NoVA SugarBabies

[Rudy Wellz]

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it and it has opened my eyes to this SD / SB world. I had no idea that the usual relationship would require meetings so often. I am too busy (family, work, hobbies, etc) to meet more than once every other week, so it's not even an option. I am going to stick to PPM and even if they want to repeat, I will just keep sticking to that. I don't care if they see other people, it's fwb nsa type of deal anyways. I am on the younger side and could vanilla date, however, without the monetary barrier, they would get attached and things get messy (been there). The main reason to why I am trying this out is to casually date real people but still keep a barrier from getting attached.

It may take a while, but you absolutely can find a SB that stays in 'your lane'. Whatever that is. You want to pay $X and meet twice monthly? There is someone out there who will accept your terms. Obviously more $$ frequency, handsome, fit, nice, etc. Gives you more options. But figure out what works for you, stick with it and have patience.

[Rudy Wellz]

She the type of teacher that would get fired to promote her OF LOL. No way DCPS hires someone that hot.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...5-8753934f59b2

https://www.instagram.com/daria_gapska/

Reverse search? Great catch and thanks for saving some of us time. She's definitely too hot to be a SB. Not that their aren't some super hot ones in the Bowl, but it's extremely rare.

[SRH59]

She the type of teacher that would get fired to promote her OF LOL. No way DCPS hires someone that hot.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...5-8753934f59b2

https://www.instagram.com/daria_gapska/

So many of these insta-scammers. But more of the "one amazing photo and that's it" variety. This one stole several photos and then actually wrote something out to seem almost plausible, but-for the smoke show optics. Makes me wonder if it's an outright scam (dude in a wife beater in his basement) vs. Some chick thinking she can claim she's a close proximity. Which never really pans out.

[Mandane]

She the type of teacher that would get fired to promote her OF LOL. No way DCPS hires someone that hot.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...5-8753934f59b2

https://www.instagram.com/daria_gapska/

[AutoRepairru]

Fake.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...2-ca8d70b1e097

https://www.instagram.com/p/CnztaOGqEeZ/

https://www.instagram.com/pamalaaam/

Ty for the reverse image search. To many red flags and alarm bells going on. Big brain got control of the little. If you're in Richmond and need anything let me know.

[DickLongwood]

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...d-49cded45c369

Starts conversation then immediately says she doesn't "use this app much" and asks for phone number. In broken English, 99.9% chance she's a scammer.

Nice photo, but there's not enough substance in her profile to pursue.

[FogHorn1]

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...d-49cded45c369

Starts conversation then immediately says she doesn't "use this app much" and asks for phone number. In broken English, 99.9% chance she's a scammer.

[Mandane]

FlirtySiren on SA TGTBT.

41 yo with the body of a girl in her 20's. Let me know if I messed the boat or dodged a bullet.

Fake.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...2-ca8d70b1e097

https://www.instagram.com/p/CnztaOGqEeZ/

https://www.instagram.com/pamalaaam/

[AutoRepairru]

FlirtySiren on SA TGTBT.

41 yo with the body of a girl in her 20's. Let me know if I messed the boat or dodged a bullet.

[Member #6230]

I've said before, the opportunity to date some of these girls without PPM is more prevalent than people might assume. I'm no spring chicken or bottle service baller, but also on the younger side as SD standards go, and I can usually string together a coherent sentence or two. I've had ample opportunity to turn a sugar relationship into something more conventional. That said, as soon as there isn't a PPM involved, now you lose your autonomy and they start thinking they're your GF and expecting certain things.

I know from experience, sadly. She was actually a great girl but as you would expect, much younger. Sex was incredible and she was one of the coolest girls I've met. She finally moved on, and got a serious BF from hinge or some shit. I continued to bang her for a good part of her being with this guy, he was her age and according to her she really liked him, he was nice, age appropriate, etc. But he didn't eat her pussy and he was basically a two pumps and a pullback kind of guy so she never got hers. She's now engaged to the guy, and we no longer see each other. To be honest, I sort of kick myself over that one because it's the one time I actually caught feelings as well, but never actually let on to her that I did and she got tired of it.

Moral of the story, it's much easier / safer to keep the PPM in place and a clear line drawn so as not to muddy the waters and risk any hurt feelings for either party.

Agreed. When things finally end, you want it to be on good terms. You want them to remember you fondly, not as some guy they wasted their time with. I've never been good at traditional relationships, and years ago realized that each time one ended it was replaced with something better (or at least newer which makes it fun) anyway.

Sugar relationships allow us to move on and remain Allie's, keepers of secrets, and good experiences.

As much as they wear a facade when we meet, and only show us their best, we are also doing the same. After a period of time when the masks finally come off, and what we are left with is our true imperfect selves, it becomes more work than fun. Sugaring allows us to -not answer phone calls and texts, respond to every little thing they deem an emergency, not care how she handles her finances, not care who about infidelity, etc.

The basis of sugaring is mutually beneficial. That means we give them something they are not able to achieve on their own, and we get something that is traditionally unavailable to us without extreme good looks, luck, and the ability to step out of normal social conventions by approaching someone 20 years younger than us in public. We meet in an appropriate place online, we are able to lay out boundaries before we meet, and as the more mature experienced person, it's up to us to maintain those boundaries.

Here are some things that help set those boundaries as well.

"Make sure you invite me to your wedding when you find that guy".

" Can we go shopping together? Help me pick out an outfit so that women will find me more attractive when you move on (with a laugh).

Sugaring helped me get comfortable with beautiful women, with the amount of effort I wanted to put in it. It's helped me to avoid bad relationships, it's helped raise my standards for traditional dating, and opened my eyes to things I wouldn't discover on my own.

The money, the gifts, the extra attention to detail, is payment for services rendered. I always get more out of a good sugar relationship than I give, and she will tell me the same.

They like us for our experiences, don't be afraid to tell them how the "new you" has attracted new fish. It gives them one more reason to do this. (People love to feel good about how they improved someone else's life).

[FogHorn1]

...it's fwb nsa type of deal anyways. I am on the younger side and could vanilla date, however, without the monetary barrier, they would get attached and things get messy (been there). The main reason to why I am trying this out is to casually date real people but still keep a barrier from getting attached.

I've said before, the opportunity to date some of these girls without PPM is more prevalent than people might assume. I'm no spring chicken or bottle service baller, but also on the younger side as SD standards go, and I can usually string together a coherent sentence or two. I've had ample opportunity to turn a sugar relationship into something more conventional. That said, as soon as there isn't a PPM involved, now you lose your autonomy and they start thinking they're your GF and expecting certain things.

I know from experience, sadly. She was actually a great girl but as you would expect, much younger. Sex was incredible and she was one of the coolest girls I've met. She finally moved on, and got a serious BF from hinge or some shit. I continued to bang her for a good part of her being with this guy, he was her age and according to her she really liked him, he was nice, age appropriate, etc. But he didn't eat her pussy and he was basically a two pumps and a pullback kind of guy so she never got hers. She's now engaged to the guy, and we no longer see each other. To be honest, I sort of kick myself over that one because it's the one time I actually caught feelings as well, but never actually let on to her that I did and she got tired of it.

Moral of the story, it's much easier / safer to keep the PPM in place and a clear line drawn so as not to muddy the waters and risk any hurt feelings for either party.

[FogHorn1]

Anyone try these girls yet? They are offering solo and duos for 500.

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...9-56bd07f30c84

Thought this might be one of them because she used to offer duos with a friend. MissDoe90.

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...2-18d25fc31951

No idea of one of them is MissDoe or not. She and I established text communication many months ago but I found her to be flaky as hell. Would set a time to meet and then ghost, after she did that twice I didn't return her last text. Time waster as far as I can tell.

[Member #6230]

Agreed. I blew a few opportunities to vanilla a few keeper SBs back in they day that I probably could have had I'd followed some of the advice there. If I ever run across a potential keeper in the future, I'll try some of these tactics.

It's more fun to catch and release. The good ones deserve better than us.

[Bellissimo]

This 19 year old has never had an arrangement before. I asked her if she was anticipating becoming intimate with guys as part of being on Seeking. Her response was, "That's prostitution! No!

https://members.seeking.com/member/2...4-b552ba2f0406

[AnonDemon69]

I'll give this a shot, but realize there will be as many opinions as there are mongers.

First, you have to be honest with your budget, and that honesty might piss her off. 350 2 x a month isn't much to work with and probably doesn't put you that far above someone she could just vanilla date.

Second, you need to determine if she is pushing for more dates because she likes you or is trying to maximize how much she can get from you. Seeing someone you're fucking at minimum once once a week is pretty normal, and most young women will want sex more often than that.

But there are some things you can do that will help her see you in more favorable terms.

Suggest dates where she doesn't have to get dressed up. If you spend any time reading "sugar baby gossip groups" which are the opposite of what we do here, you're going to hear them complaining about how much time it takes to get ready, how much it costs to get their hair and nails done, how much the outfits cost and they feel justified in getting paid to meet your (all sd's) standards. They include the time it takes to get ready in the ppm in the simplest of terms.

Basically what you're going for here is a "relationship type" Netflix and chill. Ask her to come over in her sweatpants, hoodie, no makeup, because you just want to spend time together. I used to call this the "Tuesday special" she gets some money, an easy night without the pressure of the dog and pony show, we both get laid at a lower ppm. If you present this right, it will make sense to her. You can even point out how you want her to be able to spend time with her friends on Friday and Saturday. In her head, she may translate this to a higher paying opportunity with someone willing to pay more than you and you really have to be okay with that.

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it and it has opened my eyes to this SD / SB world. I had no idea that the usual relationship would require meetings so often. I am too busy (family, work, hobbies, etc) to meet more than once every other week, so it's not even an option. I am going to stick to PPM and even if they want to repeat, I will just keep sticking to that. I don't care if they see other people, it's fwb nsa type of deal anyways. I am on the younger side and could vanilla date, however, without the monetary barrier, they would get attached and things get messy (been there). The main reason to why I am trying this out is to casually date real people but still keep a barrier from getting attached.