"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

[FarFarAway]

Hey all, I am a long time lurker who has finally decided to bite the bullet and am looking for some advice. I have finally come into a little money and thought I would give this whole sugar thing a whirl, it seems much more appealing to me than the traditional escort route. I work from home with a job that has half forgotten about me so I have the time, have a nice enough apartment and car to impress, and have finally come into a bit of money so I have the funds. The only thing in my way is that I still have a girlfriend (one who I have not slept with since the pandemic). We have separate finances and I drive her to and from work most days so no real threat of the whole coming home early thing, but still not ideal. Are there any more senior members willing to lend some wisdom on how to navigate this sorta thing so I do not end up with more trouble than I bargained?

Richmond, VA has a sugar thread that isn't just local, it has become de facto a place where SDs from across the country go to read and post. Somewhat like Atlanta. However, they have an archive of all the valuable posts from the past. Sort of a how to.

[NewAnonymousName]

300 for a bang average 45 yo? Fuck that shit LOL. You can get chicks like this on bumble all day long for the price of lunch or dinner.

Bumble is off limits for those with significant others. But I get your point about price. Given that she hosts, it's more like 200 or less for her when you don't have to pay for a hotel room. Still pricey for a 45 y.o., but not outrageous in a pinch (if she’s good).

[Member #6718]

Had lunch with her. She's a real chatter. She's a photographer and claims she was taking pictures once and it happen to get Trump in the picture so the secret service took her camera and Trump persoanlly bought and gave her a new one. She talked so much that time ran out on me before we could get back to her place. I'm thinking she wanted 300 but could host. I just never followed back up with her LOL.

300 for a bang average 45 yo? Fuck that shit LOL. You can get chicks like this on bumble all day long for the price of lunch or dinner.

[SugarDaddio]

I liked her look pretty good.

Thanks. How does she look? The pics are hard to tell.

[NewAnonymousName]

Had lunch with her. She's a real chatter. She's a photographer and claims she was taking pictures once and it happen to get Trump in the picture so the secret service took her camera and Trump persoanlly bought and gave her a new one. She talked so much that time ran out on me before we could get back to her place. I'm thinking she wanted 300 but could host. I just never followed back up with her LOL.

Thanks. How does she look? The pics are hard to tell.

[SugarDaddio]

Had lunch with her. She's a real chatter. She's a photographer and claims she was taking pictures once and it happen to get Trump in the picture so the secret service took her camera and Trump persoanlly bought and gave her a new one. She talked so much that time ran out on me before we could get back to her place. I'm thinking she wanted 300 but could host. I just never followed back up with her LOL.

Does anyone know the story on 2Sassy4U? I was chatting her up before the holidays, but I went dark on her when some family and work conflicts put me on the sidelines for a couple months. She revoked my private picture access, so I'm sure I'll have some work to do to get back in a positive groove that could lead to meeting up. Is she worth the trouble?

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...2-c05edd90efb7

[NewAnonymousName]

Does anyone know the story on 2Sassy4U? I was chatting her up before the holidays, but I went dark on her when some family and work conflicts put me on the sidelines for a couple months. She revoked my private picture access, so I'm sure I'll have some work to do to get back in a positive groove that could lead to meeting up. Is she worth the trouble?

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...2-c05edd90efb7

[NewAnonymousName]

All great advice here. And can buy Hotels.com gift cards at many locations, including Walmart and Target. However, you will still often need a regular credit card for deposit / incidentals. I sometimes use a prepaid VISA card for this, but many hotels insist on a regular one, with your name on it. But those charges often drop off, so less risk that just paying for hotels with main credit card.

I still say burner phone is better than regular one, and could hide it with little to no chance of detection, if you are smart about it.

I had a burner phone. But it was too much work trying to be sure my significant other wouldn't find it. There were several times over the years when she would have found it if I hadn't been lucky that day. I ditched it and use google voice on my real phone.

When I'm single again, I’ll go back to having a second phone. It's convenient to have one device that is entirely for chasing sugar babies.

[LoriTruck]

These 2 are an actual couple but I just can't seem to score. Both are real and cute but I got platonic vibes. Was quoted 250 each, not sure if that includes fun in the sack.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...9-fe20f388f908

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...3-4e9cc38929cd

[Jims2321]

Dump her if you're not having sex. Haha.

But seriously, I wouldn't bring women to your place when the girlfriend lives there. Too much risk that a woman refuses to leave, shows up unannounced, or blackmails you.

Women who host are usually hard to find on Seeking. But that's the first choice.

Does your girlfriend review your credit card statements? If not, hotels will easily work as plan B to finding women who host. If she does review your credit cards, youll have to buy hotels.com gift cards at Office Depot with your credit card (if you can explain the office store charges) or cash.

Use a fake name. Never give your real phone number. Use google voice instead or Kik or WhatsApp. A burner phone is risky because the girlfriend might find it. Obviously delete your browsing history.

I've got to ask is having your GF review your personal financial information a thing now? It certainly wasn't back 30 years ago when I was dating. Hell even when I got engaged to my wife, she still didn't need to know. After your married that might be an thing.

[Peter Johnson]

Dump her if you're not having sex. Haha.

But seriously, I wouldn't bring women to your place when the girlfriend lives there. Too much risk that a woman refuses to leave, shows up unannounced, or blackmails you.

Women who host are usually hard to find on Seeking. But that's the first choice.

Does your girlfriend review your credit card statements? If not, hotels will easily work as plan B to finding women who host. If she does review your credit cards, youll have to buy hotels.com gift cards at Office Depot with your credit card (if you can explain the office store charges) or cash.

Use a fake name. Never give your real phone number. Use google voice instead or Kik or WhatsApp. A burner phone is risky because the girlfriend might find it. Obviously delete your browsing history.

All great advice here. And can buy Hotels.com gift cards at many locations, including Walmart and Target. However, you will still often need a regular credit card for deposit / incidentals. I sometimes use a prepaid VISA card for this, but many hotels insist on a regular one, with your name on it. But those charges often drop off, so less risk that just paying for hotels with main credit card.

I still say burner phone is better than regular one, and could hide it with little to no chance of detection, if you are smart about it.

[Peter Johnson]

Hey all, I am a long time lurker who has finally decided to bite the bullet and am looking for some advice. I have finally come into a little money and thought I would give this whole sugar thing a whirl, it seems much more appealing to me than the traditional escort route. I work from home with a job that has half forgotten about me so I have the time, have a nice enough apartment and car to impress, and have finally come into a bit of money so I have the funds. The only thing in my way is that I still have a girlfriend (one who I have not slept with since the pandemic). We have separate finances and I drive her to and from work most days so no real threat of the whole coming home early thing, but still not ideal. Are there any more senior members willing to lend some wisdom on how to navigate this sorta thing so I do not end up with more trouble than I bargained?

First of all, one of the good things about sugar dating is that you don't really need to "impress" the girls with a nice car and apartment, etc. It doesn't hurt, but it's not really necessary. All you need is the right amount of $$$ to get 90% of them into bed, which is clearly a big part of this.

Second, if you have a gf, who lives with you it is a very risky move to bring any other girls back there. Just that idea sounds a bit self destructive or like self sabotage. Maybe you like the thrill of living dangerously, but it's generally not a great idea to let many of these girls even know where you live, much less if you have a gf/wife. There are all kinds of crazy stalker women out there. You could do nothing wrong, and they could still show up at your door and cause trouble.

Also, I wouldn't be texting them with your regular phone or phone #. Get a separate burner phione and use an app like Sudo or TextNow, or Google Voice #.

Anyway, there are 100 ways to get caught cheating, and if you can think of 50 of them, you are a genius. I've been in your situation before, so I know the risks.

And others are saying to dump your gf, if not having sex, but I bet it is not that simple. Sex has never been a big part of a LTR for me, which is why I need the side p*ssy action. But you can still love and care about your SO and not want to get rid of her.

So good luck, and there is plenty of additional advice in this thread, every day.

[CarmelFight]

Hey all, I am a long time lurker who has finally decided to bite the bullet and am looking for some advice. I have finally come into a little money and thought I would give this whole sugar thing a whirl, it seems much more appealing to me than the traditional escort route. I work from home with a job that has half forgotten about me so I have the time, have a nice enough apartment and car to impress, and have finally come into a bit of money so I have the funds. The only thing in my way is that I still have a girlfriend (one who I have not slept with since the pandemic). We have separate finances and I drive her to and from work most days so no real threat of the whole coming home early thing, but still not ideal. Are there any more senior members willing to lend some wisdom on how to navigate this sorta thing so I do not end up with more trouble than I bargained?

I was single when I had my SB's so didn't have this issue, we all have our different reasons on having a SB or a line up of SB. To me it seems like a lot of work just to get some pussy if you have to basically tip toe and sneak it from your SO. If you haven't slept with your girlfriend since the pandemic (that's like 2 years ago) maybe you should rethink the whole having a girlfriend? SB is like having a GF without the whole drama issues of a relationship. Temp GF in simple terms. Some of us deal with SB drama and we drop en like it's hott and post it on here so another guy hits it haha.

[NewAnonymousName]

Hey all, I am a long time lurker who has finally decided to bite the bullet and am looking for some advice. I have finally come into a little money and thought I would give this whole sugar thing a whirl, it seems much more appealing to me than the traditional escort route. I work from home with a job that has half forgotten about me so I have the time, have a nice enough apartment and car to impress, and have finally come into a bit of money so I have the funds. The only thing in my way is that I still have a girlfriend (one who I have not slept with since the pandemic). We have separate finances and I drive her to and from work most days so no real threat of the whole coming home early thing, but still not ideal. Are there any more senior members willing to lend some wisdom on how to navigate this sorta thing so I do not end up with more trouble than I bargained?

Dump her if you're not having sex. Haha.

But seriously, I wouldn't bring women to your place when the girlfriend lives there. Too much risk that a woman refuses to leave, shows up unannounced, or blackmails you.

Women who host are usually hard to find on Seeking. But that's the first choice.

Does your girlfriend review your credit card statements? If not, hotels will easily work as plan B to finding women who host. If she does review your credit cards, youll have to buy hotels.com gift cards at Office Depot with your credit card (if you can explain the office store charges) or cash.

Use a fake name. Never give your real phone number. Use google voice instead or Kik or WhatsApp. A burner phone is risky because the girlfriend might find it. Obviously delete your browsing history.

[Nominal]

Hey all, I am a long time lurker who has finally decided to bite the bullet and am looking for some advice. I have finally come into a little money and thought I would give this whole sugar thing a whirl, it seems much more appealing to me than the traditional escort route. I work from home with a job that has half forgotten about me so I have the time, have a nice enough apartment and car to impress, and have finally come into a bit of money so I have the funds. The only thing in my way is that I still have a girlfriend (one who I have not slept with since the pandemic). We have separate finances and I drive her to and from work most days so no real threat of the whole coming home early thing, but still not ideal. Are there any more senior members willing to lend some wisdom on how to navigate this sorta thing so I do not end up with more trouble than I bargained?