Should we stop mongering? How?

[Bjceb]

Sounds like you got a good setup with your friend.

The only concern I would have for you is that in my experience women have a harder time separating emotions and tend to eventually need more than your current setup. That is when things get screwed up.

Hopefully this doesn't happen to you.

Like you, I've also got to where I enjoy the variety and can't stop myself, especially when I have a divorced friend who sends me a text telling me she's in the mood to fuck. She will do everything my wife won't in the bedroom and will let me pleasure her in all the ways that do nothing for my wife. It's been a symbiotic relationship since the two of us horny people have no desire to change our current situations just a need for primal sex every now and then. The variety is still nice though since I don't think I'm wired to be monogamous when it comes to physical sex.

[Hawkeye49]

Wanted to add my 2 cents. My wife has had no sex drive as well used to beg all the time and got tired of begging, which is why I got into mongering, had she put out I probably would not have got into this. 2 years ago, she finally got off her ass and went to a hormone doctor and began hormone therapy. It took about a year to get her hormones in check and I have to say she is a totally different woman today. The Dr told her when she got her on the right therapy it would change her life stops hot flashes, her mood swings and a sex drive etc.

She is 57 and she will fuck everyday now, so there is hope for our SO's if they would go to the Dr. My problem is I like the variety so much now I can't stop myself maybe an addiction LOL. I always say I'm going to stop when she is calling me to come fuck her then I log into this site and I change my mind.

Happy Hunting Fellas.

Like you, I've also got to where I enjoy the variety and can't stop myself, especially when I have a divorced friend who sends me a text telling me she's in the mood to fuck. She will do everything my wife won't in the bedroom and will let me pleasure her in all the ways that do nothing for my wife. It's been a symbiotic relationship since the two of us horny people have no desire to change our current situations just a need for primal sex every now and then. The variety is still nice though since I don't think I'm wired to be monogamous when it comes to physical sex.

[SC James]

Due to an unrelated issue, I had to stop mongering for quite a while last year. I joined Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and actually had really good success. It was nice meeting other people that all shared the same urges as I did. I didn't (and don't) consider it an addiction, but the program helped nonetheless. I can point you to some local chapters if you want, or if you just google Orlando SAA you'll find some resources.

Sorry, couldn't pass that one up.

[RobertJdn]

I have a long time SO and got into this hobby for a little variety. It was only very rarely and then only L1, that was reasonable for me to justify no harm no foul. Over the years it became a bit more frequent and then it was L1+ and sometimes L2. It was like a slow creep into more and more. I'd do L1 AMPs and Indy's but sometimes the Indy's would get naked or do fiv or BBBJ or daty. I started getting picky with their looks and such and it was reaching a crescendo and all the time my level of guilt to my SO was getting higher and higher. Then I began looking to for L2 and FS and although I never pulled the trigger on FS I was pretty damn close and that scared me. I was seeing one famous Indy who was giving me L2 sessions that could have been in a porn video, some wild memories and that's when I decided to call it quits. I had gotten away with it for so long and had some crazy experiences and decided I'd pushed it far enough. So I quit! That was two years ago.

Until I restarted, slowly and just a little here and there and it quickly creeped up to L2 again and I quit again just recently.

[Aeroxly]

Ok I'll be honest. After years of this I'm open to finding a new path.

Honestly the talent pool keeps getting smaller anyways.

Curious any of you try and stop mongering? Any tricks that.

Anyone has? Really not great for home life and I want to.

Hang up my cleats if I can.

Due to an unrelated issue, I had to stop mongering for quite a while last year. I joined Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and actually had really good success. It was nice meeting other people that all shared the same urges as I did. I didn't (and don't) consider it an addiction, but the program helped nonetheless. I can point you to some local chapters if you want, or if you just google Orlando SAA you'll find some resources.

[Sparky 1984]

I've been debating about adding to this forum and finally said to myself, what the hell, chime in. First and foremost my wife is my best friend. We've been together getting close to 50 years. She has always been very vanilla in the bedroom in that no bbj and she doesn't like daty so there's not much foreplay leading to the main event. It's always been just straight sex with me in mish, until we both get our moment of pleasure. As time has crept up on both of us her drive has decreased and although mine is still strong I can only muster up MSOG with the right lady and every now and then I find her out here in the hobby land.

She is now in her late 60's and I'm now early 70's and we haven't been intimate in a year which is the longest we've ever gone. I'm not saying she doesn't want it because she does, it's just that I know how it will be and it's hard to get turned on thinking about it so I have a difficult time getting it up with her anymore. Hence the need for me to continue what I'm doing to fill that void or need since my drive is still fairly high for my age. That's kind of where I'm at right now.

Wanted to add my 2 cents. My wife has had no sex drive as well used to beg all the time and got tired of begging, which is why I got into mongering, had she put out I probably would not have got into this. 2 years ago, she finally got off her ass and went to a hormone doctor and began hormone therapy. It took about a year to get her hormones in check and I have to say she is a totally different woman today. The Dr told her when she got her on the right therapy it would change her life stops hot flashes, her mood swings and a sex drive etc.

She is 57 and she will fuck everyday now, so there is hope for our SO's if they would go to the Dr. My problem is I like the variety so much now I can't stop myself maybe an addiction LOL. I always say I'm going to stop when she is calling me to come fuck her then I log into this site and I change my mind.

Happy Hunting Fellas.

[Hawkeye49]

Considering getting out of the hobby as well. It filled a hole in my life, as my marriage is great in all facets but one. Wife will kiss, fondle and say she wants me, but the deed is rarely done. We're in our 50's so some letdown is expected, but is this too much?

Old guys (over 45 anyways!) - Do you still have sex with your wife on a regular basis?

I've been debating about adding to this forum and finally said to myself, what the hell, chime in. First and foremost my wife is my best friend. We've been together getting close to 50 years. She has always been very vanilla in the bedroom in that no bbj and she doesn't like daty so there's not much foreplay leading to the main event. It's always been just straight sex with me in mish, until we both get our moment of pleasure. As time has crept up on both of us her drive has decreased and although mine is still strong I can only muster up MSOG with the right lady and every now and then I find her out here in the hobby land.

She is now in her late 60's and I'm now early 70's and we haven't been intimate in a year which is the longest we've ever gone. I'm not saying she doesn't want it because she does, it's just that I know how it will be and it's hard to get turned on thinking about it so I have a difficult time getting it up with her anymore. Hence the need for me to continue what I'm doing to fill that void or need since my drive is still fairly high for my age. That's kind of where I'm at right now.

[TRowePrice]

Totally agree! I had 3 regulars but my favorite seems to have vanished, and the other 2 are getting monotonous. And new friends seems to cost more than old friends. I'd step away if my wife became my "girlfriend" again. And I bet I'm not alone in thinking this.

This is true- I have to say the latter is what is driving my semi retirement (well that, and age). Those with wives need to talk to them and figure out what works. A co-worker of mine said she told her husband she is fine with a threesome and going to secrets but he has the issue with his plumbing. Another one said its fine to face f* as her lady bits are not in proper working order.

For me, I lack the patience needed to deal with new relationships and my expectations of increased. I may try to salvage an old one but most gals who leave rarely come back. If they do, it is so low key, its not worth mentioning on a board.

[IrwinFletcher1]

Totally agree! I had 3 regulars but my favorite seems to have vanished, and the other 2 are getting monotonous. And new friends seems to cost more than old friends. I'd step away if my wife became my "girlfriend" again. And I bet I'm not alone in thinking this.

You're not.

[RatPack21]

What you're saying is exactly what happens with me too. My wife is definitely pre menopausal and also deals with fibroids. Her menstrual cycle is all over the place but she is being stubborn about going to a doctor. Exact same she will kiss we will play around some but that's it. Last time I tried even fingering her she started crying saying it hurt.

But mongering is getting to be a hobby that is getting $$ right now. My few regulars are maintaining their prices but sometimes I want something new. Tried the SB and they usually want more. Idk if its worth it anymore.

Totally agree! I had 3 regulars but my favorite seems to have vanished, and the other 2 are getting monotonous. And new friends seems to cost more than old friends. I'd step away if my wife became my "girlfriend" again. And I bet I'm not alone in thinking this.

[OdinsBeard78]

Considering getting out of the hobby as well. It filled a hole in my life, as my marriage is great in all facets but one. Wife will kiss, fondle and say she wants me, but the deed is rarely done. We're in our 50's so some letdown is expected, but is this too much?

Old guys (over 45 anyways!) - Do you still have sex with your wife on a regular basis?

What you're saying is exactly what happens with me too. My wife is definitely pre menopausal and also deals with fibroids. Her menstrual cycle is all over the place but she is being stubborn about going to a doctor. Exact same she will kiss we will play around some but that's it. Last time I tried even fingering her she started crying saying it hurt.

But mongering is getting to be a hobby that is getting $$ right now. My few regulars are maintaining their prices but sometimes I want something new. Tried the SB and they usually want more. Idk if its worth it anymore.

[RatPack21]

Considering getting out of the hobby as well. It filled a hole in my life, as my marriage is great in all facets but one. Wife will kiss, fondle and say she wants me, but the deed is rarely done. We're in our 50's so some letdown is expected, but is this too much?

Old guys (over 45 anyways!) - Do you still have sex with your wife on a regular basis?

[Dr BJ]

Indeed I am a single man, which gives me a Huge advantaged over married men, but nevertheless, married men can do this as well, if they play their cards correctly. The thing is that people don't have a clue of how easy it is to do it. It's almost like if the women themselves come at you seeking attention. You just need to be friendly and listen to them.

You meet them at Mass or at church events? Lmao.

[IrwinFletcher1]

Thanks for your feedback and advice. I think you nailed it and I probably do have to take steps by first admitting I have an addiction and joining a group like that. I have tried breaking the habit but I always end up going back to my regulars.

Crazy how this has come up. I was thinking the same thing a few days ago. I've been in this for 20 years. It's easy to go hog wild with all these chicks that are available. But at the end of the day you're bank account is drained and you're still alone with or without a SO that doesn't want or do what you want. I've stopped for a few months but find myself driving to one of my regulars and banging the hell out of her and driving off day WTF man. But also, flip the coin, can these girls ever stop and stay with just one guy? I'm sure many have just like us. But I'm thinking more have not and can just like us. Thanks for this thread.

Fletch.

[Neo Max]

Indeed I am a single man, which gives me a Huge advantaged over married men, but nevertheless, married men can do this as well, if they play their cards correctly. The thing is that people don't have a clue of how easy it is to do it. It's almost like if the women themselves come at you seeking attention. You just need to be friendly and listen to them.

Now that's interesting! I take it you are single?