"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[FarFarAway]

Just for giggles I read the Top 10 things to watch out for Blog, on Seeking.

Point 10 says if the profile is unavailable, before you meet in person, the person might be a scammer.

After I start texting with a girl / woman off Seeking. I normally block her profile a day later. I block so, she does not report our raunchy texting to Seeking and get me banned.

Am I doing it all wrong?

I guess that is OK, but I just recommend not doing anything at all on the site that is against their TOS. Even if you don't get reported by the girl, they could stumble on what you've done and ban you. It is a super big pain to get banned, it is in many cases impossible to resurrect an account without divulging more than anyone would reasonably want to. You can also have trouble setting up a new account. There are message threads here about all the hoops you must jump through. Best advice is never to do anything that would get you banned.

I never ever report a girl who might do something I don't like or which violates site rules. I just block her and move on. If you report something, the mods on SA look at you too. That could get you in trouble.

I block a girl after we've done our first FC, first taking a screen shot of her profile and saving her pics. A little insurance for the future, just in case. That also permits me to be back on the site to scan for other girls without her knowing. Some girls might be offended by that.

[Dimples572]

https://members.seeking.com/member/9...4-6ed984a7d155 -- she's baaaaack!

I've been chatting with this one, she's willing to come to DC but I thought I'd do my homework first and found this post. Something tells me there is more to the story. LOL.

[DoggieFan]

Just for giggles I read the Top 10 things to watch out for Blog, on Seeking.

Point 10 says if the profile is unavailable, before you meet in person, the person might be a scammer.

After I start texting with a girl / woman off Seeking. I normally block her profile a day later. I block so, she does not report our raunchy texting to Seeking and get me banned.

Am I doing it all wrong?

No, I think it's a very smart strategy. I got in a pissing match with a potential Baby. I sent her a pic I use that's me but with a beard (I'm normally clean shaving) a Red Sox cap & Rayban Wayfarers. At the time, since I'm very discrete for a variety of reasons, my profile pic was Tony Soprano from the waist to the nose. She reported me for using a fake pic & my account was canceled. Luckily with a lot of work I got a new one up in a week or two. Also my membership had expired so I didn't lose any paid membership.

I definitely could easily be banned for what I text once we go to text. Like I said, good strategy, if your definitely done with them on the site. If your still talking & she sees your profile isn't visible anymore, tell her, "once I found you I deleted my account". Brownie points for sure!

[Happtrav]

Just for giggles I read the Top 10 things to watch out for Blog, on Seeking.

Point 10 says if the profile is unavailable, before you meet in person, the person might be a scammer.

After I start texting with a girl / woman off Seeking. I normally block her profile a day later. I block so, she does not report our raunchy texting to Seeking and get me banned.

Am I doing it all wrong?

[FarFarAway]

For the average guy it's very difficult to imagine the abundance these girls have. A very average 20 yo girl, say a 5/10, will have so many guys (maybe a dozen or two) in her phone ready to bang her on her schedule and whims. If you could see their phone your head would simply explode and it's foreign to most guys that have to put some effort in. They spend 1 or 2 days on a dating app (or seeking) and they have enough contacts for weeks to come. So yeah, if she's slightly cute, young and barely on social media she has more options than she'll ever know what to do with. Don't ever kid yourself that it's any work for her to find a guy or that there isn't a dozen guys behind you ready for a lay. Having said that, don't ever pedestal these girls or think they're special. They're just in their prime of life and guy's thirst is a real thing..

I'd caution about generalizations. Everyone gets the bowl they seek. Just your selection of profiles is highly non-random, and then you get to learn the behavior of girls whose presence on the site appeals to you.

I don't think this is the case for the girls I seek. So many of them are unsure of what they want to do w / the site, they are just perennially on it browsing, but never even getting to the point of meeting anyone they might have even messaged with, on or off the site. At the least, for those, IK they aren't really UTR escorts, they are so skittish about even meeting up w / me for a coffee or a drink. Someone who is a pro can't afford to be so discriminating.

[EvilTmp]

I hate it when this happens. Just happened to me also. Was after the 10-12th date though with a girl I liked a lot. It never happens to me with meh girls LOL. On our very last date, right after the hot and heavy, we're lying together in a dreamy reverie, talking, and she suddenly blurted out, "I always have such a good time with you!" That was notable because the timing as she disappeared right after that date. SMFH. It was genuine so thinking she probably got a better offer. Either more $$, or a hotter, younger SD. Haha you never know about these girls. But we never can lose sight that we're basically fungible walking, talking wallets with c0 cks to these girls LOL.

For the average guy it's very difficult to imagine the abundance these girls have. A very average 20 yo girl, say a 5/10, will have so many guys (maybe a dozen or two) in her phone ready to bang her on her schedule and whims. If you could see their phone your head would simply explode and it's foreign to most guys that have to put some effort in. They spend 1 or 2 days on a dating app (or seeking) and they have enough contacts for weeks to come. So yeah, if she's slightly cute, young and barely on social media she has more options than she'll ever know what to do with. Don't ever kid yourself that it's any work for her to find a guy or that there isn't a dozen guys behind you ready for a lay. Having said that, don't ever pedestal these girls or think they're special. They're just in their prime of life and guy's thirst is a real thing.

You don't own them, it's just your turn.

[FarFarAway]

I hate it when this happens. Just happened to me also. Was after the 10-12th date though with a girl I liked a lot. It never happens to me with meh girls LOL. On our very last date, right after the hot and heavy, we're lying together in a dreamy reverie, talking, and she suddenly blurted out, "I always have such a good time with you!" That was notable because the timing as she disappeared right after that date. SMFH. It was genuine so thinking she probably got a better offer. Either more $$, or a hotter, younger SD. Haha you never know about these girls. But we never can lose sight that we're basically fungible walking, talking wallets with c0 cks to these girls LOL.

Let me be a little less cynical. Sometimes, the lack of connection in sugar dating is an attraction. If she started seeing you as a real person, that may have been outside her comfort zone.

I have had months-long arrangements w / girls I cared about, and they returned that. For me, that is my goal. If I have banged one a few times but haven't felt even a twitch, we're going to split soon.

[Member #7176]

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...9-c1cc9daa2eac

Thought I finally got a Richmond SB to come up to NOVA. Agree to meetup and ppm. Then I get hit with need help and willing to send nudes.

[HarryMcHardon]

I'll never figure out women / SBs. This pudgy 19 YO coed was very interested from our first contact. Mind of a 30 YO, very smart, in computer science. We FC a couple of weeks ago. Like a lot of fat girls, lacks confidence, sent me a nude in the shower to get me interested, responded well to positive statements and direction. Absolutely slobbered all over junior + the boys, extremely responsive, loved a spanking. Also, she got us the room and let me reimburse her. So no risk for me. Just show up and bang her. Afterward, I texted her what a great time we had, we should get together again soon, what else is she into, all of that. And crickets.

She claims I am the 4th man to nail her, perhaps second thoughts about being in the bowl.

I hate it when this happens. Just happened to me also. Was after the 10-12th date though with a girl I liked a lot. It never happens to me with meh girls LOL. On our very last date, right after the hot and heavy, we're lying together in a dreamy reverie, talking, and she suddenly blurted out, "I always have such a good time with you!" That was notable because the timing as she disappeared right after that date. SMFH. It was genuine so thinking she probably got a better offer. Either more $$, or a hotter, younger SD. Haha you never know about these girls. But we never can lose sight that we're basically fungible walking, talking wallets with c0 cks to these girls LOL.

[HarryMcHardon]

As for checking into a hotel with a fake ID, in my experience, the hotel wants both an ID and a credit card and they want them to match. You can get a fake ID and you can get a stolen credit card but it is a pretty stiff challenge to get both in the same name - and with your picture on the ID. Just my thoughts.

BAM.

TLDR: Call around and you can find cash hotels that aren't dumps.

I've posted on this before, but requiring CC is true of most hotels, but if you look hard enough, you can get around this. I have no choice but to to so. As you infer, paying cash also opens up the door for using a fake I'd (if that's your opsec) and together obliterates two major paths of discovery.

All M6's and many RR Inns take cash and don't require any CC on file for deposit. That's a start. Otherwise, call around to other hotels to find out policies for cash payment and more importantly, deposit. Some will say they take cash for room but if you dig further they need a CC on file for damage deposit that likely won't be charged if you don't trash the room. These are still no go for me. Not giving any hotel my CC whether they are going to charge it or not. The risk there is some knucklehead employee mistakenly charging my CC that I then have to tap dance to explain. And I'm too old to tap dance LOL.

Other mid level hotels take cash payment and WILL accept cash for deposit. This is the sweet spot. Like George Jefferson, you're now movin on up from the M6's and RRIs. These are places like Super 8, Comfort Inns, Days Inns, Best Westerns, LaQuinta. You need to call around at these. IME there's about a 20% chance at least one of these will take cash for room AND deposit and you're good to go. If the person answering the phone has an Indian accent, it's a very good sign they will accept cash for room and deposit LOL. The drawback is you need to check out in person, at the front desk, to get your cash deposit back. And that can be awkward if you're only there a couple hours. And you're stuck lurking around the front desk for 10-15 minutes while they check the room out. It is what it is.

Most the time, I aim for the mid level Days Inns etc, I'm not really that concerned with impressing the SBs that much, projecting luxury is not my schtick, and I've found most don't mind the lower end places either, as long as it's clean and feels safe.

YMMV as likely depends on the region, too. Rural seems easier, urban is tougher. Suburbs is hit or miss. Your ability to do this also may depend on the SBs you target. If you favor the hot sorority Suzies or other high maintenance / high (imagined) status types, you may find dragging her to a Days Inn may send her back to SA to find another Daddy quickly LOL. If you like these type SBs, then you're stuck with primo level hotels and they always need a CC. But I don't feel sorry for you because you're likely banging SBs a level or two above me.

Having to pay cash at humdrum hotels may cost me the most desirable SBs but I'm perfectly happy with GNDs and younger MILFs, 6-8's anyways so no big deal.

[Hal1957]

I don't want a woman with good taste, I want a woman who tastes good.

Groucho to Mrs. Teasdale "Will you marry me? Did he leave you any money? Answer the second question first."

[BobLobLa]

Speaking of the Marx bros, this reminds of the old joke..

Groucho to Mrs. Teasdale "Will you marry me? Did he leave you any money? Answer the second question first."

[BamBam]

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...a-28b2db4af292

Not just platonic, but online only she tells me.

And her last online SD gave her $800 a week, could I beat that.

"What happened to him that you would give that up?" I asked foolishly.

"Turns out her was married" she says, which I assume means his wife found out (in her mind) not that she has a moral issue with taking money for platonic arrangement.

So you want me to outbid someone who is no longer bidding. Like the fucking Marx Bros. In Cocoanuts.

Speaking of the Marx bros, this reminds of the old joke. "I would rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy!" I crack myself up!

BAM.

[Jcn1965]

The only "scam" I can think (or have heard) of is getting a free ride. The rider in the car has the final say as to where they go / get out and if they change the destination the only thing you can do is message the driver and cancel or dispute it afterwards. Also, the rider can ask the name of the person paying. IDK if there is a set policy on that but its a crapshoot depending on the driver.

I don't think the rider can change destination without doing it in the app. Now maybe some drivers allow it but I believe that would be against company policy especially safety issue. With all alleged problems with drivers / riders getting robbed hurt or killed. I maybe wrong. But you can also message driver saying no changes in destination or else cancel ride.

[BobLobLa]

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...a-28b2db4af292

Not just platonic, but online only she tells me.

And her last online SD gave her $800 a week, could I beat that.

"What happened to him that you would give that up?" I asked foolishly.

"Turns out her was married" she says, which I assume means his wife found out (in her mind) not that she has a moral issue with taking money for platonic arrangement.

So you want me to outbid someone who is no longer bidding. Like the fucking Marx Bros. In Cocoanuts.