Cuddle Comforts?

[Blackfin]

I feel like doing this much (sensual vibe incense, essential oils for massage etc.) during a normal cuddle session would be perceived as weird. Also, you have to be very careful in testing the waters in terms of where you can massage her. The linked youtube video assumes the woman is naked, is ok with you touching her butt and the side of her breasts. These might not be true for the cuddler.

I've had my fair share of successes from CC, sometimes with massage and sometimes without, but setting up the room in this way would likely scare a regular CC provider instead of comforting her. All my massage turned extras on CC have been regular massages without any oils or extra music (just the fact that your partner asks you to massage her is generally a good sign).

My typical playbook.

Mention you get a little nervous and would they mind getting a drink / chat for 30 minutes.

To the bedroom. I wear lose fitting shorts, no underwear.


Have the girl face away from you, massage her back and neck above the clothes, slowly touch her ass and under the shirt, but still professional. Ask if she likes her head massaged.

I look for a response.

Then switch to her head on my chest, I tell her I like my chest and stomach lightly touched.

She now sees that I am turned on, if really turned on, with the help of Viagra, I may be sticking out the top of my shorts.

What does she do?

I am rubbing the back of her head, slight hair pull, pulling her head close to mine.

It either continues to more from here or I tell her to roll back over for another massage, ask her to take her shirt off so I can really get her back, will start to rub on her and hope for more.

We have either hooked up to some extent, chemistry and I think another session would help, or my tricks did not work and I move on.

[AngryMan420]

Blackfin hit the nail on the head. Too many of why'all go into sessions, bent on getting the same positive results other dudes post of & end up butthurt with blueballs after no nuts got busted LOL.

Going to be Captain obvious for this. But If you don't pull attractive / semi attractive non sexworker women irl your chances of scoring extras from a cc pro are highly unlikely.

Offering a massage will 100% increase your chances of having fun, Yet you got to genuinely enjoy massaging women. Set the mood right, burn some incense (superhit is a good one that gives off sensual vibes) or have some essential oils being diffused to relax her like lavender+peppermint / eucalyptus (put a shit ton of lavender if you want her in a semi sedative state).

Have some dim mood lighting to match the energy of a soulful / sensual playlist with songs you hand picked.

Treat the session like a tinder / bumble date & you're halfway there.

I get it we're all just trying to bust a nut. But sincere effort matters.

If you're going to test out the waters with a cc pro using massage, keep these moves in your toolbox. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLLZwWn3qnI.

I feel like doing this much (sensual vibe incense, essential oils for massage etc.) during a normal cuddle session would be perceived as weird. Also, you have to be very careful in testing the waters in terms of where you can massage her. The linked youtube video assumes the woman is naked, is ok with you touching her butt and the side of her breasts. These might not be true for the cuddler.

I've had my fair share of successes from CC, sometimes with massage and sometimes without, but setting up the room in this way would likely scare a regular CC provider instead of comforting her. All my massage turned extras on CC have been regular massages without any oils or extra music (just the fact that your partner asks you to massage her is generally a good sign).

[Blackfin]

Great advice. I would say just enjoy legitimate cuddling, focus on making her feel relaxed and safe, and let her feel comfortable enough to open up. Either by her making the first move, or making it obvious she wants you to make the first move. Listen to her breathing, see where she guides your hands, notice where she rests her crotch, or if she's getting hot, etc. I have gotten lucky many times. Sometimes the first cuddle was very vanilla, but made her feel comfortable enough for a second cuddle, and that's where things got spicy.

Exactly right. The breath, slightly grinding on you, moans. All good signs. CC is a fun game for sure. But for God sake, take a shower and brush your teeth. The stories i have heard....

[RyanE36]

Blackfin hit the nail on the head. Too many of why'all go into sessions, bent on getting the same positive results other dudes post of & end up butthurt with blueballs after no nuts got busted LOL.

Going to be Captain obvious for this. But If you don't pull attractive / semi attractive non sexworker women irl your chances of scoring extras from a cc pro are highly unlikely.

Offering a massage will 100% increase your chances of having fun, Yet you got to genuinely enjoy massaging women. Set the mood right, burn some incense (superhit is a good one that gives off sensual vibes) or have some essential oils being diffused to relax her like lavender+peppermint / eucalyptus (put a shit ton of lavender if you want her in a semi sedative state).

Have some dim mood lighting to match the energy of a soulful / sensual playlist with songs you hand picked.

Treat the session like a tinder / bumble date & you're halfway there.

I get it we're all just trying to bust a nut. But sincere effort matters.

If you're going to test out the waters with a cc pro using massage, keep these moves in your toolbox. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLLZwWn3qnI.

Great advice. I would say just enjoy legitimate cuddling, focus on making her feel relaxed and safe, and let her feel comfortable enough to open up. Either by her making the first move, or making it obvious she wants you to make the first move. Listen to her breathing, see where she guides your hands, notice where she rests her crotch, or if she's getting hot, etc. I have gotten lucky many times. Sometimes the first cuddle was very vanilla, but made her feel comfortable enough for a second cuddle, and that's where things got spicy.

[PekWrecker]

Blackfin hit the nail on the head. Too many of why'all go into sessions, bent on getting the same positive results other dudes post of & end up butthurt with blueballs after no nuts got busted LOL.

Going to be Captain obvious for this. But If you don't pull attractive / semi attractive non sexworker women irl your chances of scoring extras from a cc pro are highly unlikely.

Offering a massage will 100% increase your chances of having fun, Yet you got to genuinely enjoy massaging women. Set the mood right, burn some incense (superhit is a good one that gives off sensual vibes) or have some essential oils being diffused to relax her like lavender+peppermint / eucalyptus (put a shit ton of lavender if you want her in a semi sedative state).

Have some dim mood lighting to match the energy of a soulful / sensual playlist with songs you hand picked.

Treat the session like a tinder / bumble date & you're halfway there.

I get it we're all just trying to bust a nut. But sincere effort matters.

If you're going to test out the waters with a cc pro using massage, keep these moves in your toolbox. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLLZwWn3qnI.

I have sadid this before on a CC thread. The girl has agreed to come to cuddle with you for whatever her rate is. In the mind of a "non pro" or 'non escort" that is all that is happening. It is up to us to figure out how to turn them on that they want something physical from us. What I said or did is not going to work for you.

My strength is not my looks age is not on my side, but I am fit, very clean, neat and organized and in a nice house or hotel. I am interested in learing about people and when it comes to cuddlling, I offer to give them a massage.

Maybe this helps.

[Fonmyj]

I wouldn't try to step your game up. I would just move on to someone else. If you've done multiple sessions with her and she's focused on the benjamins it's not going to happen for you bro.

You're absolutely right. It's a waste of time and money trying to force something that isn't there. The personal dynamic is unpredictable, and if you're not getting anywhere, the best move is to cut your losses and find someone you have a better connection with. I've had the same experience in fbsm. Sometimes a provider is a favorite of others but the interaction just falls flat for me. On the flip side, I have fantastic experiences with a few providers who offer more than what's on their public menu, but I'm under no illusion that I'm the only one. There's no point in throwing good money after bad.

[AngryMan420]

Any info on a_safe_space. She's based in LA but travel throughout SoCal. I understand she has a menu from previous reports, would appreciate some intel on prices, offering, general attitude and session experience etc.

https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/a_safe_space

[Dcsd12]

Damn I didn't realize so many people got free FS from her. I've seen her multiple times and she's always been about the benjamins with me. Guess I need to step my game up.

I wouldn't try to step your game up. I would just move on to someone else. If you've done multiple sessions with her and she's focused on the benjamins it's not going to happen for you bro.

[Orangethorpe]

Damn I didn't realize so many people got free FS from her. I've seen her multiple times and she's always been about the benjamins with me. Guess I need to step my game up.

I would say alot most have struck out it seems. Only 2 reports of FS and one saw her multiple times before it happened.

[JoeJoesph]

Damn I didn't realize so many people got free FS from her. I've seen her multiple times and she's always been about the benjamins with me. Guess I need to step my game up.

Why did you see her multiple times? 🤣. She's not even attractive.

[Spammycakes]

Yeah I had the same experience actually. I think with a lot of the girls its YMMV.

I had a session with her over a year ago or so, and I didn't even ask about anything, just began touching her, and rubbing my dick against her ass, which was really nice. And she grabbed my hand and guided it down to play with her. After a few minutes I stopped, and she asked me why and I told her that if she wanted more she had to blow me. So that happen. Also had sex with no additional $.

A lot of these girls aren't escort. They'll charge you a crazy amount because they aren't fucking everybody they meet. So if timing is right and you treat them good and they're horny. Something will happen.

Damn I didn't realize so many people got free FS from her. I've seen her multiple times and she's always been about the benjamins with me. Guess I need to step my game up.

[FabricBuster]

Crochetcuddles. She's a sub but I couldn't seal the deal and didn't want to push. Maybe one of why'all have better game than I.

[Blackfin]

Yeah I had the same experience actually. I think with a lot of the girls its YMMV.

I had a session with her over a year ago or so, and I didn't even ask about anything, just began touching her, and rubbing my dick against her ass, which was really nice. And she grabbed my hand and guided it down to play with her. After a few minutes I stopped, and she asked me why and I told her that if she wanted more she had to blow me. So that happen. Also had sex with no additional $.

A lot of these girls aren't escort. They'll charge you a crazy amount because they aren't fucking everybody they meet. So if timing is right and you treat them good and they're horny. Something will happen.

I have sadid this before on a CC thread. The girl has agreed to come to cuddle with you for whatever her rate is. In the mind of a "non pro" or 'non escort" that is all that is happening. It is up to us to figure out how to turn them on that they want something physical from us. What I said or did is not going to work for you.

My strength is not my looks age is not on my side, but I am fit, very clean, neat and organized and in a nice house or hotel. I am interested in learing about people and when it comes to cuddlling, I offer to give them a massage.

Maybe this helps.

[Qstyle904]

After a couple visits at normal rate, which were all fun we had sex with no additional $, then saw her again and she said it was a mistake. Even without FS she appears to get really horny and wants you to get her off.

Yeah I had the same experience actually. I think with a lot of the girls its YMMV.

I had a session with her over a year ago or so, and I didn't even ask about anything, just began touching her, and rubbing my dick against her ass, which was really nice. And she grabbed my hand and guided it down to play with her. After a few minutes I stopped, and she asked me why and I told her that if she wanted more she had to blow me. So that happen. Also had sex with no additional $.

A lot of these girls aren't escort. They'll charge you a crazy amount because they aren't fucking everybody they meet. So if timing is right and you treat them good and they're horny. Something will happen.

[Blackfin]

Haha. Face wise. She's very average. Just a big big booty.

After a couple visits at normal rate, which were all fun we had sex with no additional $, then saw her again and she said it was a mistake. Even without FS she appears to get really horny and wants you to get her off.