"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[Member #7176]

As long as there money involved they are escorts. As we all know all the girls on SA aren't the same. SBs come in all types from the newbie who only wants 1 SD too the pro who meetups up with 2-3 SDs a day. I think the main reason most of us are on SA is because we don't want the high miles pros that are strictly business. We want a GFE or in KevinCalormis / my case fresh 18-21 years old girls. Every body is looking for different experience so they'll end up with different types of SBs. If you want to treat them like ****** for 1 hr, that's your business. If you want to wine and dine them, and take your time before you FC that your business. As long as you enjoy your experience, and the SBs cool with it who cares what the next guy is doing. Just have fun, and enjoy our self's guys.

Nothing you said doesn't make them ******. I've had many 18 yo first timers that have shown up at my hotel still unsure of themselves. When we are done, they're ******. Not $20 streetwalkers or high end professional escorts, but still ******.

[Jcn1965]

Yes, in the end we're paying them for sex. That much I agree with. But there are all kinds of girls on SA and some of them are very different from a $20 streetwalker. It is not just a matter of style. A lot of them haven't thought this through and don't really know why they are on there. For some of them, I think the money is only an excuse to try something different and let their wild side out. I think some of the young ones really want to be submissive, but are conflicted about that after consuming a lifetime of feminist propaganda telling them they need to strong, assertive and in charge. Getting paid gives them an excuse to let go of that crap and submit, and some of them enjoy that a lot. I am happy to help them find happiness by tying them up, blindfolding them. Slapping them around and banging the s* out of them. Because I am such a giving person.

Everybody does have their own opinion but dude really? You think they just getting their wild side out and cash is secondary? They are in this for money. Tell you what stop giving it to them and see what happens. They could give a rats ass about wild side most could go to bar or anywhere for that matter and pickup somebody. Seems like they got you fooled. All of them are seeking sex for money so prostitute or escort or streetwalker or *****. Sugar baby is just another word for those. Be safe keep your head on straight.

[DWinthrop]

Yes, in the end we're paying them for sex. That much I agree with. But there are all kinds of girls on SA and some of them are very different from a $20 streetwalker. It is not just a matter of style. A lot of them haven't thought this through and don't really know why they are on there. For some of them, I think the money is only an excuse to try something different and let their wild side out. I think some of the young ones really want to be submissive, but are conflicted about that after consuming a lifetime of feminist propaganda telling them they need to strong, assertive and in charge. Getting paid gives them an excuse to let go of that crap and submit, and some of them enjoy that a lot. I am happy to help them find happiness by tying them up, blindfolding them. Slapping them around and banging the s* out of them. Because I am such a giving person.

Nothing you said doesn't make them ******. I've had many 18 yo first timers that have shown up at my hotel still unsure of themselves. When we are done, they're ******. Not $20 streetwalkers or high end professional escorts, but still ******.

[Ernest Ll]

I am happy to help them find happiness by tying them up, blindfolding them. Slapping them around and banging the s* out of them. Because I am such a giving person.

Bless you, my child. YOu are doing the Lord's work and should be sainted!

[DogBert77]

This is 100% correct. No matter how you dress it up in your mind, a "true sugar baby" is different from a $20 streetwalker in style and profit margin only.

Yes, in the end we're paying them for sex. That much I agree with. But there are all kinds of girls on SA and some of them are very different from a $20 streetwalker. It is not just a matter of style. A lot of them haven't thought this through and don't really know why they are on there. For some of them, I think the money is only an excuse to try something different and let their wild side out. I think some of the young ones really want to be submissive, but are conflicted about that after consuming a lifetime of feminist propaganda telling them they need to strong, assertive and in charge. Getting paid gives them an excuse to let go of that crap and submit, and some of them enjoy that a lot. I am happy to help them find happiness by tying them up, blindfolding them. Slapping them around and banging the s* out of them. Because I am such a giving person.

[Tidad]

Some of you just like to jump through extra hoops.

But at the end of the day we're paying them for sex.

This is 100% correct. No matter how you dress it up in your mind, a "true sugar baby" is different from a $20 streetwalker in style and profit margin only.

[Passport4]

I have been a member of SA for several years. I mostly am not a member, but will periodically buy a membership when there is a sale. Recently, I noticed that most of my old messages have disappeared. I understand that as they disappear when a certain period of time has lapsed. But also, my favorites have almost all disappeared except for some more recent ones. I was never aware of this, and since some of the favorites go back a few years, if a time period made them disappear, this should have happened long before now. Is anyone aware of this, and has this also happened to you. Or was I just nicely chosen by SA since I only have a membership infrequently? This is very frustrating as now even if I rejoin, I would have to try and find these ladies that I remember by picture, but not name or actual location.

[RogerOver]

This is excellent advice.

Remember, there are many varieties of girls on SA. Some true SB's and some escorts just using it to advertise. YOU have to know what you're looking for, and what it takes to succeed.

With a true SB (often a student or young professional looking for some help with rent etc. And looking to do something edgy), you have to have an approach that works for them. VS with an escort where all you need is funds and to show up.

I never use SA to hook up with escort types. The true SB types I described above. You need some patience for and probably need to meet them for a platonic date first. Not right to a hotel room, their place, or yours. I insist on that; it clears the path of the escorts. But the investment can pay off as you can get a young student that you'd NEVER get otherwise.

We have to agree to disagree on the escorts thing. While I have no problem allowing them to maintain the fantasy that they aren't hookers, I never forget that the relationship is transactional and not a natural occurrence associated with traditional courtship. I believe it's dangerous to lose sight of that fact.

Anyway, the best SB I ever had was when we kept chatting for a few days via text and decided to meet at her place. That lasted about a year, and it was some phenomenal pussy. After that, I moved away, but my point is, you don't always have to take the low-volume ones to dinner first.

[DWinthrop]

Some of you just like to jump through extra hoops.

But at the end of the day we're paying them for sex.

[Bran001]

If a girl has a menu, or a time (hour, QV, whatever), she's not a SB, she's an escort, perhaps UTR, and you can just treat her like that. If she's a real SB, there can be delicate ways to do this. I make statements myself, for example, "nothing I'm into would shock you, though nothing you'd ask for would shock me, because I sowed wild oats when I was your age. " Often they'll come back w / something definitive. The most common is 'nothing w / my butt / rear'. Well that is clear enough. I try not to get into too much detail or promise too much, that is the by-word of a true vet of this sport, HollywoodGuy.

This is excellent advice.

Remember, there are many varieties of girls on SA. Some true SB's and some escorts just using it to advertise. YOU have to know what you're looking for, and what it takes to succeed.

With a true SB (often a student or young professional looking for some help with rent etc. And looking to do something edgy), you have to have an approach that works for them. VS with an escort where all you need is funds and to show up.

I never use SA to hook up with escort types. The true SB types I described above. You need some patience for and probably need to meet them for a platonic date first. Not right to a hotel room, their place, or yours. I insist on that; it clears the path of the escorts. But the investment can pay off as you can get a young student that you'd NEVER get otherwise.

[Ernest Ll]

Thanks guys, appreciate the replies!

Love the metaphor Ernest, that's great!!

The minute a POT says "yes, sir!" I always reply with "Sir? Are you Southern, a military brat, very polite or submissive? (please say #4, please say #4)".

If even if they don't pick 4, it opens the door to more adult topics and always gets a laugh.

[Btt123]

Thanks guys, appreciate the replies!

Love the metaphor Ernest, that's great!!

[Truth777]

How do you ask what's on the menu without asking what's on the menu?

For sugar babies I would ask what they are looking for out of the relationship. You then can tell what you're looking for without being too explicit but enough to get the message across. If it's a go, You then could set up a date to get a feel for her and talk a bit more clearly about what you are looking for, set boundaries, rules and what not and move from there.

[Jcn1965]

How do you ask what's on the menu without asking what's on the menu?

Are you talking during initial text or call? If so it's tough because you don't want to get to explicit. Honestly I never ask over text of call. I don't talk about anything but when, where and how long. You look at their ad or hope somebody reviewed them but it's always YMMV. It's a crapshoot sometimes but with proper research and patience you can get exactly what your looking for. Again try not to incriminate yourself thru texts. Keep it short and non sexual. Just a meeting of companionship. Be safe.

[BlueDrive]

She is real -- but becoming UN-reliable -- she was always bad communicator and last minute only.

Also did the same thing to another friend. Then claimed her BF had tracked her and she had to dash -- with other evidence we believed her -- now I am not so sure and seeing a pattern.

Cannot post it here. But have a real FB page.

She's apparently staying in low rent motels up and down the 95 corridor, some heavily monitored by Uncle. She's a mess, will blow up your # between the hours of 1 am-4 am claiming she's at "work". Hot mess at this point I blocked the # finally.