NoVA SugarBabies

[Dimples572]

I try and dm an SB a picture of me shitless and it gets flagged and won't upload. This chick posts a nude on one of her public pics and it gets approved, WTF?? LOL.

https://members.seeking.com/member/2...8-e85121293a80

[DWinthrop]

Just started messaging with her on the site so don't have much info yet. She kind of goes hot and cold on the site. Anyone have any info / experience?

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...5-2a088981458f

She's real. Often brings a friend for threesomes. Can be pricey, although they are legit bisexual and the threesomes are the best I've had.

[Mcsylv]

Reads like a DE&I support group. Anyways, it's raining pussy out there.

One of my SBs in rotation wants to find a third for a playmate. Can't introduce her to anyone else who is in rotation because she thinks she is the only SB. She already gets jealous of my SO.

We have a new game where she runs our seeking account. She is also legit bisexual and has great taste. Found a fun new game with her, where she reaches out to potential SBs.

No m&Gs yet, but it's nice having her do all the initial outreach. She is a lot slower at setting up m&gs because she's taking time getting to know the SBs, but since she is a woman, it gives me instant credibility.

First time in a decade of playing in the bowl. Wish it had happened earlier.

Happy hunting gents.

Is she reaching out pretending to be you, or openly telling girls she's your current SB and wants to find a 3 some playmate?

Any girls get turned off because they want an exclusive SD, not being part of a trio? What about allowance, are you planning on having her tell the other girl the truth about what she's getting and then give the same to both, or are you going to try to save a few bucks if you can with the new girl, same as if you were reaching out yourself?

If she wants a playmate, why doesn't she invite a friend LOL, why does it have to be off SA?

[ProCatHunter]

Reads like a DE&I support group. Anyways, it's raining pussy out there.

One of my SBs in rotation wants to find a third for a playmate. Can't introduce her to anyone else who is in rotation because she thinks she is the only SB. She already gets jealous of my SO.

We have a new game where she runs our seeking account. She is also legit bisexual and has great taste. Found a fun new game with her, where she reaches out to potential SBs.

No m&Gs yet, but it's nice having her do all the initial outreach. She is a lot slower at setting up m&gs because she's taking time getting to know the SBs, but since she is a woman, it gives me instant credibility.

First time in a decade of playing in the bowl. Wish it had happened earlier.

Happy hunting gents.

[OliverNP]

Hey, you know, I'd also prefer to not have narrow-minded and bigoted people on any of the sites that I affiliate with, but until I create my own websites and set my own rules then I guess I have to decide for myself if I am going to continue to use those sites. So, in the meantime, how about we all just live and let live.

As long as letting live includes letting folks express their opinions without undermining those opinions and presenting ones own opinion as superior, then sure. Outside that boundary I say live and let fuck off.

[Dkayz]

Why wouldn't it be ok? Particularly considering you can set an upper age limit when you search, and just uncheck the body types you don't care for.

But besides that, why should you get to decide the ideal body type for others?

From the SBs perspective, should the same apply to the SDs? Are you handsome, in perfect shape, and very wealthy?

I wasn't saying they shouldn't be on the site, but I think women with disabilities have as much of a right to be on the site as old or obese women.

There are definitely factors that you can filter on the site with their function, but putting a field in for "disability" would be a mess, and uncomfortable. I've met guys that do this hobby that have also been severely disabled, but no one makes a big deal about that either. When you get into disabilities, it's a huge range that shouldn't have to be broadcasted, because where do you draw the line on what is functioning and just not "aesthetically" pleasing? Sure, a girl is in a wheelchair, but I've also gone on a date with a girl who was very autistic. Talking with her online where she is able to write down her thoughts you would think you were talking to a college educated girl, but in person it was like going on a date with someone in junior high. That one didn't work out for a SB relationship, but as far as a friendship went it lasted for quite some time. Mental / physical disorders are too broad to just try and justify a filter or an exclusion on the site.

Should the girl tell you that she has a noticeable disability? Probably, and I imagine that most will when you are in the talking stage before meeting since it's probably something that they are nervous about as well. But I don't think that it needs to be posted on their profile for everyone to see.

As for your last question, yes, above average, moderate.

[ErkTheOne]

I don't think old ladies or fat girls are appropriate candidates for being an SB any more than broke guys living paycheck to paycheck with their parents qualify to be SDs. So I'm not singling out disabilities or any specific group here (or even limiting the idea to the females), it's just that the definition of fat vs. curvy for example becomes much harder to define than being disabled to the point of not being able to walk.

If someones disability is so slight that you wouldn't know until they told you (like the case of the deaf girl you mentioned), it would be nice if they mention that in their profile if its something that's going to affect verbal communication, but yes I think there is a threshold for which a mild disability becomes moot (maybe her speech is a bit off but her looks are off the charts and more than make up for it). The key there is disclosing in the profile. Is the disability such that being honest about it in the profile would result in a dramatic drop in interest? If so that's probably a sign dating should be relegated to sites that specifically cater to the need.

I would say the exact same thing about a girl who cannot speak English effectively. It may or may not be a turn off for me at all, but I should at least know about it before I invest any time pursuing. Fortunately, its not an issue because some of them communicate this to me up front by not including English at all in their profile (or at least I assume that's what they're trying to broadcast).

I also think that LGBT folks looking for non-traditional SB arrangements (meaning male daddy. Female sb) should have their own niche sites they stick to. I don't want to browse through "girls" guessing which ones have a dick and wish they didn't versus which ones are actual females.

Hey, you know, I'd also prefer to not have narrow-minded and bigoted people on any of the sites that I affiliate with, but until I create my own websites and set my own rules then I guess I have to decide for myself if I am going to continue to use those sites. So, in the meantime, how about we all just live and let live.

[LikesGirls]

But it's ok for 40 year olds to be on the site? Or obese chicks?

Why wouldn't it be ok? Particularly considering you can set an upper age limit when you search, and just uncheck the body types you don't care for.

But besides that, why should you get to decide the ideal body type for others?

From the SBs perspective, should the same apply to the SDs? Are you handsome, in perfect shape, and very wealthy?

[OliverNP]

But it's ok for 40 year olds to be on the site? Or obese chicks? Considering how many girls you have to message just to find someone who isn't a scam, time waster, or actually wants to connect with you, you're not wasting any extra time you wouldn't if you are so horrifically turned off by a wheelchair.

When I first got on SA back around 2014-15 one of the first dates I went on was a gorgeous Asian college girl who was deaf. She didn't tell me she was deaf until we were a few minutes into dinner. She was really good at reading lips and just had a slight speech impediment. But it was also one of the better girls I had in bed back then, too. It makes no difference, honestly. The girl in the wheelchair I wouldn't want to hook up with just because she's fat.

I don't think old ladies or fat girls are appropriate candidates for being an SB any more than broke guys living paycheck to paycheck with their parents qualify to be SDs. So I'm not singling out disabilities or any specific group here (or even limiting the idea to the females), it's just that the definition of fat vs. curvy for example becomes much harder to define than being disabled to the point of not being able to walk.

If someones disability is so slight that you wouldn't know until they told you (like the case of the deaf girl you mentioned), it would be nice if they mention that in their profile if its something that's going to affect verbal communication, but yes I think there is a threshold for which a mild disability becomes moot (maybe her speech is a bit off but her looks are off the charts and more than make up for it). The key there is disclosing in the profile. Is the disability such that being honest about it in the profile would result in a dramatic drop in interest? If so that's probably a sign dating should be relegated to sites that specifically cater to the need.

I would say the exact same thing about a girl who cannot speak English effectively. It may or may not be a turn off for me at all, but I should at least know about it before I invest any time pursuing. Fortunately, its not an issue because some of them communicate this to me up front by not including English at all in their profile (or at least I assume that's what they're trying to broadcast).

I also think that LGBT folks looking for non-traditional SB arrangements (meaning male daddy. Female sb) should have their own niche sites they stick to. I don't want to browse through "girls" guessing which ones have a dick and wish they didn't versus which ones are actual females.

[Pathfinder04]

Has anyone seen this one and if so, can you please give your feedback?

https://members.seeking.com/member/1...4-1e5e166ee8a8

I don't do a lot of details since things tend to get back to the girls. But I can confirm as of tonight that she is the real deal.

[Dkayz]

Is the sugar scene really a good idea for severely disabled girls? The theme of the game is affluent men connecting with beautiful young women (and yes I understand the definition of beauty varies). I am 100% on board with the realization that people with disabilities should have equal opportunity with regard to finding happiness, love, and an otherwise fulfilling life. I would even go so far as to say that (not including SBs) I like and support the idea of going the extra mile to help the less fortunate overcome their issues (including physical disabilities). But I am not on board with the idea that every facet of life needs to be modified in order to accommodate every group of people. There is something to be said for the efficiency of consistency when shopping around (for anything, including sex partners) on a website so I would rather not have extreme measures of variation when searching through SB profiles.

In other words I think if someone is wheelchair bound, I don't think SA is the really the ideal venue for them. Diversity and inclusion can really get carried away at times and I don't think that sugaring needs to be subject to the politically correct movement or has a moral duty to be inclusive to all types of girls (or guys that wish they were girls etc). I'm not knocking her right to advertise herself on SA, I'm just advocating my right to the opinion that it's not the right website for girls with disabilities to find happiness.

Granted, if the websites want to add a "physical disability" filter so that I can filter out such situations in my search, then my perspective on the matter might be adjusted slightly, but the first issue there is it would require SBs to always be honest (LOL) for it to be effective, and no doubt it would probably open up all sorts of potential PR or legal problems for the sites as I'm sure the metoo movement would label it a built in discrimination mechanism or something similar.

But it's ok for 40 year olds to be on the site? Or obese chicks? Considering how many girls you have to message just to find someone who isn't a scam, time waster, or actually wants to connect with you, you're not wasting any extra time you wouldn't if you are so horrifically turned off by a wheelchair.

When I first got on SA back around 2014-15 one of the first dates I went on was a gorgeous Asian college girl who was deaf. She didn't tell me she was deaf until we were a few minutes into dinner. She was really good at reading lips and just had a slight speech impediment. But it was also one of the better girls I had in bed back then, too. It makes no difference, honestly. The girl in the wheelchair I wouldn't want to hook up with just because she's fat.

[RegularJoe1985]

Just started messaging with her on the site so don't have much info yet. She kind of goes hot and cold on the site. Anyone have any info / experience?

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...5-2a088981458f

"Send me a gift on my wish list if you want to catch my attention😗 I get hundreds of messages on here and a lot of them I don't end up seeing. ".

You mean this one goes hot and cold.

[Jost815]

Just started messaging with her on the site so don't have much info yet. She kind of goes hot and cold on the site. Anyone have any info / experience?

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...5-2a088981458f

[OliverNP]

Not sure I understand the logic at all. I'm sure there are plenty of people on SA that you are not interested in for a whole variety of reasons, and that's fine if they are just not your cup of tea. That works the other way as well, each of us is not always each SB's cup of tea. But that doesn't mean that are not someone else's cup of tea, so why can't you simply move on to someone else and let them possibly find someone who is a good match for them.

I just don't think all cup of teas should be aggregated into a single dating website. The SD / SB scene refers to a specific type of dating, and if an SB is wheelchair bound and only disclosing that after phone numbers have been exchanged and she's several messages into it, then someone's time is being wasted.

If someone is turned on by a wheelchair bound SB, why not hang out on one of the specialty dating sites or apps geared toward the disabled?

[ErkTheOne]

Is the sugar scene really a good idea for severely disabled girls? The theme of the game is affluent men connecting with beautiful young women (and yes I understand the definition of beauty varies). I am 100% on board with the realization that people with disabilities should have equal opportunity with regard to finding happiness, love, and an otherwise fulfilling life. I would even go so far as to say that (not including SBs) I like and support the idea of going the extra mile to help the less fortunate overcome their issues (including physical disabilities). But I am not on board with the idea that every facet of life needs to be modified in order to accommodate every group of people. There is something to be said for the efficiency of consistency when shopping around (for anything, including sex partners) on a website so I would rather not have extreme measures of variation when searching through SB profiles.

In other words I think if someone is wheelchair bound, I don't think SA is the really the ideal venue for them. Diversity and inclusion can really get carried away at times and I don't think that sugaring needs to be subject to the politically correct movement or has a moral duty to be inclusive to all types of girls (or guys that wish they were girls etc). I'm not knocking her right to advertise herself on SA, I'm just advocating my right to the opinion that it's not the right website for girls with disabilities to find happiness.

Granted, if the websites want to add a "physical disability" filter so that I can filter out such situations in my search, then my perspective on the matter might be adjusted slightly, but the first issue there is it would require SBs to always be honest (LOL) for it to be effective, and no doubt it would probably open up all sorts of potential PR or legal problems for the sites as I'm sure the metoo movement would label it a built in discrimination mechanism or something similar.

Not sure I understand the logic at all. I'm sure there are plenty of people on SA that you are not interested in for a whole variety of reasons, and that's fine if they are just not your cup of tea. That works the other way as well, each of us is not always each SB's cup of tea. But that doesn't mean that are not someone else's cup of tea, so why can't you simply move on to someone else and let them possibly find someone who is a good match for them.