"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[JZLizard]

For whatever it may be worth, even prior to my official entrance to the online sugar bowl, I have extensive experience with online dating and cannot count the number of times I've met someone in person. Every now and then you get a disappointment in the sense that the photo is real but she's not what you'd hoped she'd be, but I never ran into a case where someone sent me a photo that was completely fake.

I did once make the mistake of ordering an escort to where I lived at the time (my apartment, did not have live-in GF at that time so nothing to lose) based on an online ad, and it turned out to be a bait and switch. Pudgy girl greets me at the door and I said "sorry, but you're NOT the girl in the pics" well "its not my fault I'm with an agency" and I started to close the door and she tried to grab the knob and resist the door being closed and dead bolted in her face. It did not turn out in her favor. I'm thankful she didn't sit there and try to knock or cause a scene though. Note this experience was with the escort scene and NOT online dating or sugar babying.

In online dating, asking someone to personalize their photos for you is asking too much IMO. If a girl asked me to do that I'd tell her to get fucked (by someone else). Most people have a limited number of pictures of themselves they want to share, and to ask them to create a new one just to appease the fears of someone they've never met is an unreasonable request IMO. You might find some girls willing to do that but for every one that does there are probably 20 that are going to just move on to the next guy that is not making demands outside the norm.

Meeting someone to have it turn to disappointment is simply one of the risks you take in the bowl and with online dating in general. I think most of the time you'll find that girls represent themselves pretty well online. More often than not, I'm usually pleasantly surprised when I see them in person for the first time. Most girls are already in the attractive category (well beyond fuckable with beer goggles) before they decide to try sugar babying. There are some rats, and there are some hookers that are posing as true sugarbabys so your mileage may vary somewhat, but that's been my experience.

Many years ago I met a grad student online that lived about 3.5 hours away. This was not an SB POT but a dating website find. She sent me kind of a modeling photo and said "I don't really look that good, they had a good makeup guy and photographer". Well we talked on the phone once or twice but I never visited her. She calls me up one day about 6 months later and said she has to go to a seminar for school that's about 30 minutes from where I am and was wondering if I could meet her, and do I have a spare room she can stay in. I said yeah so she comes to meet me after her seminar and we go to dinner. At dinner I was mostly looking at her face thinking about her comment about how the photo didn't look like her (she was right, she was not nearly as pretty). But, she was nice and I already committed to letting her stay with me so I just enjoyed the date. Back at the house we had a couple of drinks and I showed her where she was sleeping. She went take a shower and came out of the shower with this little white nitey on that was stuck to her wet skin and I could see everything. Turns out she had a rocking little body on her that more than addressed any attractiveness concerns I had. She said "do you mind if I sleep in your room instead of the spare bed? Sure honey why not... Hehe... So I ended up going down on her, she reciprocates with amazing BBBJCIM then I'm off to sleep. She kisses me goodbye on the cheek in the morning before she heads home and we never spoke again. So sometimes good things come to those who remain open minded.

If they are sending pics that don't show their face or body or act like they're hiding something, it's within etiquette to ask them for photos with better visibility, and it's fair to ask how recent they are. I do think it's asking too much for personalized photo work, just remember there are lots of other guys who won't press them for same if they are worth meeting, and for all they know you could be the type that backs out at the last minute.

[SkinJr]

I just try and get a selfie with something personalized that verifies their profile. A photo of them holding a piece of paper with my name on it is the easiest.

Most of the sb I have run across I'm sure are working girls. Too eager to provide info and such.

The 22 year old that just today refused to send a photo finally caved. After I told her "I'm daddy..." and went silent for thirty minutes she finally broke and started texting back and sent a photo. Our rappaport got casual and joking immediately. She wants to meet asap.

I'm just very nervous about meeting with someone from the internet. I've also got another problem that is my own doing. This sb, like most, is the same age as my gf and she lives in a nearby college city. My gf went to school with several chicks at this school.

Skin.

[KrustyDawg7]

Here's one for you guys...some lessons in here somewhere.

I had a M&G set up with a 26 y / o POT, and it was a pretty good drive from home, but I had a whole day off so what the heck...I had a
Couple of good pics of her from the SD site but no good face shot but I'm willing to take a chance because everything else lined up OK.

And we had chatted on the phone some.We were to meet at a small conv-store along the highway, since she was getting a ride there from a friend.
So I'm sitting there are the appointed time and the call comes thru that her "ride" didn't work out and could I drive back a mile or so and she would be walking down a side road.

So I head on down there, and off one road to another someplace way back in the Virginia countryside, and find this little gal walking down a dirt road,
In the rain, in sandals. It felt like a scene out of a movie. She was a cute thing and a little ragged from getting her hair wet, but she climbed in.
my car and we headed out on the highway again. So we get acquainted while driving into town, and she is obviously interested in going right to a
Motel for some fun. Who am I to argue, but these sorts of situations illustrate the "grey area" between SB's and escorts. So we get a place and
agree on an amount for a session, $ This is where it gets a little more interesting...seems that she is really dirt-poor, has several kids.

No job, broke down car.basically a financial basket case. The sex was OK but nothing really to make me want to repeat, and later we got something to eat, then I dropped her back on that dirt track road. The point here is that some of the SB's are beyond "fixing". There is really no amount of money within reason that a SD could provide,
that is going to improve their life. Sad but true. This is what has become of the bottom third of people in the US. Us guys are lucky to have jobs and a few extra $ to throw around for fun, but I think from my experience I like to see a SB who can at least pull their own weight financially, and my gifts of funds are simply for little luxuries that they can't afford. The really poor ones already have no money management skills, and it's easy for them to latch onto a SD and bleed them broke. Us older guys can't imagine what the future holds for broke girls in their 20's but we can't allow it to ruin us as well. There are better situations out there, just got to keep looking.

-krusty.

[KrustyDawg7]

Long time lurker, first time poster here.

I have been following this thread for sometime now and appreciate all the advice and stories. It has helped me out tremendously. I'm not new to the sd / sb game but I am new to doing it thru the internet. When I had several busineses / stores operating I constantly had new sb to play with regularly. Now I'm looking new opportunities.

I have a membership with SA and SDFM. For my area SA seems a better site, and I prefer the info it provides. But both sites have cumbersome platforms that sometimes irritate me. I haven't been impressed with what I'm finding. I've had a lot initially respond then go dark. I know they are active on the site but I do not hear anything. I've had several keep contacting me and providing verification but they are not hot enough.

Right now I've got one that doesn't understand the concept of verifying her photos. She keeps sending me pics but nothing that personalizes it for me. So I'm dropping her.

Just now I basically got into a text war with another sb. Although she had multiple photos on the site she would not personalize a photo for me and could not understand the concept. Then she wanted me to send her a photo. Her argument was "I'm the girl dude! After trying to educate her with no success I finally told her "I'm the daddy! I'm the one with money and reputation so good bye".

I'm thinking this internet approach is too much work with the site messages, emails, and text messages.

Skin.

Re: personalizing photos: I can understand your caution with some of the photos that the girls post on these SD sites. You have to weed out the fakes and the Russians, etc. That being said I have had excellent result using google image search on the pics they use in their ads, and have many, many times caught SBs using stock girlie photos from the internet or escort ads and the like. Sometimes I even copy the link and mail it back to them saying "BUSTED!" Beyond that most of the time the photos are legit, although if they are too tiny, dark, blurred or no face shot I'll ask for a better pic to be sent to my off-site email. Some of these girls are obviously not gifted in the taking photos dept, although these days most have plenty of experience doing FB or TWTR. I sometimes use a free photo editor such as irfanview to enlarge, brighten or otherwise edit a pic so that I can see what's in it. A little research and due diligence (DD) can usually answer most questions about "real" or "fake".

-krusty.

[FredMoore]

Long time lurker, first time poster here.

I have been following this thread for sometime now and appreciate all the advice and stories. It has helped me out tremendously. I'm not new to the sd / sb game but I am new to doing it thru the internet. When I had several busineses / stores operating I constantly had new sb to play with regularly. Now I'm looking new opportunities.

I'm thinking this internet approach is too much work with the site messages, emails, and text messages.

Skin.

Welcome Skin, perhaps you can educate us how to prospect for SBs in the real world. Even though you are an experienced SD, fishing on the web is an art form in itself. Just be patient and work it a little slower.

What do you mean by personalizing a photo? Many of us (both sexes) are reluctant to send too personal a view until we get a comfort level established with the Pot. You will be missing a lot of good Pots if you are too pushy up front. Unless it involves a long trip to see her, use the M&G as the ultimate qualifyer.

[SkinJr]

Long time lurker, first time poster here.

I have been following this thread for sometime now and appreciate all the advice and stories. It has helped me out tremendously. I'm not new to the sd / sb game but I am new to doing it thru the internet. When I had several busineses / stores operating I constantly had new sb to play with regularly. Now I'm looking new opportunities.

I have a membership with SA and SDFM. For my area SA seems a better site, and I prefer the info it provides. But both sites have cumbersome platforms that sometimes irritate me. I haven't been impressed with what I'm finding. I've had a lot initially respond then go dark. I know they are active on the site but I do not hear anything. I've had several keep contacting me and providing verification but they are not hot enough.

Right now I've got one that doesn't understand the concept of verifying her photos. She keeps sending me pics but nothing that personalizes it for me. So I'm dropping her.

Just now I basically got into a text war with another sb. Although she had multiple photos on the site she would not personalize a photo for me and could not understand the concept. Then she wanted me to send her a photo. Her argument was "I'm the girl dude! After trying to educate her with no success I finally told her "I'm the daddy! I'm the one with money and reputation so good bye".

I'm thinking this internet approach is too much work with the site messages, emails, and text messages.

Skin.

[HollywoodGuy]

You guys know how this goes. The regular, 9 month in progress, "I am getting sore"are you going to come"... So the fun drains out. Back to the bowl. Had a M&G lunch with a College Babe, supposed to be hot but gotten fat and pics on SD4 M were old...how about that. Bought her lunch and dropped her off. "Aren't you going to give me something for my time"...No. "Didn't you agree when we talked"...no. "The ATM is 3 minutes away, is it a problem"yes... I got to go. Called me an asshole and threw her 1/2 a sandwich at me as I drove off. Ah...the sugar bowl. Takes patience. Mine is wearing thin lately so going low key. Only sent blow-up texts for the next 2 hrs. Think I dodged a bullet. Keep safe.

The good thing about dating 20 year olds is that its harder to fake the pics. LOL. I like the sandwich story. Been threatened with worse. But its rare. Hang in there dude.

[Graham111]

You guys know how this goes. The regular, 9 month in progress, "I am getting sore"are you going to come"... So the fun drains out. Back to the bowl. Had a M&G lunch with a College Babe, supposed to be hot but gotten fat and pics on SD4 M were old...how about that. Bought her lunch and dropped her off. "Aren't you going to give me something for my time"...No. "Didn't you agree when we talked"...no. "The ATM is 3 minutes away, is it a problem"yes... I got to go. Called me an asshole and threw her 1/2 a sandwich at me as I drove off. Ah...the sugar bowl. Takes patience. Mine is wearing thin lately so going low key. Only sent blow-up texts for the next 2 hrs. Think I dodged a bullet. Keep safe.

[Ltnric]

The post sounds like Ltnric and the girl are not on the same page.

This is why I like this forum. Honest people with great insight. Thanks everyone for the good advice. Yes Golfcart, doesn't sound like we are on the same page and I ain't driving over an hour to find that out. Thanks everyone.

[FyrGuy33]

So I guess I am a noob. I have only used SA for a few months and the only action I have seen is coffee with a potential and then there was some miscommuication long story short not sure if that will pan out. I've been chatting up this girl who goes by the name Rose is 21 and lives in Tabb Virginia. She feeds me some line about how the last guy used to give her $2,000 per visit and finally drops to $500 minimum. I tell her I will do $300 and I'll drive to her (we are about an hour away). She said fine and she asks me what I want. I play it safe and I suggest we go grab lunch and come back to my hotel room and give her a massage and see how things go. I finish up by saying that I hope she understands what I want and I hope we are both on the same page. She emails back "what are you expecting and like a noob I say I was looking for some oral fun. She said ok. Does this sound like a set up. IF anyone has had an experiece with Rose who is 21 and from Tabb VA let me know. Thanks.

I NEVER discuss details of allowance or what I expect in return until we are sitting face to face having our M&G. You can usually get a feel for what they are looking for by what they post in their profile on the SB sites. I tend to believe, like others, that she is playing you. And, I would never commit to $300 without meeting her and being satisfied that I am going to get all that I am looking for. You have to ask yourself, is it acceptable to you if all she does I'd give you some oral? I would think not. No way is anyone in the Tabb Virginia area giving her $2,000 per visit. I would remind her that ship sailed. Also, do not give her a penny until she enters into the FC. Like Charlie Sheen once said, "I don't pay them for sex, I pay them to leave." I would suggest everyone absorb the fine advise that has been offered by others here. When you put it all together, you reduce your chances of being disappointed. Gentlemen, we work too hard for our hobby money to let a POT easily lift it from us. Remember, they need the green stuff from us far more than we need their pussy. If they don't want to play by my rules, I just say "NEXT!

[Golfcart]

Does this sound like a set up.

The post sounds like Ltnric and the girl are not on the same page.

[HollywoodGuy]

Thanks for all the inquiries about the C. It has all gone to a trusted senior member.

[HollywoodGuy]

Most of these girls are manipulating us to improve their station in life. In this case, it is important to avoid discussing sex and money in the same conversation. It is unlikely that this girl is an agent of the Law trying to set up SDs. She just wants to know how much work she is going to have to. She is a hustler and GPS and does not want to have sex with you. Only a moron would think that they will get $300 for showing up, but that doesn't mean they won't try. For $ in that area you should expect the whole enchilada.

Tell her that an allowance of $ will be paid only after you enter into a relationship, and you will discuss the ins and outs (so to speak) of that relationship when you see her. When asked, tell her you are looking for a sweet and sexy girl (like her) to spend some quality private time with every (week, month, etc) when you have a hotel room in her area. It is your hope that this relationship will be like any special one that would include romance. Any allowance you pay would be just for her expenses. You expect to spend (hrs, days, seconds,) with her when you are together. Ask her if this something she is interested in? Stay general until you know her and are doing the deed. Then you can be specific about services you like and expect.

RE: Donald Sterling. It demonstrates that even Billionaires don't have common sense when dealing with pussy. He is being played like a Banjo by this little dirtbag. And who in their right mind would give an SB 3 cars? You see, even he has to show her how big his balls are.

And if you read deeper he admitted they and some past SB's didn't even have sex that often. But the millions he spends are worth less to him than the thousands we spend. It's all relative. Hope I get rich again so I can move up to $$ per date. LOL. At that price I would have them lining up around the block 100 deep.

[JoeBlowDC]

Seniors in the DC Metro area - (not sure where to post) - she's in MoCo and $ can NOT host and open to everything but greece. Nice personality and is just in a hard spot with no job etc. Got to be nice to this one LOL. Hit me up for e-mail.

[FredMoore]

So I guess I am a noob. I have only used SA for a few months and the only action I have seen is coffee with a potential and then there was some miscommuication long story short not sure if that will pan out. I've been chatting up this girl who goes by the name Rose is 21 and lives in Tabb Virginia. She feeds me some line about how the last guy used to give her $2,000 per visit and finally drops to $500 minimum. I tell her I will do $300 and I'll drive to her (we are about an hour away). She said fine and she asks me what I want. I play it safe and I suggest we go grab lunch and come back to my hotel room and give her a massage and see how things go. I finish up by saying that I hope she understands what I want and I hope we are both on the same page. She emails back "what are you expecting and like a noob I say I was looking for some oral fun. She said ok. Does this sound like a set up. IF anyone has had an experiece with Rose who is 21 and from Tabb VA let me know. Thanks.

Most of these girls are manipulating us to improve their station in life. In this case, it is important to avoid discussing sex and money in the same conversation. It is unlikely that this girl is an agent of the Law trying to set up SDs. She just wants to know how much work she is going to have to. She is a hustler and GPS and does not want to have sex with you. Only a moron would think that they will get $300 for showing up, but that doesn't mean they won't try. For $ in that area you should expect the whole enchilada.

Tell her that an allowance of $ will be paid only after you enter into a relationship, and you will discuss the ins and outs (so to speak) of that relationship when you see her. When asked, tell her you are looking for a sweet and sexy girl (like her) to spend some quality private time with every (week, month, etc) when you have a hotel room in her area. It is your hope that this relationship will be like any special one that would include romance. Any allowance you pay would be just for her expenses. You expect to spend (hrs, days, seconds,) with her when you are together. Ask her if this something she is interested in? Stay general until you know her and are doing the deed. Then you can be specific about services you like and expect.

RE: Donald Sterling. It demonstrates that even Billionaires don't have common sense when dealing with pussy. He is being played like a Banjo by this little dirtbag. And who in their right mind would give an SB 3 cars? You see, even he has to show her how big his balls are.