Seeking Arrangements

[NHughty]

I've had a bunch of girls say they would like to meet, but want to meet at Encore. I've always declined because it seems like it might be some kind of scam or they hope when we get there and I'll just give them chips to play with and they can disappear. After I decline, they go silent. Anybody ever meet a girl at a casino. How did it go?

I always get the feeling I'm being set-up as an ATM for them if they are looking for a shopping trip or gambling spree for the first meet. I'd have no problem with either one later on, as long as I have established some level of comfort with them.

First meets for me are always a quiet low volume restaurant. I don't want a lot of distractions when I'm there to try and get to know someone for the first time. If they're not interested in having a semi intelligent conversation I figure they are a pro or semi-pro. If they happen to be super hot and willing I'll go for it, but it will probably be a one and done for me.

[ManDownUnder]

I've had a bunch of girls say they would like to meet, but want to meet at Encore. I've always declined because it seems like it might be some kind of scam or they hope when we get there and I'll just give them chips to play with and they can disappear. After I decline, they go silent. Anybody ever meet a girl at a casino. How did it go?

[Oscar13]

Of all of the messages I sent, none of them read it nor have logged in recently.

I'm not sure how you have your filters set up, but from your description it sounds like you are messaging girls who haven't been active recently. My suggestion is to filter them as "last active" and only message girls who have been on in the last 2 days. Many will give up and not delete the profile, or have success and not delete the profile. And yes I would imagine due to the sheer volume of messages most have their notifications turned off. I take it even farther and favorite the ones I like but only message them when they are online so I at least have the chance to be near the top of the list. I would say I end up with responses from about 50% of my messages. Of those maybe 50% last for more than 3-4 messages. And of those maybe 25% end up off the site messaging and many of them turn into some type of arrangement.

I currently have 2 (21 and 26) that I see regularly or semi regularly. I intersperse those with the occasional one-off. Had a one off this past Monday, Bunny_Lemon, who was 4 bills, came to me driving an hour, stayed for 3-4 hours, MSG, BBBJ, bbfscip, light bdsm. The 400 was supposed to be an overnight but I decided against it. Seemed like there was the possibility of her being a user and at the very least a semi pro, just from some of her comments. Still had great sex, nice conversation, and a good dinner. I would repeat but not on a regular basis. No link b / c I delete them once I have them.

[NastySD]

I am planning to meet her tomorrow. Anyone seen her before?

https://www.seeking.com/member/8f56f...2-983dcfc6fc35

[Mattis1775]

For ever flake, GSP, and time wasting female we encounter on SA, these girls get 10 X that from the lonely basement trolls. I had the very unfortunate opportunity to see the messages of a girl I meet on the site. All I can say is there's a ton a F'and freaks out there!! The stuff some of these idiots send on first contact even gave me the creeps. Most if not all of them have zero intention of ever meeting or entering into any kind of arrangement with these girls, but if you are new on the site, and that's your first impression, I can understand why they give up so quickly. I'm as respectful as possible with what I say I'm looking for, what I write in my messages, and how I treat them, but you can tell by their tone sometimes that they are sick of the BS and very skeptical of everyone no matter how honest and respectful you try to be.

Shame. I bet a lot of great gals get scared off early.

I know what you're saying. I don't write a story. But, I write at least 2-3 sentences just to make the initial contact in a friendly and professional way. I've posted in CL and DL in the past and yes, I've gotten messages from guys, who write the most nastiest one liners I've ever seen. Anywhere from "hey, let's fuck". Or, "my dick is ready to pop inside you. " So, yes, I can imagine what these women get and it is unfortunate for most of us, who do take the time to write a thoughtful message, to get ignored or even deleted without reading.

[Mattis1775]

How you communicate with them is the KEY. And yes, many give up after a few days.

Of all of the messages I sent, none of them read it nor have logged in recently. This tells me that they don't get notifications via email because they probably get 50+ messages a day, they check it weekly for the same reason or they can't check it because of they have no membership. Either way, I tried it and don't like it. Glad it works for some one you though.

[NHughty]

This is a huge part of it. Communicating with an escort, well, it's easy. Communicating with a 20-something college or grad student on SA, who may or may not have done this before, is entirely different. Men get it wrong all the time. It's a fun discussion I often have at a first coffee date. The girl I met earlier this week is still pretty new to SA but she was laughing about it. That was a good sign; many of the girls get totally disgusted and delete the profile after a few days of it.

Even men who THINK they know what these girls want to hear get it entirely wrong.

For ever flake, GSP, and time wasting female we encounter on SA, these girls get 10 X that from the lonely basement trolls. I had the very unfortunate opportunity to see the messages of a girl I meet on the site. All I can say is there's a ton a F'and freaks out there!! The stuff some of these idiots send on first contact even gave me the creeps. Most if not all of them have zero intention of ever meeting or entering into any kind of arrangement with these girls, but if you are new on the site, and that's your first impression, I can understand why they give up so quickly. I'm as respectful as possible with what I say I'm looking for, what I write in my messages, and how I treat them, but you can tell by their tone sometimes that they are sick of the BS and very skeptical of everyone no matter how honest and respectful you try to be.

Shame. I bet a lot of great gals get scared off early.

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[Spill]

This is a huge part of it. Communicating with an escort, well, it's easy. Communicating with a 20-something college or grad student on SA, who may or may not have done this before, is entirely different. Men get it wrong all the time. It's a fun discussion I often have at a first coffee date. The girl I met earlier this week is still pretty new to SA but she was laughing about it. That was a good sign; many of the girls get totally disgusted and delete the profile after a few days of it.

Even men who THINK they know what these girls want to hear get it entirely wrong.

How you communicate with them is the KEY. And yes, many give up after a few days.

[Spill]

Good note, definitely try it for 30-days and see where it goes. Learned from Adult Friend Finder and other sites, where I paid for a month and didn't get anything. I'll report back.

I suggest that before you pluck down a membership fee you create a profile and lurk for a while. Learn the interface, mark some favorites and hide the NFWs. Once you feel you have the lay of the land and are ready to approach some ladies, buy the membership.

[Mattis1775]

I've written to all the girls that is within my range, under 25-miles and none of them wrote back, logged in or even viewed my profile. Yeah, reminds me a lot like Adult Friend Finder. I only found one person there out of 150 messages.

I tried clicking on the links that some of you posted in this forum and it returns back with Not Available, Blocked or I Blocked them. Eh, I gave it a shot, already cancelled the renewal. But, I'll screw around with it until it expires.

[PinayLuver]

She has been on the site for years under numerous accounts; I think she even advertised on BP at some point using those pics LOL. I've never jump in, and based off the reviews, I am glad I didn't.

Also, as a pro-tip to you SA mongers: when you encounter annoying members like this, just block them. Don't engage or respond in case they report your profile because SA will ban people for the oddest reasons and you'll have no recourse to get your money back.

Yeah she definitely has a screw loose! She want's an SD. Will give it up but wants drinks,420 , $$$ , and for you to get the room. I made the mistake of taking her out for drinks, she drinks a lot she was trying to light up in my car, told her no so she got out and did the 420 outside of the car. She wanted 300 to fuck and for me to get the room. I said no! She just babbled on and on for about 2 hours. Dropped her off, see ya.

She goes on about her upbringing how she was molested and beat, blah, blah, blah. Head case for sure. Oh yeah she told me to watch Queen of the South on Netflix, If I really want to understand her. I don't, smh. BTW her pics are real.

[OkWhatever]

I treat SA like a regular dating site with an obvious twist. I'm looking for play to play, not a "traditional" arrangement. From my experience, its a numbers game. Again like a normal dating site.

And obviously do not talk game on the site or you run the risk of getting banned. I've been banned numerous times including recently. If you do, just sign up again with a different email / user name and you'll back in.

Definitely happens a lot on SA. They either get cold feet, weren't really into you or the idea of arrangements all together, or they are just getting flooded with messages and offers and the "grass is always greener on the other side" mentality kicks in.

Others are just flat out time wasters who enjoy getting all the attention and have no plans of meeting up in the first place.

I find this happens more with people new to the site / new to arrangements in general.

If I do engage with someone new on the site and / or arrangements, I try to feel them out if they have done this before or are just checking it out. I'll move off site and try to lock in plans with 24 to 48 hours and then keep the convo flowing right up until we have plans to make them feel as comfortable as possible.

This helps weed out the game players and girls with cold feet.

Keep in mind too. They are getting blown off on their end just as much, if not more, so it's a cat and mouse chase.

[SwimSays]

My problem last time too was I'd work on something, the texting would go well. Then the broad would just ghost me. Happened more often than usual, which was vexxing.

Definitely happens a lot on SA. They either get cold feet, weren't really into you or the idea of arrangements all together, or they are just getting flooded with messages and offers and the "grass is always greener on the other side" mentality kicks in.

Others are just flat out time wasters who enjoy getting all the attention and have no plans of meeting up in the first place.

I find this happens more with people new to the site / new to arrangements in general.

If I do engage with someone new on the site and / or arrangements, I try to feel them out if they have done this before or are just checking it out. I'll move off site and try to lock in plans with 24 to 48 hours and then keep the convo flowing right up until we have plans to make them feel as comfortable as possible.

This helps weed out the game players and girls with cold feet.

Keep in mind too. They are getting blown off on their end just as much, if not more, so it's a cat and mouse chase.