Married & mongering

[RCK9985]

"Love is the illusion that one woman is better than the next. " HL Menken.

Great discussion here and good perspectives. Got divorced a few years back and escorts world is a game changer vs the dating game IMO. Levels the playing field in our favor, and agree with that thrill of the chase theory. Only gripe is HX quality has gone down quite a bit overall, while prices gone up compared to several years back. Expecting that to change with next major recession, supply and demand turning back in our favor for the casual hobbyist. Cash is king is a recession.

[PelicanT99]

I'm divorced, so no longer married; but this is an interesting thread so I'd like to add my perspective. I was loyal for 18 years of marriage, only to learn my ex was basically the town ho while I was working 15 hours a day to build our future. The last 3-4 years she pretty much cut me off from sex, I thought for medical reasons but just her BS. I was going f'and nuts with no recourse but my hand. Then we separate, and I start dating & mongering (too busy to wait 3 dates LOL). A little mongering soon convinced me dating was not the best solution for satisfying sexual desires. Mongering is convenient, anonymous, no baggage, and "always a new toy to try" like OP says. I still date a little & also have FWBs (while they last), but I'll never stop mongering now, the last 20+ years have been great. Do I long for commitment & security? Sometimes. But I'd have to either have to lose my taste for "strange" or find a woman who doesn't care. Maybe that happens, who knows. If only I'd figured this out earlier in life. So I'm with all those who monger through a non sexual relationship, or with express or tacit consent. Lying effectively is a lot of work and hard to maintain; too much for me, but if you can handle it more power to you. Life's too short to pass up sexual joy when it's literally all around.

Thanks for the therapy session LOL.

[PayPalMakesMon]

What a fantastic thread PPMM! My compliments & gratitude to you & the rest of the gentlemen who have commented and make me finally come out of the closet on this Board. I've been a lurker of this site for a long time but I've never posted as this is my very first. I've been married and mongering for years; way too many to count. I started mongering back in the 80's before I got married. Then after I got married I completely stopped until we had our first & only child. After that everything changed. My wife's body never returned to the slim version that I liked & over the years I completely lost interest in having sex with her, which is now about 5 years.

Believe me, I feel horrible and sooo guilty about it. I know she's thinking that I can't get it up anymore but that's not it. I get it up quite often as a matter of fact so I either masturbate or see an escort or go the an MP.

I used to be a heavy hitter on HX. I got on that site before it was HX. I go back to its *********** days & before that on TER. I have pages & pages of reviews on TER & FWIW (and believe me I'm NOT proud of it) I'm still a high ranking member of HX. I used to monger a lot, again not proud of it. I used to monger easy 2-3 times a week if not more for a good period of 15-20 years. But since 2 years ago I've cut back drastically. I try not to monger more than once a month but going to an MP as y'all know is so easy. So in reality I'm probably mongering 2-3 times a month with combination of escorts (from HX & TEE) and MPs. I became a paid member of RM a year ago but as you know there are so many fake reviews on that site but I still find it a pretty good source, although I've never posted a review on that site.

I've tried to quit soooo many times that it's countless. The longest I was able to stay away was 6 months and that was 12 years ago when I was still having sex with my wife about once or twice a month. But the urge of mongering brought me back. I have to admit that after all these years I still get super excited when I make an appointment (incall or outcall) with an escort or when I'm walking into an MP. The "thrill" is definitely is there & maybe it's the thrill that feeds my addiction.

Again, Thank You PPMM for creating this thread & the rest of you gentlemen for sharing & reading about my story.

I'm so glad you were able to share this! I think your right. I lost interest after she had our kid (2 years ago) and her body never bounced back exactly but she's in really good shape. I think I'm just addicted to making a appt like you said. The thrill of getting access to providers like it's nothing makes it so hard not to check HX in the morning like it's the morning news 😂.

I was wondering since your a vet at mongering: do you think you will ever quit?

When I do have sex with the wife my mind is scrolling thru providers I've been with (like it's Netflix) and I'll pick a chick and imagine her. It's so bad I know.

At first I felt shameful about it but after everyone started sharing on this thread I just realized this is helping me from having an affair or stare at other women like a thirsty dog. I look at it as a way to satisfy my needs and in her eyes I am a good man that won't be hitting on her friends or other chicks. I guess it's just beneficial for both of us but only I know about it haha.

[LoveToCim]

What a fantastic thread PPMM! My compliments & gratitude to you & the rest of the gentlemen who have commented and make me finally come out of the closet on this Board. I've been a lurker of this site for a long time but I've never posted as this is my very first. I've been married and mongering for years; way too many to count. I started mongering back in the 80's before I got married. Then after I got married I completely stopped until we had our first & only child. After that everything changed. My wife's body never returned to the slim version that I liked & over the years I completely lost interest in having sex with her, which is now about 5 years.

Believe me, I feel horrible and sooo guilty about it. I know she's thinking that I can't get it up anymore but that's not it. I get it up quite often as a matter of fact so I either masturbate or see an escort or go the an MP.

I used to be a heavy hitter on HX. I got on that site before it was HX. I go back to its *********** days & before that on TER. I have pages & pages of reviews on TER & FWIW (and believe me I'm NOT proud of it) I'm still a high ranking member of HX. I used to monger a lot, again not proud of it. I used to monger easy 2-3 times a week if not more for a good period of 15-20 years. But since 2 years ago I've cut back drastically. I try not to monger more than once a month but going to an MP as y'all know is so easy. So in reality I'm probably mongering 2-3 times a month with combination of escorts (from HX & TEE) and MPs. I became a paid member of RM a year ago but as you know there are so many fake reviews on that site but I still find it a pretty good source, although I've never posted a review on that site.

I've tried to quit soooo many times that it's countless. The longest I was able to stay away was 6 months and that was 12 years ago when I was still having sex with my wife about once or twice a month. But the urge of mongering brought me back. I have to admit that after all these years I still get super excited when I make an appointment (incall or outcall) with an escort or when I'm walking into an MP. The "thrill" is definitely is there & maybe it's the thrill that feeds my addiction.

Again, Thank You PPMM for creating this thread & the rest of you gentlemen for sharing & reading about my story.

[PayPalMakesMon]

PayPalMakesMon, thank you for starting this thread. In my case, 25 years ago sex in marriage dropped down to not times per week, but years per time. Then 17 years ago it stopped completely. Two years later I started getting relief from the wonderful women who work in this profession.

Lift Her Up.

I guess mongering will never die. From what I've learned in this thread is that mongering keeps us men happier and if the wifey thinks we are happy then that's all that matters right?

[Lift Her Up]

PayPalMakesMon, thank you for starting this thread. In my case, 25 years ago sex in marriage dropped down to not times per week, but years per time. Then 17 years ago it stopped completely. Two years later I started getting relief from the wonderful women who work in this profession.

Lift Her Up.

[PayPalMakesMon]

Been married 15+ years. Sex with SO has not happened for about 5 years due to health issues. I still love her to death, but I have needs my hand can't fulfill. Been Mongering regularly for about five years. I go in spurts of seeing girls. At least once a month, sometimes weekly, depending on my libido. I'm pretty much BBFS, so I have a few girls I see regularly for this. Otherwise, it's CFS for sport fucking the hot girls. Usually, pay for videos so I can relive these experiences. The BBFS is for my own pleasure.

Thank you for sharing.

[HardRick]

Been married 15+ years. Sex with SO has not happened for about 5 years due to health issues. I still love her to death, but I have needs my hand can't fulfill. Been Mongering regularly for about five years. I go in spurts of seeing girls. At least once a month, sometimes weekly, depending on my libido. I'm pretty much BBFS, so I have a few girls I see regularly for this. Otherwise, it's CFS for sport fucking the hot girls. Usually, pay for videos so I can relive these experiences. The BBFS is for my own pleasure.

[PayPalMakesMon]

Also married here, 13 years in. Worst decision of my life was getting married. Sexless for the past 5 years. I am finally pulling the trigger and divorcing this good for nothing, no value adding, pain in the head biotch. Had I known about mongering, I would have rejected the thought of marriage. Big waste of my time, money, and sanity.

Sorry for the rant.

Already Started mongering into my 3rd year of marriage. Once this divorce is done and over with, never again. Will keep mongering till my last day on earth.

I'm glad your ranting because it makes me feel like I'm not alone. I really appreciate your story!

Before I got married I was mongering in Columbia, TJ, and all southwest Asia. All I do now is wish I was in the phillipines and mongering until I die.😂.

Mongering in the US is breaking an arm and a leg. The temptation is even worse that I live in OC, near all the coffee shops, streetwalkers, bikini bars and access to providers with a quick visit to HX 😂.

[PayPalMakesMon]

Another married monger here. I'm almost 20 years in and it's been sexless for 4+ years. Mongering has been my outlet.

No BBFS for me but BBBJ and CFS are definitely in my rotation. Sometimes just a HJ suffices. Just depends on my mood, amount of time I have free, and other factors. Having a separate PC with a VPN and browser that remembers nothing along with a prepaid burner phone has kept me out of suspicion since I started this about 4 years ago.

Stay safe out there!

I use Firefox focus to browse. One swipe up and everything is gone. I also use a TextNow number that I log into when I need to use HX but other then that it's been great to avoid hiccups. Thank you for sharing.

[NewStart101]

Another married monger here. I'm almost 20 years in and it's been sexless for 4+ years. Mongering has been my outlet.

No BBFS for me but BBBJ and CFS are definitely in my rotation. Sometimes just a HJ suffices. Just depends on my mood, amount of time I have free, and other factors. Having a separate PC with a VPN and browser that remembers nothing along with a prepaid burner phone has kept me out of suspicion since I started this about 4 years ago.

Stay safe out there!

Also married here, 13 years in. Worst decision of my life was getting married. Sexless for the past 5 years. I am finally pulling the trigger and divorcing this good for nothing, no value adding, pain in the head biotch. Had I known about mongering, I would have rejected the thought of marriage. Big waste of my time, money, and sanity.

Sorry for the rant.

Already Started mongering into my 3rd year of marriage. Once this divorce is done and over with, never again. Will keep mongering till my last day on earth.

[Ad949]

I'm married too but BBFS with pros is beyond my risk appetite LOL.

Especially how much the korean shops are pushing BBFS.

The korean girls claim "they got shots" for HIV now.

Another married monger here. I'm almost 20 years in and it's been sexless for 4+ years. Mongering has been my outlet.

No BBFS for me but BBBJ and CFS are definitely in my rotation. Sometimes just a HJ suffices. Just depends on my mood, amount of time I have free, and other factors. Having a separate PC with a VPN and browser that remembers nothing along with a prepaid burner phone has kept me out of suspicion since I started this about 4 years ago.

Stay safe out there!

[JasonVee]

I'm in a different boat for mongering. Married for almost 2 years but I've had sex maybe like 20 times? It's a long story.

But do you guys do BBFS? I prefer it and have done it and considering how infrequently I have sex with my wife, I can get tested in time but was just wondering what the rest of you do.

Thanks for this thread and for sharing.

I'm married too but BBFS with pros is beyond my risk appetite LOL.

Especially how much the korean shops are pushing BBFS.

The korean girls claim "they got shots" for HIV now.

[PayPalMakesMon]

I think part of the excitement has to do with the fact that the provider is a new person you have never seen before and your wife is the same person you've been with since marriage so boredom is partly to blame. It's the same with porn how you will get excited for new porn as opposed to porn you have already seen a couple times.

On a side note, I've been kind of dealing with similar issues to you where I've been seeing escorts on and off and losing interest in my wife. We recently rekindled our intimacy again by going through the 34 questions every couple should answer by Arthur Aronson. Not trying to be a marriage counselor or anything, but if you have any interest in being more intimate with your wife, maybe you should give it a try. You can do a quick Google search to pull up the questions.

I'll definitely check it out. Glad to feel I'm not alone.

[FarFarAway]

I'm in a different boat for mongering. Married for almost 2 years but I've had sex maybe like 20 times? It's a long story.

But do you guys do BBFS? I prefer it and have done it and considering how infrequently I have sex with my wife, I can get tested in time but was just wondering what the rest of you do.

Thanks for this thread and for sharing.

Long marriage, no sex w / the SO for me. I only ever do covered, but that is my choice, because I am in the health field and I trust no one w / incurable viral diseases. I also don't see mainline sex workers. I have had sugar relationships though, where we both were tested. Even w / a clean test (at some point in time) you can't be sure that you / she is clean today. My peace of mind demands I use a cover.