"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**FirstTry** · 11-17-18 23:04

Hi I am from Michigan and thought I would answer here because of the high traffick. So from what I have been reading I know it's an uphill battle if someone is on Seeking and is just universally unattractive so my point being is I am an unattractive overweight guy who is willing to spend more than the average sugar daddy, so if I offer hot sugarbabes more money will I have a chance to get intimate with them.

**Hot Hot** · 11-16-18 11:23

https://www.seeking.com/member/bd43d...7-7c0e66bcc5b7

Been talking to this one, anyone have experience with her?

**Walruscl** · 11-15-18 20:04

Now that SA allows a profile to specify an age range that they are seeking, I personally find it a little frustrating when I find some unrealistically low numbers there. That said, I've been contacted / favorited by POTS who's age limit was ten+ years younger than me, and I guess there is some value to the hint that you might want to triage a profile down a bit if you're outside her profile's age range. Not that I've ever seriously online-civvie-dated, I can only imagine the situation is much worse for those of us who find ourselves on the wrong side of 50, even if only by a couple of years.

But I did have the satisfaction of some validation from my current SB recently. Started out by her asking whether she appeared older or younger than the characters in the show we were streaming. I told her that her looks allow her a lot of flexibility. She can easily look her 20-something age, or with the right outfit and / or makeup, shoot for young-30-something and pull that off too.

I turned it around and asked her what she'd guess my age would be if she didn't already know. I was happy to hear that she'd peg me at 47/48. I took it one step further and asked what my age group my personality and demeanor would suggest. For that, she said that once she'd gotten to know me, I seemed more like a 30-something to her. Or maybe an upper-30-something because "you have your act together".

I guess I wouldn't go so far as to call that "game", as the term is used here, especially since she's correct in that it takes awhile to really get to know my personality and shed some age-related preconceptions. But it's certainly part of what "game" is trying to accomplish: reduce that age barrier.

Anyway, nothing terribly new there, but was a satisfying moment.

**VeryBigBuck** · 11-14-18 11:30

Originally Posted by TheDude1 [View Original Post]

What is the best prepaid card for SA that actually works?

https://www.onevanilla.com/

You have to define the zip code on their site then use on SA.

**MrBobDobalina** · 11-13-18 12:15

Originally Posted by RVASpider [View Original Post]

Do they think a private home visit is safer than a hotel? I see it the other way around. She wanted me to pay for videos first and then would meet me. I said I don't pay for videos when I can get them free on the internet. Xvideos is great.

She didn't give any specifics. Just said that she couldn't meet me at s hotel. I thought the hotel was a safe option. She didn't ask me to purchase any videos. No big deal. The bowl is too big to miss one scoop of sugar.

**TheDude1** · 11-13-18 11:53

What is the best prepaid card for SA that actually works?

**RVASpider** · 11-13-18 11:50

Originally Posted by ErnestLl [View Original Post]

A. AirBnB.

B. teach her how to be discrete. This isn't going to be her last cocksucking-for-cash experience so she needs to learn the ropes. Does she have vanity plates that can be I'd'd by a friend driving by? Is there a side entrance she can go in to avoid the lobby / being seen (many fire exits are one way, but you can come down and let her in). Will you be meeting after dark (5 pm this time of year) which adds to privacy? She should appreciate the tutorial so she can keep feeding her appetite for cash and fucking around.

Do they think a private home visit is safer than a hotel? I see it the other way around. She wanted me to pay for videos first and then would meet me. I said I don't pay for videos when I can get them free on the internet. Xvideos is great.

**Ernest Ll** · 11-12-18 17:36

Originally Posted by MrBobDobalina [View Original Post]

Just wanted to report on this one: https://www.seeking.com/member/dd720...2-4c55203fb692.

Agreed to $250 for an evening of "traditional" adult fun, ie. No anal. When I told her it was a hotel visit she said she couldn't meet. She's looking for a private home visit. I assume her marital status has everything to do with that.

A. AirBnB.

B. teach her how to be discrete. This isn't going to be her last cocksucking-for-cash experience so she needs to learn the ropes. Does she have vanity plates that can be I'd'd by a friend driving by? Is there a side entrance she can go in to avoid the lobby / being seen (many fire exits are one way, but you can come down and let her in). Will you be meeting after dark (5 pm this time of year) which adds to privacy? She should appreciate the tutorial so she can keep feeding her appetite for cash and fucking around.

**MrBobDobalina** · 11-12-18 12:23

Just wanted to report on this one: https://www.seeking.com/member/dd720...2-4c55203fb692.

Agreed to $250 for an evening of "traditional" adult fun, ie. No anal. When I told her it was a hotel visit she said she couldn't meet. She's looking for a private home visit. I assume her marital status has everything to do with that.

**Walruscl** · 11-12-18 11:57

Originally Posted by DoggieFan [View Original Post]

So after over 2 1/2 years with my unbelievably gorgeous, sexy AF, smart & sweet SB and I called it quits about a month ago.

Everything was pretty normal until about 8 months in she dropped the L word on me, unexpectedly. I was so shocked all I could muster was "me too". I thought we were safe from that due to us both having SOs & our age difference. , she's less than half my age.

I won't write a super long entry other than to say she's really only the second woman I've caught feelings for in my life, as my SO was my college sweetheart. I can relate to the previous posts not being able to talk to family & friends when things are awesome, or now when things really suck.

Ah, the Emotional Blackmail that is the L word, fell prey to that myself, though it took a lot longer (about 2-1/2 years in). I had been very careful to avoid saying it, and equally careful not to think of our relationship on those terms, despite the deep-seated attraction we had for each other. It would have been better for me to hold the line on that, but there's only so much you can do against a relentless onslaught. With that raising of the bar, things simply got more and more complicated. And while there's an immensely longer version of this story, in the end she ran off without any warning whatsoever. To be fair, it was a better thing for both of us, and I wouldn't have had the willpower to wind it down had she not bolted on me.

That was June, and subsequent summer was hell. I see my current SB as a combination of rare-gem with a little dash of rebound-relationship. She's much better (almost too much) at keeping some emotional distance. Which on one hand is a little unfulfilling, on the other hand I've lived through the downsides of it getting too real. While that's unsatisfying on its own, I'm figuring out that it also has a dampening effect on the sex. She's motivated to please, but I'm personally finding that it takes more of an emotional bond than I would have guessed for the sex to be its best.

So as a previous poster mentioned not long ago here, one has to decide the balance of how much this is for the companionship, and how much for the sex. I find that it's not as easy a thing to figure out as I would have expected. We just came back from our first weekend trip, and I enjoyed every last minute of it. We had a whirlwind yet carefree and spontaneous weekend, coming out with great memories and a whole quiver of new inside jokes between us. The sex, not so much. With her I'm loath to ditch what is an otherwise an extremely rewarding companion just because I've been spoiled in the past by mind-blowing, bucket-list-is-now-empty sex.

So like any LTR, I'll continue to work with her on the things that could get better, and keep my mind open to many possibilities. Everything ranging from moving on and hoping I have can striek a better balance with another SB, to deciding that I have to adjust my expectations and focus on the things that are going so right and not put so much weight on the things that aren't.

A wise quote from a few dozen posts back on this thread: "It's only when we can't accept the downside of any situation that we lose control and power over it. " I'm taking that one to heart.

**Tidad** · 11-12-18 00:31

I've been researching for my work trip to the Emerald City and thanks to some WA state brothers, I'm meeting this one my second night in town. I'm staying for the weekend and she has agreed to be my "all-day all-night local fun guide" for the whole trip if our 1st night goes well. Hopefully I'll come back east exhausted. Wish me luck.

https://www.seeking.com/member/fb77c...e-237a8ece3629

**EasyeOne** · 11-11-18 19:58

Originally Posted by BStreet [View Original Post]

Any Intel on this baby.

https://www.seeking.com/member/6850d...2-ddeb0eeaad39

Thanks.

I was turned off by how pro and how quick she was trying to meet up. Dtf.

**DoggieFan** · 11-11-18 11:44

So after over 2 1/2 years with my unbelievably gorgeous, sexy AF, smart & sweet SB and I called it quits about a month ago.

Everything was pretty normal until about 8 months in she dropped the L word on me, unexpectedly. I was so shocked all I could muster was "me too". I thought we were safe from that due to us both having SOs & our age difference. , she's less than half my age.

I won't write a super long entry other than to say she's really only the second woman I've caught feelings for in my life, as my SO was my college sweetheart. I can relate to the previous posts not being able to talk to family & friends when things are awesome, or now when things really suck.

Luckily I have another Sugar Baby I have been seeing now & then for over two years. She was a stripper when I met her and after about six months of partying with her in my hotel room we finally went from private dancing to FC. As great as the sex is with her, she has been even more valuable as my therapist with benefits.

My main SB went dark on me a few times for a couple of weeks to a month & a half, and my PT SB is great to talk to about it, in person or texting. We text sometimes all night long as she is on the stripper hours, about 3 pm until about 5 or 6 am.

I knew the day would come where my main SB would need to call it quits, as she has had a live in BF the whole time. They got engaged around Thanksgiving last year than he found a text of ours she had saved on her old phone & they broke up for a few months.

Then got back together around April, got reengaged. I saw her a ton in May then the last time in July.

I can't blame her for ending it as she was risking her future, marriage, kids, but still hurts to lose such a sweetheart that the connection was so strong. Not to mention the best sex of my life, by far.

Unfortunately neither one of them are interested in meeting new peeps so I won't / can't share digits. I would if I could.

Glad I had an on deck batter or this would suck beyond belief.

**BStreet** · 11-11-18 06:44

Any Intel on this baby.

https://www.seeking.com/member/6850d...2-ddeb0eeaad39

Thanks.

**DrSummer** · 11-10-18 17:03

With both girls, it was my first FC date with them, so I had to make a decision if they were playing a game or not. Both times we went to hotels, they knew what to expect (I told them intimacy was going to happen, although specific acts were not discussed). They told me about period only when I was trying to reach that area. In my opinion they should have told me beforehand before we went to the hotel room. So, I shorted them. This is the only time I shorted a SB. I think I made the right decision. I don't like when they play games like that. If this happened to me not on the first date, I wouldn't have cared about it and would have been ok.

Play Safe.

Dr. S.

Originally Posted by HabsBurg [View Original Post]

I can see where that would be disappointing on a first date, but if you see a girl regularly it's bound to happen eventually. You have to ask yourself whether it's all about sex or whether you really want companionship. It's happened a couple of times with a lady I see regularly, and while I was a little disappointed at first, the silver lining was that it gave us an opportunity to try some things outside of our usual routine. If you short her, you are making it clear that you are paying for sex, not companionship. You have to ask yourself whether that's the message you want to send.