What I learned as a Monger for the past 2 years. Good read for Newbies

**OF Charlie** · 12-10-23 17:46

Originally Posted by JamesWords [View Original Post]

Is that why I'm not seeing you active on asian apartments lately? Bro's been in hongkong? LOL.

I'll take a trip one day, but not today. .

Yes, a couple of receipts from yesterday when I visited Lantau Island.

Not sure why I bothered as people will say I make up those receipts anyway. Man, I must be really good at making up a cable ride ticket along it's purchase receipt and a receipt from 7 eleven that I can take a picture together with. What is next. Should I take a selfie at the Hong Kong airport when I leave, holding up fingers? Just tell me how many fingers you want me to hold up lol.

**Ron M** · 12-10-23 14:01

Originally Posted by JamesWords [View Original Post]

I'll take your advice. I got kids already, got a house already. Wife and I are in an open relationship. It's time to enjoy myself. Aint getting no sex at home, might as well yeah?

Don't wait until your 50's to go BBFSCIP.

Your time is right now.

**ZzTopSterZz** · 12-10-23 13:11

Originally Posted by WallStreetBull [View Original Post]

As a monger that has been doing this for 12 years now in my mid 30's I have zero regrets my only concern is how can I keep hiding the fact that I'm no longer that aroused by my SO. That is the challenge that is leading to questions. As some of you maybe aware of I have to get std testing regularly as if I show up with anything at home its game over and separation time. As many other have suggested make sure you turn off any find your iPhone location apps. Have a separate phone or apps as pinger or google voice, and DELETE them off your phone when your done. finally keep a separate checking account at some random bank that only you have access to and you will zelle money to that account that way if wifey ever asks you oh its a savings account you been putting away money at .
end of story its Been 12 years strong that ive been in the game, I have doubts with new talent today and i want to stop sometimes but the thrill is worth it to me. SO play at your own risk

WSB.

Where do you go? I'm not very risky but every once in a while I succumb to BBBJ and it leaves a doubt in my mind.

**GeneralObvious** · 12-10-23 13:07

Originally Posted by JamesWords [View Original Post]

Is that why I'm not seeing you active on asian apartments lately? Bro's been in hongkong? LOL.

I'll take a trip one day, but not today. .

He's been on regularly. If he's ever been to Hong Kong, I'll buy him a session at a spa. He doesn't leave his neighborhood. You should know that by now.

**JamesWords** · 12-10-23 12:55

Originally Posted by RonM [View Original Post]

At 30 years old you're at your peak of your game.

At 50 things don't work like they did in your 30's. It takes longer to get geared up to play.

In my 30's I had a blast playing around.

Now in my late 50's (I turn 60 in May) it takes longer for things to get ready to play if at all.

Use your peak time to have as much fun as you can.

In your 50's things don't work as well as in your 30's.

I'll take your advice. I got kids already, got a house already. Wife and I are in an open relationship. It's time to enjoy myself. Aint getting no sex at home, might as well yeah?

**JamesWords** · 12-10-23 12:45

Originally Posted by OFCharlie [View Original Post]

If you ever find yourself in Hong Kong, be careful about fucking 18 yr old BBFS with CIP. Especially double BBFS with cip in each girl. I did both and I think my life is changed.

Don't get me wrong. I had fun, but I don't know how I can ever fuck a girl who is not 18 anymore haha. Talk about tightness. To the nth degree.

But a big part of me felt sad for the girls. No 18 yr old girls should be doing BBFS with CIP. And there are so many of them that I had a hard time picking. I have attached some examples. I have a lot of guilt now.

Anyway, as the saying goes, be careful what you wish for.

Is that why I'm not seeing you active on asian apartments lately? Bro's been in hongkong? LOL.

I'll take a trip one day, but not today. .

**OF Charlie** · 12-10-23 10:06

If you ever find yourself in Hong Kong, be careful about fucking 18 yr old BBFS with CIP. Especially double BBFS with cip in each girl. I did both and I think my life is changed.

Don't get me wrong. I had fun, but I don't know how I can ever fuck a girl who is not 18 anymore haha. Talk about tightness. To the nth degree.

But a big part of me felt sad for the girls. No 18 yr old girls should be doing BBFS with CIP. And there are so many of them that I had a hard time picking. I have attached some examples. I have a lot of guilt now.

Anyway, as the saying goes, be careful what you wish for.

**WallStreetBull** · 12-07-23 20:20

As a monger that has been doing this for 12 years now in my mid 30's I have zero regrets my only concern is how can I keep hiding the fact that I'm no longer that aroused by my SO. That is the challenge that is leading to questions. As some of you maybe aware of I have to get std testing regularly as if I show up with anything at home its game over and separation time. As many other have suggested make sure you turn off any find your iPhone location apps. Have a separate phone or apps as pinger or google voice, and DELETE them off your phone when your done. finally keep a separate checking account at some random bank that only you have access to and you will zelle money to that account that way if wifey ever asks you oh its a savings account you been putting away money at .
end of story its Been 12 years strong that ive been in the game, I have doubts with new talent today and i want to stop sometimes but the thrill is worth it to me. SO play at your own risk

WSB.

Originally Posted by ChiGuy1711 [View Original Post]

I've been considering joining the hobby for a couple of years, but I can't pull the trigger. I am married and I think I would be too guilty if I went through with it. On the other hand, my sex life is awful at home and it's driving me crazy!

Any suggestions from guys who've been in my place? Anyone regret it or have a hard time with the guilt?

**FafaFooey** · 12-07-23 12:38

Originally Posted by ChiGuy1711 [View Original Post]

I've been considering joining the hobby for a couple of years, but I can't pull the trigger. I am married and I think I would be too guilty if I went through with it. On the other hand, my sex life is awful at home and it's driving me crazy!

Any suggestions from guys who've been in my place? Anyone regret it or have a hard time with the guilt?

The hobby wouldn't exist without men in sexless but otherwise friendly or loving marriages. Many of us can rationalize that we shouldn't have to choose between a good partner for many aspects of life and the pleasure and excitement of good sex, so this is a way to have both. Its hard to not have any guilt, but its much less than the guilt of a 'real affair' or just ditching your wife or SO in the search of better sex.

But I would say really think through how you're going to do it so you minimize the chances of getting caught and forcing the issue.

What phone, apps, emails, etc will you use to communicate with potential providers?

How will you justify the time away from home and / or work?

Is there any 'find my phone' utility you need to research how to temporarily disable?

Will you be able to get several hundred dollars at once without it being noticed?

How sensitive is your SO to different smells etc that may come home with you?

On the off chance you're worried you caught something, how can you test and get treatment discreetly?

If you've thought through all of those kinds of things, you can think about the kinds of providers & experience you want to have. A high end more exclusive provider can give you a cleaner more intimate experience, but these days that will cost a significant amount. You can spend a lot less to just get off quickly with a young girl, but if the experience is rushed, mechanical, or doesn't feel clean / safe then you may end up feeling more guilt and be more turned off to the hobby as a whole. Don't feel pressured to recreate every experience you read about here. An older, married monger with a limited budget is not going to have the same options and experiences as young, single guys with money to burn and no concerns about risk (although there are plenty of providers who actually prefer some maturity).

**Dbry4281** · 12-07-23 12:01

I'm glad you have guilt, because this means you love your wife. Me I'm with my wife only so my daughter can live together with both parents. I've lost all love for my wife, and divorce isn't an option now. My sex life is non existence. I have zero guilt, these women help me stay sane. You should try to get out the hobby, and don't mess up your marriage, since your an ethical person, and seem to care for your wife. You don't want to get caught and lose a good woman.

Originally Posted by OldSchoolGuy73 [View Original Post]

I struggle with the guilt as I'm married and the spouse is great looking, the worst part is the post nut regret especially if it wasn't what you expected. But when you do find that one that clicks oh man. One time I'm banging this young Latina and she looks at me with them fuck me eyes and chokes me lightly. And don't get me started on the Asians.

There are some things like BBBJ and CIM that I don't get which I really like but just doesn't like to do it. The guilt will always be there but as you age your reminded that you only live once.

**OldSchoolGuy73** · 12-07-23 11:35

Originally Posted by ChiGuy1711 [View Original Post]

I've been considering joining the hobby for a couple of years, but I can't pull the trigger. I am married and I think I would be too guilty if I went through with it. On the other hand, my sex life is awful at home and it's driving me crazy!

Any suggestions from guys who've been in my place? Anyone regret it or have a hard time with the guilt?

I struggle with the guilt as I'm married and the spouse is great looking, the worst part is the post nut regret especially if it wasn't what you expected. But when you do find that one that clicks oh man. One time I'm banging this young Latina and she looks at me with them fuck me eyes and chokes me lightly. And don't get me started on the Asians.

There are some things like BBBJ and CIM that I don't get which I really like but just doesn't like to do it. The guilt will always be there but as you age your reminded that you only live once.

**AngelBravo** · 12-07-23 01:18

Originally Posted by ChiGuy1711 [View Original Post]

I've been considering joining the hobby for a couple of years, but I can't pull the trigger. I am married and I think I would be too guilty if I went through with it. On the other hand, my sex life is awful at home and it's driving me crazy!

Any suggestions from guys who've been in my place? Anyone regret it or have a hard time with the guilt?

My honest advice is to work at improving your sex life at home. You need to talk to your wife and tell her that you have needs that are not being met, and what needs to happen for those needs to be met. It will be safer, cheaper, better and more passionate if your wife starts having more sex with you than starting this addiction. I would resort to this addiction as a last resort.

**DWaits** · 12-06-23 21:32

Originally Posted by ChiGuy1711 [View Original Post]

I've been considering joining the hobby for a couple of years, but I can't pull the trigger. I am married and I think I would be too guilty if I went through with it. On the other hand, my sex life is awful at home and it's driving me crazy!

Any suggestions from guys who've been in my place? Anyone regret it or have a hard time with the guilt?

You have to be blunt and tell your wife that you are unhappy. She needs to hear why. Then tell her you want to go to therapy if that's something you can afford. Find a therapist who identifies as sex positive. If after therapy there is no change, dump her ass or cheat but never ever admit to cheating and don't get caught.

**TwoCentsSteve** · 12-06-23 13:12

Originally Posted by ChiGuy1711 [View Original Post]

I've been considering joining the hobby for a couple of years, but I can't pull the trigger. I am married and I think I would be too guilty if I went through with it. On the other hand, my sex life is awful at home and it's driving me crazy!

Any suggestions from guys who've been in my place? Anyone regret it or have a hard time with the guilt?

Plenty great providers do your research. Not saying you should or not but if you were, just protect yourself and get tested. You wouldn't want to bring anything home. And infected others.

Stay safe.

**Ron M** · 12-06-23 12:22

Originally Posted by JamesWords [View Original Post]

I'm 30 already, who knows how much longer I'd live. I'm not willing to risk it all with BBFS just yet but once I hit 50, that's a whole different story.

At 30 years old you're at your peak of your game.

At 50 things don't work like they did in your 30's. It takes longer to get geared up to play.

In my 30's I had a blast playing around.

Now in my late 50's (I turn 60 in May) it takes longer for things to get ready to play if at all.

Use your peak time to have as much fun as you can.

In your 50's things don't work as well as in your 30's.