NoVA SugarBabies

[Xcvxxx]

You sure cast that net far and wide. You posted this question in the forums for about 10 different cities. Why? My spidey senses are activated.

Someone else asked her was my answer.

You're right I did post in multiple places. They're not at random. I've actually visited those places before, but the reason why is because there is a wealth of knowledge out there men with real experience. Unfortunately, in my hometown, the game is dying if you look through the sugar baby forum you'll see how bad it is. So if I post it in Myrtle and only Myrtle, I would've never gotten great advice . We're all here for the same reason why settle for one when you can have as many as you'd like.

Why settle for for one post in one area when posting in a few pages will increase my chances of getting real advice.

[PRMan12]

You ask her PPM, and either counter, or say OK.

Sometimes, they lowball themselves. It has happened.

I've had more than a few for 300, average is 500, lowballed a few one and dones for less than 300, but knew.

I would never see again. Bottom line need to negotiate and depending on how hot is how the negotiation goes. I usually start with I have a range, especially for the ones that start at 800 or above. They will come down most of the time.

[BuckNaked84]

So tell us how you got PPM under 300 if you don't mind. Maybe this will help me. On a scale of 1-10 in looks, where does she land?

You ask her PPM, and either counter, or say OK.

Sometimes, they lowball themselves. It has happened.

[Gourmand56]

So tell us how you got PPM under 300 if you don't mind. Maybe this will help me. On a scale of 1-10 in looks, where does she land?

Not the op but there's no method. Sugaring online is like dating online but paying to do it. It's hit or miss. It's chemistry. It's happenstance. You'll be just one girl's type in one case and in another girl's case not so much. You'll catch one when she's feeling hot and adventurous and the next guy will catch her when she's not into it at all. It's a totally different mindset than the girls who escort or give HE's on demand. It's all the hassle of dating, but with a slightly better chance of getting laid.

The exception is you happen to meet a girl who's about to make her way into being an escort or an escort who sugars. And if you do that, it's not probably not going to be 300 PM for everything you hoped for.

The most success I've had sugaring is with girls I met in person. I don't know how old you are, but if you're my age, and a 24 year old flirts with you, she's most likely down for an arrangement.

[ChadwickX]

Have one in rotation; just turned 21; bare all access; tight young body. Amazing in bed, multi pops per session; screams "do whatever you want to me daddy" as I fuck her missionary in the ass while choking her. Loves being filmed as I desecrate her body in so many ways and Ppm is well under $300.

She is batshit crazy tho; has the need to mark me (scratches my back up while I'm nailing her); sucks me off after hitting her anal in an attempt to get me hard again; begs for me to piss in her mouth; etc, etc.

I know I need to ghost her and never look back, but my little head keeps telling me to hit it just one more time.

Fml.

So tell us how you got PPM under 300 if you don't mind. Maybe this will help me. On a scale of 1-10 in looks, where does she land?

[BuckNaked84]

Hey everyone, I'm 30 and married to my high school sweetheart. In the past, I've mostly seen pump-and-dump girls, but I'm now in a fortunate financial position where I can afford to explore the sugar daddy lifestyle. I've recently met someone new, and this arrangement feels much more promising than anything I've experienced before.

As I'm navigating this dynamic, I have a lot of questions and would love to hear from those who are more experienced in balancing it with marriage. Any private insights on maintaining boundaries, handling expectations, and keeping things smooth would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

1. Don't use your real name (ever).

2. Don't use your real phone (ever); caller ID.

3. Don't use a joint account (banking).

4. Don't have credit cards send physical mail.

5. Don't share your location with SO (get her an android, or you get one). IPhones share a lot.

6. Lock your devices with Looooong unlock codes.

7. Don't use an email your SO has access to.

Probably more, but that is the basics of OPSEC.

[ProCatHunter]

Footstomp on all of this; but emphasize that OPSEC is key.

Even if you don't encroach, maintain boundaries; and establish clear rules of engagement, you may find yourself on the wrong end of batshit crazy. Like the line from the movie Heat: "never let yourself get attached to anything that you cannot walk out on in 30 seconds if you feel the heat around the corner. ".

Just because you give her space and respect her boundaries, that doesn't mean she will do the same. It's more likely to happen if you do; but not all girls are built the same. Many who are on seeking are mentally unstable.

That said, the difference between the sugar game and escorts is the connection you develop and the "feel" of normal dating. In other words, if the person you found on seeking is asking for cash; sets a time limit for how long you see her; and has strict rules for what happens behind closed doors. You've found an escort who is using seeking as her backpage site.

The allure of the sugar world (at least for me) is when I find a 20 something year old who will let me do anything I want to her; wants to cuddle after I leave a creampie in between her legs, ass and mouth; and sends me naked pics and videos of herself masturbating to try to get my attention when I get busy with work and forget to respond to her text.

This of course leads to problems because that sort of relationship tends to come with more emotional attachments. And so the key is to compartmentalization your life and follow the "heat" rule while most young ladies lack that ability. My past is littered with SBs becoming jealous and obsessed. That's when I have to throw them back. The most recent one that started blowing me up was the one I posted about that many of you mongers were PM'ing me about for more details (not the batshit 21 year old, but the older one that tomfordmodel was asking about who had the stink puss. That one was blowing me up and trying to give the milk for free. Which is a clear sign to me that she wanted something more. Her high volume was also a bad signal).

Good luck navigating this world. It's hotel California for you now. My two cents for whatever it's worth.

Generally. It's like dating. The girls in the sugar bowl run the gamut. They don't operate off of a more or less uniform set of standards like escorts do. You got girls who want you to pay them for platonic dates and nothing else. You got girls who double as escorts and want to be paid by the hour or the night. You got girls who want a financially secure relationship that leads to marriage. You got girls that want a boyfriend who'll buy them nice things. You really have to treat each one on a case by case basis and feel them out. Then once you find her.

The best thing to do is to be as anonymous as possible and state your intentions up front. Tell them you're married and intend to stay that way. Be brutally honest and reinforce it if need be. Don't assume that they're OK with married men. Don't assume that they're going to continue to be OK with married men as things progress. The biggest threat to your marriage is a girl who feels like you played her or lead her on. Being honest and upfront about your marriage is the best protection.

And you have to maintain boundaries too. That means letting her live her life outside of whatever arrangement you have with her. If you break the contract by trying to encroach on her life, you invite her in to do the same to you. Do not overstep if you intend to stay married. Do not let jealously wreck things.

To start.

[ProCatHunter]

Ai and social media are becoming increasingly smart.

I noticed that snap was suggesting friends that looked familiar. Realized many of the suggestions were girls from seeking. I am guessing the following is occurring:

Once you add enough user ids from girls you meet on seeking; snap is identifying overlaps. So when snap sees that I'm friends with girls X, why, and Z; it is suggesting that I add some of you mongers and girls A, B, and C (which you mongers have added, but I didn't because I ended up being left on read when I messaged the same ladies and never reactivated my account).

Been messaging some of these ladies and will report back if this new technique pays off. Would be a fun way to maximize room usage (eg sugar babies 1 and 2 get scheduled) and then rando from Snap fills time in between.

[Gourmand56]

Hey everyone, I'm 30 and married to my high school sweetheart. In the past, I've mostly seen pump-and-dump girls, but I'm now in a fortunate financial position where I can afford to explore the sugar daddy lifestyle. I've recently met someone new, and this arrangement feels much more promising than anything I've experienced before.

As I'm navigating this dynamic, I have a lot of questions and would love to hear from those who are more experienced in balancing it with marriage. Any private insights on maintaining boundaries, handling expectations, and keeping things smooth would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

Generally. It's like dating. The girls in the sugar bowl run the gamut. They don't operate off of a more or less uniform set of standards like escorts do. You got girls who want you to pay them for platonic dates and nothing else. You got girls who double as escorts and want to be paid by the hour or the night. You got girls who want a financially secure relationship that leads to marriage. You got girls that want a boyfriend who'll buy them nice things. You really have to treat each one on a case by case basis and feel them out. Then once you find her.

The best thing to do is to be as anonymous as possible and state your intentions up front. Tell them you're married and intend to stay that way. Be brutally honest and reinforce it if need be. Don't assume that they're OK with married men. Don't assume that they're going to continue to be OK with married men as things progress. The biggest threat to your marriage is a girl who feels like you played her or lead her on. Being honest and upfront about your marriage is the best protection.

And you have to maintain boundaries too. That means letting her live her life outside of whatever arrangement you have with her. If you break the contract by trying to encroach on her life, you invite her in to do the same to you. Do not overstep if you intend to stay married. Do not let jealously wreck things.

To start.

[CuriousVaMan]

You sure cast that net far and wide. You posted this question in the forums for about 10 different cities. Why? My spidey senses are activated.

Hey everyone, I'm 30 and married to my high school sweetheart. In the past, I've mostly seen pump-and-dump girls, but I'm now in a fortunate financial position where I can afford to explore the sugar daddy lifestyle. I've recently met someone new, and this arrangement feels much more promising than anything I've experienced before.

As I'm navigating this dynamic, I have a lot of questions and would love to hear from those who are more experienced in balancing it with marriage. Any private insights on maintaining boundaries, handling expectations, and keeping things smooth would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

[Xcvxxx]

Hey everyone, I'm 30 and married to my high school sweetheart. In the past, I've mostly seen pump-and-dump girls, but I'm now in a fortunate financial position where I can afford to explore the sugar daddy lifestyle. I've recently met someone new, and this arrangement feels much more promising than anything I've experienced before.

As I'm navigating this dynamic, I have a lot of questions and would love to hear from those who are more experienced in balancing it with marriage. Any private insights on maintaining boundaries, handling expectations, and keeping things smooth would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for your advice!

[FrankCastle6]

These two profiles have the exact same text, must be cut and paste spammers:

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...f-fae39a12d69d

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...0-89b01e727d66

Fake, this is a porn star whose name I do not know:

https://members.seeking.com/member/1...5-c94f8cabb5c2

[VictorSmitham]

Already been reported on a handful of times (see below). In fact, you were the one asking about her last year. Personally, I reached out twice around that time. But I was left on read in both instances so I gave up.

Yah man she has hooker written all over her. She said that she has a kid too. Sheesh.

[ProCatHunter]

And the other offers, but truly not sure if I am ready to give her up just yet.

Not going to respond to all the individual PMs I received, but didn't want you all to think I was ignoring you. Going to have to empty my inbox again soon. Fml.

Have one in rotation; just turned 21; bare all access; tight young body. Amazing in bed, multi pops per session; screams "do whatever you want to me daddy" as I fuck her missionary in the ass while choking her. Loves being filmed as I desecrate her body in so many ways and Ppm is well under $300.

She is batshit crazy tho; has the need to mark me (scratches my back up while I'm nailing her); sucks me off after hitting her anal in an attempt to get me hard again; begs for me to piss in her mouth; etc, etc.

I know I need to ghost her and never look back, but my little head keeps telling me to hit it just one more time.

Fml.

[ProCatHunter]

Have one in rotation; just turned 21; bare all access; tight young body. Amazing in bed, multi pops per session; screams "do whatever you want to me daddy" as I fuck her missionary in the ass while choking her. Loves being filmed as I desecrate her body in so many ways and Ppm is well under $300.

She is batshit crazy tho; has the need to mark me (scratches my back up while I'm nailing her); sucks me off after hitting her anal in an attempt to get me hard again; begs for me to piss in her mouth; etc, etc.

I know I need to ghost her and never look back, but my little head keeps telling me to hit it just one more time.

Fml.