NoVA SugarBabies

**RobIvan** · 01-12-23 14:14

Originally Posted by RudyWellz [View Original Post]

Being direct removes all ambiguity. You could say something like "I look forward to your visit. Rest assured I don't have any kinks or fetishes. Enjoy a woman, her mind and her body. How about you? Is there anything that you enjoy / like out of the ordinary that we should discuss?

Also, share the SB URL so that we can opine on whether we think she is trans or not.

Hope she is not and that you have a wonderful visit.

Or just ask "want to trade dick pics" and see how he / she responds?

**BuffBill75** · 01-12-23 08:59

Originally Posted by RudyWellz [View Original Post]

Choclatbar_b is attractive, brown, has a lovely rack, DSL's and hips. Unfortunately, she's been reading the Sugar Forums on other sites and wants $2500/ month allowance. I explained why that doesn't work for me and countered with $400-$500 ppm depending on a number of factors that I left vague. She agreed to the PPM, but wanted $1 K "start-up" fee. Of course that doesn't work for me either. She wouldn't budge. I texted her just now saying that since our initial meeting, we could have gone BCD's 3-4 times (more tactfully stated). We'll see if she responds.

https://members.seeking.com/member/1...1-6da724d40284

LOL it's like a signing bonus.

**Rudy Wellz** · 01-12-23 07:57

Originally Posted by MrFairfax [View Original Post]

So I might just be being totally silly / off the mark with this but many many years ago I met up with a girl from a dating app and she turned out to be trans, she told me before it got physical and I dropped her off at home, I'm not into that.

I recently connected with a really hot black girl on Seeking that is very eager to meet, everything seems good, but her look / pheno kinda reminds me of that girl from years ago, she just looks really robust (not unusual for black girls) and she's 5'8, I just want to make sure she's not a trans before I fly her out here.

How would you approach? I feel like straight up asking her would turn her off, no?

Thanks guys.

Being direct removes all ambiguity. You could say something like "I look forward to your visit. Rest assured I don't have any kinks or fetishes. Enjoy a woman, her mind and her body. How about you? Is there anything that you enjoy / like out of the ordinary that we should discuss?

Also, share the SB URL so that we can opine on whether we think she is trans or not.

Hope she is not and that you have a wonderful visit.

**CruisingXX** · 01-11-23 18:14

Wondering if anyone has any intel on her, had a great discussion going with her, seems real. But when I offered 400-500 ppm she said it was a not go. I decided not to counter above that.

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...2-7e895129f49e

**Mandane** · 01-11-23 16:12

Originally Posted by MrFairfax [View Original Post]

So I might just be being totally silly / off the mark with this but many many years ago I met up with a girl from a dating app and she turned out to be trans, she told me before it got physical and I dropped her off at home, I'm not into that.

I recently connected with a really hot black girl on Seeking that is very eager to meet, everything seems good, but her look / pheno kinda reminds me of that girl from years ago, she just looks really robust (not unusual for black girls) and she's 5'8, I just want to make sure she's not a trans before I fly her out here.

How would you approach? I feel like straight up asking her would turn her off, no?

Thanks guys.

When you get to the sex talk tell her that DATY is super important for you. Like you can't get hard unless you can do that, and that DATO is a no go for you. Gives her an opening to discuss.

**TomFordModel** · 01-11-23 15:25

Originally Posted by MrFairfax [View Original Post]

So I might just be being totally silly / off the mark with this but many many years ago I met up with a girl from a dating app and she turned out to be trans, she told me before it got physical and I dropped her off at home, I'm not into that.

I recently connected with a really hot black girl on Seeking that is very eager to meet, everything seems good, but her look / pheno kinda reminds me of that girl from years ago, she just looks really robust (not unusual for black girls) and she's 5'8, I just want to make sure she's not a trans before I fly her out here.

How would you approach? I feel like straight up asking her would turn her off, no?

Thanks guys.

LOL. Its a dude. Don't do it.

**MrFairfax** · 01-11-23 14:25

So I might just be being totally silly / off the mark with this but many many years ago I met up with a girl from a dating app and she turned out to be trans, she told me before it got physical and I dropped her off at home, I'm not into that.

I recently connected with a really hot black girl on Seeking that is very eager to meet, everything seems good, but her look / pheno kinda reminds me of that girl from years ago, she just looks really robust (not unusual for black girls) and she's 5'8, I just want to make sure she's not a trans before I fly her out here.

How would you approach? I feel like straight up asking her would turn her off, no?

Thanks guys.

**Rudy Wellz** · 01-10-23 18:45

Choclatbar_b is attractive, brown, has a lovely rack, DSL's and hips. Unfortunately, she's been reading the Sugar Forums on other sites and wants $2500/ month allowance. I explained why that doesn't work for me and countered with $400-$500 ppm depending on a number of factors that I left vague. She agreed to the PPM, but wanted $1 K "start-up" fee. Of course that doesn't work for me either. She wouldn't budge. I texted her just now saying that since our initial meeting, we could have gone BCD's 3-4 times (more tactfully stated). We'll see if she responds.

https://members.seeking.com/member/1...1-6da724d40284

**Tyrex2** · 01-10-23 18:40

Originally Posted by MrNiubility [View Original Post]

As a man with SO, this probably is the biggest concern of me not really tapping into seeking. I don't want to get attached or be attached, technically ppm should work for me, but I am not posting my face pics on the site, and that seems to not work for this game? Did I get this all wrong? Any recommendations on how to get started while maintaining adequate privacy?

Again. Do the work. There are LONG LONG posts on this. Everything from payments via pre-paid cards, to phone security, to pics discussed. And I'm not being a dick, just that the info is out there. As for pics, think about it. Find somebody who looks like you. Your celeb double and edit the pic per guidelines on seeking. But go do your legwork man

Here - one example, one search on this thread:

http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/showthread.php?11278-NoVA-SugarBabies&p=6109701&highlight=Opsec#post6109701

**Tophat31** · 01-10-23 18:19

Originally Posted by MrNiubility [View Original Post]

As a man with SO, this probably is the biggest concern of me not really tapping into seeking. I don't want to get attached or be attached, technically ppm should work for me, but I am not posting my face pics on the site, and that seems to not work for this game? Did I get this all wrong? Any recommendations on how to get started while maintaining adequate privacy?

I don't see how you will be successful without a face pic in private gallery. That's what I do and put an athletic body pic that doesn't show my face for the public profile. By that I meant it was me doing a selfie in the mirror from the neck down, shirt on, after I came back from the gym. SA with an SO is a risk. You just have to fully analyze who you grant access to your private pics.

**Mandane** · 01-10-23 16:11

This one starts with 300 ppm and offers to host in Capitol Heights MD.

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...3-a66147af6dfa

She can only do today or tonight. That's probably when she has her accomplices with her. She's all red flags including the fake picture LOL.

https://www.stylevore.com/magenta-an...ong-hair-girl/

**TomFordModel** · 01-10-23 13:08

Originally Posted by Mandane [View Original Post]

She wanted 2-3 k weekly or bi-weekly. I saw a face picture. Pretty average. She offered 700 ppm when I balked. She's maybe worth 3-4, so I declined.

LOL. 2-3 k weekly for that thing. How can she even think she's worth that. I wouldn't touch that if she pays me.

**Mandane** · 01-10-23 13:04

Originally Posted by RudyWellz [View Original Post]

This SB responded to my initial message that she is looking for a weekly allowance. Hasn't responded to my attempts to get her to text so that I can tell her "No Way", but I'll do PPM. She also doesn't have a face picture or private photos. Has anyone actually met her?

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...1-00b35b2ff270

She wanted 2-3 k weekly or bi-weekly. I saw a face picture. Pretty average. She offered 700 ppm when I balked. She's maybe worth 3-4, so I declined.

**MrNiubility** · 01-10-23 11:50

Originally Posted by GuyInTheCorner [View Original Post]

My experience as a married guy (who is upfront about it in his profile): there is a subsection of women that view this as a form of dating, where attraction matters as much as money and they want to know there's a future for it. It's Tinder but with guys who will pick up the tab and then some. They aren't interested in faceless profiles and they aren't interested in being the other woman. Many of them are clear about one or both; some aren't but they just don't respond. That's okay. Whatever works for them and I wish them well. For them, I'd imagine a public picture is important, both for their own initial screening and so that they know that the guy is genuine. They don't want to waste time where there is no attraction.

I am upfront about my status. I don't want to waste anyone else's time and I Definitely don't want to inadvertently bring in someone who is hoping to catch feelings and think there's a future. It eliminates some women to be sure including those where I could just meet them once or twice and then move on if it doesn't click but I am past my kid in a candy store phase.

As a man with SO, this probably is the biggest concern of me not really tapping into seeking. I don't want to get attached or be attached, technically ppm should work for me, but I am not posting my face pics on the site, and that seems to not work for this game? Did I get this all wrong? Any recommendations on how to get started while maintaining adequate privacy?

**Dimples572** · 01-10-23 11:38

Originally Posted by Shier [View Original Post]

What Itfcd is saying and many others have said is that if the URL for her page is this:

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...5-d79a6895a833

Then you search the forum for the last 12 digits:

d79a6895a833

I would say there is some discussion (mostly people who don't know how to use the search function) but not many actual reports on her.

I guess there are a few different ways to solve this riddle. The one that's always worked for me is this.

Here's part of her URL. The only part that matters imo.

https://members.seeking.com/member/f58ada5a

You take the first 8 digits after the "member /" and plug those into the search bar and viola. You'll get your results. So in this instance take the f58 ada5 a and search those characters and you should get 11 different results. Hope that helps simplify it for you.