"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**BStreet** · 11-18-18 13:06

Uptick in babies communicating. Before the weekend, had probably one to two prospects, after about 10 and the weekend is not over. Had one willing to meet at my place at 1 am, that felt desperate on her end. Anyway Christmas is coming in more ways than one!!

**BagIt** · 11-18-18 10:17

https://www.seeking.com/member/4464c...4-5dc8230d5658

Who can give a review of this baby? I heard she likes to play.

**GoneForDays** · 11-18-18 09:47

Originally Posted by FirstTry [View Original Post]

Hi I am from Michigan and thought I would answer here because of the high traffick. So from what I have been reading I know it's an uphill battle if someone is on Seeking and is just universally unattractive so my point being is I am an unattractive overweight guy who is willing to spend more than the average sugar daddy, so if I offer hot sugarbabes more money will I have a chance to get intimate with them.

First, be nice. They want to be treated with respect. Second, pick a girl who has her own idea of what her arrangement will be like... I'm saying pick one who is realistic and wants to have a set schedule and is willing to be committed to you in a monogamous agreement. Thats what SA is for, to keep you from using hookers that see tons of guys! Third, If you want to stay with one girl who can take care of you and not be meeting a bunch of guys, her looks and perfect body will matter less to you than her willingness to be a fun partner. Fourth, don't offer a ton of money for her to go to the FC. Start talking to her about how much a month will be coming out of your wallet to make sure she is happy. Emphasize that you are always a reliable payer and a good daddy if she treats you right. Don't act desperate, that turns women off and they'll shut you down. Remember that you are one of a thousand fat ugly guys that they'll have sex with if you are a good guy and pay them for their time.

**GoneForDays** · 11-18-18 09:38

Originally Posted by HotHot [View Original Post]

https://www.seeking.com/member/bd43d...7-7c0e66bcc5b7

Been talking to this one, anyone have experience with her?

Haven't met her, but she quoted me $$$ 8 for the first date and said she was willing to go down to $$$ on the second date if I gave it to her good. LOL she sounds like a legit college girl but she's runnin the kitty like a pro. Good luck and let me know if you have a nice time.

**FirstTry** · 11-17-18 22:04

Hi I am from Michigan and thought I would answer here because of the high traffick. So from what I have been reading I know it's an uphill battle if someone is on Seeking and is just universally unattractive so my point being is I am an unattractive overweight guy who is willing to spend more than the average sugar daddy, so if I offer hot sugarbabes more money will I have a chance to get intimate with them.

**Hot Hot** · 11-16-18 10:23

https://www.seeking.com/member/bd43d...7-7c0e66bcc5b7

Been talking to this one, anyone have experience with her?

**Walruscl** · 11-15-18 19:04

Now that SA allows a profile to specify an age range that they are seeking, I personally find it a little frustrating when I find some unrealistically low numbers there. That said, I've been contacted / favorited by POTS who's age limit was ten+ years younger than me, and I guess there is some value to the hint that you might want to triage a profile down a bit if you're outside her profile's age range. Not that I've ever seriously online-civvie-dated, I can only imagine the situation is much worse for those of us who find ourselves on the wrong side of 50, even if only by a couple of years.

But I did have the satisfaction of some validation from my current SB recently. Started out by her asking whether she appeared older or younger than the characters in the show we were streaming. I told her that her looks allow her a lot of flexibility. She can easily look her 20-something age, or with the right outfit and / or makeup, shoot for young-30-something and pull that off too.

I turned it around and asked her what she'd guess my age would be if she didn't already know. I was happy to hear that she'd peg me at 47/48. I took it one step further and asked what my age group my personality and demeanor would suggest. For that, she said that once she'd gotten to know me, I seemed more like a 30-something to her. Or maybe an upper-30-something because "you have your act together".

I guess I wouldn't go so far as to call that "game", as the term is used here, especially since she's correct in that it takes awhile to really get to know my personality and shed some age-related preconceptions. But it's certainly part of what "game" is trying to accomplish: reduce that age barrier.

Anyway, nothing terribly new there, but was a satisfying moment.

**VeryBigBuck** · 11-14-18 10:30

Originally Posted by TheDude1 [View Original Post]

What is the best prepaid card for SA that actually works?

https://www.onevanilla.com/

You have to define the zip code on their site then use on SA.

**MrBobDobalina** · 11-13-18 11:15

Originally Posted by RVASpider [View Original Post]

Do they think a private home visit is safer than a hotel? I see it the other way around. She wanted me to pay for videos first and then would meet me. I said I don't pay for videos when I can get them free on the internet. Xvideos is great.

She didn't give any specifics. Just said that she couldn't meet me at s hotel. I thought the hotel was a safe option. She didn't ask me to purchase any videos. No big deal. The bowl is too big to miss one scoop of sugar.

**TheDude1** · 11-13-18 10:53

What is the best prepaid card for SA that actually works?

**RVASpider** · 11-13-18 10:50

Originally Posted by ErnestLl [View Original Post]

A. AirBnB.

B. teach her how to be discrete. This isn't going to be her last cocksucking-for-cash experience so she needs to learn the ropes. Does she have vanity plates that can be I'd'd by a friend driving by? Is there a side entrance she can go in to avoid the lobby / being seen (many fire exits are one way, but you can come down and let her in). Will you be meeting after dark (5 pm this time of year) which adds to privacy? She should appreciate the tutorial so she can keep feeding her appetite for cash and fucking around.

Do they think a private home visit is safer than a hotel? I see it the other way around. She wanted me to pay for videos first and then would meet me. I said I don't pay for videos when I can get them free on the internet. Xvideos is great.

**Ernest Ll** · 11-12-18 16:36

Originally Posted by MrBobDobalina [View Original Post]

Just wanted to report on this one: https://www.seeking.com/member/dd720...2-4c55203fb692.

Agreed to $250 for an evening of "traditional" adult fun, ie. No anal. When I told her it was a hotel visit she said she couldn't meet. She's looking for a private home visit. I assume her marital status has everything to do with that.

A. AirBnB.

B. teach her how to be discrete. This isn't going to be her last cocksucking-for-cash experience so she needs to learn the ropes. Does she have vanity plates that can be I'd'd by a friend driving by? Is there a side entrance she can go in to avoid the lobby / being seen (many fire exits are one way, but you can come down and let her in). Will you be meeting after dark (5 pm this time of year) which adds to privacy? She should appreciate the tutorial so she can keep feeding her appetite for cash and fucking around.

**MrBobDobalina** · 11-12-18 11:23

Just wanted to report on this one: https://www.seeking.com/member/dd720...2-4c55203fb692.

Agreed to $250 for an evening of "traditional" adult fun, ie. No anal. When I told her it was a hotel visit she said she couldn't meet. She's looking for a private home visit. I assume her marital status has everything to do with that.

**Walruscl** · 11-12-18 10:57

Originally Posted by DoggieFan [View Original Post]

So after over 2 1/2 years with my unbelievably gorgeous, sexy AF, smart & sweet SB and I called it quits about a month ago.

Everything was pretty normal until about 8 months in she dropped the L word on me, unexpectedly. I was so shocked all I could muster was "me too". I thought we were safe from that due to us both having SOs & our age difference. , she's less than half my age.

I won't write a super long entry other than to say she's really only the second woman I've caught feelings for in my life, as my SO was my college sweetheart. I can relate to the previous posts not being able to talk to family & friends when things are awesome, or now when things really suck.

Ah, the Emotional Blackmail that is the L word, fell prey to that myself, though it took a lot longer (about 2-1/2 years in). I had been very careful to avoid saying it, and equally careful not to think of our relationship on those terms, despite the deep-seated attraction we had for each other. It would have been better for me to hold the line on that, but there's only so much you can do against a relentless onslaught. With that raising of the bar, things simply got more and more complicated. And while there's an immensely longer version of this story, in the end she ran off without any warning whatsoever. To be fair, it was a better thing for both of us, and I wouldn't have had the willpower to wind it down had she not bolted on me.

That was June, and subsequent summer was hell. I see my current SB as a combination of rare-gem with a little dash of rebound-relationship. She's much better (almost too much) at keeping some emotional distance. Which on one hand is a little unfulfilling, on the other hand I've lived through the downsides of it getting too real. While that's unsatisfying on its own, I'm figuring out that it also has a dampening effect on the sex. She's motivated to please, but I'm personally finding that it takes more of an emotional bond than I would have guessed for the sex to be its best.

So as a previous poster mentioned not long ago here, one has to decide the balance of how much this is for the companionship, and how much for the sex. I find that it's not as easy a thing to figure out as I would have expected. We just came back from our first weekend trip, and I enjoyed every last minute of it. We had a whirlwind yet carefree and spontaneous weekend, coming out with great memories and a whole quiver of new inside jokes between us. The sex, not so much. With her I'm loath to ditch what is an otherwise an extremely rewarding companion just because I've been spoiled in the past by mind-blowing, bucket-list-is-now-empty sex.

So like any LTR, I'll continue to work with her on the things that could get better, and keep my mind open to many possibilities. Everything ranging from moving on and hoping I have can striek a better balance with another SB, to deciding that I have to adjust my expectations and focus on the things that are going so right and not put so much weight on the things that aren't.

A wise quote from a few dozen posts back on this thread: "It's only when we can't accept the downside of any situation that we lose control and power over it. " I'm taking that one to heart.

**Tidad** · 11-11-18 23:31

I've been researching for my work trip to the Emerald City and thanks to some WA state brothers, I'm meeting this one my second night in town. I'm staying for the weekend and she has agreed to be my "all-day all-night local fun guide" for the whole trip if our 1st night goes well. Hopefully I'll come back east exhausted. Wish me luck.

https://www.seeking.com/member/fb77c...e-237a8ece3629