"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[John G Smith]

This subject came up a couple of months ago, so I'll just repost what I said then:

Nice to see pictures here.

And I don't want to discourage people from posting pics, but I'll give you guys my reasons for not posting pics just so you can evaluate both sides of it.

The people who post in this forum I think are mostly honorable men / mongers / SDs. Unfortunately, for every poster in this thread there are 10 lurkers who read this board many of which don't even have an account on the site. They're not bound by the ethics of our little brotherhood here. For example, if some lurker recognizes a girl from a picture I post, he could be a jerk and contact her on the SD site / email / txt and point her to this topic. Now this SB knows my full diary of activities and it's a big breach in my cover because someone can now connect my face to my forum account. Even if she doesn't know my full identity, having her know my forum account is a risk because she could cause havoc if she ever did find out my identity.

Also, the vast majority of us are using the same three sites to find SBs and fish in the same ponds as many of the lurkers. The more pictures you post, just increases the odds that someone will recognize a baby you're seeing.

Again I'm not trying to discourage people from posting pics, but you should just be aware of the risks involved. If you're married or have a high-profile job, you probably should refrain from posting pics. If you're single and own your own business then the risks probably aren't that bad.

[F Scott]

Am I the only guy to post pics of babies and pots here?

I notice guys are keeping their babies pretty well hidden. What give?

Personally, I like to see the qualities of fine babies you gents are pulling in.

So, consider this an invitation to post away.

Smoke,

Hollywood, Tigg and a few others have been more than generous with sharing, but I, for one, have never felt comfortable asking my babies if I could take pics, and in fact I can't even conceive of a way to broach the subject without having them immediately jump up, slap me, get dressed, and head out the door. This may be my own hang-up, but there it is.

The one time I did post pics, which were sent to me by a POT, I immediately regretted it, so I'm not going to be a good source for you, sadly. I agree though, I think it's nice to put a face to a name, but I would hope the clubhouse journal would not become overrun with slide shows, since one member's ATF could easily be another's WTF, and I would hate for this beautiful thread to become another pitched battlefield!

Just my opinion,

Scott

[Member #5570]

Am I the only guy to post pics of babies and pots here?

I notice guys are keeping their babies pretty well hidden. What give?

Personally, I like to see the qualities of fine babies you gents are pulling in.

So, consider this an invitation to post away.

[Magic Rat]

I am not a lurker, so do I qualify to post? .

Finally a none HYM. Guess it's my luck that I've meeting with 3 HYMs the past couple months.

I am not a big fan of AA girls, but this cutie seems to have lots of potentials. 24, went to college, work, and has her own place.

Needs help with her $1500 rent.

Agreed on $175 weekly allowance for 2 FC visits per week. I'll update in a couple of days after our first FC date.

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I live in a resort town with very little to no decent jobs outside of waiting tables, working in hotels, government or healthcare. The joke here is that it's a great place to live but BYOJ. Bring your own job. A decent 2 bedroom apartment here costs at least $1, 000 a month. Sorry if I seem a little down here, but my last two Pots quoted me prices of $500 and $1, 000 PER VISIT! $175 for 2 visits per week? Maybe I should consider moving!

[Member #5570]

Am I the only guy to post pics of babies and pots here?

I notice guys are keeping their babies pretty well hidden. What give?

Personally, I like to see the qualities of fine babies you gents are pulling in.

So, consider this an invitation to post away.

[Member #5570]

Scott. I am not surprised if her rent is 1500 a month, again do I really care if it is? .

A decent downtown 2BR apartment in my area can easily command at least 1200. She used to have a roommate, but the roommie moved out. Or so she said.

She's asking for help with her rent, not pay it for her. This girl got a job. LOL.

Like you said Scott, I proposed a weekly allowance so we can test things out, which she gladly accepted. I am having her come to the FC to see me this Weds so will see.

[John HandCock]

Sort by "last visit" and hit up every girl that was on within the last 48 hours.

Thanks for the advice, will give that a shot and see what happens.

[HollywoodGuy]

I cast my net for a 50 mile radius and there is over 100 pages of SB in this range and I have sent out numerous messages

Sort by "last visit" and hit up every girl that was on within the last 48 hours.

[HollywoodGuy]

Smoke,

You've posted before, so I'm sorry to say you do not qualify as a lurker, at least in my book, but thanks for signing in anyway!

Two things I notice right away, and I would welcome additional comments: $1500 a month rent! I don't know where you are located, but in Chicago, that buys you a sweet highrise apartment with a view of Lake Michigan and a terrace! If this is what she says she's paying it must be some fabulous pad, or she could be jerking your chain.

I would go with the latter, since she is asking for less than half of her monthly rent, not even the total monthly nut, for two conjugal visits per week. (I'm hoping I've done the math correctly. If not, sorry, I was a Humanities major in college!) At this point I would be asking myself if I even wanted Two visits per week, four weeks a month, twelve months a year, ten years a decade. Well, you get the point.

All this to say that if you want to hit it, by all means full speed ahead! What could it hurt? And nothing ventured, nothing fucked, if that's how that saying goes. But you might want to suggest to her that you start off with a weekly allowance, just to make sure you two are sympatico, and note to yourself the escape hatches nearest you should you have to bail.

In any event, please let us know how it all turns out.

In other news, my Nola baby (obsession!) , has cast up on the shores of Lake Michigan completely unexpectedly this weekend, and we are planning a get-together tomorrow around noon! My brothers, many of you know how I feel about her, so if I never post here again, you will know what has happened, and I hope you will contact me in the future should you ever get down to the Big Easy. I'd love to have a beer with you!

Fingers totally crossed,

Scott

1500 in any decent part of LA will get you a shitty 2 BR apt or a decent 1 BR or a nice studio. Nice but not awesome. Thats why I try to stick to the burbs.

[F Scott]

I am not a lurker, so do I qualify to post? .

Finally a none HYM. Guess it's my luck that I've meeting with 3 HYMs the past couple months.

I am not a big fan of AA girls, but this cutie seems to have lots of potentials. 24, went to college, work, and has her own place.

Needs help with her $1500 rent.

Agreed on $175 weekly allowance for 2 FC visits per week. I'll update in a couple of days after our first FC date.

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Smoke,

You've posted before, so I'm sorry to say you do not qualify as a lurker, at least in my book, but thanks for signing in anyway!

Two things I notice right away, and I would welcome additional comments: $1500 a month rent! I don't know where you are located, but in Chicago, that buys you a sweet highrise apartment with a view of Lake Michigan and a terrace! If this is what she says she's paying it must be some fabulous pad, or she could be jerking your chain.

I would go with the latter, since she is asking for less than half of her monthly rent, not even the total monthly nut, for two conjugal visits per week. (I'm hoping I've done the math correctly. If not, sorry, I was a Humanities major in college!) At this point I would be asking myself if I even wanted two visits per week, four weeks a month, twelve months a year, ten years a decade ... well, you get the point.

All this to say that if you want to hit it, by all means full speed ahead! What could it hurt? And nothing ventured, nothing fucked, if that's how that saying goes. But you might want to suggest to her that you start off with a weekly allowance, just to make sure you two are sympatico, and note to yourself the escape hatches nearest you should you have to bail.

In any event, please let us know how it all turns out.

In other news, my Nola baby (obsession!!) , has cast up on the shores of Lake Michigan completely unexpectedly this weekend, and we are planning a get-together tomorrow around noon!! My brothers, many of you know how I feel about her, so if I never post here again, you will know what has happened, and I hope you will contact me in the future should you ever get down to the Big Easy. I'd love to have a beer with you!

Fingers totally crossed,

Scott

[Member #5570]

I am not a lurker, so do I qualify to post? .

Finally a none HYM. Guess it's my luck that I've meeting with 3 HYMs the past couple months.

I am not a big fan of AA girls, but this cutie seems to have lots of potentials. 24, went to college, work, and has her own place.

Needs help with her $1500 rent.

Agreed on $175 weekly allowance for 2 FC visits per week. I'll update in a couple of days after our first FC date.

[Dsprdo]

Does anyone use one of the paid reverse phone lookup services when doing background? None of them are free, and I am not sure it's worth paying for. I was wondering if anyone had tried one and could comment on it.

[F Scott]

How about if we all stop posting until at least 3 new guys post. Lurkers / newbies cmon. Seems like the same 10 guys do all the posting. I think I posted on the site my first day. It was probably lame, but so what. No newbie bashing for the first 3 new posters. LOL

LBs (Lurker Brothers) ,

It is time to come out of the shadows and contribute! Even if it is only about POTS, it would be nice to hear of your experiences. I know you are out there, don't be shy!

Waiting,

Scott

[John HandCock]

How about if we all stop posting until at least 3 new guys post. Lurkers / newbies cmon. Seems like the same 10 guys do all the posting. I think I posted on the site my first day. It was probably lame, but so what. No newbie bashing for the first 3 new posters. LOL

Us newbies at least me don't have a lot to report. I have been a member of SD4M for a month now and I'm just not feeling the love LOL. I have had one M&G and that was from CL, which I thought went well. This was a married lady who has a shitty husband with 2-3 kids that needed help. She had just gotten off work and had 15 minutes to meet before having to be home. We ended up making out in the car, and she was very eager to take it to the next level when she left for home. Upon getting home she sent me a text that she couldn't wait for the next meeting and from there it went south.

I think she had a morality attack because I stressed to her that if she had any hopes for her marriage that she shouldn't do this because no matter how careful she was sooner or later the husband would find out. I would text and it would be hours before she would reply, then she was just too busy to make another meeting so after a week of this I gave up on her. The closest Sb to home to contact me is 1/2 hour drive, a 36 year old with kids that needs help, but there again has decided to try a second job before trying the SB route. I have had a bunch of ladies contact me that are 4-5 hours or further away but not going to get into the traveling mode for this. I cast my net for a 50 mile radius and there is over 100 pages of SB in this range and I have sent out numerous messages but as yet have not received any responses from the ladies close to home. Starting my 2nd month of SD4M and will evaluate what I want to do at the end of the month. This is why most lurkers don't post because we really have nothing to contribute.

[HollywoodGuy]

How about if we all stop posting until at least 3 new guys post. Lurkers / newbies cmon. Seems like the same 10 guys do all the posting. I think I posted on the site my first day. It was probably lame, but so what. No newbie bashing for the first 3 new posters. LOL