All of you have confirmed my thinking and I'm just going to block her. One of the reasons that I choose a SB over almost any provider is that I get to know them a little better and seem to have more of a connection. The one thing I hate about the "other" site is that 99% of the women on there want you to text them when you want to meet, expect you to show up at your allotted time and be ready to walk out the door 59 minutes later. That's fine and they can do what they want, but it simply doesn't work for me.
This SB was 19 YO and before we hooked up, we talked about her and family and a bunch of shit like that. And she's genuinely a good person. She had a great attitude, it was obvious that she needed money to take care of her kid (s) that she had when she was 16 and 17 (father was no longer around, of course). She always tried to make sure I was happy, if I needed something or a place to go in Miami, she had the hook up. She even set me up with her friend. So, it was a little more than showing up, paying her, fucking her and leaving. I understand with many of the ladies that I meet, it's just a game and way to get money. She was someone with a fucked up life that I was helping out and what I received from her was worth far more than what I paid. So, this is like having a somewhat good acquaintance suddenly having problems and needing help. Unfortunately, I'm thinking of her as a kid that needs help instead of an adult that needs to get her shit together.
You're a gentleman Michael. You did what you thought was the right thing to do with your money. At the end of the day remember one thing. You are not a chump. You gave her a payment. Told her how it is and blocked her. That made her understand will stand for no more. Plus she all too well realized that you could have blocked her before you gave her anything. So she understands 1) you are a stand-up guy 2) This is the end of the line for hand outs.
I know most of you will roll your eyes and think I'm a sucker, but I gave her $500. I told her that no matter how embarrassed she is, it's her family's job to help her and she needed to swallow her pride and ask for help. I told her again that she needs to apply for unemployment and get that extra $600 a week and that it was that last she would get from me. Then I blocked her. I feel a tinge of guilt, but I'm not Bill Gates and can't fucking afford to try and save the world.
I guess you could call it a Finder's Fee for helping you find the hot one. Any further info on the hot one or is she UTR?
I know most of you will roll your eyes and think I'm a sucker, but I gave her $500. I told her that no matter how embarrassed she is, it's her family's job to help her and she needed to swallow her pride and ask for help. I told her again that she needs to apply for unemployment and get that extra $600 a week and that it was that last she would get from me. Then I blocked her. I feel a tinge of guilt, but I'm not Bill Gates and can't fucking afford to try and save the world.
You're a good man, Michael! Hopefully, she'll get things in order and take care of her kids before she thinks of her next high, but that likely won't happen. Glad you ended it in a way that works for you.
All of you have confirmed my thinking and I'm just going to block her. One of the reasons that I choose a SB over almost any provider is that I get to know them a little better and seem to have more of a connection. The one thing I hate about the "other" site is that 99% of the women on there want you to text them when you want to meet, expect you to show up at your allotted time and be ready to walk out the door 59 minutes later. That's fine and they can do what they want, but it simply doesn't work for me.
This SB was 19 YO and before we hooked up, we talked about her and family and a bunch of shit like that. And she's genuinely a good person. She had a great attitude, it was obvious that she needed money to take care of her kid (s) that she had when she was 16 and 17 (father was no longer around, of course). She always tried to make sure I was happy, if I needed something or a place to go in Miami, she had the hook up. She even set me up with her friend. So, it was a little more than showing up, paying her, fucking her and leaving. I understand with many of the ladies that I meet, it's just a game and way to get money. She was someone with a fucked up life that I was helping out and what I received from her was worth far more than what I paid. So, this is like having a somewhat good acquaintance suddenly having problems and needing help. Unfortunately, I'm thinking of her as a kid that needs help instead of an adult that needs to get her shit together.
At the end of the day it was your money and you decide what to do with it. I see your point but for me it would be like trying to help out an ex if she needed help after we broke up. Call me an asshole but if I end it with someone I don't even want to talk to them and maybe I don't end on bad terms with some of these girls but if we decide to stop seeing each other than it's over and we won't text each other again. Again that's just me but at the end of the day, your choice, and your money. Don't feel guilt though LOL you have nothing to feel bad about.
IMO, don't let any SW or monger tell you how to spend your money. Do what you want and what you feel is right. You're a more generous person than me and I would have went a different way, but at the end of the day, it's your $. Spend it how you want.
I know most of you will roll your eyes and think I'm a sucker, but I gave her $500. I told her that no matter how embarrassed she is, it's her family's job to help her and she needed to swallow her pride and ask for help. I told her again that she needs to apply for unemployment and get that extra $600 a week and that it was that last she would get from me. Then I blocked her. I feel a tinge of guilt, but I'm not Bill Gates and can't fucking afford to try and save the world.
I know most of you will roll your eyes and think I'm a sucker, but I gave her $500. I told her that no matter how embarrassed she is, it's her family's job to help her and she needed to swallow her pride and ask for help. I told her again that she needs to apply for unemployment and get that extra $600 a week and that it was that last she would get from me. Then I blocked her. I feel a tinge of guilt, but I'm not Bill Gates and can't fucking afford to try and save the world.
Like the truly big reason why I don't approve is because (I'm probably projecting here.) I think she's a drug addict and that's what the money was really going towards. But anyway, you're good and did fine.
I know most of you will roll your eyes and think I'm a sucker, but I gave her $500. I told her that no matter how embarrassed she is, it's her family's job to help her and she needed to swallow her pride and ask for help. I told her again that she needs to apply for unemployment and get that extra $600 a week and that it was that last she would get from me. Then I blocked her. I feel a tinge of guilt, but I'm not Bill Gates and can't fucking afford to try and save the world.
I do think blocking her is the way to go, but at the same time, I think a lot of the guys responding are being too hard on you about this because I get it. I travel a lot too and there are some women out there that I have a decent connection with. And yes, it's better than what you get with a normal working girl. Like there's this girl I used to see twice a month out in Pensacola. When I'd go out there for work, she'd actually stay with me in my hotel room and we'd spend all day and all night together. I'd slip her $100/ day to help with bills and of course, would pay for all meals and entertainment and what not. Her kids even loved me! (Yes, I took out her kids a bunch). But in the end, she got a boyfriend and it all came to an end when she asked me if I'd slip her some cash to help get her boyfriend's car fixed. Listen, I know weren't a couple, but it's different buying her groceries than it is to pay to fix her boyfriend's alternator. We stopped talking or seeing each other after that, and she completely understood. And you know what? I get the feeling this girl of yours will understand too when you ghost her.
I have to totally agree here on the helping part. I refuse to help a girl who asks me for money to support her bf. Tell your man to "man up and get a fucking better job and support you. ".
All of you have confirmed my thinking and I'm just going to block her. One of the reasons that I choose a SB over almost any provider is that I get to know them a little better and seem to have more of a connection. The one thing I hate about the "other" site is that 99% of the women on there want you to text them when you want to meet, expect you to show up at your allotted time and be ready to walk out the door 59 minutes later. That's fine and they can do what they want, but it simply doesn't work for me.
I do think blocking her is the way to go, but at the same time, I think a lot of the guys responding are being too hard on you about this because I get it. I travel a lot too and there are some women out there that I have a decent connection with. And yes, it's better than what you get with a normal working girl. Like there's this girl I used to see twice a month out in Pensacola. When I'd go out there for work, she'd actually stay with me in my hotel room and we'd spend all day and all night together. I'd slip her $100/ day to help with bills and of course, would pay for all meals and entertainment and what not. Her kids even loved me! (Yes, I took out her kids a bunch). But in the end, she got a boyfriend and it all came to an end when she asked me if I'd slip her some cash to help get her boyfriend's car fixed. Listen, I know weren't a couple, but it's different buying her groceries than it is to pay to fix her boyfriend's alternator. We stopped talking or seeing each other after that, and she completely understood. And you know what? I get the feeling this girl of yours will understand too when you ghost her.
Disregard females, acquire currency is your best bet. Why would you give someone thousands of dollars that you'll never see again. If you're seriously asking this question you might need some help in your life LOL if I'm done talking to a girl or she wants to stop, it's over. I'm done. I won't talk to her again and definitely won't give away my hard earned money even if she is in a tough situation as she says. Not my problem anymore.
All of you have confirmed my thinking and I'm just going to block her. One of the reasons that I choose a SB over almost any provider is that I get to know them a little better and seem to have more of a connection. The one thing I hate about the "other" site is that 99% of the women on there want you to text them when you want to meet, expect you to show up at your allotted time and be ready to walk out the door 59 minutes later. That's fine and they can do what they want, but it simply doesn't work for me.
This SB was 19 YO and before we hooked up, we talked about her and family and a bunch of shit like that. And she's genuinely a good person. She had a great attitude, it was obvious that she needed money to take care of her kid (s) that she had when she was 16 and 17 (father was no longer around, of course). She always tried to make sure I was happy, if I needed something or a place to go in Miami, she had the hook up. She even set me up with her friend. So, it was a little more than showing up, paying her, fucking her and leaving. I understand with many of the ladies that I meet, it's just a game and way to get money. She was someone with a fucked up life that I was helping out and what I received from her was worth far more than what I paid. So, this is like having a somewhat good acquaintance suddenly having problems and needing help. Unfortunately, I'm thinking of her as a kid that needs help instead of an adult that needs to get her shit together.
Just see the situation as it is, you have helped to the point until you feel you cannot help her more. Regardless if you have or haven't reach the limit of your financial means, you reached a point where your good conscience is even asking itself it is ok to continue helping.
So, I would let her know that I cannot continue helping her. No need to explain further.
Disregard females, acquire currency is your best bet. Why would you give someone thousands of dollars that you'll never see again. If you're seriously asking this question you might need some help in your life LOL if I'm done talking to a girl or she wants to stop, it's over. I'm done. I won't talk to her again and definitely won't give away my hard earned money even if she is in a tough situation as she says. Not my problem anymore.
Just see the situation as it is, you have helped to the point until you feel you cannot help her more. Regardless if you have or haven't reach the limit of your financial means, you reached a point where your good conscience is even asking itself it is ok to continue helping.
So, I would let her know that I cannot continue helping her. No need to explain further.
I travel quite a bit. I usually have a sugar baby in each city that I travel. I mentioned on this site last year that I had a sugar baby that I met in Miami who was pretty nice and cute, but when it was that time of the month for her, she introduced me to her friend. Her friend is amazingly hot, an incredible fuck and quite honestly the best looking woman that I have ever stuck my dick in during my 50+ years of life. Once I met her, I had no interest in the woman that introduced me to her. I have zero plans on seeing the original woman again and have made plans to meet up with the hottie in a few weeks.
About three weeks ago, the original woman contacted me because she had lost her job because of the Coronavirus. She couldn't come up with rent and was evicted. Florida is nowhere as progressive as Washington State. There are no moratoriums on evictions and even if there were, people would do what they want (one of the reasons I love Florida). I sent her a few hundred dollars, paid for a motel for a week so her and her kids would have a place to stay and told her to get on unemployment and get that extra $600/ week. Since then, I've been getting almost daily requests for money from her. I've been sending a couple of hundred dollars now and then, but I really have no interest in seeing her again and pretty much am doing it because I don't want her or her kids to suffer.
So, I've been ignoring her daily or sometimes two to three times a day request, simply begging me for money. I have a shit ton of guilt about it, simply because this virus had zero effect on me and my business and I can afford to give her the money. I mean, I have better things to spend my money on, but if she's really in a bad spot, I honestly could throw a couple of grand at her and not miss it that much (I'll definitely miss it, but I don't really "need" it right now or in the near future). The reason I'm so hesitant is that the constant requests for money, the sheer desperation, it smells like drug addict to me. I'm not going to give up my hard earned money so someone can waste it on a drug habit, I used to be married to someone like that.
I could block her and be done with this, but I really don't like to see someone that I used to fuck suffer (if she's really suffering). Anyone have any thoughts?
I agree with Marko. Unfortunately it looks like she's taking advantage of your generosity and sees you as as an easy mark for lack of a better term and the constant request for money is telling. I been there as well and felt the need to help out but you need to take a step back and get some perspective. Personally I would just tell her that you are no longer interested in seeing her and then block her without sending any more money.
I also agree that you should just walk away, as long as you do it in a way that leaves you guilt-free. Most likely you are only one of a list of men who she's asking for help. I understand the empathy you're feeling. But you shouldn't feel it any more you would for the person who used to cut your hair back in the day and is out of work now.
First off, I think you need to reread your own post and think about how you'd react and what advice you'd give to the person who posted that missive on this board.
Second, you do not owe her anything. You've been very generous and kind to her, but her life is her responsibility.
Third, if it makes you feel better, I'd figure out an amount of money you think honorable (although I'd lean toward $0), send it to her, block her, and forget about her.
Finally, I don't think it is a good idea to discuss your reasons or thoughts on this with her. She isn't going to offer anything constructive. Just tell her you are sending some money (if you are) and can't see her or communicate with her any longer.
I agree with Marko. Unfortunately it looks like she's taking advantage of your generosity and sees you as as an easy mark for lack of a better term and the constant request for money is telling. I been there as well and felt the need to help out but you need to take a step back and get some perspective. Personally I would just tell her that you are no longer interested in seeing her and then block her without sending any more money.
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