"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**EBob1111** · 01-20-20 17:36

So she finally did text me back with an "expense" that if I took care of she would feel that things are resolved. I paid it to make it go away, and at the very least have her in writing asking for money in exchange for not ruining my life so if she ends up fucking with me any more then extortion will be on the table. Hard lesson to learn.

**TechSticles** · 01-20-20 15:58

Originally Posted by EBob1111 [View Original Post]

I started up with a 30-something year old SB about a month and a half ago. When we first started chatting she said she really wasn't looking for a monetary arrangement, just someone who she could spend quality time with and if I wanted to give her a gift from time to time she wouldn't be opposed to it. Over a month and a half we actually only ended up seeing each other four times. An initial meet, two trips to the FC, and one quick car date. At one point I paid for a trip to the hair salon, and I bought her some lingerie online and had it mailed to her house as a gift (big mistake). Last week she said she wanted a more traditional SB relationship so I asked what she had in mind. She said I should propose what I think she is worth once a week. I said that wasn't what she said she was looking for when we met and probably wasn't something I could afford, no hard feelings.

A week later this morning, she texts me that I used her and that she's going to mail the lingerie set along with texts and pics to the address on the shipping slip for my wife to see. Of course I texted back why would she want to try to ruins my children's lives over this, but no reply from her. She doesn't know my wife's name so I can certainly be on the lookout to head off any strange packages to my house but wondering if she's really serious or what else she has up her sleeve and what should I do or not to do try to prevent real damage.

Originally Posted by ErnestLl [View Original Post]

If she has not asked for anything monetary to prevent this from happening, she has broken no law. Outing without the threat, is perfectly legal, unfortunately.

Originally Posted by KevinCalormis [View Original Post]

"Last week she said she wanted a more traditional SB relationship so I asked what she had in mind. She said I should propose what I think she is worth once a week. I said that wasn't what she said she was looking for when we met and probably wasn't something I could afford, no hard feelings.

She asked for money, was refused and is now threatening.

In any event, Once she is threatened and she will go away. If not with the law with other means. Just judging by the the OP, he's was treating her like they had some sort of relationship. Mailing her gifts? LOL. She picked up on him being naive and soft and assumes that will continue if she pressures him for money. If you meet them on Seeking you are just a mark. These girls a hookers, despite what some of the white knights on here want to believe. Hell, we are discussing them on "usasexguide" LOL.

We have the power in these relationships, always remember that. I do find it amusing that the victim here has frowned on me for my callous attitude towards these girls in his previous posts. Naivete seems to have cost him.

I agree. The OP sounds like he may be pretty much fucked if this chick decides to do him in. Personally, I wouldn't pay her a fucking dime, and if there's anything in her texts that even hints like extortion, I'd make sure she knows you'll be making use of it if necessary.

Bad decision sending gifts to her house and letting your info get exposed. Crazy.

**Dash** · 01-20-20 13:16

Originally Posted by KevinCalormis [View Original Post]

"Last week she said she wanted a more traditional SB relationship so I asked what she had in mind. She said I should propose what I think she is worth once a week. I said that wasn't what she said she was looking for when we met and probably wasn't something I could afford, no hard feelings.

She asked for money, was refused and is now threatening.

In any event, Once she is threatened and she will go away. If not with the law with other means. Just judging by the the OP, he's was treating her like they had some sort of relationship. Mailing her gifts? LOL. She picked up on him being naive and soft and assumes that will continue if she pressures him for money. If you meet them on Seeking you are just a mark. These girls a hookers, despite what some of the white knights on here want to believe. Hell, we are discussing them on "usasexguide" LOL.

We have the power in these relationships, always remember that. I do find it amusing that the victim here has frowned on me for my callous attitude towards these girls in his previous posts. Naivete seems to have cost him.

While I concur with kevin, I think the guy who didn't give the girl any cash made an error.

To spare hard feelings, give a few bucks and adios honey.

Regardless what any female says she wants from us, she also wants money.

If she fucks and no complaints, good.

If she changes her tune and starts being unreasonable, throw money at her to shut up.

She of course is having remorse over not asking for money from the beginning.

**DWinthrop** · 01-20-20 12:57

Originally Posted by ErnestLl [View Original Post]

If she has not asked for anything monetary to prevent this from happening, she has broken no law. Outing without the threat, is perfectly legal, unfortunately.

"Last week she said she wanted a more traditional SB relationship so I asked what she had in mind. She said I should propose what I think she is worth once a week. I said that wasn't what she said she was looking for when we met and probably wasn't something I could afford, no hard feelings.

She asked for money, was refused and is now threatening.

In any event, Once she is threatened and she will go away. If not with the law with other means. Just judging by the the OP, he's was treating her like they had some sort of relationship. Mailing her gifts? LOL. She picked up on him being naive and soft and assumes that will continue if she pressures him for money. If you meet them on Seeking you are just a mark. These girls a hookers, despite what some of the white knights on here want to believe. Hell, we are discussing them on "usasexguide" LOL.

We have the power in these relationships, always remember that. I do find it amusing that the victim here has frowned on me for my callous attitude towards these girls in his previous posts. Naivete seems to have cost him.

**Ernest Ll** · 01-20-20 12:34

Originally Posted by KevinCalormis [View Original Post]

Send her the laws on blackmail and extortion.

Threaten her. Do you know where she works? Her family?

You do know where she lives...

If she has not asked for anything monetary to prevent this from happening, she has broken no law. Outing without the threat, is perfectly legal, unfortunately.

**EBob1111** · 01-20-20 11:53

Originally Posted by KevinCalormis [View Original Post]

Send her the laws on blackmail and extortion.

Threaten her. Do you know where she works? Her family?

You do know where she lives...

I do know where she lives and works. The problem is I don't think what she's done so far is blackmail, she's not asking for anything in return just saying she's going to send evidence to my wife. She's clearly got a screw loose since this wasn't some long term thing with feelings involved. Also not sure if threatening her will make her go away or just make things worse.

**DWinthrop** · 01-20-20 11:10

Originally Posted by EBob1111 [View Original Post]

I started up with a 30-something year old SB about a month and a half ago. When we first started chatting she said she really wasn't looking for a monetary arrangement, just someone who she could spend quality time with and if I wanted to give her a gift from time to time she wouldn't be opposed to it. Over a month and a half we actually only ended up seeing each other four times. An initial meet, two trips to the FC, and one quick car date. At one point I paid for a trip to the hair salon, and I bought her some lingerie online and had it mailed to her house as a gift (big mistake). Last week she said she wanted a more traditional SB relationship so I asked what she had in mind. She said I should propose what I think she is worth once a week. I said that wasn't what she said she was looking for when we met and probably wasn't something I could afford, no hard feelings.

A week later this morning, she texts me that I used her and that she's going to mail the lingerie set along with texts and pics to the address on the shipping slip for my wife to see. Of course I texted back why would she want to try to ruins my children's lives over this, but no reply from her. She doesn't know my wife's name so I can certainly be on the lookout to head off any strange packages to my house but wondering if she's really serious or what else she has up her sleeve and what should I do or not to do try to prevent real damage.

Send her the laws on blackmail and extortion.

Threaten her. Do you know where she works? Her family?

You do know where she lives...

**EBob1111** · 01-20-20 09:39

I started up with a 30-something year old SB about a month and a half ago. When we first started chatting she said she really wasn't looking for a monetary arrangement, just someone who she could spend quality time with and if I wanted to give her a gift from time to time she wouldn't be opposed to it. Over a month and a half we actually only ended up seeing each other four times. An initial meet, two trips to the FC, and one quick car date. At one point I paid for a trip to the hair salon, and I bought her some lingerie online and had it mailed to her house as a gift (big mistake). Last week she said she wanted a more traditional SB relationship so I asked what she had in mind. She said I should propose what I think she is worth once a week. I said that wasn't what she said she was looking for when we met and probably wasn't something I could afford, no hard feelings.

A week later this morning, she texts me that I used her and that she's going to mail the lingerie set along with texts and pics to the address on the shipping slip for my wife to see. Of course I texted back why would she want to try to ruins my children's lives over this, but no reply from her. She doesn't know my wife's name so I can certainly be on the lookout to head off any strange packages to my house but wondering if she's really serious or what else she has up her sleeve and what should I do or not to do try to prevent real damage.

**FarFarAway** · 01-20-20 03:38

Originally Posted by CandyMan555 [View Original Post]

Burner phone info?? Thanks CM.

I like TracFone, I have posted details before. Use Google Voice or a texting app, though.

**CandyMan555** · 01-19-20 21:32

Burner phone info?? Thanks CM.

**HuksAlot** · 01-19-20 20:38

In my experience it doesn't matter if a SB has a BF, fiance or husband. I've had them all with no issues. A couple of examples. Late 30's, married with teen aged kids, hubby went to work at 9 pm. She would sneak out after he went to work and the teens were asleep to come over and fuck raw. Current SB, early 20's, BF drives her to a public parking lot where she jumps in my car. We fuck raw for a couple of hours. I take her back to the parking lot where BF is waiting to pick her up. If the girl is chill, non drama persona, comes across as genuine and honest and just looking for a buck, I'll bang an attached girl without concerns.

On the flip side of the coin. Met a POT SB for a drink. She's telling me about hubby who is in prison, she needs money, lives with her possessive and protective brother. I did not pursue the opportunity.

Originally Posted by FarFarAway [View Original Post]

Track down their social networks. You can't really use that info against them, but you can know what the truth is to keep yourself safe. She might have a regular BF / fiance. Wouldn't that be good to know?

**FanRat** · 01-19-20 17:14

Originally Posted by GeechieDan [View Original Post]

I did a tin eye search on her photos because two of her pics didn't match up with the upclose face pic. One pic came up with 37 listings. She may be real but I don't know if you should expect that same body in person.

I thought at least 1 of the pics looked like it didn't match the others. I had forgotten Tin Eye. Thanks for the reminder.

Last message I got from her was "I've been ripped off, yada-yada-yada, need you to show me your serious before we meet. I haven't responded.

Thanks for the recon!

Be safe!

**Geechie Dan** · 01-19-20 14:56

Originally Posted by FanRat [View Original Post]

Hey all! Does anyone have info on this lady? https://www.seeking.com/member/2e258...b-a35345606401.

I am chatting with her and ready to set a meet and greet but am getting the feeling she is going to ask for a deposit sight unseen. To prove that I am serious. She hasnt yet but the conversation feels that way and I have had a few pull that BS at the last minute.

Any info is appreciated!

Thanks and be safe!

I did a tin eye search on her photos because two of her pics didn't match up with the upclose face pic. One pic came up with 37 listings. She may be real but I don't know if you should expect that same body in person.

**FanRat** · 01-19-20 12:06

Originally Posted by Dimples572 [View Original Post]

Good Lord that ass.

No doubt!

Anyway, she still hasnt come out and asked for a deposit but said that she "needs me to prove I'm serious before we meet" so my guess is that is her deal.

**FarFarAway** · 01-19-20 11:57

Originally Posted by OliverNP [View Original Post]

Truth is not usually the strong suit of these girls, especially when it comes to admitting to sexual activity. If you can make them feel rewarded for honesty, it can take time for them to open up, but its the default female behavior to say "oh I never had sex with him".

Also from their view, it's to their advantage to say they've had at least one SD before (even if they have had none or 50). They often believe if they frame their unrealistic expectations in a historic way (I. E. My former SD used to give me $600 a week), that it will hopefully create a target amount, even if it never happened.

And we're paragons of truth? I have a whole fake life I present to these girls, to keep my real life safe. I don't have a big problem w / people doing what they need to do to keep themselves secure in this activity. That's why you should take a few steps to check out the truth. Use one of the people finder sites w / their phone #. Track down their social networks. You can't really use that info against them, but you can know what the truth is to keep yourself safe. She might have a regular BF / fiance. Wouldn't that be good to know?