"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

**Turtman** · 04-02-23 14:18

Joined seeking again after an year, since my long time sb has gone radio silent and LOL everything changed now, met couple of them recently but lot of them don't like the $$ - $$$ any more. Everyone wants to discuss with 5 $ as a start. Many of them seem to make $$ just with online content. And with the recent posts it is making me question myself is it even worth pursuing this style of dating.

Janedoe3.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...f-e54de2b3cb0e

Only interested in selling online content.

Layla.

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...b-e04c33fddff2

Real profile, no consistency with scheduling.

Rosy.

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...5-d96ccf2b62f1

Real but need $$ for initial m&g.

CollegeGirl.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...a-3e7a50d98039

Need 4 $ for each ppm. Previous reports did not confirm any action aside the same negotiation.

Brownsugarbabe.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...8-f91f8456fa36

Asked for 5 $ but okay with 3. 5 and mentioned okay with anything. Seems like a pro more than a sb.

Nadianas.

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...2-1fd5845c8338

Conversation was good thought we really clicked, but wanted 8 $ as a start for each meet.

Tip: Started off with some good meetups scheduled but negotiated a 350 meetup with one of the sb which I don't have the link anymore. Right after this everything went down hill, not sure if she wrote up some stuff about the negotiation. All the lineups went silent and also response rate declined like crazy on SA.

Have one final meeting scheduled and hoping it to go well, in other case will take a break from sugar dating.

**LouisHernandez** · 04-02-23 13:49

Originally Posted by Lozo43 [View Original Post]

Never used the gifting option on SA but was curious as to if they get a notification that somethings been purchased for them? I have this one potential sb I am very interested in but they haven't been online in a few weeks, I was wondering if I sent them a gift would they get a notification? TIA.

Don't ever do that. That's SIMPing 101.

Cash after services are rendered or you'll just get scammed.

**FarFarAway** · 04-02-23 13:32

Originally Posted by Lozo43 [View Original Post]

Never used the gifting option on SA but was curious as to if they get a notification that somethings been purchased for them? I have this one potential sb I am very interested in but they haven't been online in a few weeks, I was wondering if I sent them a gift would they get a notification? TIA.

If you view the wish list, you get an email when she adds something to it. I am 99% sure that she also gets an email that you viewed it. I have had girls message me with questions like 'would you like to get me a gift, I saw you viewed my list?

I definitely use the wish list and favoriting as a way to get a girls attention. Some of these literally get dozens and dozens of messages per day. Many of them are throw-aways, but still, a way to stand out is useful.

I have never gotten a gift for a girl. The minimum $ is about $40. I have been tempted when I didn't have a paid membership to try to use this as a mode of communication. Not cost efficient though.

I have seen other posts that say that a girl can accept or decline the specific gift you send, but still gets the $ value to spend on what she wants.

Of course, all of the stuff on there is overpriced. There is a Michael Kors purse they have like $450. There is an outlet near me where I can pick it up for $100. I definitely have given gifts of the latter value to an ongoing SB I really liked, and vice versa. That is an investment. She relocated out of the area so we aren't regulars anymore, but when she returns to visit her family, we always meet for FC.

**Shizzy6969** · 04-02-23 11:39

Yes they do get a notice. However, I'd caution against using this as a way to "ping" for notice. There a hundred reasons why a potential sb goes radio silent. Gift for response seems to be aggressive.

Originally Posted by Lozo43 [View Original Post]

Never used the gifting option on SA but was curious as to if they get a notification that somethings been purchased for them? I have this one potential sb I am very interested in but they haven't been online in a few weeks, I was wondering if I sent them a gift would they get a notification? TIA.

**Lozo43** · 04-02-23 09:40

Never used the gifting option on SA but was curious as to if they get a notification that somethings been purchased for them? I have this one potential sb I am very interested in but they haven't been online in a few weeks, I was wondering if I sent them a gift would they get a notification? TIA.

**LouisHernandez** · 03-31-23 22:15

Originally Posted by BobeSugar [View Original Post]

This is 100% scam, no doubt about that. She is a pro and she has used this scam on dozens of men probably. The problem with these trash people is that they never stop. Once you give her money, you will be the golden goose. What's there to stop her? Think about that. I think you should respond that you need to consult with your lawyer about that and your lawyer is going to take over from this point on.

I'm just impressed he scored with this hot pro BBFSCIP. How much was that?

**LouisHernandez** · 03-31-23 22:12

Originally Posted by FarFarAway [View Original Post]

I am really trying to figure out what I need to do to make my pix anonymous from facial recognition. I ran this profile photo of a POT I have been messaging w /, and the site could not identify a face. So, that is one strategy that doesn't rely on a filter.

I located another means to thwart facial rec, a program called Fawkes. However, what you have to do is run all of your photos through it and then post them. That prevents the different FacRec engines from forming a model they can use to identify your photos. You essentially 'dilute' the data they need with these new cloaked photos. For what is already out there on the web, I have been asking people to take them down, or to substitute a cloaked photo.

Looks interesting. Excellent find, thanks for sharing.

**BobeSugar** · 03-31-23 21:45

Originally Posted by PornRider [View Original Post]

That's actually what I proposed, but then she countered that she would never let me accompany her as she is going with her mom and best friend. This is one of the red flags that I got from the whole exchange. It was very suspect from the beginning. Then today she said that she would be willing to take the pill, but that the cost would be $1600. I said that sounds high, and she said to do my research. I strongly believe now that she is trying to hustle me.

This is 100% scam, no doubt about that. She is a pro and she has used this scam on dozens of men probably. The problem with these trash people is that they never stop. Once you give her money, you will be the golden goose. What's there to stop her? Think about that. I think you should respond that you need to consult with your lawyer about that and your lawyer is going to take over from this point on.

**PornRider** · 03-31-23 20:28

Originally Posted by PeterJohnson [View Original Post]

If it was me, I would just offer to take her to get the abortion and pay for it. Do you want to take a chance that she's really pregnant and then have to pay child support for 18 years?

$3200 is a bargain if she's really pregnant. And she probably isn't, but it's dangerous to call her bluff.

I had this happen to me, many year ago, with a regular POF girl that I saw a few times. I told her I would take her to the clinic and pay, and then I never heard from her again.

That's actually what I proposed, but then she countered that she would never let me accompany her as she is going with her mom and best friend. This is one of the red flags that I got from the whole exchange. It was very suspect from the beginning. Then today she said that she would be willing to take the pill, but that the cost would be $1600. I said that sounds high, and she said to do my research. I strongly believe now that she is trying to hustle me.

**PornRider** · 03-31-23 20:26

Originally Posted by NewAnonymousName [View Original Post]

It is or it isn't her? You said no and then yes in successive posts.

The SA link is her, but the second link is not. I replied after clicking the sumo link only, but then realized the first one was correct.

**Peter Johnson** · 03-31-23 20:23

Originally Posted by PornRider [View Original Post]

I just got a call from a former sugar baby that I had seen for maybe 4-6 weeks who I stopped seeing a couple of weeks ago. She said that she is pregnant with my kid and wants an abortion, but she's only willing to do a surgical abortion where she's under anesthesia in North Carolina. She's asking for $3200 for the procedure. And she refuses to take the abortion pill or any other procedure.

I want to believe her, but I'm worried that I'm being scammed. Does anyone have advice on what I should do?

If it was me, I would just offer to take her to get the abortion and pay for it. Do you want to take a chance that she's really pregnant and then have to pay child support for 18 years?

$3200 is a bargain if she's really pregnant. And she probably isn't, but it's dangerous to call her bluff.

I had this happen to me, many year ago, with a regular POF girl that I saw a few times. I told her I would take her to the clinic and pay, and then I never heard from her again.

**LikeMike1963** · 03-31-23 19:32

May be too late for this but I would tell her to take that scam somewhere else as you had a vasectomy. Even if you have not.... worse case you can always come back and say the only way you will pay is if you go with her..

Originally Posted by PornRider [View Original Post]

Yeah, that's what my suspicions are as well. I told her that I'm not comfortable giving her thousands of dollars blindly, and now she's barraging me with texts and threats. She wrote that she'll be reaching out to my side of the family, and job, etc. It looks like I made a really bad decision hooking up with this one. This whole experience has made me regret going into this lifestyle. Stay safe out there, boys.

**FarFarAway** · 03-31-23 19:12

I am really trying to figure out what I need to do to make my pix anonymous from facial recognition. I ran this profile photo of a POT I have been messaging w /, and the site could not identify a face. So, that is one strategy that doesn't rely on a filter.

I located another means to thwart facial rec, a program called Fawkes. However, what you have to do is run all of your photos through it and then post them. That prevents the different FacRec engines from forming a model they can use to identify your photos. You essentially 'dilute' the data they need with these new cloaked photos. For what is already out there on the web, I have been asking people to take them down, or to substitute a cloaked photo.

**NewAnonymousName** · 03-31-23 17:15

Originally Posted by PornRider [View Original Post]

Yep, it is.

It is or it isn't her? You said no and then yes in successive posts.

**BobeSugar** · 03-31-23 16:46

Originally Posted by PornRider [View Original Post]

I don't have a link to profile on SA, but I do have pictures I can share. These are the photos that she used on her SA account.

And DM me for the phone number she uses, because I don't think we're allowed to share personal information on this board. She says she works as a nurse.

You have 2 options: cops or lawyer. Giving her money isn't an option because it will be beginning of extortion. You can hire a tech professional who could find her identity and as much information as possible. These dumb girls post their entire life on social media. You can leverage that information and tell her that you're going to the cops for extortion. . And this thing ain't no nurse, she looks like a pro.