Married & mongering

[GBenson3]

Anyone know of any places that take credit card for both house fee and tip?

The wife can see the activity in our shared bank account.

But she doesn't have access to my CC info.

Go to supermarket and do shopping.

Get cash out at same time. But 120 shopping and 60 cash for example.

I doubt statement lists breakdown of purchases vs cash out at same transaction.

Try it and see but that's seems clean to me. Just my 2 c.

[FarFarAway]

Anyone know of any places that take credit card for both house fee and tip?

The wife can see the activity in our shared bank account.

But she doesn't have access to my CC info.

You are really rolling the dice -- if they come up snake -eyes, you are hosed.

[OCMongerin]

Anyone know of any places that take credit card for both house fee and tip?

The wife can see the activity in our shared bank account.

But she doesn't have access to my CC info.

[FreeWally]

Google Voice and Gmail has been an unreliable mess for my hobby line (cannot ever reccomend this anymore) so that's actually blocked me from contacting providers.

DO NOT USE GOOGLE.

It will want you to authenticate with the last burner device you had or block you if using WiFi from another IP outside your normal area you activated or got the phone from.

The bank I use for hobby funds only has branches in one state so I will cancel it sometime. I leave my card at the office but really want a bank I can walk in with just I'd and withdraw cash, so no need for a card.

Hi, a few tips for anyone who wants them. First, in iphone you can set the ringtone for text or call to silent for individual numbers by editing the contact.

If you can keep numbers / notes secure, remember to delete texts etc. After visit (after deleting a text, clip top left Filters and go to recently deleted and permanently delete them). For strippers and freelancers I use Instagram. I turn off notifications so I only get messages when I open the app. I delete the app when I'm not in business (just a minute to download again). And of course, best to be in business when out of town or early before work / lunch so you can fix any issues. I even bring my own soap just in case, travel size. Store things consistently in the proper place. Some cars have a hidden compartment with space near the spare wheel. Don't keep what you don't need.

About addiction and budgeting. An addiction is when you can't stop doing something even though there are clear and severe consequences. It is not an addiction for me to eat 5 slices of apple pie, because I am a perfectly fit normal weight person. But if I can't stop eating apple pie even though I have diabetes and am overweight and the doctor told me my life will be short and paintful if I don't stop, then I have an addiction. If you are rich and spending $50 K on girls, that alone is not an addiction. But if you are spending way more than you can afford, it is. If you are taking too many risks, same thing.

Even as someone who has a lifelong obsession, occasionally addiction, I can stop and have. I've stopped visiting girls for years. Don't know if it would work for others, but I found other hobbies, including porn. Then I replaced porn with watching bluray movies. Keeping a private journal really helped me identify when an intensive hobby turned into an addiction, and I stopped. Many people can't but I'm saying there are certainly steps you can take to give yourself a chance.

About STDs, bbbj is much much safer than bbfs. With bbbj the main risk left is herpes and the many strains of HPV. HPV has an excellent vaccine called Gardasil, which finally a few years ago they opened up to anyone (it used to be only young girls, then young men, now everyone). I won't go into the details but it covers every HPV strain that causes warts and cervical cancer. Crabs are a small white insect that is only an issue between people with pubic hair. They grab onto the pubic hair, lay lots of eggs, cause lots of itching. They die very fast with proper application of NIX which is sold over the counter. If the girl is shaved, it's not an issue. It is known since ancient times.

Herpes is very common and for most people not a big deal. It is also an STD you can get even with full protection. Some people have no symptoms, others have flare ups especially at the beginning with pus filled skin, and spreading it to a partner is an issue. Bbfs opens you up to many more STDs and has a higher transmission rate for all of them. STDs like Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are possible with oral sex but studies show it has a super low transmission rate that way (Chlamydia can survive in the throat so if it is deep throat bbbj it's possible). Whereas with professional girls bbfs STDs are just a matter of time.

There should be no guilt or shame about sex itself. In many countries there is none at all. To use an example, in Thailand you can be a ladyboy or visit a ladyboy and it is simply a preference. Nobody considers them lesser people there, which is one reason why it is so common and open. Prostitution is open and not tabboo in any way. They are an enlightened people in this aspect. So don't feel such shame.

But, that is not to say if you are in a relationship that it is okay to cheat or hurt someone. It is a very personal thing you will have to work out for yourself. As others said, mongering with a relationship does not work out in the long run.

[PayPalMakesMon]

Not married, but that babylove pussy is good, huh? I think about it a lot too haha.

No doubt! Best deal hands down right now 😂.

[PayPalMakesMon]

The escorts you see don't ask you to stop at the grocery store, don't get colds and filled up with snot, don't forget to flush the toilet with a little turd still left in it, don't say stupid shit every day. You show up, you have sex, you pay your money, you leave. They are basically sex dolls. Wives are boring. So are husbands. Take a break from the escorts, try some different sex with your wife. You'll still be bored by her at various points but you would be bored with whoever your fantasy woman is as well.

Great advice D! I'm definitely trying this.

[DWaits]

The escorts you see don't ask you to stop at the grocery store, don't get colds and filled up with snot, don't forget to flush the toilet with a little turd still left in it, don't say stupid shit every day. You show up, you have sex, you pay your money, you leave. They are basically sex dolls. Wives are boring. So are husbands. Take a break from the escorts, try some different sex with your wife. You'll still be bored by her at various points but you would be bored with whoever your fantasy woman is as well.

[Suede15]

Ace since you can't' get PM, I want to ask you here, about an escort you posted about, Colette, big tits. I have met someone who might meet that definition, but on a sugar site. A 40 YO MILF. I don't want to pay steak prices for hamburger, YK? Do you think it could be the same woman?

Colette off hx is defintely not in her 40's. Maybe early 30's now. Most likely not her, but she still post on hx. Not sure her handle now.

[MacNCheese]

We've been together for 8 years and there is no problems in our marriage.

This is very obviously not true otherwise you would not be seeking out hookers. No judgement here as there's no such thing as a perfect marriage, but you can't fool yourself into thinking everything's normal. There's always a thrill being with a new girl, so I'm sure there's some part of you that's bored in bed with the wife.

If it's affecting your relationship and you really want to stay with her, you should probably take a break and reevaluate yourself. If you can't stop yourself, like the other dude said you're probably an addict. Try therapy if you need it.

[ZzzBoy14]

Hey fellow mongers! I was wondering if you guys can help me with any advice?

I know I started this thread to express the married and mongering topic but lately It has been affecting me.

Before, I would be able to have sex wit the wifey and cum easily. The last few times we've done it, I haven't been able to cum. I noticed my sex drive to want to do it with the wife has also been at an all time low lately as well. The crazy part is my wife is pretty hot, young (29) and I am 41. We've been together for 8 years and there is no problems in our marriage. We are still happy in love but I'm not sure if it's because we've been together so long that I just don't ever have the urge to do it with her. Even when I am doing her, my mind is scrolling down memories of certain providers.

In the last month I've been going to HX and this forum every other morning and setting up appts to see chicks that are throwing out good specials for under $150. With these providers I am cumming perfectly normal but Its starting to take a toll on the bank account. I think in the back of my mind I am always telling myself how easy of access we have with HX. It's literally a PM, set a appt and get the job done. I was wondering if anyone had some similar issues with their wife? Also how did you tackle the problem? If I can still perform with the wifey then she won't ever suspect anything but now it's becoming a problem where she is asking questions like " is it me? Are you still attracted to me? Is there someone else? " and the pressure is building on myself to not being able to perform.

I was thinking about taking a break from HX just to reset my mind but I am always telling myself " LAST TIME" and it just continues. The access is just super convenient that my brain is telling me to cum with providers because maybe it's exciting?

If anyone went thru this or is having similar issues I would love to hear it. Thank you so much fellow mongers!

Not married, but that babylove pussy is good, huh? I think about it a lot too haha.

[AlrightCool69]

Hey fellow mongers! I was wondering if you guys can help me with any advice?

I know I started this thread to express the married and mongering topic but lately It has been affecting me.

Before, I would be able to have sex wit the wifey and cum easily. The last few times we've done it, I haven't been able to cum. I noticed my sex drive to want to do it with the wife has also been at an all time low lately as well. The crazy part is my wife is pretty hot, young (29) and I am 41. We've been together for 8 years and there is no problems in our marriage. We are still happy in love but I'm not sure if it's because we've been together so long that I just don't ever have the urge to do it with her. Even when I am doing her, my mind is scrolling down memories of certain providers.

In the last month I've been going to HX and this forum every other morning and setting up appts to see chicks that are throwing out good specials for under $150. With these providers I am cumming perfectly normal but Its starting to take a toll on the bank account. I think in the back of my mind I am always telling myself how easy of access we have with HX. It's literally a PM, set a appt and get the job done. I was wondering if anyone had some similar issues with their wife? Also how did you tackle the problem? If I can still perform with the wifey then she won't ever suspect anything but now it's becoming a problem where she is asking questions like " is it me? Are you still attracted to me? Is there someone else? " and the pressure is building on myself to not being able to perform.

I was thinking about taking a break from HX just to reset my mind but I am always telling myself " LAST TIME" and it just continues. The access is just super convenient that my brain is telling me to cum with providers because maybe it's exciting?

If anyone went thru this or is having similar issues I would love to hear it. Thank you so much fellow mongers!

Sounds like you're a sex addict. Which is very common in this community (If that wasn't apparent). But I'm no doctor or anything.

Have you ever tried talking to a professional? Whether that'd be a therapist or marriage counselor.

[PayPalMakesMon]

Hey fellow mongers! I was wondering if you guys can help me with any advice?

I know I started this thread to express the married and mongering topic but lately It has been affecting me.

Before, I would be able to have sex wit the wifey and cum easily. The last few times we've done it, I haven't been able to cum. I noticed my sex drive to want to do it with the wife has also been at an all time low lately as well. The crazy part is my wife is pretty hot, young (29) and I am 41. We've been together for 8 years and there is no problems in our marriage. We are still happy in love but I'm not sure if it's because we've been together so long that I just don't ever have the urge to do it with her. Even when I am doing her, my mind is scrolling down memories of certain providers.

In the last month I've been going to HX and this forum every other morning and setting up appts to see chicks that are throwing out good specials for under $150. With these providers I am cumming perfectly normal but Its starting to take a toll on the bank account. I think in the back of my mind I am always telling myself how easy of access we have with HX. It's literally a PM, set a appt and get the job done. I was wondering if anyone had some similar issues with their wife? Also how did you tackle the problem? If I can still perform with the wifey then she won't ever suspect anything but now it's becoming a problem where she is asking questions like " is it me? Are you still attracted to me? Is there someone else? " and the pressure is building on myself to not being able to perform.

I was thinking about taking a break from HX just to reset my mind but I am always telling myself " LAST TIME" and it just continues. The access is just super convenient that my brain is telling me to cum with providers because maybe it's exciting?

If anyone went thru this or is having similar issues I would love to hear it. Thank you so much fellow mongers!

[Member #6645]

I agree with Sc John. Life is too short to feel guilty. I do make sure I get regularly checked for stds. In a vast majority of marriages sex drive is goig to be different between two people. Always ends up with one party wanting sex more than the other. Often this can lead to resentment. As long as you're being safe I don't see the big issue. That being said I'm sure there are exceptions, but I don't see a majority of guys doing this with wives that are still hyped for sex and continue to try to keep up their appearance. I would greatly prefer to have a healthy sexual relationship with my wife rather than hobbying. Having to choose between essentially never having sex vs occasionally hobbying is an easy choice for me. At the end she's happy to not be hassled and I'm happy because I get some relief. Escort is happy because she made some cash. Win win win.

You nailed it. Not only sex drive, but sexual interest too. And the way I see it, society makes it seem like a vice when indeed it is quite natural. As long as you are acting safe and responsibly then I don't really see it as an issue. I always wondered if women would be more upset if their partners cheated physically or emotionally. For example getting caught in the physical act or getting caught texting LOL. FYI I am not married and not planning on it anytime soon.

[FarFarAway]

I really don't belong in this thread now but I been married before so I can offer a unique perspective. I watched an interview of one of my fav actors Tom Hardy. He played Venom and also Batman archenemy Bane. Anyway he said being alone is dangerous. If you can survive the first 2-3 months of loneliness, you will later realize how peaceful life is being alone, and you will never want to go back to being with someone again. So that has been my life now. Alone but not lonely. Been banging and giving creampies to the hottest 18-20 year old girls available without stress or guilt, and there simply is no way I can ever go back to being with just one woman again. So if I get married, the thirst will overpower me, then it means I have to cheat on her. And the way I monger, I will get caught in less than a week LOL.

Ace since you can't' get PM, I want to ask you here, about an escort you posted about, Colette, big tits. I have met someone who might meet that definition, but on a sugar site. A 40 YO MILF. I don't want to pay steak prices for hamburger, YK? Do you think it could be the same woman?

[Ace McNasty]

I really don't belong in this thread now but I been married before so I can offer a unique perspective. I watched an interview of one of my fav actors Tom Hardy. He played Venom and also Batman archenemy Bane. Anyway he said being alone is dangerous. If you can survive the first 2-3 months of loneliness, you will later realize how peaceful life is being alone, and you will never want to go back to being with someone again. So that has been my life now. Alone but not lonely. Been banging and giving creampies to the hottest 18-20 year old girls available without stress or guilt, and there simply is no way I can ever go back to being with just one woman again. So if I get married, the thirst will overpower me, then it means I have to cheat on her. And the way I monger, I will get caught in less than a week LOL.

I never mongered while I was married. Never even been to as much as a strip club. I was 100% faithful to my high school sweetheart. The most I ever did was watch porn online when she was out of the house. I guess in my 20's and 30's I was so focused on growing my business. But then life happened and we got divorced.

My first escort right after my divorce was a 23 yo black leather clad hottie in Cleveland. She looked like Pat Benatar. It was during a business trip. I lived in the Bay Area back then and there was a popular escort site called Redbook. I joined and my first girl there was a hot thin 22 yo redhead named Hope. She was as amazing in bed as she was gorgeous. Pics below. That site was like the HX of Northern CA, then it became defunct, and I found Hx later. Ten years later I think she still posts ads but she got a Mom bod now. I bet she replicated couple of times and they never really get back to that girlish figure after cloning. So yeah, will continue to bang as many hot girls I can find, and could never go back to civie dating or committed relationships again. Am basically Tom Hardy now.

Do any of you married mongers remember who your first escort was during marriage?