"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

**DeterF** · 09-02-19 19:15

I've done the SB / SD things and off since 2010, and wanted to share some general thoughts with everyone; I'm thinking about jumping back in, and have been observing the action on SA. The last time I did it, I had an SB 30 years younger, and we ended up living together for three years. Nope, I am not a high-roller; we are still close. So, when it was the natural point for her to move on, it was about 1. 5 years ago, and I had a false start. I've been in observation mode on SA for the last three months watching to see who comes and goes, etc. (I tend to be really detail oriented, and don't want to take up a bunch of bandwidth. I could tell some stories that's for sure. I'll get to the crux of the matter.).

So, the whole thing has changed dramatically since 2010 and not for the better. The clampdown on the escort sites pushed the pros to new spots; the media attention brought in a lot of young, curious girls, who are really nervous like little deer, and both men and women who are in scam mode. It's always been a bit of a chess game, but if you're sincere and take some time, you can find some real gems. I found a few of them along the way, and the are all awesome women, who have successful lives now.

However, in the midst of all the noise on SA now, there's still those women on there. I'm making the assumption that most guys are looking for the traditional SB / SD thing. I'd say if you have a decent budget, look for a real college girl who is working and really focused and serious. If she's smart and sane, she's not going to want to disrupt any lives; she doesn't want drama either. Work out an amount that keeps everyone happy, and still leave some room in the allocation to do something nice for her. It goes a long way for someone who is fighting through school. Find someone with common ground, it makes the physical thing easier for her. You'll be surprised at how well it can all go. It takes time and work to find one.

The other woman is the single mom who is working, focused and just struggles with the demands, and who simply never has time for a real date. One of the women I had a relationship with was in this category; she was closer to me in age -- 10 years younger, and was an attorney doing non-profit work. She was awesome, but I was married at that time, and there was too much attraction, and she said she couldn't do it anymore. This brings up the other part of it. I sought out women, who met or mostly met my criteria for a girlfriend despite an age difference in some cases.

If you're married and doing this, you really need someone who you can trust, no drama, major issues, etc. She has to have some "skin in the game" meaning something to lose. If she likes and respects you and you treat her well; keep your end of the deal, and make her feel appreciated and special, believe me, it's great!

I've got some great stories along the way with all this; there were the situations that didn't work out after a month or a couple of dates, and wow. Some good stories over some drinks.

**DArrow404** · 09-02-19 17:22

Originally Posted by Jims2321 [View Original Post]

Which gift cards work with Seeking? Their payment screen says that the card has to accept international charges. So I thought only certain prepaid / gift cards would work. And how are you handing not providing identifying information when registering the cards?

Green dot cards work with Seeking. I had gone to Walgreens to get a Vanilla card but they were out; took a chance on green dot and it worked perfect.

**BrownSugaTwo** · 09-02-19 16:17

Originally Posted by StayActive [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/4b123...5-eeb853a55514

I got a message from this girl. Wondering.

If others have seen her?

If you see her, please report back.

**DudeNextDoor** · 09-02-19 15:46

I know a couple of you were talking to them. Wanted to see if anyone bit the bullet and went for it? Or are going to. Would love to hear a report.

**DArrow404** · 09-02-19 15:40

Originally Posted by StewPitt [View Original Post]

All my friends have done her, she will see anybody and everybody.

https://www.seeking.com/member/7651f...-ae2f9cee170aI

So all your friends are sugar daddies? Or you know her in real life?

**Member #6704** · 09-02-19 13:52

https://www.seeking.com/member/4b123...5-eeb853a55514

I got a message from this girl. Wondering.

If others have seen her?

**LeeDawg62** · 09-02-19 11:44

Originally Posted by StewPitt [View Original Post]

Yep, that's her. Levaquin 500 mg for 10 days and then Bactrim 800 mg for 10 days.

A UTI is not sexually transmitted. However, you can pass bacteria that causes a UTI between partners. The UTI May be a side effect of an STI such as chlamydia or Trichomoniasis. The good news is both of those can be treated by antibiotics. I am in the medical field and just wanted to clear the record.

**GetHot17** · 09-02-19 11:13

Originally Posted by Darmour88 [View Original Post]

I thought Facebook disabled the phone number search feature. Or did I remember incorrectly?

They did. Still pissed about that one. You could find out a lot about these chicks before setting up a meet. You could see who was real or who was not. Saved my ass a couple times.

**Darmour88** · 09-02-19 10:00

Originally Posted by JustAGeek [View Original Post]

First thing to do is setup a hobby email and google voice number.

Before chatting with someone check their pics against google images.

Most girls with a "Here for a good time, but not for a long time" profile header are fake.

See if they actually filled out the entire profile, if its a simple 1 liner and the profile is a year old chances are they are pros or fakes.

If they have what look like pro pics, they are probably fake.

When you finally start chatting with someone with text google and facebook search their number.

Google their profile name, most camgirls or fakes use the same name everywhere.

If it looks TGTBT chances are it I, but keep an open mind.

I thought Facebook disabled the phone number search feature. Or did I remember incorrectly?

**Peter Johnson** · 09-02-19 01:33

Originally Posted by Oily123 [View Original Post]

Thinking about joining again but got frustrated the first time around with the fake crap.

Some fake ads are very obvious, but others not so.

Any advice on spotting the fake one's that look real?

What do you guys look for?

The fake ads often have just one photo, turned slightly askew, with a generic heading and maybe one line of the profile. They just sounds super bland and generic.

But it only takes a moment to send someone a message, so I don't worry about the fake profiles that much. I just figure that SA probably puts them up there. But they don't send long replies, so it doesn't waste too much of your time. I don't think they are catfishing anyone.

Maybe there are other fakes with more nefarious purposes, but I haven't run into any of those and I am just not that concerned about it. It is a numbers game, so just send out a lot of messages and work from there. I just copy and paste an opening line or two and then will sometimes customize it a little based on their profile, but sometimes not. These girls mostly just want your money, so you don't have to win them over with great opening line or conversation.

**StewPitt** · 09-01-19 23:50

This app works great for private texting. I've used it for all the Seeking Arrangement Women. I've tried like 4 different one's and this one is super easy. I used to have a Burner phone but this is so much easier than carrying 2 phones. Just thought I'd share it.

**StewPitt** · 09-01-19 22:16

Originally Posted by BrownSugaTwo [View Original Post]

It was this one:

https://www.seeking.com/member/7651f...f-ae2f9cee170a

Yep, That's Her.

https://www.seeking.com/member/7651f...f-ae2f9cee170a

**JustAGeek** · 09-01-19 21:54

On top of the other suggestions I made earlier, always remember to report the fakes, scammers, and the girls only wanting online or snapchat arrangements. That is against their rules.

Originally Posted by Oily123 [View Original Post]

Thinking about joining again but got frustrated the first time around with the fake crap.

Some fake ads are very obvious, but others not so.

Any advice on spotting the fake one's that look real?

What do you guys look for?