"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**TomDickNHarry** · 08-17-21 09:41

Originally Posted by LosCaballeros [View Original Post]

IMHO, the purpose of this board is to report on good and especially bad experiences for awareness. Gabby clearly has disingenuous intentions and was able to pull off the same con on others and people should be informed.

That is one purpose, and that's fine, now people know about her but very few on this thread would ever let that happen to them anyway because they know what they're doing.

Another purpose of this particular thread is explain to people the proper way to sugar date. She didn't break any of SA's rules and she's not going to get banned, but go look at the FAQ below, because you broke every rule in the book. You asked her to rip you off. Even if you're going to take her shopping, why would you let her keep the bags until after? Anyway, what she did was predictable, you should learn your lesson from it and move on. And spend some time reading the FAQ.

**Virginia69** · 08-16-21 22:07

Hey guys new to the area and was excited to see this chat room here. I've been in the area for about two weeks now and have messaged with several. Here's some notes from my convos.

-Lorafayr https://www.seeking.com/member/95695...c-504b1223e8fa.

Pretty hot, messaged back and forth but wants 1400/ wk so I passed.

-Molly4600 https://www.seeking.com/member/dd4aa...8-72eaae1b5902.

Chatted with her for a bit and ended up moving to text. Told me she's never been with a guy as she previously dated a girl. Didn't seem like she was dtf, only interested in platonic so I passed.

-Jesse https://www.seeking.com/member/7f337...f-e9198b7a438d.

Got her snap and she was only interested in selling pics so cut off conversation.

-Shylasugar https://www.seeking.com/member/e9d4c...6-10dab85697e7.

Cute girl and super cool. She has a kid but can usually host down around Manchester. 300 but she's fun.

-Fun loving sweetheart https://www.seeking.com/member/54a37...c-6993fe83d58e.

Attractive pics, moved conversation over to snap. She's asking 500 but seems dtf, out schedules haven't aligned or I would've already met her.

-stay true https://www.seeking.com/member/d56b3...6-16da27cbd7cb.

Got her snap and she wants 500. Her snap story had some guy that seemed like her bf, think I'm going to pass on this but she seems attractive.

Any info on these?

-fungirl https://www.seeking.com/member/52915...4-d3fb08361950.

Very attractive pics, messages a bit then haven't heard from her in few days.

-babydoll1801 https://www.seeking.com/member/6603a...0-642489bc5111.

Chatted with her some on site but haven't heard back in few days.

-fungirlie https://www.seeking.com/member/2a340...e-2ef5687b8fce.

Messages her but haven't heard back.

-Victoria https://www.seeking.com/member/c8e47...5-3edc3f1b60ce.

Cute looking girl.

Met with two so far: Gabster & Cherry? Older lady but attractive, she charged 350 for drinks and play. Was worth it I think, she was attractive and knew what she wanted.

**ThatSexyGuy** · 08-16-21 20:29

Originally Posted by Shampoo55 [View Original Post]

The one thing I have learned the hard way in the hobby is that things change with time. When one approach no longer works, I found I need to switch gears and try something else. It is a pain, because a great approach eventually stops working and then I have to work and try different approaches to see what works now.

That said, have had many girls tell me 'thank you' for writing something and reading their profile. (get plenty of crickets too!) They report they get a BUNCH of messages that just say "Hey!" or short non-descript openings. Oh I have seen that too. With nothing in a girls profile, I don't care how hot her pics, I have nothing to work with. I try to connect with something in her profile that matches my style or interest and open with that. I guess I want to distinguish myself from the guys who just say "hey!" Hopefully I can get her attention and thus her desire to check out my profile. But hey, if one leads with 'check out my profile" then the only sales tool for a first impression is the profile and I guess it better be a darn good one that stands head & shoulders above the competition?

So a few observations that work for me, everyone is different and I suspect guys here could contribute to the "how to" better than I have done.

I've had tons of women contact me. But none I would consider worth $140+ or more for a SA. I always send that response to get them to check out my profile so they can see my pictures and read a detailed page of what I expect. I typically get older women ages 24-30 but I be really wanting chicks like the 18 year old black girl I caught off the site. Tight V-sleeve and she could deepthroat my entire 9 inches. Not only that but she is inexperienced in the bedroom. LOL this past Sat she never experienced more than guys in her high school fucking her in doggystyle and missionary. Well, I had to put the entire 31 years of experience I have on her and I got her addicted. Not to mention she's low key not a money hungry vampire. Of course, I don't mind giving her cash whenever she needs it. To me she's at least a 8 in the face and a 10 in the body.

Now whenever I try to obtain Asians or white women I have no success. They're very flaky and if you get one they know the game for real. I would rather get younger 18-20 then to deal with older to much of a headache and this 18 year old proves it.

**BobLobLa** · 08-16-21 16:26

https://www.seeking.com/member/25fd4...1-59134aac5f4b damn, but TGTBT?

Intersting MILF - https://www.seeking.com/member/fd77f...2-ca4a2c787b23.

Did she really list 30 as her upper age range? https://www.seeking.com/member/f756e...e-9bddea51a272 She got all freaky on me and thought I was stalking when I asked some questions -- all you have to do is enlarger her photo to see her sash is from UVA graduation! NOt exactly sherlock holmes technique.

https://www.seeking.com/member/dd4aa...8-72eaae1b5902 -- says she is from Spain and at W&M.

Another one with young top age range. https://www.seeking.com/member/852f0...e-21cc17684807.

Now 0 for 5 on SA Pageant Queens. Guess GPS is part of their training -- https://www.seeking.com/member/27f61...a-1b98894fd3af.

https://www.seeking.com/member/2617d...e-01e64b094863 hot pics, but not very communicative.

https://www.seeking.com/member/c7818...e-0585f4e9e32e -- promising start, but has gone cold on the comms.

**BobLobLa** · 08-16-21 15:35

Originally Posted by GeechieDan [View Original Post]

Also, what is "semi platonic".

I'm guessing she doesn't expect 100% of dates to end up in a hotel room so it feels more like dating.

I met a total hottie on here who didn't last long. Met an MD 2 x her age who took her out to dinner one weekend, then on his boat the next, didn't even try to get her naked till 3rd date. Gaver her $400 each time regardless of how the time was spent. I guess he makes up for it when they do a full weekend with am / pm / midnight repeat sex, but too slow a burn and time investment for me!

**Geechie Dan** · 08-16-21 15:32

Originally Posted by TakesALicking [View Original Post]

Yellowbird on SA. Met her once for an impromptu M&G. I just ran out of time to seal the deal. Seems sweet and DTF, although not nearly as cute as some of her pics. Debating if the juice is worth the squeeze as she says her previous arrangement was semi platonic and he left her 5 each meet. Playful and sarcastic texter though. Anyone know if I should follow through?

Can you please provide the link?

Also, what is "semi platonic".

**Hungre1234** · 08-16-21 15:16

I know this girl IRL, she's recently sober and off the streets. I picked her up about a year ago off Midlo because I felt bad for her. SM shows she's married now to a guy covered in tats, including on his face. Just be wary if you're talking to her. Sober she's more like STG escort quality than sugar baby. Since I do know her I'd be interested if any of you are hitting it.

https://www.seeking.com/member/4d751...1-5615c91e6031

Also, WTF is up with seeking limiting non paying members to a 5 pic request max now? That's often how I determine when I want to pay by what I see in the private pics. The owner thinks he's milking it but really he is dumping on his site.

**BobLobLa** · 08-16-21 15:13

Originally Posted by Shampoo55 [View Original Post]

That said, have had many girls tell me 'thank you' for writing something and reading their profile. (get plenty of crickets too!) They report they get a BUNCH of messages that just say "Hey!" or short non-descript openings.

So a few observations that work for me, everyone is different and I suspect guys here could contribute to the "how to" better than I have done.

I've had the same approach from Day 1. Approach it like any other dating situation. LISTEN (or in this case read, be observant). Reference a place or pet in one of their photos, mention something in the profile or about their demographic info that shows you read what they wrote. Always get a laugh or drop a compliment in the first message or two. Doesn't hurt to commiserate with their awful experiences dealing with the rude, crude and socially unacceptable types (finish your 3rd message with "Hey, you're hot, when can we get naked" -- I just threw that in there so you'd know I was a real man and not a catfish".

Yes, the legions of "hey" sending semi-literates on this side of the equation helps clear the playing field.

**Shampoo55** · 08-16-21 12:03

Originally Posted by ThatSexyGuy [View Original Post]

I've been sending "check out my profile and hope to hear back!" to many young fit asian women and white women with no luck. .

The one thing I have learned the hard way in the hobby is that things change with time. When one approach no longer works, I found I need to switch gears and try something else. It is a pain, because a great approach eventually stops working and then I have to work and try different approaches to see what works now.

That said, have had many girls tell me 'thank you' for writing something and reading their profile. (get plenty of crickets too!) They report they get a BUNCH of messages that just say "Hey!" or short non-descript openings. Oh I have seen that too. With nothing in a girls profile, I don't care how hot her pics, I have nothing to work with. I try to connect with something in her profile that matches my style or interest and open with that. I guess I want to distinguish myself from the guys who just say "hey!" Hopefully I can get her attention and thus her desire to check out my profile. But hey, if one leads with 'check out my profile" then the only sales tool for a first impression is the profile and I guess it better be a darn good one that stands head & shoulders above the competition?

So a few observations that work for me, everyone is different and I suspect guys here could contribute to the "how to" better than I have done.

**ThatSexyGuy** · 08-16-21 09:54

Originally Posted by ChrisHansen92 [View Original Post]

I may receive blow back for saying this but I report no one anymore. No one. Here's my thoughts: Anyone can report anyone for anything. Every time that happens a service ticket is opened in your name and the other person involved. These are not reviewed by A. I. , computer or bot's but real people. It's probably not a large group of people either. They may review word by word every message between you, as well as any other messages and convo's you have with any girl on there. If you keep popping up on their radar you become the tall nail. Either complaining about the women or women complaining about you. We all know the girl's can get away with almost anything but you and I have to walk on egg shells or we are banned. And it requires a number of hoop's we have to jump thru to get back on and play (me 4 times now). The only real "fast tract" for them to quickly ban a girl or at least suspend their profile is underage (until they can provide anybody's I'd that looks like them and get back on). It may make you feel good like you did your part and helped us all. But at the end of the day ANY girl banned can have a new free profile up and running scamming again in less that 12 hours. Girls can and will report you for how you worded things, your demeanor, attitude, won't prepay. Anything and they will. Why bring more attention to yourself and risk having to start all over from square 1 with a new profile. My motto on the site now charging 100 per month and will ban you in an instant with no credit or refund: Fly below the radar. Report no one but please report them here with a link and more important any and all pic's they are using. Trust me they will eventually be back with a new free profile using the same pic's or similar we can identify. Get their profile link and all pic's, block and move on then post all the info here to help us. On a site where the deck is stacked against the paying customer (men) at the end of the day just let it go, block and move on to the next girl. You will be in a better place with less frustration.

It seems to me a good batch of women on this site are either here for platonic or to do online only. In my time on here I've only found one girl who was hot enough to warrant my attention. All others were looking good but they flake! That's why I could not write any reviews.

I have met just one chick off the site who was black with a amazing body and was very young. I've been sending "check out my profile and hope to hear back!" to many young fit asian women and white women with no luck. The 9-10's all don't want arrangements a good majority of the time. I guess it comes down to the luck to bag a hotter women. I don't even have to report the women a half of the time they are deleted before I can even respond. Must be messaging multiple people and they get reported.

**LosCaballeros** · 08-15-21 20:22

Originally Posted by TomDickNHarry [View Original Post]

You guys need to read more of this thread about how to handle this. You're violating the golden rule and actually asking to be ripped off, it's no pussy no money. I don't even consider it being ripped off honestly, you set yourself up and were a mark.

Originally Posted by RogerOver [View Original Post]

Lobsid gave the correct answer.

Report her for guys being gullible enough to buy her a bunch of shit and then get dumped? An excellent way to call attention to yourself. Newsflash: Taking them shopping before getting any pussy is the same as paying them direct cash before getting any pussy. Take the lumps for being naive and move on.

IMHO, the purpose of this board is to report on good and especially bad experiences for awareness. Gabby clearly has disingenuous intentions and was able to pull off the same con on others and people should be informed.

**ChrisHansen92** · 08-15-21 18:43

I may receive blow back for saying this but I report no one anymore. No one. Here's my thoughts: Anyone can report anyone for anything. Every time that happens a service ticket is opened in your name and the other person involved. These are not reviewed by A. I. , computer or bot's but real people. It's probably not a large group of people either. They may review word by word every message between you, as well as any other messages and convo's you have with any girl on there. If you keep popping up on their radar you become the tall nail. Either complaining about the women or women complaining about you. We all know the girl's can get away with almost anything but you and I have to walk on egg shells or we are banned. And it requires a number of hoop's we have to jump thru to get back on and play (me 4 times now). The only real "fast tract" for them to quickly ban a girl or at least suspend their profile is underage (until they can provide anybody's I'd that looks like them and get back on). It may make you feel good like you did your part and helped us all. But at the end of the day ANY girl banned can have a new free profile up and running scamming again in less that 12 hours. Girls can and will report you for how you worded things, your demeanor, attitude, won't prepay. Anything and they will. Why bring more attention to yourself and risk having to start all over from square 1 with a new profile. My motto on the site now charging 100 per month and will ban you in an instant with no credit or refund: Fly below the radar. Report no one but please report them here with a link and more important any and all pic's they are using. Trust me they will eventually be back with a new free profile using the same pic's or similar we can identify. Get their profile link and all pic's, block and move on then post all the info here to help us. On a site where the deck is stacked against the paying customer (men) at the end of the day just let it go, block and move on to the next girl. You will be in a better place with less frustration.

Originally Posted by RogerOver [View Original Post]

Lobsid gave the correct answer.

Report her for guys being gullible enough to buy her a bunch of shit and then get dumped? An excellent way to call attention to yourself. Newsflash: Taking them shopping before getting any pussy is the same as paying them direct cash before getting any pussy. Take the lumps for being naive and move on.

**TakesALicking** · 08-15-21 18:13

Yellowbird on SA. Met her once for an impromptu M&G. I just ran out of time to seal the deal. Seems sweet and DTF, although not nearly as cute as some of her pics. Debating if the juice is worth the squeeze as she says her previous arrangement was semi platonic and he left her 5 each meet. Playful and sarcastic texter though. Anyone know if I should follow through?

**RogerOver** · 08-15-21 17:38

Originally Posted by BagIt [View Original Post]

Can one of you dudes who has been ripped off by her report her to SA and get her kicked off the site please?

Originally Posted by Lobsid [View Original Post]

Who ever reports her is asking to get ban. She didn't brake any of SA rules. You would be telling SA that you are soliciting sex, which is cause for them to ban you.

Lobsid gave the correct answer.

Report her for guys being gullible enough to buy her a bunch of shit and then get dumped? An excellent way to call attention to yourself. Newsflash: Taking them shopping before getting any pussy is the same as paying them direct cash before getting any pussy. Take the lumps for being naive and move on.

**TomDickNHarry** · 08-15-21 17:28

You guys need to read more of this thread about how to handle this. You're violating the golden rule and actually asking to be ripped off, it's no pussy no money. I don't even consider it being ripped off honestly, you set yourself up and were a mark.

Originally Posted by Round3 [View Original Post]

She got me as well. Bang Bang Shrimp for lunch then shopping. Lost her in traffic on the way to hotel and that was it. She got a couple of hundred worth of jeans and tiny tops out of me. I have taken many gals shopping but this one completely ignored me while she focused 100 percent on shopping. I ended up watching the store worker at Pac Sun with no bra on stocking the shelves as I was just in the way with her.

Lucky for me I was able to cancel my room in time so saved me that expense. Speaking of which, room prices have gone nuts since the last time I got one pre covid.