Rants and Stupid shit in Orange County

[CryMoarHoar]

Looks like one of the c org locations in Irvine (cypress village nearby Irvine Blvd and Jeffrey) was busted. Go check out instagram Irvine police page.

[Sticker]

I've looked around, I don't see any path for those of us over 45 for Gardasil 9. Who has gotten it after 50 here?

Based on my research, if you're over 50 like me, there's probably not much reason to get vaccinated with it at this point. Meaning that if you've had more than just a few sexual partners in your life (and most of us guys here have had more than a few), then you were likely exposed to HPV more than a minute ago. IMHO, not worth fretting about and, more importantly, guys who play in AMPs, escorts, K-orgs etc, understand that the ROI comes with those possibilities. But as a contributing member to our community, I'm preaching to the choir here.

[Oc Amper]

This is correct, I have made 5 PSA posts about Gardasil 9. HPV is the #1 preventable problem, warts and cancer. Genital herpes being the #1 std that can't be avoided (there is no vaccine despite many attempts). You can get genital herpes with fully protected sex, because during sex your scrotum can touch the woman's pussy. That's what happened with me.

Bacterial infections, you treat after.

It cannot be understated how important Gardasil 9 is if you are 45 or under, or to beg for an exception from your doctor if you are over.

I've looked around, I don't see any path for those of us over 45 for Gardasil 9.

Who has gotten it after 50 here?

[FreeWally]

Thanks for your comment Roger.

I never barebacked FS hookers. HPV is very contagious. You can contract it from a BBBJ.

This is correct, I have made 5 PSA posts about Gardasil 9. HPV is the #1 preventable problem, warts and cancer. Genital herpes being the #1 std that can't be avoided (there is no vaccine despite many attempts). You can get genital herpes with fully protected sex, because during sex your scrotum can touch the woman's pussy. That's what happened with me.

Bacterial infections, you treat after.

It cannot be understated how important Gardasil 9 is if you are 45 or under, or to beg for an exception from your doctor if you are over.

[BSouthgate]

So the tragedy was barebacking hookers and then barebacking your significant other, in my opinion. That was poor decision-making regarding where and how you're managing your dick, not a need to mitigate the problem by telling the wife.

But given that you managed to give your wife an HPV infection, the result would likely have been the same regardless of whether you denied it or not. Anyway, I've said my piece. Everyone will make their own decisionsbest of luck to all.

Thanks for your comment Roger.

I never barebacked FS hookers. HPV is very contagious. You can contract it from a BBBJ.

[BSouthgate]

Where do you get a job at that hotel? But with our society, a hidden camera like that will probably get you more jail time than hiring a hooker. But those videos would be nice to see.

There are also women who can go 5-10 years without sex, and who prefer cuddling. And on the other end of the spectrum there are something like 10% of women who get off on anal sex. There is much more variety in women than there is in men. We are more alike than we like to think.

Totally agree that women are extremely variable. Men are also variable but less so.

Regarding the hotel clerk who video recorded clients, he posted on one of major tube sites that starts with x. He made loads of videos of women masturbating in their rooms. His videos have been taken down and I have not seen them on the lesser sites like p. Zog. If I see them, I will let you know.

He responded to my PMs for a while explaining how he made the videos and how often single women would masturbate. I remember him saying that most single women did self love and some did it several times before retiring. But some women stayed multiple nites without touching themselves.

[DarkRoomDaddy]

From experience with three wives, dozens of gfs, scores of casual encounters and hundreds of hookers, I have some idea what goes on in their heads.

There are two levels: physical and cultural.

Physical. Women, like men, have libido or sexuality. They want sexual release ten times a day, one time a week or not at all. Like men, they masturbate. According to research, more frequently than we do. A guy, who posted on a porn site, worked as a hotel night clerk. He put hidden clock cameras in some of the hotel rooms. He recorded single women occupants masturbating. He revealed in a PM that the majority of females hotel room occupants masturbated at least once a night. Some masturbated several times each night. Some not at all.

Hetero women do not just get off by themselves. They also like to fuck with men. Of my three wives, the first was hypersexual and wanted sex several times per day, more than I did. That is one of the reasons we separated and divorced. The third wife does not like sex hardly at all. The second liked it once or twice per week.

Women also have different sexual preferences. Some like to have one partner; some two; some several.

All of the above describe women's physical sexuality. These features are largely genetically programmed and not learned.

Where do you get a job at that hotel? But with our society, a hidden camera like that will probably get you more jail time than hiring a hooker. But those videos would be nice to see.

There are also women who can go 5-10 years without sex, and who prefer cuddling. And on the other end of the spectrum there are something like 10% of women who get off on anal sex. There is much more variety in women than there is in men. We are more alike than we like to think.

[RogerOver]

Note that when my second wife and I got divorced, it was not because I shared that I was fucking ******. She found out and we got divorced because she she was puzzled as to how she had contracted HPV infection. She figured it out. That is the tragedy I hope does not happen to any other brothers here. Of course I could have just denied denied denied and told her she got infected from a toilet seat.

BTW, two thirds of American marriages end in divorce. So the prevalence of twice divorced males is high.

Now, I am married to a woman who allows my sexual freedom and takes care of me. Not a bad end for an 80 year old!!

So the tragedy was barebacking hookers and then barebacking your significant other, in my opinion. That was poor decision-making regarding where and how you're managing your dick, not a need to mitigate the problem by telling the wife.

But given that you managed to give your wife an HPV infection, the result would likely have been the same regardless of whether you denied it or not. Anyway, I've said my piece. Everyone will make their own decisions—best of luck to all.

[BSouthgate]

Not attacking you, but I hope no one reading this runs off and overshares with their significant other that they are fucking hookers. I think it's a terrible idea. The fact that you mention you are on wife number three should be enough to convince everyone reading that you may not be the best source of advice regarding marital matters.

My advice. Deny, deny, deny if you want to stay married. If not, simply get divorced on the best possible terms and go fuck all you want.

Note that when my second wife and I got divorced, it was not because I shared that I was fucking ******. She found out and we got divorced because she she was puzzled as to how she had contracted HPV infection. She figured it out. That is the tragedy I hope does not happen to any other brothers here. Of course I could have just denied denied denied and told her she got infected from a toilet seat.

BTW, two thirds of American marriages end in divorce. So the prevalence of twice divorced males is high.

Now, I am married to a woman who allows my sexual freedom and takes care of me. Not a bad end for an 80 year old!!

[RogerOver]

<<SNIPPED>> I advised a brother who mistakenly thinks he has sex addiction to square with his wife. I understand why you disagree with that advice. She may be so overwhelmed with cultural mores about sexual fidelity and she may find it impossible to allow that both the brother, her husband, and she, the aspiring princess, are just physical beings that need sex but actually love each other with a pure love that can liberate them from cultural bonds.

In my long life, I have found it better to be honest in my truly intimate relationships with spouses and children; that may not work for everyone.

Not attacking you, but I hope no one reading this runs off and overshares with their significant other that they are fucking hookers. I think it's a terrible idea. The fact that you mention you are on wife number three should be enough to convince everyone reading that you may not be the best source of advice regarding marital matters.

My advice. Deny, deny, deny if you want to stay married. If not, simply get divorced on the best possible terms and go fuck all you want.

[BSouthgate]

Glad that works for you.

Although I don't really know what goes on inside a woman's head (who here does?) - I can only speak from my experiences.

As the old saying goes, Men are from Mars, women from Venus.

We are built differently.

Especially after a woman starts squeezing out puppies, their priorities change. We don't (by and large).

By that I mean that for the vast majority here, having an occasional side thing going on without disclosure to he wife is far healthier than telling your wife that you are going go be fucking around on her.

Women want that loving dedicated husband, father etc. Take that from her, you do far more damage and the odds are far against any conceivable percentage of chance that she will "understand".

From where I sit, I disagree wholeheartedly.

From experience with three wives, dozens of gfs, scores of casual encounters and hundreds of hookers, I have some idea what goes on in their heads.

There are two levels: physical and cultural.

Physical. Women, like men, have libido or sexuality. They want sexual release ten times a day, one time a week or not at all. Like men, they masturbate. According to research, more frequently than we do. A guy, who posted on a porn site, worked as a hotel night clerk. He put hidden clock cameras in some of the hotel rooms. He recorded single women occupants masturbating. He revealed in a PM that the majority of females hotel room occupants masturbated at least once a night. Some masturbated several times each night. Some not at all.

Hetero women do not just get off by themselves. They also like to fuck with men. Of my three wives, the first was hypersexual and wanted sex several times per day, more than I did. That is one of the reasons we separated and divorced. The third wife does not like sex hardly at all. The second liked it once or twice per week.

Women also have different sexual preferences. Some like to have one partner; some two; some several.

All of the above describe women's physical sexuality. These features are largely genetically programmed and not learned.

Cultural learned sexuality. Women, more than men, learn cultural mores, rules and taboos about sex. Most women are more conformist than men. They need to fit their image to the ideal that they learned as little girls. For most, they need to look like princesses, searching for Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet. When they think they have found Prince Charming, they want him to also conform to their ideal marriage image. He must work hard, support the family and be sexually faithful. She, the princess, must also be faithful. She can enjoy fucking but only with her prince and he can enjoy only with her, the princess.

However, if she is a high libido woman with a physical preference for multiple partners, she will have problems adjusting to monogamy. My first wife was such a woman. She naturally needed to fuck with multiple partners. I was immature and could not accept this. We divorced.

Women will be less honest about their sex lives especially when they discuss them with other women. Even modern women will try to mould their stories into the princess cultural ideology. They will not admit to masturbating often; they will deny enjoying sex with multiple partners. It is only within the last two generations that they started to admit to like sex at all. Before that, nobody even imagined that women could enjoy orgasms, much less orgasms from their fingers, vibrators or tongues.

There is a dichotomous contradiction between their physical and cultural sexuality. Physically, they are hornier than we are. Culturally they dare not admit horniness. This applies to prostitutes, certainly to Chinese pros. I am Caucasian but lived in China for years. I am fluent in Mandarin. I once overheard Chinese pros in China talking about their customers. Two sex workers, one who was assigned to service me as soon a a room was free, were competing in convincing each other about how much they disliked sex work. I sat quietly and listened. I expected my hour with the woman to be mechanical, boring and disappointing. It was not. She was very responsive and had several convulsive orgasms. No, she was not faking. Those of you with experience know the difference. She would never admit to her colleague that she really enjoyed sex with her clients. Her colleague probably the same. This is the dichotomous contradiction. They like the sex with lots of guys but they cannot admit it. Many if not most women have this contradiction.

I advised a brother who mistakenly thinks he has sex addiction to square with his wife. I understand why you disagree with that advice. She may be so overwhelmed with cultural mores about sexual fidelity and she may find it impossible to allow that both the brother, her husband, and she, the aspiring princess, are just physical beings that need sex but actually love each other with a pure love that can liberate them from cultural bonds.

In my long life, I have found it better to be honest in my truly intimate relationships with spouses and children; that may not work for everyone.

[FreeWally]

I understand precisely what you are going through. I have been there. I wasted thousands on sex addiction therapy. I wasted hours at "I am Bobby. I am a sex addict. " 12-step meetings. After all the useless therapy and meetings, I divorced my former wife, realizing that "I am who I am. I am polyamorous".

I found my way out of the shadows of shame and guilt and into the light of self-realization. I am now married to a truly loving woman who understands me for who I am, not for what her church tells her I should be. I enjoy her love immensely as well as an occasional visit to the massage parlor.

Polyamorous of the world unite; you have nothing to lose but your shame; you have a hell of a lot of pussy to win.

I think there are two sides of this and culture plays a big role. Yes, if therapy consists of admissions of guilt and pretending not to be who you are, it is a waste. But actual therapy can be useful, it's not hopeless there. My friend recommended a therapist who did none of that and helped a lot. It made me more of who I am, not less. Be who you really are, as early as you can in life.

As you say religion and culture play a big role. It makes a huge difference to avoid religious women for that reason.

[DarkRoomDaddy]

Should have figured that some clever therapist would figure out a new way to surreptitiously rip us off for our normal behaviour.

Try it and report back.

We probably all share a lov of fresh tuna. But did you ever ask yourself why? If you go see 30 different massage girls to pay and spray, and maybe get a handful (or mouthful) of some salty fish broth, what exactly are we looking for? To compare to eating, its boring to eat the same meal at the same restaurant every night. Its much more fun to have tacos one night, beef burgundy the next, pizza the following night, followed by some Chinese then Thai. That variety seems natural. But when we (me included) to 30 different AMP's and get the same experience, its like just going out to different restaurants to try their different variations of tacos. And once I found the place that serves the best tacos, I would probably just keep going back there.

If its a matter of seeing if you can convince a gilr to do naughty things because of your personal charm, that would be another motivation. Although is it your witty banter or your c-note that she loves? And actuallly your wit and humor and knowledge of fine wines might seduce a high class woman, but those thigns fall kind of flat on sex workers. There are some who get into the cuddling arena for whom that scenario makes much more sense, and is not about money so much. That is closer to the situatoin of going out in the street, and picking up a woman and charming her and seducing her. Thats the real challenge.

Bottom line. Don't put too much mental effort or congratulations into mongering. Just enjoy the ride for what its worth.

[RedRoddddd]

Glad that works for you.

Although I don't really know what goes on inside a woman's head (who here does?) - I can only speak from my experiences.

As the old saying goes, Men are from Mars, women from Venus.

We are built differently.

Especially after a woman starts squeezing out puppies, their priorities change. We don't (by and large).

By that I mean that for the vast majority here, having an occasional side thing going on without disclosure to he wife is far healthier than telling your wife that you are going go be fucking around on her.

Women want that loving dedicated husband, father etc. Take that from her, you do far more damage and the odds are far against any conceivable percentage of chance that she will "understand".

From where I sit, I disagree wholeheartedly.

American girls want Princess Charming, and all the she's the one and only one rules.

Tell your wife, I had a porn star experience with Megan ans Sofia / Selina BBBJCIM and all. Oh and I went backdoor on YaYa last time. It was dark and tight.

No bueno. Be smart. Be safe. She might want BBFS but you do not. Or go Buddhist and be free.

Happy hunting.

Red.

[Taws6]

So, guys, it is not reckless to tell your spouse. It is reckless not to tell her and to endanger her health without her knowledge. You are not sex addicts or perverts. You are polyamorous. Be honest with her and with yourselves. Accept yourself and rejoice. Polyamorous pride forever.

Glad that works for you.

Although I don't really know what goes on inside a woman's head (who here does?) - I can only speak from my experiences.

As the old saying goes, Men are from Mars, women from Venus.

We are built differently.

Especially after a woman starts squeezing out puppies, their priorities change. We don't (by and large).

By that I mean that for the vast majority here, having an occasional side thing going on without disclosure to he wife is far healthier than telling your wife that you are going go be fucking around on her.

Women want that loving dedicated husband, father etc. Take that from her, you do far more damage and the odds are far against any conceivable percentage of chance that she will "understand".

From where I sit, I disagree wholeheartedly.