"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[DirtyDeeds38]

I agree it is a lot of work finding the right one that you know you can work a real arrangement with. I would not be comfortable if the girls started dictating terms before we met. There were plenty of them that I talk to and I told them what my idea of a fair monthly allowance would be and they were just too high and I moved on. The best thing about SA is that you can pretty quickly weed out the girls that are unrealistic without even meeting them. I thought I should just put in my two cents about making an arrangement versus buying a date and leaving the future unresolved. The good ones aren't really going to be interested in doing that.

If you do set the expectations up front that she can count on a steady stream from you, it gets really easy to move to the FC. I try to go with the idea that I'm going to be a perfect gentleman at the first meeting look her over, make the decision pretty quickly if I'm going to slide that first envelope cash over to her at that lunch or dinner or whatever. If I decide that I'm going to bed this girl four to six times a month why wouldn't I slip her a few hundred bucks if I'm getting the vibe that she wants to get to know me better. Right there I'm establishing my level of serious interest she knows I'm for real. With the girl I'm seeing now the next time we met we were in bed in under 15 minutes. You have to be willing to risk a little cash to gain their trust. You are going to have to tell them what you want and what your monthly budget is.

For me it turns out that this is a girl who had one boyfriend in high school, another guy who is 2000 miles away and comes back almost never, has no tattoos no piercings pretty much the ideal SB. She likes older guys she likes to be treated special and I'm hoping it's a good long run for the both of us.

It's not going to workout that way 99% of the time. I have hardline rules of my own I follow and I do not divert from them, ever. Your scenario is what creates what I term, "serial meet and greeters" They go on dates and get slipped a few hundred here and there and realize it's easier them actually ever going to the FC and they just do that. NEVER and I repeat NEVER, pay a girl for a drink or dinner date. UNLESS, that is truly your thing and that is what you want. IE, you're too old or a medical condition keeps you from performing and you just want a woman's company. But suggesting you're showing good faith for the future? No offense my brother, but these girls will laugh at you as they walk out of the dinner date with your cash.

[GoneForDays]

I agree it is a lot of work finding the right one that you know you can work a real arrangement with. I would not be comfortable if the girls started dictating terms before we met. There were plenty of them that I talk to and I told them what my idea of a fair monthly allowance would be and they were just too high and I moved on. The best thing about SA is that you can pretty quickly weed out the girls that are unrealistic without even meeting them. I thought I should just put in my two cents about making an arrangement versus buying a date and leaving the future unresolved. The good ones aren't really going to be interested in doing that.

If you do set the expectations up front that she can count on a steady stream from you, it gets really easy to move to the FC. I try to go with the idea that I'm going to be a perfect gentleman at the first meeting look her over, make the decision pretty quickly if I'm going to slide that first envelope cash over to her at that lunch or dinner or whatever. If I decide that I'm going to bed this girl four to six times a month why wouldn't I slip her a few hundred bucks if I'm getting the vibe that she wants to get to know me better. Right there I'm establishing my level of serious interest she knows I'm for real. With the girl I'm seeing now the next time we met we were in bed in under 15 minutes. You have to be willing to risk a little cash to gain their trust. You are going to have to tell them what you want and what your monthly budget is.

For me it turns out that this is a girl who had one boyfriend in high school, another guy who is 2000 miles away and comes back almost never, has no tattoos no piercings pretty much the ideal SB. She likes older guys she likes to be treated special and I'm hoping it's a good long run for the both of us.

The plain truth is that for the right girl most guys on the site would be thrilled to provide any type of allowance she desires. However the girls that are on there to scam, lie, steal are the vast majority and you simply cannot give them the benefit of the doubt until you know for sure who you're dealing with. You can bet your bottom dollar that any girl that asks for a monthly allowance up-front is going to ghost you. Same for someone you've seen that asks for an advance as she triple-promises to make it up to you later (yeah right).

So yeah, there are a few good ones on there but it's a game of needle in a haystack.

[EvilTmp]

The plain truth is that for the right girl most guys on the site would be thrilled to provide any type of allowance she desires. However the girls that are on there to scam, lie, steal are the vast majority and you simply cannot give them the benefit of the doubt until you know for sure who you're dealing with. You can bet your bottom dollar that any girl that asks for a monthly allowance up-front is going to ghost you. Same for someone you've seen that asks for an advance as she triple-promises to make it up to you later (yeah right).

So yeah, there are a few good ones on there but it's a game of needle in a haystack.

Once you find that one that lives alone in her own apartment, is hot in bed, appreciates all the little gifts you give her, makes time for you by moving her schedule around, you'll know that you are going to be giving her an allowance. Or at least a number of cash payments each month adding to an allowance.

I've found that one girl that deserves an allowance. I get to bareback her and not worry about it. Her boyfriend is on the west coast and I get to beat that pussy up twice a week for way less than a hooker would charge.

There are a few girls on SA that are in it to be a good SB. Don't paint them all as sharks.

[Madaboutmax]

I have done weekly or bi-weekly allowances a few times, but only with girls I've learned to trust and developed an ongoing relationship with.

I never agree to a monthly allowance from the start, but let them know it is something I've done in the past after we have established we have a strong connection, are confident we both want to continue and developed trust. Prior to that, the only fair option is a per meet allowance. With a monthly allowance, either the guy is providing allowance hoping the girl holds up her end, or the girl provides her part hoping the guy will come thru with the allowance. Too many sketchy men and women on the site to do that.

I've had very few disagree.

Once you find that one that lives alone in her own apartment, is hot in bed, appreciates all the little gifts you give her, makes time for you by moving her schedule around, you'll know that you are going to be giving her an allowance. Or at least a number of cash payments each month adding to an allowance.

I've found that one girl that deserves an allowance. I get to bareback her and not worry about it. Her boyfriend is on the west coast and I get to beat that pussy up twice a week for way less than a hooker would charge.

There are a few girls on SA that are in it to be a good SB. Don't paint them all as sharks.

[GoneForDays]

Don't do monthly either. I have faked it some saying we can work up to that as we build trust, but still not happening. Have had a couple pre-pays I have done in the past cause they needed the money now before we could meet again, which I had only agreed to because we had met before and had some fun, with the promise I will get mine later, still waiting for later.

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Once you find that one that lives alone in her own apartment, is hot in bed, appreciates all the little gifts you give her, makes time for you by moving her schedule around, you'll know that you are going to be giving her an allowance. Or at least a number of cash payments each month adding to an allowance.

I've found that one girl that deserves an allowance. I get to bareback her and not worry about it. Her boyfriend is on the west coast and I get to beat that pussy up twice a week for way less than a hooker would charge.

There are a few girls on SA that are in it to be a good SB. Don't paint them all as sharks.

[Madaboutmax]

". So you know I was the keynote speaker at the Sugarbaby Summit in April, speaking as a sex and relationship therapist. ".

It's women like this that contribute to the GPS frenzy. She speaks to other potential SBs and promotes her style of being an SB.

I've read Blogs where women justify being an SB as a "full time legitimate job". They spend lots of time and money making themselves look good and polishing their social skills to attract "a real SD". They promote "knowing your worth" and not accepting less. They discuss how to avoid the "intimacy issue" by hinting at future intimacy. They claim to create great experiences for their SD's, but yet are actively searching for a new SD every day.

I've asked the question: If you are creating such a great experience why are you looking for a new SD everyday and not having ongoing arrangements with your SD?

Much of what attracts many girls to the site is the promise of Big Fish that are willing to spend lots of money and won't expect intimacy (or at least can be held at bay with unfulfilled promises of intimacy).

The Baroness. Somehow I had totally forgotten her former profile, yeah she is full of it.

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[BStreet]

Don't do monthly either. I have faked it some saying we can work up to that as we build trust, but still not happening. Have had a couple pre-pays I have done in the past cause they needed the money now before we could meet again, which I had only agreed to because we had met before and had some fun, with the promise I will get mine later, still waiting for later.

I spent a week texting with this one, she was fairly persistent but has a bad case of GPS and insisted on a monthly allowance. I'm sorry, I just don't do monthly allowance, I just don't. No guarantee the SB won't just ghost you as soon as you hand over the cash. Besides, there are plenty o' fish out there who will agree to PPM if you're so inclined.

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[BStreet]

The Baroness. Somehow I had totally forgotten her former profile, yeah she is full of it.

I knew who this was even before I looked at the profile.

LOL. I believe she used to call herself the Baroness. Major GPS and not even close to worth it IMHO.

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[CoolPix]

She told me her expectations depended on how interesting she found me. She messaged me first and wanted to know too much about my occupation. I. e. Ability to pay.

I'm always circumspect when the SB approaches me first, especially when they are really attractive. This one approached me as well and once she insisted on her unrealistic expectation for a monthly allowance I stopped responding to her texts.

I haven't seen them in quite some time but there for a while there were a couple of BDSM profiles with smoking hot chicks that were trolling the SDs. I almost fell for one of them but, thankfully, the big head took over.

[CoolPix]

https://www.seeking.com/member/aa882...0-010a3153e395

I spent a week texting with this one, she was fairly persistent but has a bad case of GPS and insisted on a monthly allowance. I'm sorry, I just don't do monthly allowance, I just don't. No guarantee the SB won't just ghost you as soon as you hand over the cash. Besides, there are plenty o' fish out there who will agree to PPM if you're so inclined.

[S2568]

https://www.seeking.com/member/24af3...6-6f2c00683fda

This one gave me shock of my lifetime! Wanted $500 per meet non intimate. She is hot but no where near worth that much.

GPS all around, more and more on the site WTF.

I think there may be another scam going around, I was Favorited by a 18 hottie from NC in the nearby town her handle was.

Bunnylover11; she said she will make the journey. Wow she was so sweet and said she will drive 3 1/2 hours to see me! Nice daddy like me she wanted make the journey just for me all I had to do was to send her money for gas!

Another one from Williamsburg building up a case for me to donate for travel to Canada she doesn't have enough money to go! She is gone from the site now.

WTF these young ones think after being on there for few days they can scam a man who may be thinking with their dicks!! They won't be doing these sort of scams if they are not working on some morons!

Are may be there are pros using pictures of other places trying to scam people.

[S2568]

Anyone seen her?

https://www.seeking.com/member/273da...d-4c1c12c46a90

I met her onetime a while back she hosted near the forest hill area, she is hot wasn't heavy at that time its been a year may be now! But she is got nice hot body tall and huge tits for 3 bens.

[JustLonely]

I knew who this was even before I looked at the profile.

LOL. I believe she used to call herself the Baroness. Major GPS and not even close to worth it IMHO.

She told me her expectations depended on how interesting she found me. She messaged me first and wanted to know too much about my occupation. I. e. Ability to pay.

[Madaboutmax]

I knew who this was even before I looked at the profile.

LOL. I believe she used to call herself the Baroness. Major GPS and not even close to worth it IMHO.

She's been on SA for a decade, with the same unrealistic expectations and the same self-absorbed attitude. I think she spends some time in NYC and DC, where she may be able to find more men with the means she expects and a willingness to put up with her attitude.

Never forget: no matter how hot she is, some guy somewhere is tired of her shit.

[CantWinLosin]

https://www.seeking.com/member/aa882...0-010a3153e395

She's been on SA for a decade, with the same unrealistic expectations and the same self-absorbed attitude. I think she spends some time in NYC and DC, where she may be able to find more men with the means she expects and a willingness to put up with her attitude.

Never forget: no matter how hot she is, some guy somewhere is tired of her shit.