The Raleigh area "Sugar Bowl" (SA, WYP, SD4 ME)

**StormyTuesday** · 10-15-17 23:43

Originally Posted by Righton1960 [View Original Post]

I've recently run through about 5-6 potentails and all of them are asking $$$ or more. Any insights? I thought things were dropping or leveling off. I just thank them for their time and move on, but man I must be picking some bad ones right now. Any tips for keeping things on the lower end? Not trying to low ball, nor do I want to break the bank.

Let's assume there are four different "places" in the "process" where the POT is asking for $$$ (or more). 1. The SA inbox 2. Your cell phone 3. The M & G 4. The FC. I am a big believer in NOT committing to a dollar amount until after the FC romp, at which time I quietly slip an envelope with a pretty card into her purse. If we had a good time and I intend to repeat I put $$ in the card, if it was not a good time then I put $. 5 in the card. The $. 5 rarely happens bc I typically have qualified the POT prior to the FC.

Now, how do I respond if the POT asks what kind of gift she could expect. If she asks in the SA inbox then I ask her to text me (leverage for the cell number so I can see if the number takes me to her FB). If she asks me in a cell phone message then I respond with "it depends on how much fun we have". I then move the convo to a day and time for the M & G. There needs to be enough finesse in the messaging so that she does not feel like the SD is lame, arrogant or disrespectful, but in fact a guy who sounds like a lot of fun. I then confirm the M & G the night before and the day of. When we meet for the M & G I have already booked a hotel room close to the M & G with a late afternoon cancellation deadline. After about ten to twenty minutes of the M & G (coffee, drinks, appetizer, etc) if we seem to click then I simply ask her "are you ok with a hotel date?" I have never in my two years in the bowl have had a POT say no to that question. If the POT does again ask what amount of gift can she expect I give the same answer. If by chance that non answer presents a problem for her, then no matter how stunning she may be I have to call it off. Because that tells me that she is not sold on me, either in terms of trust, appearance or my game. From her point of view she has to understand that I happen to be a weekly regular kind of SD. Yes I like variety but I also like to have a fun fwb type I can see every week. Believe me if you asked the POTS if they had a choice between a weekly SD they liked for a $$ per visit vs having to hustle with phone texting for the "one and done" $$$ SDs, they will tell you they much prefer the weekly $$ they can count on. But of course not all of us are looking for the weekly regular SB.

I know there are a good percentage of SDs in our local area who are providing $$$. I know this because my regular SB who hosts me once or twice a week ($ to $$) tells me she routinely gets $$$ on her other SD dates. Guys you are overpaying, worse it raises the gift level expectations. Remember these girls are not the BP pros that we had to negotiate for the hh or hr amount (or GFE, or BBBJ, etc) before we showed up at their motel with the outside doors. Moreover, there are two major advantages of not committing to the gift amount until after the romp. One, you stay in control. Second, they will put more effort into the romp. Just sayin' .

**Aswerty9111** · 10-15-17 20:09

Cubancolombianbaby. Says she never had an arrangements depsite the 9/2016 sign up date. Also said she wants to bring girl friend along for the meet, because beingher first meet, she's not comfortable about it. Hmm.

https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...b-7ede63bfdbd7

**Raltime** · 10-04-17 20:57

Originally Posted by Righton1960 [View Original Post]

I've recently run through about 5-6 potentails and all of them are asking $$$ or more. Any insights? I thought things were dropping or leveling off. I just thank them for their time and move on, but man I must be picking some bad ones right now. Any tips for keeping things on the lower end? Not trying to low ball, nor do I want to break the bank.

Why do you say bad ones??

It is based on their needs, or fantasies, and supply and demand. Maybe you are picking from the mid shelf or top shelf and need to select lower, look for the Red Label liquor. If the girl is real, and a real SB and has something unique, and not a pro, she is not going to jump in bed with the first fat guy talking with her. SB is not backpage, (there are backpage girls there). Also, there are a lot of girls out there willing to go lower, but they usually have issues.

**Righton1960** · 10-03-17 11:26

I've recently run through about 5-6 potentails and all of them are asking $$$ or more. Any insights? I thought things were dropping or leveling off. I just thank them for their time and move on, but man I must be picking some bad ones right now. Any tips for keeping things on the lower end? Not trying to low ball, nor do I want to break the bank.

**RWarNmsn69** · 10-03-17 01:01

Originally Posted by YayaGogo [View Original Post]

Interesting! The blonde asked to meet at a bar a couple of Friday's ago but I was busy and never replied.

Now I never will. Thanks for the heads up!

Yaya.

You're welcome Yaya! The blonde had been fairly aggressive in asking me out before but I didn’t connect the two of them or I might have passed. I wouldn't want any other forum member taken like I was though.

Safe mongering and sugaring!

**Raltime** · 10-02-17 20:29

Originally Posted by Triptogamont [View Original Post]

Fuck Chamber, I believe.

I never understand this odd term "FC" in reference to a true SB. A good SB, there is a lot more then just that end game.

**Triptogamont** · 10-02-17 19:24

Originally Posted by MarkUser [View Original Post]

Seen it mentioned a few times, read the FF, could not find its definition. I assume it is a "full consummation" or something similar to a SD / SB relationship?

Fuck Chamber, I believe.

**Mark User** · 10-02-17 15:19

Seen it mentioned a few times, read the FF, could not find its definition. I assume it is a "full consummation" or something similar to a SD / SB relationship?

**YayaGogo** · 10-02-17 15:03

Originally Posted by RWarNmsn69 [View Original Post]

Attached is a Facebook picture of the two women with "Carter" on the left and "Tatum" on the right. If you're currently in contact with these two, I'd recommend for you to cease all contact. You've been warned!

Safe mongering and sugaring!

Interesting! The blonde asked to meet at a bar a couple of Friday's ago but I was busy and never replied.

Now I never will. Thanks for the heads up!

Yaya.

**StormyTuesday** · 10-01-17 18:10

Originally Posted by RWarNmsn69 [View Original Post]

StormyTuesday, you're still my hero! If I wasn't so much older than you, I'd hope to grow up and be just like you.

Safe mongering and sugaring!

Thank you for saying that, tho you would be surprised if I told you my age (it is a closely guarded secret LOL) but I will only say that whenever a brother boasts of being twice the age of a particular SB I can't help but smirk. Good genes, good jeans and of course exercise and diet are part of the formula. BTW sent you a PM a few weeks ago, PM back when you can.

**RWarNmsn69** · 10-01-17 00:51

Originally Posted by RWarNmsn69 [View Original Post]

Aswerty9111, an old retired man can, that's who.

Avoid this woman and her partner, Tatumxo, like the plague. (Tatumxo has since blocked me on SA so I can't post a link for her.) I won't go into particulars but suffice it to say I got robbed. I had been talking to both of them for a couple of weeks but couldn't synchronize schedules and never realized that they were partners. I had talked to CarterM0208 on Tuesday evening so I wasn't surprised when she called me Wednesday morning. Fortunately, or should I say unfortunately, I was available. To make a long story short, I went out with them, got extremely intoxicated, and was taken advantage of. And not in the way I wanted to be taken advantage of. All I have left to say is I had to involve the local police so be careful out here!

Safe mongering and sugaring!

Attached is a Facebook picture of the two women with "Carter" on the left and "Tatum" on the right. If you're currently in contact with these two, I'd recommend for you to cease all contact. You've been warned!

Safe mongering and sugaring!

**Joerdu** · 09-30-17 06:08

Originally Posted by YayaGogo [View Original Post]

This is my experience as well with regards to average donation amount, meeting places and local hotel costs. However, I prefer weekly ongoing arrangements where the SB considers it dependable income so many will lower their asking price for the ongoing stability I represent. It's up to the girl whether she likes you enough to do that, so be prepared to offer much more to convince her

On a related note, I've been overwhelmed by the response rate from incredibly hot girls recently and cannot keep up even while being extremely selective. I'm loving it while it lasts but is anyone else experiencing this?

I could not agree more. Talent is very strong right there and with just a little bit of game combined with being a nice, attractive, successful guy, the cost is dropping. More and more of the younger girls are really into it for the experience of being spoiled a bit and see what it can be like with an older guy. They are tired of. Guys their age.

**RWarNmsn69** · 09-29-17 20:19

Originally Posted by Aswerty9111 [View Original Post]

She seems strange to me. Hit me up out of nowhere today with her# . Said she didn't want allowance but just get away and have fun whether at the beach or a couples massage. I mean it's Wednesday who can do that??

Originally Posted by RWarNmsn69 [View Original Post]

Hi fellow SDs.

Does anyone have any information on CarterM0208 on SA? Here is her link: https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...7-ec1aca3e7d76.

She mid 20's and gorgeous but seems a little flaky. I've been texting with her off and on for several days now and still no meeting scheduled. Thank you,

Safe mongering and sugaring!

Aswerty9111, an old retired man can, that's who.

Avoid this woman and her partner, Tatumxo, like the plague. (Tatumxo has since blocked me on SA so I can't post a link for her.) I won't go into particulars but suffice it to say I got robbed. I had been talking to both of them for a couple of weeks but couldn't synchronize schedules and never realized that they were partners. I had talked to CarterM0208 on Tuesday evening so I wasn't surprised when she called me Wednesday morning. Fortunately, or should I say unfortunately, I was available. To make a long story short, I went out with them, got extremely intoxicated, and was taken advantage of. And not in the way I wanted to be taken advantage of. All I have left to say is I had to involve the local police so be careful out here!

Safe mongering and sugaring!

**YayaGogo** · 09-29-17 16:20

Originally Posted by StormyTuesday [View Original Post]

I can tell you to plan on 200 for the SB per visit plus 80 for the hotel. Most of my M & Gs have been coffee or maybe an appetizer. Most of the SBs I did not take out to a meal on each visit but the ones I did I had more fun with getting to know them. $1000 is okay for maybe 3 FCs a month. But here is the real trick to this game. It's taking advantage of the timing. You get to a point in the texting (not on the SA site but on your phone) when you know they are ready to make it happen and you need to seize the moment.

This is my experience as well with regards to average donation amount, meeting places and local hotel costs. However, I prefer weekly ongoing arrangements where the SB considers it dependable income so many will lower their asking price for the ongoing stability I represent. It's up to the girl whether she likes you enough to do that, so be prepared to offer much more to convince her if she's not as into you. If you're presentable and personable (not a dick) they'll be receptive to the idea. I agree that you need to have some game and know how and when to just assume the sale and set up the FC meet.

On a related note, I've been overwhelmed by the response rate from incredibly hot girls recently and cannot keep up even while being extremely selective. I'm loving it while it lasts but is anyone else experiencing this?

**Aswerty9111** · 09-27-17 19:57

Originally Posted by RWarNmsn69 [View Original Post]

Hi fellow SDs.

Does anyone have any information on CarterM0208 on SA? Here is her link: https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...7-ec1aca3e7d76.

She mid 20's and gorgeous but seems a little flaky. I've been texting with her off and on for several days now and still no meeting scheduled. Thank you,

Safe mongering and sugaring!

She seems strange to me. Hit me up out of nowhere today with her# . Said she didn't want allowance but just get away and have fun whether at the beach or a couples massage. I mean it's Wednesday who can do that??