Sugarbabies?

[UnoMas2022]

Thanks for the great info! Are those all the girls you have met in person?

Yes those are my current part-time SBs. I put them all on part-time so that I can rotate through them. Some are in Ohio and others are in other states, where I have to go for work.

[JackOhLantern]

Standing arrangement weekly or ppm? Can you share the damage? Don't want to start a bidding war haha.

Ppm - 400.

[RegulatorD]

I don't understand the complaints. Nearly 10 years on, whenever I buy a subscription to SA I find several hot 18 to 30 year olds who are willing to make a dream come true for $$ to $$.

Preach the SA word to the flock.

[Decatur21]

Thanks for the great info! Are those all the girls you have met in person?

I have a premium membership with SDM, it was worth it. It's still way cheaper than the other sites and it's not pay-per-interaction, it's all unlimited.

Process involves:

1. Making an interesting profile. CHOOSE A USERNAME THAT YOU HAVE NEVER USED ANYWHERE ELSE!! That is important because if you google a username, the other places you have used it may come up. If you google my USASG handle, all my posts come up, for instance. My SDM profile photo does not show my face, I put an emoji over it. My profile also has Private Photos, so if I get an interested girl that I want to share my face picture with, I can click "Share Private Photo" and she alone can see the hidden photos then.

I may have missed some stuff, but that's my process. I'm enjoying the fruits of my labors not only in Dayton but in a few other places where my work takes me.

[UnoMas2022]

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...3-32c88abd3d97

I've been seeing her off and on for a couple of years. She's actually 20, not 24. Most spectacular ass I've ever had the pleasure of experiencing. She's really attractive and cool. Highly recommend.

Standing arrangement weekly or ppm? Can you share the damage? Don't want to start a bidding war haha.

[JackOhLantern]

https://members.seeking.com/member/5...3-32c88abd3d97

I've been seeing her off and on for a couple of years. She's actually 20, not 24. Most spectacular ass I've ever had the pleasure of experiencing. She's really attractive and cool. Highly recommend.

[RockaBillyRiot]

I don't understand the complaints. Nearly 10 years on, whenever I buy a subscription to SA I find several hot 18 to 30 year olds who are willing to make a dream come true for $$ to $$.

[WanderingAbout]

Noob here. SDM is the sugardaddymeet or the sugardaddymatch app??

SDM is Sugar Daddy Meet in regards to discussion you are asking about. See post #6312 in this thread.

[Big Pussy Sal]

Noob here. SDM is the sugardaddymeet or the sugardaddymatch app??

[UnoMas2022]

This is an interesting report. Since others have said SDM is a dry hole, can you say more about your process? Perhaps you could post some pictures of your successes? Without giving too much away? In the past, I dismissed reports like yours due to poor personal experience. Now, though, with Seeking at risk of changing its nature, I think it is time to branch out and start exploring how to be successful on other sites. We need backups and alternatives. The need carries mounting weight as Seeking regularly increases its price while decreasing its value. It is hard for me to believe all the other sites are just giving up and abandoning the market completely to Seeking. Especially if Seeking is abandoning the market also.

Thanks much in advance!

BAM.

I have a premium membership with SDM, it was worth it. It's still way cheaper than the other sites and it's not pay-per-interaction, it's all unlimited.

Process involves:

1. Making an interesting profile. CHOOSE A USERNAME THAT YOU HAVE NEVER USED ANYWHERE ELSE!! That is important because if you google a username, the other places you have used it may come up. If you google my USASG handle, all my posts come up, for instance. My SDM profile photo does not show my face, I put an emoji over it. My profile also has Private Photos, so if I get an interested girl that I want to share my face picture with, I can click "Share Private Photo" and she alone can see the hidden photos then.

2. Waiting for the Likes and Winks to come in. SDM does not have any bots that spam likes or messages yet, it's all genuine interactions.

3. Looking at the list of incoming interactions and picking the ones that seem my type. I have been on SDM for one month now, and I have message history with about 400 women. Out of those 400, I have had phone or text conversations with about 75 and developed 8 into real, physical casual relationships / part-time SBs. I tell them that I only am looking for occasional meetups, like every couple of weeks. They love that idea. I usually pay between 60 and 200 dollars per meet, plus meals, hotel and any expenses and we usually hang out for 6-12 hours and fuck at least once.

4. Clicking on Like for the ones that seem interesting and then messaging them.

- 4 a. DO NOT USE YOUR PERSONAL CELL PHONE NUMBER FOR ANYTHING, EVER! Use a texting app like Google Voice. You cannot protect yourself enough these days.

- 4 b. My first message through SDM always has a compliment, my phone number and a request for them to text me. That moves the conversation off of the site and gives me a lot more control. It's also possible to just call them *67 (caller I'd block) and voice verify that they are female if I need to, once I have their number. Sorts out all the catfish and the scammers. I had one catfish in Dayton that was supposedly an 18 yo Latina. It was her brother, actually.

5. Starting a friendly text conversation and asking them about their day, their work, their likes and what their home situation is. I've had everything from 18 year olds living at home who don't have a job to a 28 year old military wife with two kids who wanted to cheat on her Navy husband who has been deployed for more than 10 months. I do not sleep with cheaters so I turned her down. It is a total mixed bag of who you'll meet.

6. In that text conversation, ask them if they have found a good sugar daddy yet.

- 6 a. Some have already had them in the past, so ask for details about their past arrangements and what the benefits were, then ask if they had a physical aspect to their arrangement and that that is what you are looking for.

- 6 b. If they are new to the game, you can emphasize that you would have looked for a woman on a traditional dating site, but that your circumstances, work schedule or whatever have been a killer for romance.

Either way, emphasize that you are looking for a casual relationship, or a friends with benefits type relationship. This sorts out all the picture senders, the long-distance girls, the fakes and the "platonic only" shit. Honestly, what woman signs up to a Sugar Baby service and then expects to avoid fucking the guys? Anyway, I digress. Offering "friends with benefits" is a good way to avoid making it a negotiation up front. Hell, the girl might even forget to ask for help and just end up wanting to hang out for the fun of it. That happened to me with a very sweet plus-sized Latina, she was just horny and wanted to get a guy to sleep with, regardless of support.

7. NEVER send any money in advance, unless you are forcing it on them as a way to create an obligation. I always say that I do not send electronic payments because they are all tracked and reported, and it would create a potential tax liability for the recipient in the future. I say "no good SD ever sends electronic payments, the IRS can come back later and ask you to pay tax on it". This puts it clearly into a cash-only mode.

8. Always offer to do a meet-and-greet for free at a nice restaurant. Don't splurge at this point, pick something where you have $15-20 entrees and don't order any drinks. Pay for everything. As a surprise, offer to cover her fuel costs at the end of the meal, always make it a $20 bill even if she says no. Treat her like a rich boyfriend, that's the goal here anyway. If she won't offer to meet for free, she's not worth working with. She can go be a ho or an escort for all I care, this type of thing is different, I'm looking for real girls who are non-pros.

9. At the meet-and-greet, ask a ton of questions, and offer very little about yourself. You want her to remain curious about you. Ask what she likes to do in the bedroom, if you have privacy. If not, don't be a creep. Ask later.

10. Have a hotel in mind if the meet-and-greet goes really well. Only if it goes well and she's attracted to you, ask what she has to do after this. Always make sure to get a 2-queen or a 2-double room. That's a good tool to mention, so she can sleep in peace, haha. DON'T GET A MOTEL, get a hotel. You're a rich boyfriend, remember? No brands with a number or a color in them, ok? Go for a Marriott or a Hilton or something.

- 10 a. If she can drink (over 21), offer to go out somewhere for drinks. If she says yes, tell her that to avoid any buzzed driving or drunk driving, you have a room nearby where you can sleep it off or just chill afterward.

- 10 b. If she's not old enough to drink in public, ask her if she likes to drink. If she says yes, tell her that to avoid any issues, you have a room nearby where you can drink in private. We can crash afterward.

11. Always offer to continue the conversation later, if she seems in anyway uncomfortable. If you have a bad vibe about you, she won't put out. Actually, she may try to film you, take your photo or call her friends. Be a nice dude, okay? This site is for Casanovas, not Zeus's.

12. At the meet-and-greet, discuss what you can offer her to support her situation. It's not all about the money. If she thinks it is, don't pursue her. SDs can offer support, advice, mentorship, loans, practical help and lots of other important manly or fatherly roles. This is a relationship with give and take and at the end of it, a friendship, really. Friends taking care of friends.

13. Have fun with your new SB. Take her dancing, to a movie, to a park, to a show, to the museum. If she's shy, offer to meet a hotel and just go to the pool or spa. Get a couples massage somewhere. Don't be 100% about sex, and she'll put out way more when you do have fun.

I may have missed some stuff, but that's my process. I'm enjoying the fruits of my labors not only in Dayton but in a few other places where my work takes me.

[BamBam]

Hot looking pictures. She claims to work 76-100 hours a week. I've done hours like that and they are impossible to sustain for more than a week or two. Accepted and offer from me but asked for a down payment prior to any public meeting. I have demurred. Anyone else chatting with her?

BAM.

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...1-0e578a349d8e

[BamBam]

This one has been stringing me along for a long time but never able to get her to a meeting. Given her profile design, I just assumed she was a scammer but she keeps popping back up to chat and never engages in any typical scammer behavior. Has anyone else interacted with her or even met her?

Bam.

https://members.seeking.com/member/d...1-d2eca80c1f3c

[SixtyNineX10]

Sounds like the typical SB. LOL. And if she has some meat on her bones now, that works for me. I will report if I make any progress with her. Thanks.

[BamBam]

This is an odd profile. She has been on the site for almost two years now. She comes and goes. Originally she said she never meets. Then she accepted an offer but immediately ghosted. More recently, she accepted a re-approach but then ghosted again. About four days ago came back asking me if I could meet the following day. I gave her a six hour window and she picked a time. Since then she has ghosted again. I like her pictures but it feels like she is engaged in some kind of game. Another member reported seeing last year in the spring. At that time, she was no longer slim meaning her pictures are old. She was still solid. He saw her twice then she ghosted him.

BAM.

Just wondering if anyone has partaken? A little skinny for me, but that's better than the alternative.

https://members.seeking.com/member/2...f-e9f1329bbf4a

[SixtyNineX10]

Just wondering if anyone has partaken? A little skinny for me, but that's better than the alternative.

https://members.seeking.com/member/2...f-e9f1329bbf4a