Seeking Arrangements

[Joe1223]

I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?

Discretion has always been a priority for me but I am also particular with who I see from SA and really focus on college girls or single mothers who also want discretion. Not too many are looking to advertise they a banging an old man for money as they usually have normal lives to protect as well.

That being said I also have fake social media profiles, use a fake name, use a burner phone or text app, never take them to my home, make sure my vehicle info is secure. My venmo has a fake name attached to it and it draws from a private account or use cash only. I use profile pics that don't really show my face or I have sunglasses on. Yeah it's a lot of upfront work but I don't worry about being found out about and have been doing it for a long time. I do try to not mingle in the same town as I live but even that isn't too big of a deal. I keep my conversations about her as much as possible and give only minor details about myself. Mostly about my job and all of the travel I had done. They seem to think that is very exciting and it may make them feel like I'm a professional with a big job so they get relaxed for some reason. Plenty of work experiences to keep the topic off my personal life. If they start to venture down that path I am very vague or make some shit up. I never, never reveal my real name or where I live. Always be asking about them, being curious about them, complementing and directing the conversations around what makes them tick serves two purposes. It shows them you are focused on them and keeps the clock running without having anytime for them to ask about you. Eventually they will figure out that you don't want to talk about you and will stop asking a lot of questions. If they insist then move on and find someone else.

I always meet at a hotel the first few times and then try to get them to invite me to their place. This isn't always an option as many still live at home. If the hotel costs are adding up and she isn't open to hosting then I will start to close out the relationship and look for something that fits that need better. I did bring a few to my vacation home but that was after many meetups and I knew much more about them than they did of me.

[Patriarchist]

I can corroborate this information. I would not avoid her though. I saw no signs of serious drug use and you get what you came for. I would say that having a four year old open the door and scream what are you doing 8's a new experience though.

Yeah I mean she just wanted to do the deed like a dime-a-dozen escort and had no real interest in getting to know one another, didn't want to open up emotionally or even look me in the eye or speak clearly and directly or kiss (the fact she is a lesbian did not help). That's not what I'm interested in when I see an SA girl, and I assume others here are similarly inclined which is why I wouldn't recommend her unless you want an impersonal escort experience.

[Style20]

She says her last SD gave her $1,200 per meet <https://members.seeking.com/member/1...-ae0e1468bd75>.

Well she ain't stupid. She will say high price cause she knows you will negotiate to lower. Ain't no WGs going to be like my last sugar daddy gave me $200 LOL.

[Spike77]

I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?

Not sure there is an absolute guarantee. There is always a risk in this hobby. But just use common sense. You are not required to give them personal information. So don't. Just tell them you want discretion upfront. They should understand that. If not, move on. Most women want discretion themselves. Also, use a burner phone. Meet at hotels, rather than hosting at your house if you want to play it safe. Don't make your profile pics public by default. That being said, the girls in my rotation I have known for a few years and we have developed a friendship and I trust them and they trust me. But that is my choice and a risk I am willing to take. You do what's comfortable for you.

[BleedGreen88]

I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?

Would definitely like to see this answered as well, by someone with a lot more experience than me.

As someone with an uncommon name, there's no way I'll give my real either first or last name. I also don't get into my profession too much. I'm also real careful with my wallet as well and I don't usually touch my phone either for an intro or intimate meet. I also plan where I do intro meets in public, since there are some areas of the city where I could bump into people who would know me. SA is definitely risky in multiple ways I've found, but unfortunately, risk tends to be proportional to reward.

Also, don't forget as Louie CK says "A man will cut your arm off and throw it in a river, but he'll leave you as a human being intact. He won't fuck with who you are. Women are non-violent, but they will shit inside of your heart. "

[KashkaiBoy]

I signed up for SA a few months ago, quickly matched up with a few interesting women -- all young, hot. Made coffee dates for two of the best, both were game for a hotel tryst with mutual benefits. But in the end I pulled the plug on both. Why? I ended up with cold feet about privacy and about the possibility of their finding out my real name / etc.

You see, as many gents in this hobby I value discretion. So I found the fact that in SA there is a sort of "dating" pretence that involves lots of questions (both in initial connection and then in preview coffee meet up) about who you are, what you do, where you live, where you are from, what is your ethnic background, etc. I just found lying about all of this tiring and I could not shake the sense that despite best laid plans I could divulge a piece of information that with google could lead to my identity being discovered. There are many accounts of extortion and so on related to SD arrangements, and even without that kind of criminality I just don't have time or head space to have any chaos or drama in my life.

So my question is: for those of you who partake in SA hookups, how do you guarantee discretion? Do you lie about your name and so on? Are you anxious about divulging personal info? Basically: am I overreacting, and is there a "safe" way to play on SA?

[Aimstraight]

Ever meet up with Rue?

I will meet her tomorrow. I will report back the experience.

Has anyone met her and can share the scoop?

[Gianni Versace]

I went on a meet and greet with her maybe 1. 5 years ago. At the time she said I could come to her place in Pawtucket. Bareback was ok, I forget why I never actually went farther. But at the time she wanted 300 for a few hours. Come a few months ago I reached out to her AND she tells me that its not her it's her twin sister, LOL. She now charges more, wants 500 for 1. 5 hrs. She's been talked about before on here. LOL we'd term her as a pro, she probably thinks of herself as more of a pro sugarbaby. I still kind of want to see her but too focused on my regular 2 sb's who do overnights for 300 and 400.

That mediocre girl asked me for $600. HARD PASS.

[MinorLeague]

She says her last SD gave her $1,200 per meet <https://members.seeking.com/member/1...-ae0e1468bd75>.

[MamboMikea]

I can corroborate this information. I would not avoid her though. I saw no signs of serious drug use and you get what you came for. I would say that having a four year old open the door and scream what are you doing 8's a new experience though.

I recommend avoiding this one.

When I entered her apartment I was surprised to see kids sitting in the living room along with another young woman as I walked by in front of them. I asked the SA girl if the kids were hers and she said they were "ours" (referring to the other girl). Later she asked if the other girl could hang out (I. E. Have fun) with us. I got a good look at this other girl; she was gross. Didn't want anything to do with that so I privately and politely declined. Obviously these two are a lesbian couple.

When I was alone with the SA girl she hardly made eye contact and was asking for the donation before doing anything.

She told me she liked kissing but was passively, yet adamantly resistant to actually doing it. The whole situation was just offputting and I ended up leaving.

Her real name is Haylee. She said at first her name was Daisy but I pointed out how there was a certificate on her bedroom wall that said Haylee and she admitted it was her name.

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...7-5fddd3ca744b

[TheList00]

OK, so I was skeptical about all the claims made in this thread. Last night I created a seeking.com account, this morning a upgraded to a 30 day subscription and added one picture (my real face, which is a calculated risk). I did a search, favorited a few ladies and sent a few messages. Within a half hour I was juggling several conversations and received phone numbers in all of them. As of now, I am already driving home from an encounter that I set up from one of those conversations. $200 for an hour of her time, DATY and BBFS twice! She was a totally normal 30-something lady. I'm definitely not going to share the account, I'm just sharing that I had a successful experience the others might be able to replicate.

So your not sharing a public account of a girl you met because you want noone else to message or see her. You really think she's not getting messages now from us or anyone else because she's just only going to see you?.

[Joe1223]

OK, so I was skeptical about all the claims made in this thread. Last night I created a seeking.com account, this morning a upgraded to a 30 day subscription and added one picture (my real face, which is a calculated risk). I did a search, favorited a few ladies and sent a few messages. Within a half hour I was juggling several conversations and received phone numbers in all of them. As of now, I am already driving home from an encounter that I set up from one of those conversations. $200 for an hour of her time, DATY and BBFS twice! She was a totally normal 30-something lady. I'm definitely not going to share the account, I'm just sharing that I had a successful experience the others might be able to replicate.

Hey now! This is what I have been preaching. Great find especially first time out of the gate. Keep the bull pen full so when they decide to move on or get a real BF there will be another waiting in the wings. At times I struggled with having too many girls and even at 200 it was getting pricey. I typically would have 2 going at a time but I'm a lot older now and my flexibility went away with the work from home of the spouse. Welcome to the SA world.

[JClearMan1]

OK, so I was skeptical about all the claims made in this thread. Last night I created a seeking.com account, this morning a upgraded to a 30 day subscription and added one picture (my real face, which is a calculated risk). I did a search, favorited a few ladies and sent a few messages. Within a half hour I was juggling several conversations and received phone numbers in all of them. As of now, I am already driving home from an encounter that I set up from one of those conversations. $200 for an hour of her time, DATY and BBFS twice! She was a totally normal 30-something lady. I'm definitely not going to share the account, I'm just sharing that I had a successful experience the others might be able to replicate.

[Bran001]

Name? Location? Nit available to me.

That profile is gone, because it was one of dozens of scam profiles. They are super easy to spot. Very good looking east Asian woman in a photo, often in an exotic locale. Often the SA profile points to last login location as not in the US (often UK) despite the profile claiming "Boston. " And very often they message first with someone innocuous like "how was your day," "what did you have for lunch," etc etc. They eventually want to talk on WhatsApp.

The faster you block those profiles the less time you waste.

[I On Da Street]

https://members.seeking.com/member/8...6-64ff4994eb04

Talks about stock / BTC investment and fast cars. Lived her life and now out to make everyone rich. .

Name? Location? Nit available to me.