Seeking Arrangements

[CoolGuy1985]

There are different types of girls on here wanting different kinds of arrangements so depends who you are talking to. A seasoned pro or former backpage girl doesn't want to go back and forth with endless emails. You are wasting their time. A hot college girl who is hesitant and cautious because they never did this before may require a lengthy email exchanges before meeting. One of my top UTRs is a hot college chick I met on SA. It took a month of texting everyday for her to become comfortable with me. She finally took a leap of faith and we met. Now it's like having a girlfriend without the drama. Also keep in mind, the hotter they are, the more hits they are getting from other guys. So you are competing with other guys. When it happens to me I don't sweat it. I just move on. It's a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more likely you have a chance at meeting someone. It's not for everyone. Some people don't have the time or patience. Some people misinterpret SA as a replacement for backpage. Although there has been an influx of backpage girls due to FOSTA its still a whole different ballgame.

Thanks to all the seasoned players I have digits of 5-6 gals now. Rates are high but let's see how it goes.

I agree with the hot college girl thing. One was asking for 500 bucks for some books. When I asked what do I get in return, she asks what do I expect. When I said well physical intimacy, she said she was surprised she wasn't expecting it. I was like yeah, I will give 500 to you for just talking to me.

[Spill]

There are different types of girls on here wanting different kinds of arrangements so depends who you are talking to. A seasoned pro or former backpage girl doesn't want to go back and forth with endless emails. You are wasting their time. A hot college girl who is hesitant and cautious because they never did this before may require a lengthy email exchanges before meeting. One of my top UTRs is a hot college chick I met on SA. It took a month of texting everyday for her to become comfortable with me. She finally took a leap of faith and we met. Now it's like having a girlfriend without the drama. Also keep in mind, the hotter they are, the more hits they are getting from other guys. So you are competing with other guys. When it happens to me I don't sweat it. I just move on. It's a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more likely you have a chance at meeting someone. It's not for everyone. Some people don't have the time or patience. Some people misinterpret SA as a replacement for backpage. Although there has been an influx of backpage girls due to FOSTA its still a whole different ballgame.

Completely agree. Mirrors my experience.

[JimXuper90]

I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.

Some of them might be bots that created by the website itself.

[Spike77]

I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.

There are different types of girls on here wanting different kinds of arrangements so depends who you are talking to. A seasoned pro or former backpage girl doesn't want to go back and forth with endless emails. You are wasting their time. A hot college girl who is hesitant and cautious because they never did this before may require a lengthy email exchanges before meeting. One of my top UTRs is a hot college chick I met on SA. It took a month of texting everyday for her to become comfortable with me. She finally took a leap of faith and we met. Now it's like having a girlfriend without the drama. Also keep in mind, the hotter they are, the more hits they are getting from other guys. So you are competing with other guys. When it happens to me I don't sweat it. I just move on. It's a numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more likely you have a chance at meeting someone. It's not for everyone. Some people don't have the time or patience. Some people misinterpret SA as a replacement for backpage. Although there has been an influx of backpage girls due to FOSTA its still a whole different ballgame.

[Aardvarks]

I concur. Although I haven't had much success since I only am available to meet during the day, and with the lady hosting, my experiences have directed me to the conclusion that the sooner you take conversation off SA, and to text / email, the better.

I can only do day dates too. I find that stating that upfront helps in 2 ways 1) Obviously sets the tone for the relationship IE we are. It doing fancy dinners, arm candy BS. We are meeting, chatting, and getting busy. 2) Figure out very early in the prose whether this will work out.

I play a broad search and destroy technique. I lay it all on the line in the first few messages and send the initial exploratory message to 10 at a time. No responses get a follow up "hey are you not interested in money I have an envelope in my hand for you". Any GPS I say "sorry but that's a little over my budget good luck to you". I've had the GPS girls come back and start lowering their # many many times. I've stopped doing the meet and greet thing because it's a waste of time. Skip to the first date and if they're not what you want give them a gift certificate or something. Hi, d onto the cahs They love CVS and Walgreens.

[Spill]

Seen this before. Wants a personal email. Part of a hacking scheme. She disappeared because someone probably reported her.

For a number of reasons, I always try to take them off SA. I give them an email, non-personal of course. One reason is that anything written on SA is owned by SA.

[Longjblues]

I concur. Although I haven't had much success since I only am available to meet during the day, and with the lady hosting, my experiences have directed me to the conclusion that the sooner you take conversation off SA, and to text / email, the better.

First few messages try to flirt.

Then say hey what are you looking for financially.

Then move off the site to text or Kik.

Or:

Say hey my philosophy is to meet up a few times before we agree on a monthly allowance. I'm thinking $1-2 per meet if that works for you. Let's meet soon as I've got a bunch of money to spend and a lot of SBs interested but I think you're special.

Than move to text or Kik. The quicker you get them off SA the better you will be. The app sucks on mobile phones. It looks like tinder but with many buttons and tabs so it's difficult to communicate. I think it's on purpose to benefit the SA owners.

[Glennie]

Think of sitting at a bar and chatting it up with a lady. She excuses herself to visit the restroom. On her way back she runs into an old friend (perhaps someone she was chatting with when she was at the bar last week). Will she come back and continue the conversation with you? When? Who knows?

I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.

[Aardvarks]

I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.

First few messages try to flirt.

Then say hey what are you looking for financially.

Then move off the site to text or Kik.

Or:

Say hey my philosophy is to meet up a few times before we agree on a monthly allowance. I'm thinking $1-2 per meet if that works for you. Let's meet soon as I've got a bunch of money to spend and a lot of SBs interested but I think you're special.

Than move to text or Kik. The quicker you get them off SA the better you will be. The app sucks on mobile phones. It looks like tinder but with many buttons and tabs so it's difficult to communicate. I think it's on purpose to benefit the SA owners.

[CoolGuy1985]

I chat with girls and at times they message me. At various levels they just disappear. They don't read chats, they are online, but just disappear. Am I doing something wrong? I don't even ask for sex, I just ask for their allowance and meeting up.

[Aardvarks]

Saw posting on SB for this beautiful and sexy woman. Very appealing. Sent a message complimenting her and said she'd probably get a ton of responses. She answered saying she'd send more photos if I gave personal email. Asked if text would be easier. No answer and I was blocked right away. Even my message to her is gone. Can't give the link, it's gone. She was a hot widow. Just wondering if this is some type of scam.

Seen this before. Wants a personal email. Part of a hacking scheme. She disappeared because someone probably reported her.

[Spill]

Saw posting on SB for this beautiful and sexy woman. Very appealing. Sent a message complimenting her and said she'd probably get a ton of responses. She answered saying she'd send more photos if I gave personal email. Asked if text would be easier. No answer and I was blocked right away. Even my message to her is gone. Can't give the link, it's gone. She was a hot widow. Just wondering if this is some type of scam.

Just a guess but text=phone and she cannot or does not want to do phone. Easier to remain anonymous via email.

[Samuel05]

Saw posting on SB for this beautiful and sexy woman. Very appealing. Sent a message complimenting her and said she'd probably get a ton of responses. She answered saying she'd send more photos if I gave personal email. Asked if text would be easier. No answer and I was blocked right away. Even my message to her is gone. Can't give the link, it's gone. She was a hot widow. Just wondering if this is some type of scam.

[Aardvarks]

"I'm sorry for the inconvenience. Unfortunately, we have permanently removed your account and we are unable to reinstate it. We are also unable to reply to you again or disclose further details. Please read our FAQs for further information.

You have been permanently banned from SeekingArrangement and are not allowed to access the website again. Future attempts to access the site will be considered a violation of our Terms of Use. ".

Well I'm banned for life, I've tried to find out why and they won't tell me.

You could just get a burner and create a new email address. It's not like they know who you are. If you really can't figure this out PM me and I will help.

[Glennie]

Although it's still early days for me on SA, this hasn't been my experience. In any case, whether or not an experience is an all time top ten should not be determined while in the glow of that experience, but rather after much time has passed. My top ten have been via TER / BP etc. I don't see that changing overnight.

Had a top ten of all time encounter today with a graduate student off SA. Unfortunately, I cannot share her digits or any other information at her request, but I just share this for those who are SA doubters. It takes energy and commitment to succeed on SA, but when you do the rewards are often off the charts. I would say that at least four of my top ten lifetime experiences are from SA at this point. This woman today was a uniquely intelligent and lovely friend. We had lunch once previously with no sex. Today was all sex at lunch time. Two hours of joy for all. I am sure I will get some gripes about not sharing, but those of you who do great on SA will understand.