The Massholes

**CookyJar** · 06-23-14 12:27

See! This is why I like you so much. Not only do you give the woman's point of view. Which I find very helpful. You bring up topics which I've often thought about, but as a man, find it hard to being up and discuss in this forum.

Originally Posted by Deb4512 [View Original Post]

...An SP is in the service industry like a hairdresser, professional masseuse, reiki master, waitress, bartender. Remember we are women, people you know.And we're called escorts lmao. I'm not sure where the escorting comes in

I understand. I don't like being called a john or being referred to as a, "Client or Regular. " I'd rather be referred to as, "A Friend. " So, I understand why some girls might not like being called some of the names we use.

Whenever possible I like using first names or, girl, lady, women, friend or similar terms. I use streetwalker or streetworker when it's necessary to distinguish between BackPage girls, and girls who can be found on the streets. Actually I prefer the term, "Provider or Providers," short for, "Sex Provider. " But! We have to be able to distinguish between the types - right? BackPage providers advertise solely on BackPage. Escort Providers advertise on sites like EROS, have their own personal websites and sometimes can be found on sites like BackPage. Street providers can be found walking the streets. Providers may sometimes move between the different designations, however, what we are referring to is the most recent location where the provider can be found. There is also another designation which I find a little baffling, "The UTR (under the radar) Provider. " The UTR Provider depends on word of mouth or magic to meet friends.

Originally Posted by Deb4512 [View Original Post]

...An SP is in the service industry like a hairdresser, professional masseuse, reiki master, waitress, bartender...
don't you think it'd be weird if you went to a hairdresser, masseuse, just sat in the chair, or on the table and didn't say Hello,?
it's your money and you have the right to have the session run the way you want. But it's really treated me like a nonhuman. Like you are ashamed of what you've done, maybe ashamed of me? This part of escorting it the part I dislike the most, as much as when a guy calls me a working girl while pulling my hair. I'm trying to figure out what to do about it. I'd rather be more on the human end of the business. Any suggestions on how I can do that? I need mental stimulation.

You are one hundred percent right; you are in the service industry.

Some guys go into their local barber shop and talk their asses off. Others set in the chair, tell the barber how to cut their hair, pay up and leave; they just are not much for talking. There are all types of people who come into a barber shop and a good barber understands that. Some guys like the old fashion barber shops. Others like the new style hair cuttery. In any case, guys get their hair cut at the shop where they feel comfortable and by the barber who cuts their hair the way they want their hair cut.

It's the business, sweetheart (another term I like). And in business the customer is always right. A good barber know that not everyone is a talker and try to make even the less talkative feel at home in their shop. Personally I hate it when my barber tries to get me involved in an uninteresting subject of conversation.

INHO, a good Provider is a provider of fantasy fulfillment. Not every guy tells the provider their fantasy. Sometimes it is not necessary. Sometimes the guy can get what he wants and fulfill his needs without saying much. Sometimes it's little more than a nice relaxing BJ. More often than not it's something they cannot get elsewhere. Other times, the guy wants something more. The good Provider figures out how to give her friends what they come to her for without embarrassing or discouraging them and without degrading herself. Sometimes what the guy wants is to degrade the Provider. Shooting sperm over a providers face may not seem degrading, and he doesn't know why his wife won't let him do it to her. To the guys who like doing it, it may not seem degrading, and they are willing to pay to prove it. To them, it's fun.

Most guys start out not knowing what they really want. Slowly their fantasies evolve. Most guys claim they like GFE. What they really want is to hug and kiss, then do and say a whole bunch of stuff they'd never do or say to a wife or girlfriend. And! Sadly! There are some guys who simply see providers as receptacles. For some guys the nasty receptacle is the fantasy. It is how they see women in general. Mostly we are guys who need a little something different from what's readily available to us.

I always speak, that's just being polite. I am always a gentleman. Usually I will apologize either before and certainly after, for any rude or ungentlemanly things I may say or do. I always explain that noting I say or do should be taken personal. A good Provider has got to be prepared for a little dirty talk and some hair pulling. They (the customer) cannot call their wife *****, so they pay you for the opportunity.

The jest of the thing is: It is the, "Sex Trade. " It is not the, "Making Friends Trade. " It is nice when you can combine work, pleasure and friendship. It is not going to happen all the time.

OH! And, one more thing! When I am done, I am done. I am ready to go. There is nothing else to do. I am not in love. You are not in love. I'm not looking for a lover and neither are you. What's there to talk about? The weather, what's on TV or how good the BJ was? I'm not ashamed, nor am I trying to make anyone feel bad. There is just nothing else to do, unless you are going to give me another shot or fix dinner. You haven't been used, you've been paid. I don't wait around at the barbershop after my hair's been cut. Offer to fix me a snack and I might stay.

CookyJar.

**Deb4512** · 06-23-14 09:22

I'm a quirky, think outside of the box type of gal. I'm very passionate and intense, artistic, spiritual. I really enjoy friendship, intimacy, affection and some sort of connection and especially mental stimulation. I just find the in and out cold, indifferent encounters to be kind of boring. They lack passion! Nothing personal if that's what some guys like. I mean I read the posts and some of you would prefer not to get to know the SP personally, but are more interested in a purely physical encounter. I got involved in escorting on a whim, because I needed money desperately. But this is my personality and it'd be like cutting off my arm to be any different. I'm trying to figure out how I can attract clients who are like minded. I'm not sure how to go about doing that. Also I'm not into volume, especially not anymore, because I'm financially stable. I know I'm supposed malleable and be whatever type of woman the client desires, but I want to enjoy the experience too.

**Member #4785** · 06-22-14 11:25

Anyone have positive dealings with canadian pharmacies for Viagra?

Thanks CM.

**Deb4512** · 06-22-14 10:19

Guys, this is just a suggestion, not mandatory so I hope you don't take offense if this sounds like you. An SP is in the service industry like a hairdresser, professional masseuse, reiki master, waitress, bartender. Remember we are women, people you know. We aren't blow up dolls unless we are so stoned or out of it when we see you. It'd be nice if when you came for a visit to say Hi Debbie, how are you doing? And I'd say Hello, John, great how about you? What do I get sometimes, but a glum faced guy who doesn't say Hello, doesn't want to look me in the eye, but wants to rush to my bedroom. No introduction whether I know them or not. I'm not a SW! I know you guys are paying, but don't you think it'd be weird if you went to a hairdresser, masseuse, just sat in the chair, or on the table and didn't say Hello,? Plain weird. So you're in a hurry. I mean I get these calls, "Can I see you for 15 min!" Are you serious? Good money for me, because it's easy, but really. You know how boring it is to have a customer like this? And we're called escorts lmao. I'm not sure where the escorting comes in. I actually like it when you guys like to relax afterwards and chat. I'm human and this is the most human contact I get since I'm not working. I have to say having clients like this makes me feel icky. And then when you're finished and I go to hug you goodbye I sometimes get pushed away. I know it's your money and you have the right to have the session run the way you want. But it's really treated me like a nonhuman. Like you are ashamed of what you've done, maybe ashamed of me? This part of escorting it the part I dislike the most, as much as when a guy calls me a working girl while pulling my hair. I'm trying to figure out what to do about it. I'd rather be more on the human end of the business. Any suggestions on how I can do that? I need mental stimulation.

**Admin2** · 06-21-14 19:39

Originally Posted by Dh1610 [View Original Post]

Ledger if you aren't sending a least all 3 of us these love notes I will be very disappointed. Remember all eyes are on you. If you aren't a good boy you will get worse than coal in your stocking at Christmas time. I am sure with our 3 minds combined we can dream up something really special for you.

Not that I'm mentioning anybody in particular, but when I let slip the dogs of war, it's a haker Kolektive from Minsk. Way more than three minds.

**Dh1610** · 06-21-14 18:10

Ledger if you aren't sending a least all 3 of us these love notes I will be very disappointed. Remember all eyes are on you. If you aren't a good boy you will get worse than coal in your stocking at Christmas time. I am sure with our 3 minds combined we can dream up something really special for you.

Originally Posted by SmokeScreen [View Original Post]

You better be careful what you say about him, don't forget he told us "they will come to get you", meaning you, PW, me, and a few others.

**Smoke Screen** · 06-21-14 16:23

Originally Posted by Dh1610 [View Original Post]

Come on Ledger step forward. I use to be amused by you but now you are more like that annoying pesky mosquito that will soon fly into the bug zapper.

You better be careful what you say about him, don't forget he told us "they will come to get you", meaning you, PW, me, and a few others.

**Dh1610** · 06-21-14 14:53

Come on Ledger step forward. I use to be amused by you but now you are more like that annoying pesky mosquito that will soon fly into the bug zapper.

**Deb4512** · 06-21-14 14:46

And who says women are the only one's with drama LOL. At least WE make sense.

**Admin2** · 06-21-14 14:38

So the insane guy sends me an email saying that I sent out all his PM's and he's going to sue me.

FYI for any of you guys that want to foist douchebaggery like that on me.

By design I have no access to any PM's. I can't even look at them if you ask me to. The ONLY thing I can do is delete them all. The only way to send a PM or make a post is while signed into your account. Because Jackson is a criminal genius a long time ago he decided to have passwords encrypted on the server. I can't see them. I also can't change them because again, the only way to do that is while logged in, or with the email you control.

Nice try douchebag.

Notice, I mentioned no names in labeling somebody as insane, you can only say I'm talking about you if you identify yourself as the subject of my comments. It could be anyone of the 350,000 registered user names on the forum.

**Deb4512** · 06-21-14 09:53

1 Tasteful Blonde and Classy Brunette. Ladies in the street but freaks in the sheets - 27 Doesn't ladies in the street mean streetwalkers? LOL.

**Dh1610** · 06-21-14 09:47

Private Investigators.

I am moving you over her onto Massholes where you belong.

Hi buddy nice to hear from you and thanks for your short miss spelled half intelligent PM. I think you have it all wrong. ALL eyes are on you nitwit. But don't miss understand me-it was HALF nice to know that you are still alive and kicking.

**MishMash** · 06-20-14 21:33

Originally Posted by Deb4512 [View Original Post]

http://boston.backpage.com/FemaleEsc...ay-27/26696214

At this wage is expect these two to clean my house, do the dishes, then the laundry. Then cook me a meal.

**Stressed Out** · 06-20-14 17:41

Originally Posted by Deb4512 [View Original Post]

Soft skin means old? LOL. According to men, don't all women have mental, emotional problems? Lmao. Gosh darn dude, women are so damn emotional! LOL. Also who's normal and what's normal? I like eccentric, thinking out of the box, a bit off kilter and different from everyone else. .

Men:

Intelligent: nerdy.

Well endowed: hung like a horse and brags about it.

Macho: melodramatic LOL.

Guarded unavailable commitment phobes: very sensitive, emotional guy who has experienced too much drama from women, probably has dated model type princesses.

Sexually aggressive men: hasn't had sex in months to years or are trying to add notches to their belt.

Married or with a girlfriend: sexless and horny= most mongers.

Gee. I recognize that last one. Must be where the acronym DSB came from. LOL!

**Deb4512** · 06-19-14 18:51

Soft skin means old? LOL. According to men, don't all women have mental, emotional problems? Lmao. Gosh darn dude, women are so damn emotional! LOL. Also who's normal and what's normal? I like eccentric, thinking out of the box, a bit off kilter and different from everyone else. .

Men:

Intelligent: nerdy.

Well endowed: hung like a horse and brags about it.

Macho: melodramatic LOL.

Guarded unavailable commitment phobes: very sensitive, emotional guy who has experienced too much drama from women, probably has dated model type princesses.

Sexually aggressive men: hasn't had sex in months to years or are trying to add notches to their belt.

Married or with a girlfriend: sexless and horny= most mongers.