"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[JustLonely]

I wouldn't worry too much about that. Most 19 year old girls are not that hard-set on anything.

I've been in similar situations a few times and I'd say your odds are good if you're patient. If they get fed up with SA creeps and drop their account before you meet them, you might lose them, but once they've met you and liked you, I've found they'll drop SA but keep texting you as long as you keep it non-creepy.

I'd do the platonic date gift based roughly on how long that date will be compared to how long you expect your dates to ultimately be. Like if you want to spend about three hours once you start hooking up with her, and you think you'd give her $250 for those dates, give her $100 for a one hour platonic dinner date. And I'd aim for at least one full-time / full-price platonic date (maybe some making out, but no FC) so that she won't feel like the bump in money is tied directly to the sex.

This is how those platonic SBs keep going. Guys paying for dinner dates or taking them shopping in hopes of it leading to the FC. By the time you give up on her, she has found another guy to start the cycle over again with.

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Sooo, what's the deal with the new payment options? I always used to do the PayPal option. Haven't had a subscription for a few months. Tried to re-up, and can't do it by PayPal.

Are you guys just using your personal cc's? I went to the store and thought about getting a prepaid one, but it clearly states on the back of all the cards that they can only be used for transactions IN the us, to help fight terrorism, blah blah. And I saw on some post where someone's card was declined because it was an international transaction.

Anyone know of any way to use a type of cc where you don't have to give your name / info? I searched for subscription and membership in this thread and didn't find anything helpful.

Most any of the prepaid Visa cards will work.

Get a $100 card from WalMart. You'll need to register it with the card provider before using it on the site. See the back of the card for the registration website. Once it's registered, it should work.

[UKnowWho]

But she said "No sex". I replied that sex means different things to different girls, and I expect some degree of intimacy, holding hands, kissing etc. Then she says, it is Ok, but "no penetration".

I wouldn't worry too much about that. Most 19 year old girls are not that hard-set on anything.

My questions to veterans here. What are my chances to taking her to FC? I am willing to be patient with her and try few dates before it happens? Or am I just fooling myself and wasting my time? If we go on a "platonic" date, what would be the appropriate gift? Should I take a very "no rush" approach on movie date? I like her personality, so even if doesn't work out I think I will enjoy being with her. I will update in a week if she still keeps her promise on the movie date. My worry is that she will get fed up on SA and give up the whole thing. We have been communicating via text so I have her number in case she drops out of SA.

I've been in similar situations a few times and I'd say your odds are good if you're patient. If they get fed up with SA creeps and drop their account before you meet them, you might lose them, but once they've met you and liked you, I've found they'll drop SA but keep texting you as long as you keep it non-creepy.

I'd do the platonic date gift based roughly on how long that date will be compared to how long you expect your dates to ultimately be. Like if you want to spend about three hours once you start hooking up with her, and you think you'd give her $250 for those dates, give her $100 for a one hour platonic dinner date. And I'd aim for at least one full-time / full-price platonic date (maybe some making out, but no FC) so that she won't feel like the bump in money is tied directly to the sex.

[EvilTmp]

I believe I have a similar style as you and go for a good connection right off the bat and stay far away from any pro girls. My take is that your odds are less than 50-50 but it's worth a shot as you seem to have a good rapport and who knows what might develop. I believe platonic is for girls that aren't that attracted to older guys or for rinsers. There might be an in-between category for girls that are covering their tracks in case of being found out but somehow I doubt it. Me guess is she's not into older guys.

Please do share your results as I'm very interested in your little experiment.

As most of us here looking for SBs, my ultimate goal is to fuck the girl at the earliest possible opportunity. I have been taking a very direct approach with girls on SA telling them very early on my intentions and moving on if they are not DTF. It has worked reasonably well with me. However, I thought of trying something new and see if I can convert a "platonic" girl to DTF status. I have been looking for the right girl and I think I found one. She is 19, a slim girl with a very cute face. She has been on the site just for 5 days. Her profile says she just wants to hang out, conversations and get spoiled "once in a while". No "platonic" tag on the profile. Started chatting with her, and she says that she takes CNA classes, no job yet. When I asked what her expectations are, I got the standard answer "I am not sure, just new to this. ". But she said "No sex". I replied that sex means different things to different girls, and I expect some degree of intimacy, holding hands, kissing etc. Then she says, it is Ok, but "no penetration". I told her that if we can "fool around" and have fun, no penetration is Ok with me. We can take it slow. She replied, it oK but not at the first meet. So, we set up a meet next day at a coffee shop and I told her it was just meet and greet to get to know, nothing else. She showed up on time, cute girl as the photos indicated. She was very friendly, and we connected well and chatted for about an hour. She says I was the first person she met from the site, and I as the first guy approached her as a gentleman, almost all guys there are "creeps". When I asked why she joined the site, she said it was money, but she needs just spending money for gas, clothes etc. She lives with parents, no car payments etc. She says she doesn't require an allowance, but it would be awesome if I consider that. But, otherwise just help here and there is enough. She said right away she was comfortable with me and if I am interested she is willing to go on dates. We planned to go to a movie next weekend. I didn't give anything other than buying the coffee (just to test her). After she left I texted her thanking for her time. She responded right away for the nice time and looking forward to the movie next weekend.

My questions to veterans here. What are my chances to taking her to FC? I am willing to be patient with her and try few dates before it happens? Or am I just fooling myself and wasting my time? If we go on a "platonic" date, what would be the appropriate gift? Should I take a very "no rush" approach on movie date? I like her personality, so even if doesn't work out I think I will enjoy being with her. I will update in a week if she still keeps her promise on the movie date. My worry is that she will get fed up on SA and give up the whole thing. We have been communicating via text so I have her number in case she drops out of SA.

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.

[FreeSpiritFet]

Be honest with you, that is the exactly same thing I'm looking for. Money can buy sex, with the right amount, 99% of the girls would fuck me. First if I regret the moment I cum, second if it's really fun.

I love a little challenge, I like the real feelings and connections. If I offer a girl 100, and she takes it and still fuck you. For my understanding, either she is desperate or she likes me. And the second kind is what I'm looking for.

I mean, if the girl you want doesn't ask too much, I would just give her 50 a time and take her to a real date. But see how much you can push her each date respectfully.

Actually I'm talking to 2 girls, they even just want to hangout and get to know each other. Since I'm single, 35, they want real thing also. I treat them like normal girl from match.com, and I don't mind take my time on them and see how far it can go.

Also, I found girls, decent looking for 100-150 and let me do whatever if I just want to a fix.

I really enjoy it. It's fun! Much easier than match.com LOL.

As most of us here looking for SBs, my ultimate goal is to fuck the girl at the earliest possible opportunity. I have been taking a very direct approach with girls on SA telling them very early on my intentions and moving on if they are not DTF. It has worked reasonably well with me. However, I thought of trying something new and see if I can convert a "platonic" girl to DTF status. I have been looking for the right girl and I think I found one. She is 19, a slim girl with a very cute face. She has been on the site just for 5 days. Her profile says she just wants to hang out, conversations and get spoiled "once in a while". No "platonic" tag on the profile. Started chatting with her, and she says that she takes CNA classes, no job yet. When I asked what her expectations are, I got the standard answer "I am not sure, just new to this. ". But she said "No sex". I replied that sex means different things to different girls, and I expect some degree of intimacy, holding hands, kissing etc. Then she says, it is Ok, but "no penetration". I told her that if we can "fool around" and have fun, no penetration is Ok with me. We can take it slow. She replied, it oK but not at the first meet. So, we set up a meet next day at a coffee shop and I told her it was just meet and greet to get to know, nothing else. She showed up on time, cute girl as the photos indicated. She was very friendly, and we connected well and chatted for about an hour. She says I was the first person she met from the site, and I as the first guy approached her as a gentleman, almost all guys there are "creeps". When I asked why she joined the site, she said it was money, but she needs just spending money for gas, clothes etc. She lives with parents, no car payments etc. She says she doesn't require an allowance, but it would be awesome if I consider that. But, otherwise just help here and there is enough. She said right away she was comfortable with me and if I am interested she is willing to go on dates. We planned to go to a movie next weekend. I didn't give anything other than buying the coffee (just to test her). After she left I texted her thanking for her time. She responded right away for the nice time and looking forward to the movie next weekend.

My questions to veterans here. What are my chances to taking her to FC? I am willing to be patient with her and try few dates before it happens? Or am I just fooling myself and wasting my time? If we go on a "platonic" date, what would be the appropriate gift? Should I take a very "no rush" approach on movie date? I like her personality, so even if doesn't work out I think I will enjoy being with her. I will update in a week if she still keeps her promise on the movie date. My worry is that she will get fed up on SA and give up the whole thing. We have been communicating via text so I have her number in case she drops out of SA.

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.

[DrSummer]

As most of us here looking for SBs, my ultimate goal is to fuck the girl at the earliest possible opportunity. I have been taking a very direct approach with girls on SA telling them very early on my intentions and moving on if they are not DTF. It has worked reasonably well with me. However, I thought of trying something new and see if I can convert a "platonic" girl to DTF status. I have been looking for the right girl and I think I found one. She is 19, a slim girl with a very cute face. She has been on the site just for 5 days. Her profile says she just wants to hang out, conversations and get spoiled "once in a while". No "platonic" tag on the profile. Started chatting with her, and she says that she takes CNA classes, no job yet. When I asked what her expectations are, I got the standard answer "I am not sure, just new to this. ". But she said "No sex". I replied that sex means different things to different girls, and I expect some degree of intimacy, holding hands, kissing etc. Then she says, it is Ok, but "no penetration". I told her that if we can "fool around" and have fun, no penetration is Ok with me. We can take it slow. She replied, it oK but not at the first meet. So, we set up a meet next day at a coffee shop and I told her it was just meet and greet to get to know, nothing else. She showed up on time, cute girl as the photos indicated. She was very friendly, and we connected well and chatted for about an hour. She says I was the first person she met from the site, and I as the first guy approached her as a gentleman, almost all guys there are "creeps". When I asked why she joined the site, she said it was money, but she needs just spending money for gas, clothes etc. She lives with parents, no car payments etc. She says she doesn't require an allowance, but it would be awesome if I consider that. But, otherwise just help here and there is enough. She said right away she was comfortable with me and if I am interested she is willing to go on dates. We planned to go to a movie next weekend. I didn't give anything other than buying the coffee (just to test her). After she left I texted her thanking for her time. She responded right away for the nice time and looking forward to the movie next weekend.

My questions to veterans here. What are my chances to taking her to FC? I am willing to be patient with her and try few dates before it happens? Or am I just fooling myself and wasting my time? If we go on a "platonic" date, what would be the appropriate gift? Should I take a very "no rush" approach on movie date? I like her personality, so even if doesn't work out I think I will enjoy being with her. I will update in a week if she still keeps her promise on the movie date. My worry is that she will get fed up on SA and give up the whole thing. We have been communicating via text so I have her number in case she drops out of SA.

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.

[LikItFun]

I met her when she came to Charlottesville. $300 plus cheap hotel room.

Pretty face, great bod -- long legs and rack as advertised.

Nice BBBJ, cums easily and often. Very squeaky girly voice, which I found annoying.

MSOG. Semi pro single mom for sure.

Had the pleasure a couple weeks ago. She hosted at a small house in a nice-ish neighborhood. Everything covered, very escort vibe. Lots of parts of her story didn't add up. Won't repeat, but that's just me.

[FeelGoodMd]

So curious. How much per month did something like that (nice body, submissive, etc) cost on an ongoing basis?

I gave her $$ the first time I was with her because it was her 19th birthday. When I saw her the next week and gave her $, she texted me that night to ask if she had disappointed me and what she could do better to make me happy. I told her $ is what I typically would give her when I saw her, and the extra $ was for her birthday.

She never asked about money again.

I varied what I gave her per visit. I gave her $200 a couple more times, and I gave her $0 once about 2 months in just to see if she'd 1) complain and 2) come back. She didn't complain. She just thanked me profusely and cried when I paid her the next week. Again, she thought she'd disappointed me somehow. I'd say my donation averaged $120 while I was still paying her (plus $ for the hotel, and usually an extra Jackson for dinner when I dropped her off at her sorority house). Our average visit was 3 hours, so. $80/ hour give or take.

I stopped giving her anything regularly (except the $20 for dinner) the last 6 months. I told her I felt we had become too close and I didn't like treating her like a prostitute. I still gave her money when she mentioned a specific expense ($80 for a textbook, $40 for a doctor's copay, $100 for her phone insurance when she broke the screen, etc), but that happened less than once a month.

So the short answer to your question: about $1 k total expense each month the first 18 months, and about $6 monthly the last 6 months.

Best part about it. I pushed her limits hard, and in 2 years she only used her safe word once. If I wasn't married, or she hadn't used the L word, we might still be together. Best sex I ever had, and it never got boring. Plus, she opened my eyes to the wonders of the young black girl with an absent father.

[FarFarAway]

Don't use the same picture. If we're using tools to find out who the girls are, they service is probably doing the same with us.

Ask your internet provider to give you a new IP address. They can identify you through the IP address and if you're using a modem it's usually static. Never changes.

It is also possible that they are locating you by your MAC address. There are programs out there that allow you to spoof the address, or change it.

I got a new seeking profile a while back using my regular email address. I sent out a few messages, cut and paste, and I got banned for sending spam I believe. If I ever try to log in w / that same email address, forgetting, I get the message that my old account was deleted and cannot be revived and they won't message me about it. I used my email service, hushmail, to make email aliases, though, and that solved the problem. I have 2 profiles on SA now w / different email aliases. I did not have to change my MAC address, but I am using a browser w / VPN (see other post).

[FarFarAway]

Someone recommended a VPN any feedback? Thanks CM.

Use a browser w / a built-in VPN. I use Epic, you can select one of a few exit nodes to the internet. Epic is free, I just gave them the $ that was left over on a prepaid card I had used to get my membership, to be sure they stay in business. Epic works on seeking.com, some other fancier anonymous secure browsers like Tor (used to use it) don't currently work on there.

[SandPiper540]

I was using AOL and got banned twice so I went to yahoo.com and made a.

New email address and always logged on from internet explorer and not my aol account, I put the same picture up that I used on the banned site, paid with a vanilla card and false name and address and phone number\my profile was up for 3 days.

Now they BANNED ME AGAIN,they must have traced my computer info??

Any way around this to avoid my old identity. Now I am am out 89.00.

Any help would be appreciated Many thanks CM.

Why did SA Ban you? I know they are very strict about the pictures you post. Money isn't supposed to be discussed. I'm curious why you got Banned?

[DirtyDeeds38]

Last weekend I went to LA for a business trip, before I went there I talked to some local girls and hope I can find some fun while I was in town. There was one girl she is 19,5'2, 95 lbs, white / lain mix skinny girl. Super cute. We talked for couple days, and I told her what I'm looking for and we didn't talk about allowance at all. As we agreed, we would go to have a dinner and see if we have chemistry or not. And we go from there. After I landed in LA, I sent her a text and told her we can meet at my hotel lobby at 7 pm. She was cool and show up on time. We met at door, she is very pretty young girl. And we went to for a dinner. We talked a lot and seem we do like each other. And because she is under 21, we can't drink outside, so I bought her to my hotel. We had some wine, nothing crazy. First two hrs at my hotel we were just talking, she told her story why she came to LA, and she work in restaurant at the moment. And she broke up with her bf 2 months ago. Bla bla bla. It is fine, I got nothing to do, so I listen and told her what I think. And she said she has lots Korean girl friends, and they are all super pretty and skinny. And that is why she try to keep in good shape, doesn't want to be the "fat" one in the group. But trust me, she is not even close to that. I asked her to stand up so I could take a good look of her body. I put my arms around her and hug her. She started to kiss me, sweet and passion. So we french kiss for a good 10 plus minutes, she started to take off my pants and give me BJ without I asking. After that, I ate her pussy and finger her, she cum just during the oral. We fucked almost hrs that night and the more I fucked her the wilder she turned. She said she was horny, and want to be my little ****. She talks and looks so Innocent 2 hrs ago, but now she is talking dirty on the bed and ask me to spit on her face. I cum twice that night, and the second time really took me a while, but she seemed very enjoy it and just want to me keep fucking her. After couple hrs fuck excise, we cuddled and slept. In the morning, she started to blow me again and told me that she wants fuck and she want to me cum inside her little pussy this time. Before we used wraps. I was like, fuck it. Lets do it. After a good 30 minutes raw fucking, and I cum all in her little 19 yrs old pussy. After that, she started to get dress and tell me she needs to go to work at 10 am.

At that moment, that was the question I asked on here before. Dam, how much I need to pay her? We didn't even discuss that part at all. I remember someone told me just put the money in their bag and try not to embarrass those girls. So I did, and I did a pretty good job not to embarrass her because seems like she didn't even notice it. I walked her out of the hotel, and she left.

We had a short conversation after she left, and I copy those text here. That is the interesting part of my experience.

She: It was nice to meet you but I normally do arrangements with allowances (that's what a traditional arrangement is). Sorry, I totally forgot to tell you. It was nice to meet you and I hope you find another arrangement soon.

Me: Yep. We forgot to talk about that part. But you are so nice. (I thought she talked about monthly allowance).

She: I'm sorry. I don't normally meet people without allowance, because I spend money when I get ready. I mentioned it at first on SA, but I didn't mention it in person so it's my fault. But, I had fun with you, so you are an exception 😊 next time you come to LA, feel free to text me so we can hang out again. (When I read this, I was very confused).

Me: You are so sweet. I will come back. (I don't know what else to say).

After 1 hr, she text me again.

She: I'm so sorry, I didn't even check my bag. Thank you so much ❤65039;10084;65039; I just saw it now (Now I realize that she just saw the money!

Me: LOL, you are so cute! (Dam girl, you walked out without knowing I paid?).

I mean, this is the kind of experience I'm looking for. It felt so good and real! And doesn't feel like a transaction at all!

Afterwards, I was thinking, she walked out of my door without knowing I paid her, and she started to text me about money but she still keep it cool and nice.

She was sitting in uber must wondering that: Dam, I just give out free pussy last night!

I fully understand that in our most primitive and biological formats, cuming inside the girl, is natural and many girls truly want that. That said, I am always highly suspicious of any girl who asks for it, or demands it. I've had them literally try and leg-lock me to prevent me from pulling out, or I've had to force them to get off the top of me to prevent cuming inside of. I hope you're fixed, or don't be surprise if you get hit with the ole pregnancy scam in 2 weeks. Even fixed guys still get the ole scam. I know of two, who were fixed and the SB's still insisted they were knocked up and needed $2000 to fix the situation. And worse yet, some will claim they don't believe in terminating. Their come to Jesus moment. Region prevents them from terminating and they will haunt your life for months.

I am now fixed myself, but even so, I always pullout and so should most all you SD's. Lots of things still can go wrong.

[TravelinSD]

I use Private Internet Access: https://www.privateinternetaccess.com You can pay anonymously with a gift card. $50 per year covers 5 devices.

Good Hunting!

Travelin.

Someone recommended a VPN any feedback? Thanks CM.

[Member #6004]

Reading all these posts about pictures got me thinking I could be more generous. These are some of my favorite pics of a former SB.

So curious. How much per month did something like that (nice body, submissive, etc) cost on an ongoing basis?

[CandyMan555]

Don't use the same picture. If we're using tools to find out who the girls are, they service is probably doing the same with us.

Ask your internet provider to give you a new IP address. They can identify you through the IP address and if you're using a modem it's usually static. Never changes.

Someone recommended a VPN any feedback? Thanks CM.