Arrangement Reports

**dbones** · 10-31-20 01:15

I think SA is great. I've used it off an on for years and had some really good long term hookups. I've also met girls that I just did not feel it with or connect and it was a one off. But over the years, I would say about 3/4 of the ones I met we ended up having BBFS. But I feel like the reason was that I never asked in advance, treated them with respect, did not even talk about anything sexual and set it up more as a "date" and a lets have some wine, get to know each other, see if chemistry is there, etc. And then once we hung out we ended up just banging with no condoms. So of course I do not know if these girls always do this or sometimes or if they felt comfortable, but it seems like nowadays I am getting a ton of responses up front telling me that condoms are required and I think this is in response to why'all asking them off the bat if they will do BBFS. I feel like if you ask and they never met you they are almost always going to say No! So don't ask! Just go with the flow and you will likely get it. If you do not, and she won't next time, then cut your losses and move on if that is important to you. Just my two cents but it seems like in the last two months this is being asked by every girl I want to set up a date with. But I love the site, I have currently been seeing a really hot 26 year old that is fun as hell (I am 42 but look young) where we meet once a week, have sex immediately, then eat and drink (either going out or in), usually have some party favors, and then bang again at night. Then again in the morning. All CIP. Feels like a gf but I know she is putting out several times and I do not have deal with her the other six days a week. LOL. Usually give her 5 per visit. If she was an escort she would get 5 per hour and it would be covered. She's a gem. I will share when I stop seeing her. She is not on the site anymore so not sure if I am her only SD or she found others for long term as well (likely the latter but she does work too so who knows and she is always available when I ask).

**StanKost** · 10-31-20 00:42

Originally Posted by FafaFooey [View Original Post]

It can be terrifying to feel like your identity has been found out on SA or in the hobby in general, but in this case it feels very low risk unless the girl is just purely malicious or really stupid. The blackmailer in a scenario like this has just as much if not more personal, career, and legal risk as the target, so if she is building a career, etc it makes no sense for her to even consider this. And unless you somehow brought your superior position at work up to try to push an arrangement, there's really no ammunition to bring it up to your employer. And this could have even worked out to your advantage

. In the old days if I'd run into a cute ex-intern at a bar and she said hi, who knows where the night could have led.

Thank you all guys for the solid advice I tried to keep myself busy at work and get my mind off it. We were in good terms strictly professionally and she enjoyed working together but obviously I never made any moves. She doesn't have any incentive to be vindictive so may be I overreacted in the blackmailing part although I'm embarrassed if it was her and had recognized me cause I am supposedly respected and educated guy who bangs SB for money 😳 I regret that I panicked and blocked her without reading her profile carefully to check if it was even her but the profile was of a short and cute Asian girl with a characteristic mole on the her eyebrow just next to the bridge of the nose and that mole looked exactly like hers. Also when I was working with her she struck me as a girl who may be in the SA lifestyle nothing more of a vibe or as the cliche goes it takes one to know one. I remember when they cut her position off she had just signed a rental agreement for 1000 $ or more and I thought I wouldn't be surprised if she gets into SA but obviously never said a word. I will lay low and blur all my public pics and change my handle.

**Kellster** · 10-31-20 00:08

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

I'm pretty sure blackmail is a crime, so if she threatens you, especially in a text or email you could respond, "Go ahead. I hope you have a good lawyer. "

I would put any pics you have on private if you haven't already. Definitely black out your face. You could always delete your profile or change your profile name. And if worse comes to worse you could just laugh it off and say your friend played a joke on you and created a profile or your computer got hacked or something. I mean what exactly have you done? You have a profile on a site. She has a profile on there too. It's also not like the first time women employees have slept with a boss for a promotion or a raise to move up the ladder. I'm sure that stuff happens a lot- especially in Hollywood.

**Jayp80** · 10-30-20 20:34

Originally Posted by dbones [View Original Post]

I would for sure freak out too, but to say anything about you she would have say she was on the site and that's also not a good look for her. If I were you, I would just keep the profile and own up to it. Try laughing about it. Offer her some hush money or even see her and then she would not likely say anything. I don't know, I feel like deleting and running is just going to make yourself go crazy worrying about if this is going to come up at work. What do others think? I admit I am a little relaxed on the site figuring they are on there too, but also I do not have pictures of my face, I only share my private photos once I know that I do not know the girl and I am interested.

Meant to respond earlier, of the girls on SA who are scammers most are just trying some pic / video scam or some prepay scam. The chances of any girl on SA doing some long drawn out blackmail is extremely low, especially if you're never talked to her online. Unless you work with kids or are connected to some church or religious institution absolutely no one cares. I can't emphasize how little people care. A best case scenario for a scammer would be going to you first and then saying if you don't pay up I'll go to your wife. The only way she goes directly to your employer or wife is if you were a complete ass to her at work and she only wants to hurt you and doesn't care about getting anything in return.

**HanginBalls** · 10-30-20 15:55

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

Tell him you're a monger! You may get the promotion you seek!

**Lookin4it** · 10-30-20 14:10

Originally Posted by SummerCheer [View Original Post]

So idk if she blocked me or something like that. I would of definitely hit her up. She looked cute. If anyone what's to introduce me to her you know were to find me LOL.

Thanks!

I guess that is what she does. I didn't even get a chance to talk to her. I sent a message, shared my pics, and without comment, she blocked me! Lololol I guess, in a way, that WAS a comment on me!

**Pupsnu** · 10-30-20 14:08

She went to text right away, clearly DTF. 350 and 450 with anal. Appears to be fine w / o condoms, which is a hard no for me.

Originally Posted by MnCuckold [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/e42a4...5-52f9d41919cc

**Pau Ford** · 10-30-20 13:16

Image search is your friend.

Pics come back as a known IG / TikTok star going by the names fympeyton on IG and itspeytonbabyy on TikTok.

Apparently this person is a minor as well. https://heightzone.com/itspeytonbabyy/.

Originally Posted by MnCuckold [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/e42a4...5-52f9d41919cc

**MnCuckold** · 10-30-20 12:19

https://www.seeking.com/member/e42a4...5-52f9d41919cc

**Chicago41** · 10-30-20 10:58

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

I doubt you have anything to worry about. What's she going to do, tell them she saw you on a prostitution site and out herself in the process? I doubt she cares one way or the other you're on there. It's probably fine.

**MikeIsHome** · 10-30-20 10:55

Agreed. I think if using real clear pics it's inevitable someone is going to recognise you. Looking for dates isn't a career killer; it could certainly be a relationship ended. Not as if you got involved with an intern; that could be trouble. If someone is going to freak at being recognised you've got to be selective with pics.

**FafaFooey** · 10-30-20 10:14

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

It can be terrifying to feel like your identity has been found out on SA or in the hobby in general, but in this case it feels very low risk unless the girl is just purely malicious or really stupid. The blackmailer in a scenario like this has just as much if not more personal, career, and legal risk as the target, so if she is building a career, etc it makes no sense for her to even consider this. And unless you somehow brought your superior position at work up to try to push an arrangement, there's really no ammunition to bring it up to your employer. And this could have even worked out to your advantage

. In the old days if I'd run into a cute ex-intern at a bar and she said hi, who knows where the night could have led.

**Lookin4it** · 10-30-20 09:38

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

I will second, third, and fourth what others on here have said. IF she intends on blackmailing you (which I feel is highly unlikely) she will come to you first to do so. Blackmail doesn't work if she has already told your employer. And back to "which I find highly unlikely," if she DID recognize you, she has just as much to lose by outing herself and really she has very little to gain. I can understand your freaking, as that is exactly what I would be doing. So, listen to the sympathetic friends you have on this board who can empathize: Take a few days, relax, let it go. Chances are high that it is nothing.

Finally, even YOU are not sure it is HER. Do you think, again IF she recognized you, she would have the exact same doubts?

**Dodge55** · 10-30-20 06:26

Originally Posted by WhiteSoxTom [View Original Post]

Whoa, slow down and take a breath. Your mind is running wild with the absolute worst case scenarios, which based on what you have written most likely will never happen. I know when I'm upset, it can be hard to think rationally when so many negative scenarios are running through my head.

Here are some things to consider.

It may not be her. If it was her, she may not have recognized you. If it was her and she did recognize you she may fear the same thing you do. Don't assume she is a horrible person out to blackmail people. She may have literally looked at your profile for 10 seconds, moved on to the next one never again giving yours a second thought.

I know it sucks that there is no way to know for sure if she recognized you. Try to let it go, there is nothing to do accept move forward and hope for the best.

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

Worst case scenario; she did recognize you and decided to blackmail you to tell your employer. OK, tell your employer what? That you crossed paths on a "dating site" where women sell their bodies for money? So that makes her a what? She is an intern, looking to advance her career; seems to me she's at just as much risk for you to blackmail her. I agree with Whitesox, this is probably not going to go anywhere so just lay low. Also, I don't put my pictures on the site for this very reason. Good luck and chill!

**WhiteSoxTom** · 10-30-20 06:14

Originally Posted by StanKost [View Original Post]

Guys I fckd up and I'm freaking out. I saw my profile was looked up by a cute Asian chic and it was under the viewed me tab. I looked at her pics and she looked cute so I messaged her saying hi however few hours later I looked at her pics closer and I'm almost sure she worked at my job few months ago. She was very sweet and had a wild side and she was the lowest in the totem poll like a temp intern and I'm as high as it goes short of the owners and big administrators. If it was her she had definitely recognized me cause we worked closely many times. As soon as I realized it may be her I blocked her but obviously I'm freaking out she may tell others that we both know about this part of my life. She doesn't work at my job for few months now. Can she still view my profile if I had blocked her if she creates a new profile I disabled my account so I can lay low and I wonder if I create a new account in 1-2 mo again can she stumble on the new profile again and obviously worry if she had snapped few pics of my profile and start blackmailing me to tell my employer

Whoa, slow down and take a breath. Your mind is running wild with the absolute worst case scenarios, which based on what you have written most likely will never happen. I know when I'm upset, it can be hard to think rationally when so many negative scenarios are running through my head.

Here are some things to consider.

It may not be her. If it was her, she may not have recognized you. If it was her and she did recognize you she may fear the same thing you do. Don't assume she is a horrible person out to blackmail people. She may have literally looked at your profile for 10 seconds, moved on to the next one never again giving yours a second thought.

I know it sucks that there is no way to know for sure if she recognized you. Try to let it go, there is nothing to do accept move forward and hope for the best.