The Raleigh area "Sugar Bowl" (SA, WYP, SD4 ME)

[StormyTuesday]

I think that's a really interesting strategy. I might borrow that one when I'm in a situation where I'm looking for a one and done. Most of the time I'm looking for the ones that want a more medium term arrangement. I'm sure you're doing this, but reiterating for the newbies that you should be blocking out any identifying information on your forms. Also, something to consider. If there's any reason you wouldn't want your medical records to become public, keep in mind that you introducing them like this makes it very easy for a judge to later grant a warrant in a criminal case, or a subpoena in a civil case. In legal terms, we call this 'having pierced the veil'. You have lots of protections until you volunteer part of your records. I can think of at least 12 scenarios where this could go bad for you, but I'm not going to document any of them here, out of concern that I may be teaching these providers how to more effectively shake us down.

This is the level of thoughtful response I was looking for, thank you. And yes, I have always whited out / redacted my name, etc from the reports. My google research just now does indicate that warrants could override HIPPA protection, but honestly in my ten years in the SA game I have only had one girl get squirrely on me. I subseqently got retested and sent her the report, then suggested she focus on other guys she had played with. To your point, probably half my intentions are one and dones, the other half are medium term. With my current "medium term" I waited to provide the reports until the third meet-up to switch her over from covered to uncovered. The main reason I initially put this post out to everyone was to ask whether the strategy of providing the reports PRIOR to the M & G with the younger (20 - 24) new-to-SA types might be a bit too aggressive. Since I am now ten years older than when I started I also wonder if the younger new SBs are more accepting of an aggressive younger guy (35- 45) than a guy listed in his mid 50's.

[Hb1174]

Just a friendly reminder that this was the woman I posted about previously who tried to rob me after her "I need money to pay for the hotel" scam failed.

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...7-64b19c580e33

[MmceStep]

Whether I set up an M & G for simply coffee or commit to a dinner I generally have a sense that she is DTF. Something I usually do after a few text messages and a day to two prior to the M & G is text the SB two medical reports. My recent test results and also my vascetomy letter. I do this not only to confirm the sugar date option following (preferably immediately) the M & G but also to increase the prospects of uncovered sex. Any thoughts on this, pro or con?

I think that's a really interesting strategy. I might borrow that one when I'm in a situation where I'm looking for a one and done. Most of the time I'm looking for the ones that want a more medium term arrangement. I'm sure you're doing this, but reiterating for the newbies that you should be blocking out any identifying information on your forms. Also, something to consider. If there's any reason you wouldn't want your medical records to become public, keep in mind that you introducing them like this makes it very easy for a judge to later grant a warrant in a criminal case, or a subpoena in a civil case. In legal terms, we call this 'having pierced the veil'. You have lots of protections until you volunteer part of your records. I can think of at least 12 scenarios where this could go bad for you, but I'm not going to document any of them here, out of concern that I may be teaching these providers how to more effectively shake us down.

[StormyTuesday]

Whether I set up an M & G for simply coffee or commit to a dinner I generally have a sense that she is DTF. Something I usually do after a few text messages and a day to two prior to the M & G is text the SB two medical reports. My recent test results and also my vascetomy letter. I do this not only to confirm the sugar date option following (preferably immediately) the M & G but also to increase the prospects of uncovered sex. Any thoughts on this, pro or con?

[Hb1174]

I renewed my SA profile for one month and have been busy messaging as many women as possible to get the most value out of that insane monthly cost. Here's a few I found, minus the ones I'm planning on keeping to myself. DM for additional info.

Daisy.

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...c-b1924e4a0224

She wanted $500 and can't host. I countered $400 and she said it wasn't enough.

Sam.

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...3-f5ed555221c5

She's real. I met her once, $350 and couldn't host. The pros are that she's really into pretty much anything and was clean and tight. The cons are that she's a former user and it shows a bit. But a good time overall.

Kayle.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...e-0ed1c6f20665

Asked for gas money, and then complained about "me not being able to afford gas money. " I told her I'd meet her at the gas station and fill up her tank, and crickets followed.

Rae.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...1-b300411b793c

Wanted online only. No thanks!

Charlie.

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...e-a4a500cd743e

Wanted $500 and can't host. I countered $400 and hotel fees, and then crickets.

Angelika.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...6-f54211c976f3

Asks for money upfront "to prove I'm not a bad person. ".

Kayla.

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...2-d93e98717564

Wanted $500 and cannot host. I didn't pursue further.

Brainy.

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...8-134f5ee55dd9

Wanted virtual only until she's back in NC.

Lydia.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...4-67e69315d2a7

She's real. If you're nice you can get most things from her and she can host. Unfortunately the place was cold and smells like her 3 dogs, but a clean house overall. She looks like an unfiltered version of her first pic, so don't expect a beauty pageant.

Gigi.

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...e-8447a93071a8

She's real and a beauty. However, I wasn't her type. I told her my mom thinks I'm a handsome boy 🥲 kidding I was also polite about it.

Zoya.

https://members.seeking.com/member/6...d-9ab987b7c758

Same as above. I'm glad these two interactions didn't happen back to back.

Jasmine.

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...d-5a69d665a233

I had a meet and greet lined up with this cutie, but she cancelled once she found out I was taken. I got put into a position where I couldn't explain my limited availability and she guessed it, so learn from my lesson gents.

Jen.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...e-0f5f30a63b2b

I reached out and she responded asking if I can afford a $1000 night. I was too tired to negotiate so I left that alone.

Valentina.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...f-187c68bf2c11

Sent a message and we moved to snap. She wanted $1500 twice a month. Again, I continued to conversation, hoping for the best. I got her down to $500 ppm which I can manage. I may see her at the end of the month.

Luna.

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...c-0a11db4a307f

She was quick to give me her number after sending out a low effort introduction message. And then slow, slow, slow texting. We got to $400 and she can't host, and if you want a more intimate experience it was $500. Eh, not worth for me.

Jazzie.

https://members.seeking.com/member/2...b-18dd09c90d8e

She said that she's fine being intimate and always uses protection no matter what. I said I'm fine with that and then crickets. If I get bored a may reach out again.

Meg.

https://members.seeking.com/messages...4-63a786a55654

She's real, looks like her pics, and can host once comfortable. Unfortunately she isn't into married guys, so we didn't move forward after the meet and greet.

Jenny.

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...2-55ad23713999

Pro.

https://tryst.link/escort/myloverjenny

Mady.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...e-7ed2cbc67d56

Pro.

https://tryst.link/escort/xoxo-mady

Rose.

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...3-9a28a74a9a7d

Wanted $500, protection required, and cannot host. Yeah I noped out of this one.

[GentleGiant78]

Has Anyone Seen / Talked To / Met Any of these Women from Seeking? Whether on the site, via text, and / or IRL? If so, any experiences?

2. goddessmel.

I swear, I've seen her come on seeking regularly in the past. I can't remember how our past messages went, but I do remember she would respond.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...7-8f7b6ca6be70

3. Jess.

Late 20's. Average profile.

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...c-7c293db9b886

5. Sasha.

Mid 30's. Decent bio. Says she's here for fun. Messaged her before but wasn't able to meet (yet?) due to schedule conflicts.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...5-5bad133363f5

2. goddessmel. - Content seller only. She'll promise you that if you buy her content she'll meet you in person, but she never will, she is always busy or wants to sell you more content before meeting. I normally wouldn't even consider this but she's literally my ideal everything physically so I played along for a bit. Tried hard, never met, finally gave it up as a lost cause. I know she's a real person and local, not someone who grabbed content somewhere, so if you like redheads and buying content she's great. I'd love to know if anyone's actually managed to meet her in person.

3. Jess. - virulent manhater. This becomes more and more obvious the longer you talk to her. She might do you for money but will detest every second of it and it shows. I luckily never got to that point with her.

5. Sasha. - Met her years ago (maybe 7 or 8). She was much more overweight than I was interested in pursuing, but obviously that can change over time and there's lots of gym pics in her profile. She's real and I remember her being nice. If anyone meets her for fun I'd love to hear about it.

[GentleGiant78]

She's real, that's really her profile. We have gone back and forth for months on price. She's had two whales give her an enormous amount for meets so her bar sits high even though those arrangements ended. We've established some rapport so it's a work in progress. Will update if I actually see her.

This isn't her first profile. I've been chatting with her on and off since she graduated from high school (the first pic she ever sent me was her in her cap and gown) and have never gotten her to commit to meeting in person (see comment above re whales, I don't swim in that ocean). We're still friends on snap and insta so I get to see all the thirst traps she posts but I gave up the chase a long time ago. Good luck to all of you though!

[CuriousVaMan]

Wise words, MmceStep. YOU should play the game. Don't let the game play YOU.

You should not try to play in the sugar world if you're playing to lose. To be successful, you should be having the attitude that YOU are the prize. Yes, many of them will take the 'I am the prize' mentality. Whoever blinks first, loses. Don't play this game if you're weak. Will you win over every hottie? Of course not. But, if you contact 7 or 8 of them and have the right mentality, you'll end up getting a hottie for a cost that isn't much more than what having a GF costs.

[LikesGirls]

8. Aster.

Late 20's. I'm pretty sure I saw her years ago. Can't remember much, though. Anyone seen or talked to her recently?

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...f-22791363158a

I saw her recently, her name was Luna at the time (like, two weeks ago or so). Another user here saw her too, search back a page or two.

TL; DR: she talks a lot, is pretty, the room was clean and uncluttered at an extended stay place in Durham. Covered FS, 300.

[SaintMan3500]

Has Anyone Seen / Talked To / Met Any of these Women from Seeking? Whether on the site, via text, and / or IRL? If so, any experiences?

1. KJ.

Early 30's. Decent Profile. Looks cute. I talked to her a few months ago and she responded positively. But she took a break shortly after messaging.

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...5-88d42f1a69f5

2. goddessmel.

I swear, I've seen her come on seeking regularly in the past. I can't remember how our past messages went, but I do remember she would respond.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...7-8f7b6ca6be70

3. Jess.

Late 20's. Average profile.

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...c-7c293db9b886

4. Willow.

19 years old. Attractive. Is apparently in Boone. Basic bio, but no real red flags I'm getting.

https://members.seeking.com/member/a...4-8ec541577613

5. Sasha.

Mid 30's. Decent bio. Says she's here for fun. Messaged her before but wasn't able to meet (yet?) due to schedule conflicts.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...5-5bad133363f5

6. Valerie.

Hmmm, is all I'll say.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...9-c360a31246b3

7. Rhianna.

Early 20's. Definetly not her first profile and I feel like I've seen her profile a few years ago. Can't remember how convo went.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...8-b0d2224d0dac

8. Aster.

Late 20's. I'm pretty sure I saw her years ago. Can't remember much, though. Anyone seen or talked to her recently?

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...f-22791363158a

9. Hannah.

Early 20's. Looks cute, but also a recent profile.

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...9-8b166a29656d

10. Holly.

Early 30's. Tall. Red head, attractive. Decent Bio.

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...1-d35e2dc0f4b6

[NiteLifed69]

She's real, that's really her profile. We have gone back and forth for months on price. She's had two whales give her an enormous amount for meets so her bar sits high even though those arrangements ended. We've established some rapport so it's a work in progress. Will update if I actually see her.

Please do, I would love to see her but not for 1 K.

[Swimback]

Is willowtreelover02 a real profile or did some scammers get her pics off Instagram, especially with her asking for $1 k.

She's real, that's really her profile. We have gone back and forth for months on price. She's had two whales give her an enormous amount for meets so her bar sits high even though those arrangements ended. We've established some rapport so it's a work in progress. Will update if I actually see her.

[MmceStep]

I won't bother sharing the link, but I had another one recently tell me she doesn't meet for under 3. I get that some aren't actually interested in the lifestyle but willing for the right dollars, but wow.

Slightly different topic but something that's been happening more and more to me if potential SBs wanting to be courted / impressed / spoiled just to have an initial conversation. Somehow it seems like the table is turning and instead of them looking for us it's become us having to prove something to them. When did we become the seller?

So, I think the thing to keep in mind is that there are waaay more Sugar Babies than available sugar daddies. SA data confirmed this years ago, when they still were a sugaring website. So, if you consider that info, it stands to reason that most of these potential sugar babies were probably seeing one guy a month, when those of us on the male side who were sugaring hard were seeing 6-7 babies a month. Back in the day I was blasting through college coeds, to the point where if I stepped foot on a college campus, I would probably be recognized by somebody within 10 minutes, LOL. Given that reality, I think most of these women now think that they should have an OF, a side simp or two and go fishing for the occasional Sugar date for big bucks vs see another 'once and done' every month for a couple hundred. A couple Ben Franklins probably doesn't do a whole lot for them, as a one time event. They're fishing, and if they don't land a big fish after getting 20 nibbles on the line, they're probably still okay with that.

I've never 'sent a gift in advance of a meet' (and would never do that), so I don't know anything about that. However, it seems to me that if I did, the 'baby' would probably end up being a Nigerian dude. I think the 'never send money to someone you don't know before services are provided' rule with escorts still holds true in sugaring. You're just asking to be taken.

You should not try to play in the sugar world if you're playing to lose. To be successful, you should be having the attitude that YOU are the prize. Yes, many of them will take the 'I am the prize' mentality. Whoever blinks first, loses. Don't play this game if you're weak. Will you win over every hottie? Of course not. But, if you contact 7 or 8 of them and have the right mentality, you'll end up getting a hottie for a cost that isn't much more than what having a GF costs.

[NiteLifed69]

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...4-fee27af057a8

Chatted with this girl and she told me she starts at 1 k. I'll pass as that's absurd in my opinion.

If anyone has recommendations for someone who is okay with something short-term, I'd appreciate it.

Is willowtreelover02 a real profile or did some scammers get her pics off Instagram, especially with her asking for $1 k.

[Busylittlebee]

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...4-fee27af057a8

Chatted with this girl and she told me she starts at 1 k. I'll pass as that's absurd in my opinion.

If anyone has recommendations for someone who is okay with something short-term, I'd appreciate it.

I won't bother sharing the link, but I had another one recently tell me she doesn't meet for under 3. I get that some aren't actually interested in the lifestyle but willing for the right dollars, but wow.

Slightly different topic but something that's been happening more and more to me if potential SBs wanting to be courted / impressed / spoiled just to have an initial conversation. Somehow it seems like the table is turning and instead of them looking for us it's become us having to prove something to them. When did we become the seller?