Sugar Baby / Sugar Daddy relationships

**Fitzyj76** · 06-05-25 23:47

This was the feedback I was hoping to get! Thanks to all of the messages here as well as the pm's.

Some of you seemed a bit miffed at me thinking that breaking the ice with "ask if she has a seeking account" I am fairly certain that she does not a sb (anything's possible) and if she's not it would likely be taken in very poor taste. We met through work, we don't work together nor will we likely cross paths again at work (anything's possible). The thought process of sb was considered because I know what she does for a living and she doesn't make a great deal of money and I know she's a single mom. We are going on a date because I asked her on a date, she's hot and I couldn't help myself.

I've decided to just be straight up and break the ice with the fact that I'm married. If I get a glass of "x" in the face, I'll live. If she stay's, I'm golden! If things go well I will just "help her out" and we don't have to label that anything.

Although I don't agree with some of the comments / suggestions I do appreciate the feedback! This is not something I have done before and I wanted to see the situation from other angles. It's far more complicated that a 1 hour transaction with DI.

On a side note in one of the responses the term ppm is used, I assume this means pay per meet (ing)? If it's something else, I'd like to know.

Thanks Again!

Fitzy.

**GSpotGilligan** · 06-05-25 21:21

Originally Posted by Captgol [View Original Post]

My advice is I think you are playing with fire. You're dating someone who based on the information you provided isn't in this game. Assuming she has legitimate dating intentions you're elevating your risk profile towards unnecessarily ruining your marriage. She finds out, you lose. She turns you down on your sb proposal you lose. She sees you around town with your wife, you lose. There is a level of discretion that providers and mongers assume. You don't have that if you're just dating and going the route of a traditional "affair. " I'm risk averse. I'd say don't do it at all unless she knows you're married and doesn't care.

My 2 cents. Good luck.

Literally took the words right out of my mouth with this one. Definitely playing with fire here. We all know how females can be sometimes, and I'm assuming you met this girl out in the wild somewhere. Her not knowing that you are currently married or anything can be a bombshell once you drop it. You may get lucky with some females that are okay with that, but the majority of them will probably be pissed about it. Even mentioning the whole SB world to her and seeing about being interested can be insulting to her depending on her personality and everything. That is basically in my eyes like you asking her if she has ever thought about being an escort. Now as much as the SB in this world want to assume that's not what they are, we all know the truth, and the ones who don't partake in it look at SB like that's what they are, so to me I would think she would feel like you are asking her if she ever thought to do that. Without any context on the girl and her personality or anything, seems like she would take offense to you asking if she is like most women that you have just met in the wild. Still not entirely sure why you're wanting to turn a free thing into a SB situation which with most guys they would just keep it standard and not have to spend anything as far as PPM at all. Most men know if it's for free then it's for me LOL. Stay Safe.

**Captgol** · 06-05-25 20:54

Originally Posted by Fitzyj76 [View Original Post]

I had hoped to get some feedback either here or in pm. Somebody here has some advice? The only comment was absurd at best.

My advice is I think you are playing with fire. You're dating someone who based on the information you provided isn't in this game. Assuming she has legitimate dating intentions you're elevating your risk profile towards unnecessarily ruining your marriage. She finds out, you lose. She turns you down on your sb proposal you lose. She sees you around town with your wife, you lose. There is a level of discretion that providers and mongers assume. You don't have that if you're just dating and going the route of a traditional "affair. " I'm risk averse. I'd say don't do it at all unless she knows you're married and doesn't care.

My 2 cents. Good luck.

**XxxMail77** · 06-05-25 11:50

Originally Posted by Fitzyj76 [View Original Post]

I had hoped to get some feedback either here or in pm. Somebody here has some advice? The only comment was absurd at best.

Not sure what you want. The first comment to ask if they have a seeking account is not absurd. That's an easy ice breaker.

She says Yes oh great, I was hoping we could have that type of an arrangement, I'm married and not looking for a new partner.

She says No Oh well it's basically where two people can get together and the guy helps the girl out financially, is that something you've ever thought about.

I do agree with the other comment though. If you are looking to ppm then your personal situation shouldn't be relevant. If she is going out with you now w / o knowing you are married, then she must have something she sees in you to like. Is the thought that doing ppm will make her OK with you being married?

**JhnSmth** · 06-05-25 10:24

Originally Posted by Fitzyj76 [View Original Post]

I typically have just played in the escort realm but now I want to change it up. I have a date with someone who doesn't know that I am married. I want to ask her about having a SB relationship. It is highly unlikely that she does or has done this before. Can anyone offer me some advice on what a good approach would be as well as maybe some things to avoid?? I'm really unsure whether I should mention that I am married on our first lunch date. If things go well, I am happy to share! She's 5' and 100 pounds with a perfect body and around 30 years old.

Thanks in advance!

Fitz.

If you are wanting to make this a business transaction, then it isn't her business that you are married. I wouldn't tell her.

How did you get a date with someone you have no idea if they are in the business anyways? Why are you trying to push it into the business realm if you already have a date with her?

**Pete StPete** · 06-05-25 09:31

That was actually very good advice. I've used the same strategy. Craft a story about a friend you know who surprisingly told you about her adventures on a dating site or some variation of that theme. Duh.

Originally Posted by Fitzyj76 [View Original Post]

I had hoped to get some feedback either here or in pm. Somebody here has some advice? The only comment was absurd at best.

**SugarLifeNow** · 06-05-25 00:56

SLN Girl Kalani 19.

https://sugarlifenow.com/profile/kalani567/

**Fitzyj76** · 06-04-25 22:33

I had hoped to get some feedback either here or in pm. Somebody here has some advice? The only comment was absurd at best.

Originally Posted by Fitzyj76 [View Original Post]

I typically have just played in the escort realm but now I want to change it up. I have a date with someone who doesn't know that I am married. I want to ask her about having a SB relationship. It is highly unlikely that she does or has done this before. Can anyone offer me some advice on what a good approach would be as well as maybe some things to avoid?? I'm really unsure whether I should mention that I am married on our first lunch date. If things go well, I am happy to share! She's 5' and 100 pounds with a perfect body and around 30 years old.

Thanks in advance!

Fitz.

**ItCouldBeMe 2** · 06-01-25 17:30

Originally Posted by Fitzyj76 [View Original Post]

I typically have just played in the escort realm but now I want to change it up. I have a date with someone who doesn't know that I am married. I want to ask her about having a SB relationship. It is highly unlikely that she does or has done this before. Can anyone offer me some advice on what a good approach would be as well as maybe some things to avoid?? I'm really unsure whether I should mention that I am married on our first lunch date. If things go well, I am happy to share! She's 5' and 100 pounds with a perfect body and around 30 years old.

Thanks in advance!

Fitz.

Break the ice by asking if she has a seeking account.

**Fitzyj76** · 06-01-25 17:05

I typically have just played in the escort realm but now I want to change it up. I have a date with someone who doesn't know that I am married. I want to ask her about having a SB relationship. It is highly unlikely that she does or has done this before. Can anyone offer me some advice on what a good approach would be as well as maybe some things to avoid?? I'm really unsure whether I should mention that I am married on our first lunch date. If things go well, I am happy to share! She's 5' and 100 pounds with a perfect body and around 30 years old.

Thanks in advance!

Fitz.

**PKourt** · 05-31-25 16:11

Originally Posted by Fireman469 [View Original Post]

Having a hard time getting back onto seeking. Seems the gift cards from Lowes no longer work. Anyone have an alternative method they would be willing to share? I have seen people hit or miss on using blackhawk branded visa / mastercard gift cards.

You can create a new google account and then just load up google pay with cards since that is now an option.

**Pete StPete** · 05-26-25 08:19

Good Morning Brothers, I hope you are having a peaceful, relaxing Memorial weekend. I've returned to Indy after a six month absence and I'm hoping to connect with a new to me personable, safe and sane UTR or SB woman who would be able to take care of me, a mature man, at her place afternoons during the week. If any brother knows of such a woman who you would recommend and be willing to facilitate an introduction please PM me. Many Thanks! Pete.

**Fireman469** · 05-23-25 17:00

Having a hard time getting back onto seeking. Seems the gift cards from Lowes no longer work. Anyone have an alternative method they would be willing to share? I have seen people hit or miss on using blackhawk branded visa / mastercard gift cards.

**BrianGold99** · 05-18-25 17:04

Originally Posted by JohnGuest [View Original Post]

After fifteen terrific months, I thought it best for both of us to move on. We were together longer than I was married to my first wife! Tall, Asian, great lady! I had her permission to post this discreetly.

John Guest.

I'm interested as well. What is she looking for?

**XxxMail77** · 05-18-25 17:01

Originally Posted by JohnGuest [View Original Post]

After fifteen terrific months, I thought it best for both of us to move on. We were together longer than I was married to my first wife! Tall, Asian, great lady! I had her permission to post this discreetly.

John Guest.

I bet the Queue is out the door. What is she looking for ideally? (ie. Allowance, frequency of meets, type of guy (or don't care)) Might help weed out tire kickers / people she'd not likely be interested int. If she's under 45/ and not a bigger girl, I'd be interested.