Any local paper like the Phoenix with escort ads in the back of the paper? Just curious. Mostly.

[Trickster666]

I'll address your mental masturbation.

I get your point -- for many men, the focus is on, entirely, what contacts their penis and stimulates and induces an orgasm. For many women, the focus is on what's entering their body. For them there is a difference between a rubber inanimate dildo vs. A man's penis covered in rubber, said penis being attached to the rest of the man at the time.

Interesting. So you are saying that it's not mutual masturbation as for women even protected sex is sex because they could not abstract from the fact that this rubber covered dick belongs to a man. Maybe.

[Bran2025]

Is sex with condom a real sex? Isn't it essentially a mutual masturbation? I am inclined to think the latter.

I'll address your mental masturbation.

I get your point -- for many men, the focus is on, entirely, what contacts their penis and stimulates and induces an orgasm. For many women, the focus is on what's entering their body. For them there is a difference between a rubber inanimate dildo vs. A man's penis covered in rubber, said penis being attached to the rest of the man at the time.

[MassDude]

Is sex with condom a real sex? Isn't it essentially a mutual masturbation? I am inclined to think the latter.

How about this:

Any sex that doesn't result in a pregnancy is just mutual masturbation.

[Trickster666]

Is sex with condom a real sex? Isn't it essentially a mutual masturbation? I am inclined to think the latter.

[Nrlmus]

Heading to Aruba next week. A little research and I see that there's legal prostitution, however I was wondering if anyone had any luck in any of the massage parlors there?

I didn't monger in Aruba but a friend did. Everything he did was is in San Nicolas. Don't remember the names of the clubs but had no problem finding them by simple search. Also have some intel on Curosao that I should put in Curosao section. Thanks for reminding me.

[Jeevs]

Heading to Aruba next week. A little research and I see that there's legal prostitution, however I was wondering if anyone had any luck in any of the massage parlors there?

[CroarkinMeade]

Great scenario, but I'm not the type to vent to people about things going wrong in my life especially a woman, its all balled up and buried deep inside somewhere while I work through the issue. At our last session it ran over twenty minutes and she didn't mind and said I could stay a little longer, but I ended it.

As yourself this:

Let's say you're really down and depressed. You book to see her for an hour. You two meet, you pay her rate, and she can see you are down: sobbing, something is bothering you that just sex can't cure.

Will she let you stay extra (without having sex again) just to hear you out and comfort you?

If she's the type to do so and the connection you shared is such that she'll extend you such courtesy, consider doing the right thing. If she only saw you as an ATM, and don't let the door hit you when your time is up, shouldn't this be mutual?

Thanks, ill reach out once I get paid, pay what I usually do and try to softly bring up my observation. Hopefully I can take her to get some food as she's in a hotel and new clothes at target along with any toiletries or necessities she needs.

Helping someone in dire straits in life even a stranger is a noble act of kindness, in reflecting upon not helping and something bad happens to her you will have to live with that regret because you could of helped but were indecisive about the choice too late, there are a few posts on this site that I read, that they regretted that they didn't do more and wished they could have done more to help, the decision is yours alone to make, one of my motto's is "always try to do the right thing", a lot of nde's (near death experience) survivors post on YouTube about what will happen and the consensus is everyone will go thru and get a life review, sorry for the philosophy, but your question is philosophical, along with your morals.

[MassDude]

How do you deal with finding out a provider you've seen and enjoyed is in dire straits, do you just drop them and try again later or just move on? Anytime I think of her I get kinda depressed wondering how she's doing and if I should help, but this is supposed to be fun time not worrying about morals and taking advantage of someone due to them being in a tight spot.

As yourself this:

Let's say you're really down and depressed. You book to see her for an hour. You two meet, you pay her rate, and she can see you are down: sobbing, something is bothering you that just sex can't cure.

Will she let you stay extra (without having sex again) just to hear you out and comfort you?

If she's the type to do so and the connection you shared is such that she'll extend you such courtesy, consider doing the right thing. If she only saw you as an ATM, and don't let the door hit you when your time is up, shouldn't this be mutual?

[Partimer109]

It's a tough one. For this reason I always let them know that I don't have any cash apps. If they know you do they will always make up a nice story to try and fleece you. Her need could be genuine but how would you really know? If you do decide to help her, make sure you don't expect anything in return, other than her trying to play your heart strings for more.

Helping someone in dire straits in life even a stranger is a noble act of kindness, in reflecting upon not helping and something bad happens to her you will have to live with that regret because you could of helped but were indecisive about the choice too late, there are a few posts on this site that I read, that they regretted that they didn't do more and wished they could have done more to help, the decision is yours alone to make, one of my motto's is "always try to do the right thing", a lot of nde's (near death experience) survivors post on YouTube about what will happen and the consensus is everyone will go thru and get a life review, sorry for the philosophy, but your question is philosophical, along with your morals.

[Sadinhaverhill]

How do you deal with finding out a provider you've seen and enjoyed is in dire straits, do you just drop them and try again later or just move on? Anytime I think of her I get kinda depressed wondering how she's doing and if I should help, but this is supposed to be fun time not worrying about morals and taking advantage of someone due to them being in a tight spot.

Kinda going through this right now, have had a lady I've been seeing fairly regularly for a few years now, I helped her out of a tight spot and since then I've gotten a super deal from her, but the last time I saw her, I could tell she was not just back on dope, but was actively on dope while I was there. She nodded off 3 or 4 times with my cock in her throat.

It's just a bad scene because if she's that bad, I don't want to be someone she was in contact with regularly if she OD's and is found dead in her room or some shit.

[DarkClouds]

It's a tough one. For this reason I always let them know that I don't have any cash apps. If they know you do they will always make up a nice story to try and fleece you. Her need could be genuine but how would you really know? If you do decide to help her, make sure you don't expect anything in return, other than her trying to play your heart strings for more.

How do you deal with finding out a provider you've seen and enjoyed is in dire straits, do you just drop them and try again later or just move on? Anytime I think of her I get kinda depressed wondering how she's doing and if I should help, but this is supposed to be fun time not worrying about morals and taking advantage of someone due to them being in a tight spot.

[Droid19]

"Be smart, be charitable and care somehow if you can. " This is a great way to think of it. Over time, I've become very friendly with few SWers and have helped when appropriate. For, it's worked out well.

I hope some of the vet mongers and others chime in. Part of your answer, CM, is in what is to be gained overall for either one of you? If you can find some relief for both or either of you, do something. If you can be charitable, be it. Many will tell you don't be a sucker, these girls don't deserve it. You know the answer. It seems that you haven't been jaded. Be smart, be charitable and care somehow if you can.