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**MartyByrde** · 05-22-22 00:01

Originally Posted by MarkoRamius [View Original Post]

Anyway, I know the arrangement gods giveth and the arrangement gods taketh away.

Ok, I met this girl off SB. She was unusual in the sense that she was (1) close by to me, and I live in the middle of nowhere, (2) she wasn't morbidly obese, and (3) she wasn't obviously a drug addict. Messages went quickly to text and we actually arranged a meet-and-greet for lunch the next day.

Lunch ran into an hour and a half of good conversation with a lot of flirting. Things went swimmingly and she was down for a more private encounter. So we agreed on doing so that coming Friday (yesterday) and I made arrangements for a private place for us to play. We had agreed on what I thought was a fair price for a first encounter ($400) and everything seemed okay.

The next day she texted me and asked if she could borrow $100 against our Friday meeting. That's a red flag for me but I thought about it and didn't consider it that big a deal and was morbidly curious how this would play out. She really wanted me to use CashApp but I told her I was in town anyway and she could just meet me in the parking lot when she went on break and I'd give her five yuppie food coupons. She gave me a quick sloppy kiss in my car and took the money and went back to work.

On Friday afternoon, as I kind of suspected, everything went sideways. First, she wanted to cancel and reschedule for Saturday (today). About an hour later she asked for all of our agreed arrangement in advance, and then said she still wanted $400 for the meeting and "forgot" about the $100 I gave her four days earlier. Then about five o'clock she wanted $1000 to meet, plus another $500 for "disrespecting" her.

So at that point I hadn't responded to any of her messages, but after the last one I texted her and told her I was no longer interested in meeting her and wished her luck with some other guy.

My question: was I out of line? I know it was a mistake to give her the $100, which except for lunch at Zip's that is all I'm out in this and consider that I got off lightly given what a shitstorm blew in yesterday.

Given that you just met her, it was not a good idea to "advance" her $100. As it is, look what happened: she kept asking for more and more, and above the previously agreed on amount for a visit of $400. It seems she was trying to scam you.

Lesson learned: unless you know the woman real well (and have seen her before), never, never give the woman any kind of advance. 99.9% of the time, you can kiss the money good bye.

And one more thing: while $100 might not seem that much to take such a chance, it's a lot to me (and I suspect quite a few others).

**ZifnabsDragon** · 05-21-22 20:46

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...1-e11a55786968

Looks hot! Puertoricanelle, anyone had any experience with her?

**RogerOver** · 05-21-22 20:19

Originally Posted by MarkoRamius [View Original Post]

My question: was I out of line? I know it was a mistake to give her the $100, which except for lunch at Zip's that is all I'm out in this and consider that I got off lightly given what a shitstorm blew in yesterday.

I can only imagine you're looking for support here. You were clearly willing to dump $100 to "see what would happen. " and it did. I never would have given her the money because I don't need to "see what would happen. " it was obvious.

**TnaPorter** · 05-21-22 19:22

Originally Posted by MarkoRamius [View Original Post]

My question: was I out of line? I know it was a mistake to give her the $100, which except for lunch at Zip's that is all I'm out in this and consider that I got off lightly given what a shitstorm blew in yesterday.

Before we get to your question, I'm glad you acknowledge that giving her the $100 was a bad idea. I think that doing things like that with SBs is fine later on, but before you've even fucked her? Absolutely not. A lot of these girls come to this realization where they stop and think "Holy shit, I'm just being a hooker!" and then they start to waffle. But this isn't really about that. The answer is you absolutely were not out of line. Blowing her off after she changed the terms and started to act like that is completely deserving of the rejection that you gave her, but just know that she probably behaved like that because you gave her the $100. She probably started immediately thinking that she undersold herself and she too is worthy of the $5,000 platonic dates that the TikTok sugar babies tell them about.

Anyway, we're too seasoned for this to slip up like that. Fortunately, there's no shortage of women in the world but next time you'll remember. Probably.

**Marko Ramius** · 05-21-22 19:01

Anyway, I know the arrangement gods giveth and the arrangement gods taketh away.

Ok, I met this girl off SB. She was unusual in the sense that she was (1) close by to me, and I live in the middle of nowhere, (2) she wasn't morbidly obese, and (3) she wasn't obviously a drug addict. Messages went quickly to text and we actually arranged a meet-and-greet for lunch the next day.

Lunch ran into an hour and a half of good conversation with a lot of flirting. Things went swimmingly and she was down for a more private encounter. So we agreed on doing so that coming Friday (yesterday) and I made arrangements for a private place for us to play. We had agreed on what I thought was a fair price for a first encounter ($400) and everything seemed okay.

The next day she texted me and asked if she could borrow $100 against our Friday meeting. That's a red flag for me but I thought about it and didn't consider it that big a deal and was morbidly curious how this would play out. She really wanted me to use CashApp but I told her I was in town anyway and she could just meet me in the parking lot when she went on break and I'd give her five yuppie food coupons. She gave me a quick sloppy kiss in my car and took the money and went back to work.

On Friday afternoon, as I kind of suspected, everything went sideways. First, she wanted to cancel and reschedule for Saturday (today). About an hour later she asked for all of our agreed arrangement in advance, and then said she still wanted $400 for the meeting and "forgot" about the $100 I gave her four days earlier. Then about five o'clock she wanted $1000 to meet, plus another $500 for "disrespecting" her.

So at that point I hadn't responded to any of her messages, but after the last one I texted her and told her I was no longer interested in meeting her and wished her luck with some other guy.

My question: was I out of line? I know it was a mistake to give her the $100, which except for lunch at Zip's that is all I'm out in this and consider that I got off lightly given what a shitstorm blew in yesterday.

**3Putt** · 05-21-22 11:16

Originally Posted by FantasyManJ [View Original Post]

Ava is always down to oblige.

She is already in! LOL I think I found another unicorn to add.

**Fantasy Man J** · 05-21-22 10:50

Originally Posted by PoonHound1969 [View Original Post]

Need a bi sb stat! One of my SBs wants a threesome with a another bi girl.

Do you guys have any recommendations?

Post a link if you do, I can reach out to them on SA.

Or please DM some info.

Ava is always down to oblige.

**3Putt** · 05-20-22 15:06

Need a bi sb stat! One of my SBs wants a threesome with a another bi girl.

Do you guys have any recommendations?

Post a link if you do, I can reach out to them on SA.

Or please DM some info.

**DStevens8736** · 05-20-22 10:34

Originally Posted by EnjoyLife03 [View Original Post]

How come every link on seeking I click leads me to a "Profile Not Available" page?

Maybe you're blocked from seeing them? All links work for me.

**Exton** · 05-19-22 22:03

Originally Posted by EnjoyLife03 [View Original Post]

How come every link on seeking I click leads me to a "Profile Not Available" page?

I had that problem on mobile once. The links work on desktop.

**MassageMeow** · 05-19-22 18:12

Originally Posted by EnjoyLife03 [View Original Post]

How come every link on seeking I click leads me to a "Profile Not Available" page?

I see all of those profiles, but keep a low profile there so wouldn't expect to be blocked.

**DirtyFuk** · 05-19-22 15:11

Originally Posted by Michael1967 [View Original Post]

Yes. She basically begged me to send her a pic of my "BBC". I told her I don't take pics of my junk. She's basically begged me to do it and to coerce me, she sent me a video of her fingering herself (yes, I still have it). I was completely grossed out (because she isn't attractive). I did ask her several times how much money she wanted to see me and she never gave me a number, just said, "whatever you want to give me, just don't insult me. " In the end, I didn't find her attractive, I didn't know how much she wanted and I don't pay for ugly. Oh, and she said she has a very jealous boyfriend that doesn't satisfy her, so she needed to sneak over to my place for sex in the morning, because he was home in the afternoon. I think that was the last straw, I didn't want to get attacked by some jealous boyfriend. So, I ghosted her.

Can someone send me her number. She sounds amazing!

**Mvrk2540** · 05-19-22 14:47

https://www.secretbenefits.com/next/...4121d5f9bde079

I've setup a meeting with her today. She seems genuine but doesn't want to talk about allowance or anything till we meet in person. She's not asked for any $ for the meet and greet today, which is definitely a positive sign. If anyone has met her before, it'd be good to know what she's into and how she has been overall.

**EnjoyLife03** · 05-19-22 12:13

Originally Posted by Exton [View Original Post]

PNWAdventurist (Jen).

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...6-bf2739ca5822 - Agreed to 500, wanted vid chat prior to in person meet. Started new day-job some time back so has less daytime availability. Got dates mixed up on coffee, did not reschedule.

Iris.

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...c-3cc125817bcc - Agreed to 400, ghosted when setting up M&G, presume someone offered more.

GreenEyes (Formerly GreenEyedGirl).

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...d-33b45b7dd6d1 - Thru hiking the PCT this summer after graduation (Juneish). Wanted 2 k allowance, agreed to 1750. Will not do PPM (or wouldn't). M&G for coffee went well. Scheduling conflicts on my end nixxed this one. Kisses on the first date (YMMV), didn't press for more. Not on birth control. Wants to see testing for bare.

Carolyn08.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...b-7c7996efb0cd - Super flaky when setting up M&G. Didn't want to swap phone numbers / discuss money. Assume she's just busy with someone else / life. Probably does one maybe two daddy's at a time is my read..

How come every link on seeking I click leads me to a "Profile Not Available" page?