Seeking Arrangement and Other Dating Site Reviews

**Chudakkad** · 07-29-25 20:33

Originally Posted by PoolPlayInTool [View Original Post]

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...3-4c77f04398ed

I messaged her 6 months ago, never met up because at the time her age range maxed at 59.

Upon a deep photo search it led me to her LinkedIn page where she is a Doctor but does not live in West Hartford.

Then there was another link to a Tutor page with her photo.

I am pretty sure its a fake profile.

I have been talking to her, she has poor communication, she told me that she is a Doctor, has FL area code number so I am also thinking its a fake profile.

**PoolPlayInTool** · 07-29-25 12:23

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...3-4c77f04398ed

I messaged her 6 months ago, never met up because at the time her age range maxed at 59.

Upon a deep photo search it led me to her LinkedIn page where she is a Doctor but does not live in West Hartford.

Then there was another link to a Tutor page with her photo.

I am pretty sure its a fake profile.

**Chudakkad** · 07-29-25 10:16

Originally Posted by DarkClouds [View Original Post]

It's a numbers game. I use every signal available to me to eliminate likely headaches and then move forward from there. It's all about improving your ROI.

I concur, once a SB backed out at the last moment saying that she has never done this before and this whole idea makes her cringe and I responded in a very classy manner that I respect her decision etc etc and a week later I messaged her expecting no response to my surprise and she was on, had a great time with her, so I agree its a numbers game.

**DarkClouds** · 07-28-25 21:28

The UTR effort is somewhere between pro and civilian. Agreed.

Originally Posted by CtSpoilGuy [View Original Post]

Oh mine are as well. We generally hang out at my place for awhile. Sometimes after dinner or a drink somewhere. Sometimes without doing that. But my point is I already know how the night is going to end and what is expected of me. I suppose it's not as low effort as a pro but it's generally much lower effort than dating. Otherwise why not just do that?

**CtSpoilGuy** · 07-28-25 19:47

Originally Posted by DarkClouds [View Original Post]

Yes, that explains it. Seems like we're looking for very different things. My dates are typically multi-hour events, often including a nice relaxed meal afterwards. For me, it's closer to a regular date. That's how I like it, when I have the time. And if I don't have the time, then I don't bother. I've lot interest in the STG-type quickie sessions I used to do before I discovered SA and the UTR world.

Oh mine are as well. We generally hang out at my place for awhile. Sometimes after dinner or a drink somewhere. Sometimes without doing that. But my point is I already know how the night is going to end and what is expected of me. I suppose it's not as low effort as a pro but it's generally much lower effort than dating. Otherwise why not just do that?

**DarkClouds** · 07-28-25 16:15

Yes, that explains it. Seems like we're looking for very different things. My dates are typically multi-hour events, often including a nice relaxed meal afterwards. For me, it's closer to a regular date. That's how I like it, when I have the time. And if I don't have the time, then I don't bother. I've lot interest in the STG-type quickie sessions I used to do before I discovered SA and the UTR world.

Originally Posted by CtSpoilGuy [View Original Post]

I guess it depends on what you consider to be high effort then. For many of these women it's a few texts and meeting up for fun pretty quickly. Compare that to meeting someone on tinder and going on dates and potentially taking a bunch of time before things happen. Seems pretty low effort to me in comparison and it's not like I haven't had a ton of success on here or anything.

And yes I always wrap it up for anything. Not rolling the dice on that considering how many women it is and how many other guys I'm sure they are doing the same things with.

**CtSpoilGuy** · 07-28-25 15:46

Originally Posted by DarkClouds [View Original Post]

You have to be joking. If you're doing it right, SA is extremely high effort. But worth it if you can spare the time. But you still want to direct that effort at the most promising prospects, not just spray and pray.

I guess it depends on what you consider to be high effort then. For many of these women it's a few texts and meeting up for fun pretty quickly. Compare that to meeting someone on tinder and going on dates and potentially taking a bunch of time before things happen. Seems pretty low effort to me in comparison and it's not like I haven't had a ton of success on here or anything.

And yes I always wrap it up for anything. Not rolling the dice on that considering how many women it is and how many other guys I'm sure they are doing the same things with.

**DarkClouds** · 07-28-25 15:05

Haha. I always wear a raincoat. I find it more enjoyable when I'm not stressing about the consequences.

Originally Posted by ManLovesLadies [View Original Post]

If you are successful and score, going in bare, you do spray and pray.

**ManLovesLadies** · 07-28-25 14:59

Originally Posted by DarkClouds [View Original Post]

You have to be joking. If you're doing it right, SA is extremely high effort. But worth it if you can spare the time. But you still want to direct that effort at the most promising prospects, not just spray and pray.

If you are successful and score, going in bare, you do spray and pray.

**DarkClouds** · 07-28-25 13:52

You have to be joking. If you're doing it right, SA is extremely high effort. But worth it if you can spare the time. But you still want to direct that effort at the most promising prospects, not just spray and pray.

Originally Posted by CtSpoilGuy [View Original Post]

I mean it's already pretty low effort in my opinion so sending a couple of messages doesn't take any real time and I've definitely hooked up with ones that have platonic in their profile anyway.

In this case it looks like she ended up blocking me anyway so I guess we will never know LOL.

**CtSpoilGuy** · 07-28-25 13:49

Originally Posted by DarkClouds [View Original Post]

It's a numbers game. I use every signal available to me to eliminate likely headaches and then move forward from there. It's all about improving your ROI.

I mean it's already pretty low effort in my opinion so sending a couple of messages doesn't take any real time and I've definitely hooked up with ones that have platonic in their profile anyway.

In this case it looks like she ended up blocking me anyway so I guess we will never know LOL.

**DarkClouds** · 07-28-25 13:11

It's a numbers game. I use every signal available to me to eliminate likely headaches and then move forward from there. It's all about improving your ROI.

Originally Posted by Tnahound [View Original Post]

While I understand how having "platonic" in their profile would be a reason for concern, I still talk to them. Far more are willing to fuck than you might think.

**Tnahound** · 07-28-25 12:41

Originally Posted by JonMels [View Original Post]

If a girl marks platonic, I move on, unless her profile indicates that she might be too stupid to know what the word means.

While I understand how having "platonic" in their profile would be a reason for concern, I still talk to them. Far more are willing to fuck than you might think.

**JonMels** · 07-28-25 00:11

Originally Posted by CtSpoilGuy [View Original Post]

Yeah I saw her a bunch back in the day but she is hard to actually get to meet up nowadays. Not sure the juice is worth the squeeze anymore on that one and I think she has gotten a little bigger recently too.

On a side note anyone have info on this one? Says she has been a member since 2023 but she has a platonic tag and she told me she has never met anyone. Which I assume is BS but curious if it's worth my time: https://members.seeking.com/member/b...e-1c1468705198.

If a girl marks platonic, I move on, unless her profile indicates that she might be too stupid to know what the word means.

**Chudakkad** · 07-27-25 16:42

Originally Posted by DarkClouds [View Original Post]

Ah, I remember her now. You're spot on. Plays games. Wants to go shopping and tries to get you to spend money but won't likely end up doing anything beyond that. Used to go by Rose. I know her real name. She was on STG for a brief period, still constantly playing games.

She told me that she now works at the casino.