Seeking Arrangements

**Aardvarks** · 07-22-18 17:48

I'm usually pretty careful but current SB wanted bare for whatever reason. Says she is clean. So we did it and was quite amazing. But now I'm having all of those post BBFS doubts. Is this a paternity ploy? Do I ask for paperwork? Seems kind of silly at this point. Am I over thinking this?

**Oscar13** · 07-22-18 17:30

Originally Posted by ThatGuy23 [View Original Post]

Curious about those having luck on SA. Do you put a photo on your profile? If so, is it real?

I imagine many of us may not want to post or share a real photo.

Not for nothing, but if you want any success you pretty much need a picture. You can make it half your face and set others private so you decide who sees them. But as for a fake, remember how we feel when we get fakes from girls. Just my 2 cents.

**ThatGuy23** · 07-22-18 16:19

Curious about those having luck on SA. Do you put a photo on your profile? If so, is it real?

I imagine many of us may not want to post or share a real photo.

**Spill** · 07-22-18 15:59

Originally Posted by GuyInTheCorner [View Original Post]

Met with two ladies. Both at my hotel.

https://www.seeking.com/member/8b3e3...1-5c9c806a0449

More down to earth and real than I expected and what her pics and profile suggest. But virtually no head game and crazy paranoid about germs and sperm. Got up to wash repeatedly. Nice girl, but I don't plan to see her again.

https://www.seeking.com/member/3cd13...e-5f51ef8b2b82

She is for real. Funny, sweet, and genuine. Had a good time. Very talented hands and mouth. But very passive beyond that point.

Oh and there is some girl. NaughtyBby6 or something like that. Who is a total scammer. Avoid.

What were they a $king for?

**Member #6951** · 07-21-18 11:02

Met with two ladies. Both at my hotel.

https://www.seeking.com/member/8b3e3...1-5c9c806a0449

More down to earth and real than I expected and what her pics and profile suggest. But virtually no head game and crazy paranoid about germs and sperm. Got up to wash repeatedly. Nice girl, but I don't plan to see her again.

https://www.seeking.com/member/3cd13...e-5f51ef8b2b82

She is for real. Funny, sweet, and genuine. Had a good time. Very talented hands and mouth. But very passive beyond that point.

Oh and there is some girl. NaughtyBby6 or something like that. Who is a total scammer. Avoid.

**Mark IV** · 07-21-18 00:57

In light of recent events, we thought it might be time for a refresher course in the definitions of Sugar. Many are quick to label the Sugar lifestyle choice as prostitution, but there are many differences between this lifestyle and the oldest profession. High-end or not, a call girl is not an interchangeable word for a Sugar Baby. Here are four reasons why.

1. A Relationship vs A Transaction.

A prostitute and a client have a transactional relationship. They meet, exchange funds, and participate in some sort of physical act and part ways. Typically, this is a one time occurrence. A job. There is no relationship, and no possibility for a relationship. And that is the key difference really: Relationship.

Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies have on-going relationships, not transactions. More often than not, a Sugar relationship will resemble that of a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. There are real connections and real possibilities at romance, something that is not in the realm of possibility with an escort or prostitute. Just because a relationship doesn't follow the traditional rules of courtship, doesn't mean it isn't valid. It also doesn't mean it's illegal.

2. Being a Sugar Baby vs Being a Prostitute.

Sugar is a lifestyle choice, not a profession. A sugar baby is a woman who wants to date financially secure men who can provide her with the lifestyle she desires. She's selective about who she dates; a prostitute isn't picky about who she takes on as a client. The risks involved with prostitution are countless, and include exposure to crime, abuse, sexually transmitted diseases and theft of service. Many prostitutes are also subject to physical and emotional abuse, especially when involved with a pimp. And in Sugar, sex is never a requirement, only an aspiration.

3. Dating a Sugar Baby vs Ordering a Prostitute.

A Sugar Daddy is generous, and wants to see their partner succeed. When two people are involved in a mutually beneficial relationship, they respect and value one another's time. Sugar relationships can turn into long term serious relationships.

Prostitutes are paid to perform a service, while Sugar Babies sometimes receive funds as an added benefit of dating a generous man. A john doesn't want a hooker to stick around, and a Sugar Daddy doesn't want his Sugar Baby to leave. While an escort might have a sordid sexual history, a Sugar relationship is often monogamous.

4. Quality vs Quantity.

Most Sugar Babies aren't solely involved in the sugar world. Sugar Babies are also teachers, college students, actresses, and business professionals. They seek successful mentors that can advance their career, not a temporary fix. Sugar Babies can be present in the lives of Sugar Daddies because they have long-term professional goals, and interesting personalities to keep everyone intrigued.

Prostitutes on the other hand, use their trade as a source of income — it's a last resort for many women who are pressed for money. They aren't looking for mentors or anyone with a specific level of expertise.

You may meet hundreds of prostitutes before finding anyone to fulfill your emotional needs. Prostitutes are hired to role play for the evening — they'll be whomever you want them to be, but they won't necessarily be themselves. She treats you like a job, not like a man.

**FrankShooter87** · 07-17-18 13:42

Originally Posted by SwimSays [View Original Post]

When you get a chance check out the Richmond, VA SA forum. That seems to have the most information out of all the SA threads across the country. A lot of good info in there even though it doesn't apply to your location.

In my experience you will have the best luck if your schedules line up within a day or two of first starting to talk. Also if you are shooting for the younger college age type, the majority of them can't or don't want to host so have a plan for that as well.

Originally Posted by RICheeseHead [View Original Post]