Seeking Arrangement and Other Dating Site Reviews

[XxMarkXx]

Not for nothing but, I disagree with number 6. If she asks you to download another app then yes it's a red flag. Depending on the girl you're dealing with, asking to text off the site ASAP may get you blocked. Some girls don't use a burner number and, are very hesitant to give out their numbers. It's all a YMMV situation, learn to read to the room first before asking for her number.

Yes, I agree. My wording was not the best. If you seem to click with her, asking for her number should be ok. I have had girls insisting we move to some other dating apps that I never heard of. Thats a red flag for me and where I was trying to go, but did a poor job of.

[Big Mac Daddy]

Not for nothing but, I disagree with number 6. If she asks you to download another app then yes it's a red flag. Depending on the girl you're dealing with, asking to text off the site ASAP may get you blocked. Some girls don't use a burner number and, are very hesitant to give out their numbers. It's all a YMMV situation, learn to read to the room first before asking for her number.

Yes, that can be true. I'll be upfront with the girl saying that I prefer meeting sooner rather than later. Some girls there will want to take days or weeks exchanging life stories. All that can be done at the public meet. If we click there, then great but if not, we move on. That decision can be made at the end of the meet or by texting later. Some girls are faster than others so that's part of the equation, too. We know why we're there so let's not waste time playing those dating games.

[BlueFox141]

Everyone's approach will differ. There are some common themes:

1. Think with your big head. If you have doubts, proceed with caution.

2. Never send money before a date.

3. Never pay for a coffee date / meet and greet.

4. Dinner only dates, I don't pay beyond the meal, but I know some will give a small amount.

5. Meet in public first. If she is legit, she shoukd have no issue meeting at starbucks or a bar / restaurant.

6. Text off the site asap. If she wants to chat only on the site or wants you to download some other app to chat on, its probably a scam.

7. Think of these girls more like a gf and less like a hooker. Some will go private on the first date, others will not. I always leave the option on the table.

8. Respect goes much farther on SA.

Others will add their thoughts.

There are some excellent points made here. I think number seven is extremely important to keep in mind. We're not dealing with STG girls here, usually. Some of them may pop up but they are looking to meet up immediately. The important ones are the ones who are a little hesitant to do this, but may venture out. You really have to stay very respectful and woo them. I understand why some of them are reluctant to give their phone number out, and I don't blame them. I have more times than I can count given out the information on texting apps in order to get a young lady set up to text me. I have on occasion used the Kik app to talk to a hesitant young lady that I was very much interested in. I don't mind Kik because it doesn't give away my real phone number. I never give money ahead of time to anyone I am meeting. I have on occasion at the restaurant, asked a young ladythat I was very much interested in who had kids, If she had to pay for a babysitter and offered to give her some money towards that. This is only for one that I'm very interested in, and I want to show her that I can be generous. $25 to help pay the way could be money well spent.

I also think that TSmithers24 had a very good post #3641 that also had some great points, even if they were pretty much common sense. One thing that I do very early is, when I am asked for what I'm looking for I spell it right out.

I say that I am looking for a nice young lady, or a pretty young lady like her to connect with, (and the connection is important to a lot of them) who is looking for some extra money, and then say- for an intimate physical relationship, or something similar, that gets the point across.

If that gets by them and they say okay then they're either a scammer who's going to play us, or one that's going to work with us. There's nothing worse than spending two weeks on someone who is going to tell you in the end that she is strictly platonic. This is a much different playing field than escorts on STG, or hitting loop. It requires a lot more finesse.

Be careful out there.

Blue.

[DaReal86]

Everyone's approach will differ. There are some common themes:

1. Think with your big head. If you have doubts, proceed with caution.

2. Never send money before a date.

3. Never pay for a coffee date / meet and greet.

4. Dinner only dates, I don't pay beyond the meal, but I know some will give a small amount.

5. Meet in public first. If she is legit, she shoukd have no issue meeting at starbucks or a bar / restaurant.

6. Text off the site asap. If she wants to chat only on the site or wants you to download some other app to chat on, its probably a scam.

7. Think of these girls more like a gf and less like a hooker. Some will go private on the first date, others will not. I always leave the option on the table.

8. Respect goes much farther on SA.

Others will add their thoughts.

Not for nothing but, I disagree with number 6. If she asks you to download another app then yes it's a red flag. Depending on the girl you're dealing with, asking to text off the site ASAP may get you blocked. Some girls don't use a burner number and, are very hesitant to give out their numbers. It's all a YMMV situation, learn to read to the room first before asking for her number.

[XxMarkXx]

I would really appreciate if someone senior or experiences on sa can guide if I am getting into something real or a trap. I would also request to share some genuine profiles from sa and how they worked for them.

Everyone's approach will differ. There are some common themes:

1. Think with your big head. If you have doubts, proceed with caution.

2. Never send money before a date.

3. Never pay for a coffee date / meet and greet.

4. Dinner only dates, I don't pay beyond the meal, but I know some will give a small amount.

5. Meet in public first. If she is legit, she shoukd have no issue meeting at starbucks or a bar / restaurant.

6. Text off the site asap. If she wants to chat only on the site or wants you to download some other app to chat on, its probably a scam.

7. Think of these girls more like a gf and less like a hooker. Some will go private on the first date, others will not. I always leave the option on the table.

8. Respect goes much farther on SA.

Others will add their thoughts.

[Techno2021]

Not satisfied with stg, I started interacting on SA. Been interacting with many but I am somehow lost on whos genuine and who wants to loot. Seeking experiences on below profiles.

1. Yourbabygirl.

https://www.seeking.com/member/44728...2-9c24404f0e1f

Wants ppm with dinner and coffee meets first.

2. sugarpie.

https://www.seeking.com/member/aeaa6...4-9974840458be

Has a place, asking 240, sent pics on messages. Looks a bit junkie. Not sure of demons.

3. Gypsywolf.

https://www.seeking.com/member/ed143...7-5bf9979e7397

Mom with kids, asks for ppm, have to visit in groton only. Chatted well. Divorced recently.

4. Freckled beauty.

https://www.seeking.com/member/ee365...9-0819397ee6d9

Chatted well, seems to be genuine. Asked me for expectations and after that has been offline for the day.

5. GABBY.

https://www.seeking.com/member/ae075...8-ee7fd685b238

Says she is college gal, asking 250. Doesn't have a car. I asked if she can come out, yet to chat further.

6. Mae.

https://www.seeking.com/member/65eea...3-5745d7602b2f

Replies cleverly, said ready for everything. But is very busy messaging too many guys and she needs time to respond.

7. Bittybaby.

https://www.seeking.com/messages/inb...c-0ec188670d5f

Haven't chatted much. Just shared images.

I would really appreciate if someone senior or experiences on sa can guide if I am getting into something real or a trap. I would also request to share some genuine profiles from sa and how they worked for them.

[Jo Schmoe]

So I'm new to SA, but I've been chatting with this one. Any info would be appreciated. She really wants to meet soon which is a bit of a red flag for me.

https://www.seeking.com/member/42969...9-b2157b39ace2

I would love to hear more about her if you get any more info.

[BlueFox141]

Met her recently. Definitely tatted! Good comms, good conversation in person. She is the woman in the pics. Her peofile says a few extra pounds, but, I would say she is slim to average. Looks awesome in a pair of tight pants she is early 40's, so, if you want a 20 something body, look elsewhere, but nothing wrong with what she brings. No demons, drama or bs.

Private time was not rushed at all, multiple rounds, she is very into it. Playful and aggressive. Despite her tagline, there was no pegging involved. Of course, YMMV, but be respectful and you should have a good time.

She is looking for 300 ppm, went down from there from me, but you won't likely get her down to 2.

https://www.seeking.com/member/4c27c...4-0aac104ead3e

I got her down to two hundred close to two weeks ago. She does have an amazing body for 41 and the fact that she has had five kids! You would never know it to look at her. My session with her didn't go well, because she started giving directions and telling me what to do and what she wanted to do and completely took charge of the session as if she were paying for it. It started to become a real turn off. Glad to hear that you had a better time with her. She does have potential! I haven't had a chance to post from the computer and I've been doing it from my phone so I haven't been able to do much in this forum, because I like the post links and photos. She let me take a couple photos of her when our session started. I'll post them in a couple days.

Blue.

[XxMarkXx]

Met her recently. Definitely tatted! Good comms, good conversation in person. She is the woman in the pics. Her peofile says a few extra pounds, but, I would say she is slim to average. Looks awesome in a pair of tight pants she is early 40's, so, if you want a 20 something body, look elsewhere, but nothing wrong with what she brings. No demons, drama or bs.

Private time was not rushed at all, multiple rounds, she is very into it. Playful and aggressive. Despite her tagline, there was no pegging involved. Of course, YMMV, but be respectful and you should have a good time.

She is looking for 300 ppm, went down from there from me, but you won't likely get her down to 2.

https://www.seeking.com/member/4c27c...4-0aac104ead3e

[MoCheeks65]

https://www.seeking.com/member/69ee9...5-5ffbe9a4d372

Anyone tried with this one yet?

I have reached out. Nothing back from her yet, not sure if she is real.

[MyHobby]

https://www.seeking.com/member/69ee9...5-5ffbe9a4d372

Anyone tried with this one yet?

[BlueFox141]

Agree with Blue, wanting to meet quickly is not a red flag in itself. If you are having good conversations and want to meet her too, set up a coffee or dinner date, no planning of extras. Leave it open and if you click, extras can happen. If she is only up for meeting at a room, to me, that's a red flag. Just my opinion.

I would venture to say that even wanting to meet at a motel first, isn't necessarilly a red flag. I had one in Waterbury for about a month and a half that wanted to meet at a motel right away because she couldn't host and she was horny. She didn't want any money, her husband was only home for about 3 weeks total all year because he was a truck driver, and he had taken off because he wasn't paying the mortgage. She got on Seeking so she could find a sexual release. Now, I know that is not common, it's nice when it happens though! I've got one right now that I was supposed to meet for dinner on the Berlin Turnpike, and she texted me to ask if instead of going out to dinner we got takeout and went to my place. I told her my place was 45 minutes away, but we could get a motel. She said great, she was really horny! I'll seeing her soon at the USA Motel.

Blue.

[Zombie835]

Which Katie? The one from enfield? I have tried to hook up with her a few times. She only will do mornings and quoted me 250 and I need to host. Too much on my side of the equation to pull the trigger, but damn, those eyes really tempt me!!

https://www.seeking.com/member/913c4...5-a414f3c6dacc

Yes I get 1 text a day from her that's it.

[XxMarkXx]

The link is dead. You can't tell if it's a red flag, or a good thing. I understand you wondering about the red flag, but sometimes the ones who want to meet right away are desperate for money and willing to make a deal. You have to figure out which one this one is.

Blue.

Agree with Blue, wanting to meet quickly is not a red flag in itself. If you are having good conversations and want to meet her too, set up a coffee or dinner date, no planning of extras. Leave it open and if you click, extras can happen. If she is only up for meeting at a room, to me, that's a red flag. Just my opinion.

[XxMarkXx]

Has anyone seen Katie from SA lately? I've been getting just one text a day from her with always the excuse of I don't get notifications so clearly she is hiding something.

Which Katie? The one from enfield? I have tried to hook up with her a few times. She only will do mornings and quoted me 250 and I need to host. Too much on my side of the equation to pull the trigger, but damn, those eyes really tempt me!!

https://www.seeking.com/member/913c4...5-a414f3c6dacc