Non Pro's

[Marko Ramius]

... Is there something that people should know?

I can't say one or the other is better. I have met girls off of Secret Benefits so at least some of their profiles are real.

There are a lot fewer of the weird rules on Secret Benefits and so you are somewhat more free to pursue whatever kind of deal you'd like. While I suspect messages are still monitored they aren't as aggressively monitored as SA.

[Michael1967]

So after reading this forum I decided to spring for a premium membership on SA. It's been interesting. Lot of South American girls reaching out. I ask to see private photos but otherwise don't waste my time as I only want local.

What do those of you with SA experience think about this situation? She says she's a student at a local university and working part time. We moved off of SA and onto text message for "getting to know you" discussion, and after making it clear the specific activities I'm expecting to do during meetings when we physically get together we agreed to set up a meeting to test the waters. So, while I'm pleased with where we're at in terms of expectations, the things we'd do physically, there are a number of things that I'm chewing on.

1. She is pretty, her photos are. 7/10. She favorited me, not the other way around. My account is new. I'm not a catch. Other than my salary and net worth. Like the old Groucho Marx joke, "I don't want to be a member of any club that would have me".

2. During our chatting she would often refer to me as "babe. " What college aged woman calls people "babe"? Odd.

3. Her messages were always cheerful. Not too weird I suppose, but there's also lots of "I"m down with that" or "Yes no problems with that" or "Whatever / however you like it" when talking about activities and never any push back or clarifications (pretty much "regular" things, no anal, no BDSM, no fetish, etc but I did specify lots of oral). I explained that given my schedule there will be a lot of same day short notice situations where she will need to be ready to meet. Also when discussing allowances she never said how much. It was "whatever you feel comfortable with" or "I'll rely on your experience for how much" etc. So when I would say a $ amount there was never any push back. How does someone who is agreeing to meeting on the regular to pleasure me not have an expectation for a specific $ ballpark in terms of allowances? She pretty much rubber-stamp agreed to everything.

4. After we agreed to meet to test the waters, she came back with "are you available to meet (tomorrow) or (another day)?" which is weird because we just spent the previous 30 minutes talking about how I don't have schedule flexibility and won't be available until this weekend. Her question was like she wasn't even in the previous conversation. Very strange.

5. Very soon after changed the subject with a proposal to sell me pics / vids, etc for a donation. While I'm ok with offers to sell pics / vids I'd never pay given how much free is available out there. Anyway what was so odd was she went there after we agreed that we're going to meet soon. I told here that if she sent I'd add it to the reward for our first date. She asked me to pay for a bill that was due. I declined, explained that she was free to send may whatever she wanted but no allowances of any kind would happen until after we had our first date to test the waters, which she understood and was ok with. I wouldn't call this a red flag but rather simply awkward.

Anyway, when I add it all up I'm 60/40 on this in terms of believing that it is really her instead of some fat greasy dude in an RV park. At this point I'm wonder whether it's LEO running a honey pot sting, but why would they bother on SA? What do you think?

Oh, so much to say and so little time. I'll keep this one simple. Move on, probably is a guy.

A quick rule. If a woman contacts you first, check to see if she viewed your profile. If not, she's basically contacting everyone. If a woman favorites you, check to see if she viewed your profile. If not, she's favoriting anyone.

I do not respond to messages that just say "hey". I do not respond to messages that don't have at least two sentences in it and says something about my profile. Like any type of dating service, you will need to be the aggressor. If you sit back and wait for people to contact you, you will only get scammers.

[Maui Glory]

Another question: can anyone who has experience share which website is better, Seeking.com which gets a lot of discussion in this forum, or Secret Benefits which is the pop-up ad that comes up on usasexguide. Nl?

It seems while seeking.com gets a lot of airtime here the legitimacy of the listings is in question. It seems SecretBenefits.com displays a decent volume of search results when you choose the "verified" filter. If I'm correct, then why are you using seeking.com and not SecretBenefits? Is there something that people should know?

[ByTemexo]

Hi. I am wondering if anyone has experience with https://www.seeking.com/member/29ba7...5-7f97b2577c58.

Thanks.

[Maui Glory]

So after reading this forum I decided to spring for a premium membership on SA. It's been interesting. Lot of South American girls reaching out. I ask to see private photos but otherwise don't waste my time as I only want local.

What do those of you with SA experience think about this situation? She says she's a student at a local university and working part time. We moved off of SA and onto text message for "getting to know you" discussion, and after making it clear the specific activities I'm expecting to do during meetings when we physically get together we agreed to set up a meeting to test the waters. So, while I'm pleased with where we're at in terms of expectations, the things we'd do physically, there are a number of things that I'm chewing on.

1. She is pretty, her photos are. 7/10. She favorited me, not the other way around. My account is new. I'm not a catch. Other than my salary and net worth. Like the old Groucho Marx joke, "I don't want to be a member of any club that would have me".

2. During our chatting she would often refer to me as "babe. " What college aged woman calls people "babe"? Odd.

3. Her messages were always cheerful. Not too weird I suppose, but there's also lots of "I"m down with that" or "Yes no problems with that" or "Whatever / however you like it" when talking about activities and never any push back or clarifications (pretty much "regular" things, no anal, no BDSM, no fetish, etc but I did specify lots of oral). I explained that given my schedule there will be a lot of same day short notice situations where she will need to be ready to meet. Also when discussing allowances she never said how much. It was "whatever you feel comfortable with" or "I'll rely on your experience for how much" etc. So when I would say a $ amount there was never any push back. How does someone who is agreeing to meeting on the regular to pleasure me not have an expectation for a specific $ ballpark in terms of allowances? She pretty much rubber-stamp agreed to everything.

4. After we agreed to meet to test the waters, she came back with "are you available to meet (tomorrow) or (another day)?" which is weird because we just spent the previous 30 minutes talking about how I don't have schedule flexibility and won't be available until this weekend. Her question was like she wasn't even in the previous conversation. Very strange.

5. Very soon after changed the subject with a proposal to sell me pics / vids, etc for a donation. While I'm ok with offers to sell pics / vids I'd never pay given how much free is available out there. Anyway what was so odd was she went there after we agreed that we're going to meet soon. I told here that if she sent I'd add it to the reward for our first date. She asked me to pay for a bill that was due. I declined, explained that she was free to send may whatever she wanted but no allowances of any kind would happen until after we had our first date to test the waters, which she understood and was ok with. I wouldn't call this a red flag but rather simply awkward.

Anyway, when I add it all up I'm 60/40 on this in terms of believing that it is really her instead of some fat greasy dude in an RV park. At this point I'm wonder whether it's LEO running a honey pot sting, but why would they bother on SA? What do you think?

[Fillipino]

https://www.seeking.com/member/a75b2...a-10a92aa1bd52

Was on the site before, different profile. She will constantly ask for money, try and dox you, and constantly lie to you. Don't believe a word she says. She will meet and fuck you for cheap, all bare, just be sure if you do meet her that you are very careful what you say and what info you share.

I've a similar experience with her, she is constantly making excuses for being late or having to leave early. She also comes up with stories about why she'll need extra money.

[SeattleRr]

https://www.seeking.com/member/a75b2...a-10a92aa1bd52

Was on the site before, different profile. She will constantly ask for money, try and dox you, and constantly lie to you. Don't believe a word she says. She will meet and fuck you for cheap, all bare, just be sure if you do meet her that you are very careful what you say and what info you share.

I sent you a PM.

[TheNovelist]

Making sure the person your speaking with knows that they're not getting one cent out of you until after you meet and the relationship negotiated is the fastest way to get rid of a lot of scammers, pro SBs, and GPS'ers.

This can't be stated enough. I've seen so many scams on almost all platforms from "girls" demanding money to meet. These aren't the girl you think they are. They are typically guys, probably living thousands of miles from you with accents, in a shared workspace. They may actually be girls, but aren't likely to be the girl in the picture over which you're drooling because your little head has gotten the idea that it's going to feel something moist.

[Bronco62]

https://www.seeking.com/member/a75b2...a-10a92aa1bd52

Was on the site before, different profile. She will constantly ask for money, try and dox you, and constantly lie to you. Don't believe a word she says. She will meet and fuck you for cheap, all bare, just be sure if you do meet her that you are very careful what you say and what info you share.

[TheNovelist]

Any info on this cute minx?

https://www.seeking.com/member/b911c...e-f082fc6884b4

[TheNovelist]

Damn anybody seen this babe yet.

https://www.seeking.com/member/b5e4d...9-a39b2c045393

Lives in L. A. Now. Looks TGTBT.

[Daddy 420]

I can't log in at all from my main system. Chrome, FF, or Safari. I log in and it hangs both without VPN and with. Cache / cookies cleared, extensions disabled. All that.

I can log in from mobile and on Chrome in a virtual machine, however. Trying to track down the issue

Same issue here. I would contact support team right away. I didn't pay for a premium account to solve the issues myself.

[MyNickname]

She offered to bring her girlfriend and that the money was upfront. Asked if I could do a meeting only with her and she again said money upfront. I didn't go for it. Told her there are many scams on SA and I was not going to risk her taking money and running or taking money and nothing would happen.

We had made plans to meet up, multiple times she said she could host. When it was time for me to head out I messaged her, and she said she was in my neighborhood and that she needed me to get a room. I told her that at this point if she wanted to meet up, we'd have to meet in public at a bar or something first, she said she was only 19 and couldn't go to a bar (her profile says 21). At this point, I asked her to send me a selfie making a peace sign and she avoided it and hasn't responded.

Not going to see her. I think she is trying to really meet up, but I don't think she's the chick in the photos.

[SaladHermit]

Any intel?

Might meet up with her, but am also maybe getting a pro vibe: https://www.seeking.com/member/458a5...d-a201e51f400a.

We had made plans to meet up, multiple times she said she could host. When it was time for me to head out I messaged her, and she said she was in my neighborhood and that she needed me to get a room. I told her that at this point if she wanted to meet up, we'd have to meet in public at a bar or something first, she said she was only 19 and couldn't go to a bar (her profile says 21). At this point, I asked her to send me a selfie making a peace sign and she avoided it and hasn't responded.

Not going to see her. I think she is trying to really meet up, but I don't think she's the chick in the photos.

[MaCross19]

Have you gotten any virgins? How many? How old were they?

I did take a 18 year old's V card from Wenatchee, she showed me her driver's license to make sure I wasn't doing anything too bad.

I have been the first person from the site for plenty and provided a lot of first for some of those girls- first time without a condom, first creampie, first time being recorded, first time doing BDSM, first time anal.

Helping previously uptight girls find their freak card can be fun and rewarding.

The other way can be great as well. As those of you that have hooked up with Rose know- freaks can be fun.