Seeking Arrangement

[AnanaMo]

Close! Amy and uncle mark.

Did uncle Mark consult his church at anytime. Or Amy dropped her laptop?

[AnanaMo]

Close! Amy and uncle mark.

If this is her, tell her I said hi! LOL.

[RoyalOaker]

Did the girl use the name brandy and uncle Mark? Was this the girl?

Close! Amy and uncle mark.

[RoyalOaker]

I had someone try this with me. They were pretty good but I knew right away where it was going. Blocked and moved on.

Even though I've basically called out their game. They continue to try to intimidate me. Text me and call me pretending to be the police. The funny part is they're using phone numbers that have escort ads tied to them. Hopefully sometime soon they stop texting and calling me.

[JonMels]

I texted with and met this girl: https://members.seeking.com/member/a...e-53ccc501d7c3.

She is a beauty, with a thicker body than her first photo indicates, but toned. A fantastic backside and chest. Wears braces. She's a college grad and pretty bright.

I met her for a ppm 200 at a motel for a couple of hours. She's basically a massage girl, with limited touching. No GFE, no kissing, nothing with her vagina. HJ release is the only option. She's hot enough to make it work for me once, but I won't pursue this.

She's looking for something regular, maybe 2 x / month. PPM is probably flexible. She'll want more, but she didn't balk at 200. Best contact is a message on SA.

So basically: Hot girl, great bod, 200 for HJ.

[Taz41]

Just letting you know you're not alone and that this kind of thing happens often. Late last year, I had been seeing a woman for about 6 months who is about the same age as the woman you mention here. I met her off a site (not Seeking) then one day she basically faded into non-existence. She always did 90% of the pursuing and initiating conversation. I had been to her house, etc the sex was great, she gave the best top I have ever had. She had texted me randomly a couple times after everything came to a halt but I could never get her out again. Don't take this stuff personally- I know rejection can breed obsession. Most of these women are very damaged emotionally & mentally on top of the fact that they're constantly receiving attention and thirst from other guys. Enjoy it for what it was.

This is the right answer. It's only a matter of 'when' a rejection happens. I've had some good long-term arraignments, but they are hard to find and most aren't capable of just staying status quo for too long. Either you'll fall down on her calendar priority or she's looking for something else.

They're not doing escort sites bc they want something else than dates. An alpha dude to marry, a rich dude to put her up, a baby daddy, etc. I had a regular good thing 3-4 years ago with one I know many here agree is a good time, and it was pretty clear from the start she wanted marriage and have a guy support her siblings. Telling her upfront I wasn't what she was looking for was probably the start of the end and we went from regular, amazing appts that would often go all night to another 2 years of less of a good time and fewer meetups. I eventually ended it after some crazy texts and one crazy event. 18 months after that she emails, calls and texts multiple numbers within 10 minutes saying she needs to meet. Brings her newborn child over the next day. Calls me daddy, shares too much, etc. It turns out she was only momentarily ticked off at the baby's daddy along with other stress from mom's side. She then teases getting together off and on every month or so. If it happens, great, but I'm not expecting greatness again.

These girls can get every need met and are still always looking for something better that they think won't end up with them being rejected themselves. I'm never surprised when reality hits back and they realize they can get used too and they fall back to calling again. But, IMHO, unless you hit the lotto, you never get back what you had with someone like this, and if you did hit the lotto you wouldn't anyway. Best to look for the next great fleeting experience.

[Gyxser70]

Met a woman on SA about 3 months ago. She is not what I view as typical on the site. 37, gorgeous, long dark hair, tall, intense green eyes that absolutely killed me, great body. She recently moved back to Michigan from Colorado after her dad passed away here. Smart, great job, worked remotely so we had lunchtime visits at her house. Is going to grad school too. We texted and talked on phone. Did everything bare. CIP. PPM was reasonable. She's a military vet. She been married and divorced twice before the age of 27. Both guys were military. Very short term marriages. Also had a bf in Colorado that she left to come to back to Mich (she's originally from the UP). Last meeting couple weeks ago, she is very distracted and disinterested. Not really kissing back. Lackluster BJ. Prior visits had been great. Figure something is up. Not good for me. Text her a week later about getting together she ghosts me. I call her and ask her to text me. She does and says sorry, want to stop visits. Vanilla sex is not what she needs or wants (ouch. Not going to lie. That stung the ego a bit) and is now pursuing the Bdsm lifestyle. WTF? She likes to be tied up, choked, slapped and have rules to abide by outside the bedroom. Never mentioned to me. I would have been happy to oblige her. She is so hot. She apparently had already been claimed by a dom and that was it for me. Like I said. I am very disappointed and pissed. Find a great one and this happens. Notice that she posts tributes to her dad on Facebook and Tik Tok. They were close, but seems excessive to me. Maybe daddy issues? She doesn't seem to maintain relationship with men (the 2 divorces / ex in Colorado). Maybe that's why the move to Bdsm life? Just wild speculation on my part. Anybody else ever meet up with her? Name is Jess. Lives in Macomb County. She is no longer on SA.

Just letting you know you're not alone and that this kind of thing happens often. Late last year, I had been seeing a woman for about 6 months who is about the same age as the woman you mention here. I met her off a site (not Seeking) then one day she basically faded into non-existence. She always did 90% of the pursuing and initiating conversation. I had been to her house, etc the sex was great, she gave the best top I have ever had. She had texted me randomly a couple times after everything came to a halt but I could never get her out again. Don't take this stuff personally- I know rejection can breed obsession. Most of these women are very damaged emotionally & mentally on top of the fact that they're constantly receiving attention and thirst from other guys. Enjoy it for what it was.

[Lsyfier]

A lot of profiles on SA are offering BDSM. I have met one in a cafe, sometime in Jan. She was wearing loose clothes but looks fine. She is flexible but into BDSM thing so not my type. She seems sweet, a responsible mother and even didn't ask for gas or anything. If someone is interested, here is her profile:

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...b-ade50ed3d2d5

Offering Bdsm up front is fine. My issue with the one I was seeing is that she did not mention it in her SA profile nor the during the 3 months I was seeing her. I even asked her early on what she liked to do sexually. All she said was that she liked it from behind. That's it. So this Bdsm thing came out of left field. So I'm not sure if she was handing me a line of bs or she really wants to pursue the Bdsm lifestyle. She seemed to use the terminology associated with bdsm when she told me. She said she likes to be tied up, choked and slapped which made it sound like she had experience it before. Not sure why she would bs me about it rather than just say she wanted to end our visits (like an adult). Not sure why she just didn't pursue that lifestyle rather than show up on SA representing something other than that. Kind of pisses me off. I was really into her.

[Member #6254]

Not sure if she was being honest about the Bdsm thing or just using it to break it off with me. Thinking she may just be wanting to explore her sexuality further. She's already done the traditional things (marriage, etc). She's 37, hot, single, no commitments, starting a new life in a new place. Maybe I get it I guess. The thing is that she just doesn't seem the type to want to get tied up, choked and slapped around. Maybe she had some mental thing going on. But then again, maybe that's just her kink (or at least she thinks it's her kink). Been around awhile and still can't figure these women out and probably never will. God knows I love 'them though.

A lot of profiles on SA are offering BDSM. I have met one in a cafe, sometime in Jan. She was wearing loose clothes but looks fine. She is flexible but into BDSM thing so not my type. She seems sweet, a responsible mother and even didn't ask for gas or anything. If someone is interested, here is her profile:

https://members.seeking.com/member/3...b-ade50ed3d2d5

[RoyalOaker]

Thanks for valuable suggestions. I haven't involved anyone yet and I am more afraid of false allegations. She don't know anything about me except my home address. I did use textapps, a fake snap I'd and I haven't sent my picture to her ever. I have deleted all my accounts, so no communications from her anymore. I'll wait for few more days. I hope these are all false threats.

Thanks all for showing concern.

I think it will all blow over. Bullies eventually get tired and move To other targets or the next scam.

[ZnonAcct11]

Did you facetime / snap her? If not, facetime her and you'll know.

I did not. We text about expectations and it never clicked from there. She disappeared for a while and I found another regular which just recently ended.

I had FAs number but it looks like she changed it. I'll message her on SA.

Thanks.

[Member #6254]

For anyone caught in this unfortunate situation, you might want to start a conversation with an attorney. No need to retain at this point, but it can be a comfort to have someone in your corner. I would do that before talking to anyone in law enforcement, who might not be real concerned with your interests. If you do need to go to the police, always better to have an attorney who knows the ins and outs of these interactions to facilitate and guide.

Of course, for all of us: No real information should leave your control. No real phone numbers, email addresses, real addresses, usernames. I don't even list my real city. I post the photo I want to post. If they ask for more, I don't have any and I don't have the capacity to take any.

Good luck. It will likely blow over, but best to see if you can get somebody in your corner. If nothing else, it's a comfort.

Thanks for valuable suggestions. I haven't involved anyone yet and I am more afraid of false allegations. She don't know anything about me except my home address. I did use textapps, a fake snap I'd and I haven't sent my picture to her ever. I have deleted all my accounts, so no communications from her anymore. I'll wait for few more days. I hope these are all false threats.

Thanks all for showing concern.

[Member #6254]

What did she ask ppm? Messaged with her a while back and she wanted $600 ppm.

Did you facetime / snap her? If not, facetime her and you'll know.

[JonMels]

Thanks for suggestions. She is threatening me from last 4 days for false allegations, saying her step father is a cop too. Also, send me pictures of her with some cop (HPD).

For anyone caught in this unfortunate situation, you might want to start a conversation with an attorney. No need to retain at this point, but it can be a comfort to have someone in your corner. I would do that before talking to anyone in law enforcement, who might not be real concerned with your interests. If you do need to go to the police, always better to have an attorney who knows the ins and outs of these interactions to facilitate and guide.

Of course, for all of us: No real information should leave your control. No real phone numbers, email addresses, real addresses, usernames. I don't even list my real city. I post the photo I want to post. If they ask for more, I don't have any and I don't have the capacity to take any.

Good luck. It will likely blow over, but best to see if you can get somebody in your corner. If nothing else, it's a comfort.

[Jim Stark]

Are they threatening to out you to your wife and family? I've had that happen and when I stopped responding and stopped giving them the attention that they were looking for, it went away. Most of them just want money, and if you've already given them money to keep quiet, you're already screwed, but if they know that they won't get any money, they move on to the next person.