Seeking Arrangements

**Bran001** · 02-06-21 13:03

Originally Posted by SolitaryMan603 [View Original Post]

Thought I would share what has worked and hasn't worked as far as the first message for me. I've been most successful getting a response when I send a first message stating what I'm looking for: discrete, mutually beneficial, let's chat if that is interesting etc. The next most successful has been f they have something in their profile I can tailor into a first message as either a shared interest or a follow up question but I find most don't put enough in their profile to come up with much.

I've abandoned these because of the low response rate: Giving a compliment. A generic hi, how was you week, or something similar. Asking for more details on what they are looking for or their interests.

Favoriting and sending a message seems to bring the best response rate.

Curious to hear approaches that work and don't work for others.

Yes something pretty specific without being blunt is good. Something showing you read the profile is good. I never "favorite" I just don't use that feature.

A polite follow up after a day or two works too. Some women don't respond because they are flooded with messages; others are just terrible at communication.

**Bran001** · 02-06-21 13:01

Originally Posted by Spill [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/d3597...1-32a9b2df8d39

The ex mattress actress. I apologize is she was discussed already (her profile is pretty new 2/2/2021).

There's been some discussion here. Scroll down a few days worth.

**Spill** · 02-06-21 12:13

https://www.seeking.com/member/d3597...1-32a9b2df8d39

The ex mattress actress. I apologize is she was discussed already (her profile is pretty new 2/2/2021).

**Joe1223** · 02-06-21 10:54

Originally Posted by Dano7 [View Original Post]

Do any of you use Secret Benefits? Signed up and bought 100 credits, but no luck so far. Was attracted to the one off pricing and there are some great profiles, but not sure this is legit and / or is super hard to get anything real going.

I have had success with all of the sites however SA is the leader just because of the selection. I think the overall consensus here has been the same, as it has been asked about a fair amount. Good to experiment and see how it goes but I feel there may be more bots on SB, if that is such a thing, because many seemed to never reply.

**Dano7** · 02-06-21 10:34

Do any of you use Secret Benefits? Signed up and bought 100 credits, but no luck so far. Was attracted to the one off pricing and there are some great profiles, but not sure this is legit and / or is super hard to get anything real going.

**SolitaryMan603** · 02-05-21 16:57

Thought I would share what has worked and hasn't worked as far as the first message for me. I've been most successful getting a response when I send a first message stating what I'm looking for: discrete, mutually beneficial, let's chat if that is interesting etc. The next most successful has been f they have something in their profile I can tailor into a first message as either a shared interest or a follow up question but I find most don't put enough in their profile to come up with much.

I've abandoned these because of the low response rate: Giving a compliment. A generic hi, how was you week, or something similar. Asking for more details on what they are looking for or their interests.

Favoriting and sending a message seems to bring the best response rate.

Curious to hear approaches that work and don't work for others.

**SolitaryMan603** · 02-05-21 16:33

Originally Posted by Spill [View Original Post]

For me, this is a non-issue and not a red flag. Caution, sure. But EVERYTHING in an SB's profile should be read with caution. For privacy reasons, people do not always put down the town they live in. From experience:

1. I've met legit SB's from Massachusetts, Massachusetts.

2. I've had at least 2 SB's use a different town than their actual town in their profile. They were great.

3. Many who use Boston as their city are really not from Boston, but that does not mean they aren't legit.

There is no set guideline, so don't throw the babe out with the bathwater.

Almost all that I have met up with or in the process of setting something up with have put a town near where they live but not where they actually live. Hell I put the next town over in my profile. I had one with Massachusetts, Massachusetts and when I asked where she was from she didn't know why it said that and wasn't aware it did.

**Spill** · 02-05-21 15:44

Originally Posted by MajorVX [View Original Post]

They both want cashapp and claim they'll come meet you. One of them barely spoke English through text so I'm guess that one is from out of the country. Neither could provide a selfie. One other tip, if a girl doesn't want to see your pic or care what you look like, it's a scam. Don't send money through cashapp and this will go away.

- "Don't send money through cashapp and this will go away". YES, do not send money through cashapp. This should be a no-brainer. But I doubt this will make it go away.

- "if a girl doesn't want to see your pic or care what you look like, it's a scam". MAYBE. But I've had 2 experiences that did not require a photo and were legit.

**Spill** · 02-05-21 15:37

Originally Posted by Spike77 [View Original Post]

Not providing a city is another dead giveaway that the profile is potentially fake as the case in your example. Any profile that lists Massachusetts, Massachusetts as opposed to say Boston, Massachusetts should be a red flag.

For me, this is a non-issue and not a red flag. Caution, sure. But EVERYTHING in an SB's profile should be read with caution. For privacy reasons, people do not always put down the town they live in. From experience:

1. I've met legit SB's from Massachusetts, Massachusetts.

2. I've had at least 2 SB's use a different town than their actual town in their profile. They were great.

3. Many who use Boston as their city are really not from Boston, but that does not mean they aren't legit.

There is no set guideline, so don't throw the babe out with the bathwater.

**Spike77** · 02-05-21 13:57

Originally Posted by MajorVX [View Original Post]

They both want cashapp and claim they'll come meet you. One of them barely spoke English through text so I'm guess that one is from out of the country. Neither could provide a selfie. One other tip, if a girl doesn't want to see your pic or care what you look like, it's a scam. Don't send money through cashapp and this will go away.

Not providing a city is another dead giveaway that the profile is potentially fake as the case in your example. Any profile that lists Massachusetts, Massachusetts as opposed to say Boston, Massachusetts should be a red flag.

**HounDog3** · 02-05-21 11:43

Originally Posted by Mattis1775 [View Original Post]

I checked some girls on SA (free account) and didn't really see much within 25-miles. Not enough to catch my attention. Not sure if a paid account will show more.

When I have enough to keep me busy, I let my premium account lapse for a few months and revert to free, then return to a paid account when it's time to start prospecting again. I never observed any difference in search results between premium and free. Don't expect to see more girls by paying for a month. Check your search parameters, they may be to tight. Also your city. Many girls list their city as Boston but could be located anywhere from south shore to north shore or in between. They do this to increase their prospective pool of guys, not as part of a scam. Try expanding your area to 50 miles.

**MajorVX** · 02-05-21 10:40

They both want cashapp and claim they'll come meet you. One of them barely spoke English through text so I'm guess that one is from out of the country. Neither could provide a selfie. One other tip, if a girl doesn't want to see your pic or care what you look like, it's a scam. Don't send money through cashapp and this will go away.

**Bran001** · 02-04-21 21:30

Originally Posted by PaulRew [View Original Post]

Gentlemen, there are some great posters on this thread and it is obvious who they are. If you are new and thinking of doing a VIP membership review their posts and reach out.

I'm always happy to help those who are new to SA or having trouble making connections there.

**PaulRew** · 02-04-21 21:26

Gentlemen, there are some great posters on this thread and it is obvious who they are. If you are new and thinking of doing a VIP membership review their posts and reach out.

**Bran001** · 02-04-21 20:49

Originally Posted by WCFields62 [View Original Post]

Wow, I've never been banned. And only recently, upon discovering this site, stop using the term PPM. Maybe because I'm a longstanding customer?

I'm a long-time customer and got banned this past summer. I am very careful on there. I wrote to customer service and they reinstated me once I promised to never do again what they would not tell me I did LOL. Really.